 Most men want to be able to impress a lady either for the sake of it or just because they are interested in them It's a cycle as all this humanity itself. Sometimes their plans work out. Sometimes they don't but that doesn't stop them from trying all the same. Women have some expectations of men and men have to meet those expectations. What are some of those expectations? You may be wondering. They vary across women, but the majority agree that the man should be confident, smart, independent and mature. If he is not, this is a problem for most women. The old blog on this issue says, if you're dating a guy who's exhibiting any of this warning signs, it may be best to just stay friends. Women don't like insecure men almost as much as men don't like insecure women. If she shows interest in you, don't jinx it with your insecurity. In today's video, I'm going to share with you 15 signs of male insecurity that turns women off. If you're new here, consider subscribing to this channel for more awesome videos such as this one. 1. He tries to relate with you through his friends. Real men don't use intermediaries when they want someone, only cowards do. Women don't respond to men who have to ask their friends to ask them out on their behalf. It can even be offensive to some women. If the man continually tries to resolve issues by involving his friends and can't handle them with you, he is very insecure and unsure of himself. Such a person relies too much on his friends and will always value their opinion over anything else. 2. He wants you to reassure him. Have you ever dated a guy who always wanted you to reassure him that you love him and that you're not just messing with him? It can be very annoying. He can text you at night and ask whether you really like him and why you like him. Such a man is insecure. People who have a strong sense of self-worth don't need other people's love to validate them. 3. He doesn't talk about what you did wrong. While it is relieving to talk about difficult subjects like when you cheat on him or lie about some things, it is annoying when he can't because he is scared you will live him. Anyone who is scared someone will live them is usually insecure. A man should be free to air his views and hold an opinion. No one should bottle emotions because they are scared in a relationship. If a man does this, the woman would wonder whether he will also do this when she expects him to speak up and defend her. 4. He wants to lord it over you. Some men want to be champions over your life. They will, in the first week of the relationship, start asking you questions about your career and why you should continue working in your current role. Such men are controlling and the type to be avoided. 5. He flashes his accomplishments and cash a lot. A very confident man doesn't need to wear a bling to show he is rich. It does not require everyone to know about his Rolls-Royce to be confident in himself. If he does this a lot, it is a red flag. It means he thinks that his wealth is all there is to him. It implies without his wealth, he does not have a lot of self-esteem. Dating such a person can mean that during a fight, he can accuse you of being with him because of his money. 6. He talks badly about people doing better than him. Insecure men will always criticize others, especially those who are better than them. In their mind, they feel intimidated by those people. They think by criticizing them, they can make them appear less successful so that they themselves don't appear too much of a failure. You should not even be with a man who thinks he is a failure to begin with. The man will never tell you this, but you need to be able to decipher from his actions what he really thinks of himself. 7. He can't deal with your being richer than him. Did you tell him how much you earn? Has he been acting strange lately? Bad idea. A man who can't deal with your success and status is a type of man you should never hang out with. He may even start telling things that will make you stop aspiring higher just so that he wouldn't feel so much like a failure. You deserve a man who supports you and desires for you to climb even higher ranks in your field of interest. Just don't tell him if you notice he is that way, but don't stay with him either. He can make you very unhappy. 8. He doesn't want your friends around. According to Bonoibology blog, he will keep tabs on you and will want to know where you are, what you are doing, with who you are hanging out with all the time. Insecure men usually want to be able to control your life and interaction. They feel they don't really know your friends and don't want them to give you ideas such as living them. Such men deserve to stay alone. Think about it, someone who doesn't respect your choice of friends or even your privacy, does the person really respect you? 9. He always wants you around. This is a red flag you should take note of. A man who always wants you around is either jobless or an unserious person. Even married people are not always around each other. It proves that in the future, as the relationship progresses, that he will be co-dependent. No woman wants to be with a man who is like that. If she has a career she is working hard at, he should have his own stuff going on. If he is interested in music, he should do his own and not feel dejected and expect her to be available all the time to encourage him. Women don't want that type of man. 10. He seeks attention. Some insecure men try to seek attention from people because they are not comfortable just being on their own. They want everyone to see that they matter too. When they should never need other people's validation to feel they matter. If you already have the step of a man as a boyfriend, perhaps it's time to start considering ending the relationship. The fact that you are with him will not reassure him of his worth. It doesn't work that way. It is a long journey that is better suited for the man and his therapist. 11. He doesn't make eye contact. According to Times of India, if a man goes on a date with a woman and his eyes are looking everywhere except at her, she is going to assume that he is either shy or weak. This is usually easy to spot. So ladies, be on the lookout. A secure man will be able to make eye contact. If he wants you, he has to work for it. It is usually people who are let in so easily who don't value the people they are with. Be wise, be vigilant. 12. He always asks your opinion. While it may seem romantic if he asks for your opinion from time to time, if he does this all the time, he will not be able to do anything without your approval. A woman wants an independent man that has his life together that can make tough calls and be other consequences. A woman needs a man and not a baby. Every relationship in which one partner is always asking for the other's opinion is going to be one-sided. You don't want to feel like you're giving more value to him than he does to you. Once that happens, it means he has become toxic. 13. He is very interested in everything you do. Women need their independence as much as men need theirs. You are dating, not marrying each other. You should be able to ignore his calls if you are indisposed. He had no right to yell at you for not taking his calls. An insecure man who is allowed to enter into a long-term relationship can be abusive. They will make you feel like you owe them. They can be so entitled. Their behavior is not always rational. It is best to avoid this type of man altogether. 14. He is jealous if you talk to other guys. Have you ever dated a guy who would throw tantrums when you speak to other men? If your answer is yes, I hope you are not still dating them. Dating an insecure man can actually be dangerous. They feel incomplete and dependent. And when you come into their lives, they want to protect the new reality. You're breaking up with them will merely confirm their worst fears about themselves and they will do anything to keep you in the relationship. That sounds scary, right? It is not always that severe. But who wants to find out? Look out for a confident and smart man for yourself. There are so many of them. 15. He never acknowledges his mistakes. A man who always argues instead of apologizing is insecure. Admitting he is wrong in something, to him, makes him lose a piece of his little self-esteem. He doesn't know that apologizing when he's wrong will help him build character. A lot of men have issues to sort out and have no business being in a relationship. If you ever come across any of them, gently decline anything serious with them. For every man out there, it's okay not to have it all figured out. No one does. But it is not excusable to not be making effort to become a better version of your current self.