 What's going on you lot welcome back to my channel if you're new here hi, hello, my name's Lydia And I'm into how videos here on YouTube pretty much every day Oh my god, you can see that I'm watching the TV on a totally legal website Anyway, what's going on you lot today? We are talking about splitting and if you don't know what splitting is It's a term very well known within the BPD community So what's splitting is essentially black and white. You go from liking on to hating on And it can happen in many circumstances The example I'm going to use is a relationship. You can go from loving someone to get out with them A very real and very hard thing that people will be the BPD go through We don't even mean to do it necessarily Sometimes it's very handy and it gets us out of situations all the time It's what causes the breakdowns in our relationship Any connection we have with people because we just split on them Because from liking them and being aware and then be like bye and we do it so often We don't even realise what we're doing as a way of coping, as a way of control As a way of managing our own emotions in a situation Splitting is something I've never talked about before on this channel There's not that much to it. There's not that much information I can put out on it But some assume it's a bad thing, a bad trait, a bad part, a BPD I have to disagree. Yes, I can see why it would be a bad thing You know, I'm not completely naive, I'm not stupid, I do know these things Where it's good is when you're in relationships Sometimes you need that black and white thinking to be able to just get out of them You go from being in a situation and then you're not in it Relationships, you can go from loving them to walking away And people see it as emotionless, as horrible And I and myself have had people have said, oh you're just splitting, you're being a bitch You know, it makes you horrible and that's so not true Yeah, might be blunt, but how I feel, it's very true, very real And that's where the intense emotion things ties into this It's common, it's like one of the most well-known things BPD We have intense emotions, that with splitting, yeah, we can be blunt, you know I will say this and I will stand by this no matter what anyone say is I like the fact that I am blunt with people Because there's no room, there's no wiggle room, you know how I feel about you Splitting essentially, I hate you don't leave me Which is a book about BPD, which I highly recommend actually It's black and white thinking, it's like them, you don't like them It can be very quick to switch and that's really hitting I honestly think it's been short, I know it's not as long as some might have a video I don't have that much to say on my subject So if you are new, make sure you hit the subscribe button I make videos pretty much every day, I struggle with depression But the reason this looks tidy is because I've just done this so I can film And yeah, I'm gonna end the video here, so thank you for watching And if you are new, make sure you hit the subscribe button And you know, leave a question in the comments down below Because I wanted to film a Q&A video but I don't have a question yet So questions in the comments section, that's what I meant Also I found my glasses while I was tidying my room Even though you can see some of the floor now Yeah, bye guys