 What's going on you guys welcome to the single guy channel my name is Lloyd bringing you practical and actionable dating advice I had a question for one of my students today He's wondering how he can make his conversations more engaging meaning for some conversations It feels like the time is just flying by they're going back and forth like an hour can seem like five minutes and for other Conversations five minutes can feel like a lifetime because they're constantly searching for things to talk about he keeps having to pick The conversation back up and it dies down very quickly So how can you have the calm? How can you have the former conversation as opposed to the latter because the former gets you a lot more girls? And there's a lot more fun for you and for her when you're talking to them So in this video, I'm gonna break down exactly what makes a conversation click when women say oh me and this guy We have a connection. We click we get along, you know, that sort of thing I'm gonna give you a bunch of tips there and I'm gonna tell you how to do this But not just women but for people in your everyday life So let's get right into it. The first tip that I'm going to give you is be more passionate when you speak I don't know if you can tell but I have a lot of passion when I speak in these videos and For that reason, I think that's part of the reason why people come and watch my videos is because I'm very into what I'm talking about It's very entertaining for people to see someone that's actually showing some emotion when they talk If you're not showing any emotion and you're being very bland You're saying things like oh, then I went to the bank and I got some money Then I went home then I did this then I did that it's just people people are automatically gonna tune themselves out People and especially women they don't care about the facts and the figures They care about the emotion behind what you're saying and if you show emotion with what you're talking about It's gonna be a lot more engaging than just the average bland conversation where you're just stating facts and figures with no emotion behind it Okay, so that's thing one thing to is to institute multiple threads now What I mean by multiple threads is when you're having a conversation with like let's say your best friend You usually you'll start talking about something and then you'll you'll cut it off And then you'll start talking about something else and then you'll cut that one off and you'll start talking about something else So you have all of these unfinished Conversations that you could have within this conversation and I call those threads if you have a bunch of these You will never run out of things to talk about with this person because You always have something to go back to just let's say I finish my story Well, there's three or four other things that we could talk about there because we have a lot of unfinished Conversations to be had so how do you institute multiple threads? How do you make this? In a conversation well a good example would be to let's say you're telling a story about I don't know you went out last night to a bar or something like that And you're telling this story and you could say have you ever been to this bar? We went there last night and so then they said oh, yeah, I went to this bar I did go to that bar one time and then you could be like oh, did you like it? Like how was it going? You just started a multiple thread right there, okay? You started talking about a story you asked her a question now You're talking about something else when you're finished talking about this or maybe you can go into another thread When you're finished talking about that you have a story to go back to so have as many of these threads as you can And the more threads you have the faster the conversation is going to go and the less likely It's going to be that the person is going to be getting bored when they talk to you tip number three is stop filtering What you say so much now when you're in the zone You're kind of in a flow stay where you feel like you're in that social vibe that you got going It takes a little bit of time to get in sometimes for some people, especially if you're introverted like me But once you get into it You stop filtering the things that you have to say and you can just go in and say it like if you have a Thought you can just blurt it out and a lot of times people judge themselves very harshly about what they're going to Say to a person so what I invite you to do is stop doing that so much stop filtering what you have to say and just say it Hey, look man. Sometimes it won't work out. Sometimes you're gonna say something that makes people upset Sometimes you're gonna say something that embarrasses you it doesn't matter. It's okay Okay, I give you permission to fuck up But if you never do this then you're never gonna really exercise your talents as a speaker You're never really gonna have engaging conversations because you're closing yourself off to that opportunity And the final tip tip number four is to be interested into what other people have to say I know this is gonna be kind of tough for some people Especially if you're an introverted guy like me because I got to be honest with you most Conversations I used to have with people unless it was about something that I was interested in unless it was about You know something where I was learning or I was laughing. I really could not care It was very difficult for me to have a conversation with a stranger and have the typical like where are you from? What do you do like those those types of things for me to be interested like I would I would tune out I would make an effort at the beginning and then I would tune myself out And it was because it wasn't genuine if you're spending a lot of time trying to be interested in what a person has to say Even though you're not it's eventually you're just gonna tire yourself out So what I invite you guys to do is think about the conversation differently Don't think oh, I don't like talking about this so much what you should be doing and what I do This might just be for me But it really helps is I like to think of the person as like like I'm in some kind of like national geographic Documentary I'm trying to figure out how this person takes like if I'm talking to a really attractive girl Like I want to know why she does the things that she does and the more I get to know her the more I learn about her and why she does the things that she she does I'm learning and I'm learning more about not just her but people and people like her and for me That's interesting. I love learning about why people do the things that they do I'm interested in people it was just the conversations and the topics that I was having weren't all that exciting So if you ask yourself a different question and change your mindset about the conversation You can be a lot more interested in what people are talking about and at this point I'm able to have a conversation with pretty much anyone that I want to because I ask myself those questions And I can be interested the entire time if you're interested in other people that makes you interesting Okay, great So these are the four tips that I have for you guys If you thought of anything else that I didn't include on here Please put it in the comment section below if you have any more questions about how to keep your conversations engaging I would recommend that you take a look at some of my other videos about how to never run out of things to say Take a look at my how to talk to girls playlist that has a bunch of great information on there some of which I've said in this video, but there's a lot of other great stuff, too You'll watch those you're gonna be great at talking with women talking and flirting with women as well, too And if you're wondering how to do that You want some extra help hit me up for coaching the single guy 2017 at gmo.com Yeah, basically, that's it guys. He made you and consider subscribing. Thanks a lot and good luck out there