 Is it borderline personality or me? I'm thinking of antisocial. What is borderline personality? I don't know people diagnosed me with it So I don't know Well my my therapist did tell me to go to these dbt classes So I just okay So maybe he thinks because I asked him I said tell me do I have my bipolar and he's like well Everyone has traits of like personality disorders. He goes you have like traits of borderline person I've never taken medication for any sort of Mental illness. There's nothing wrong with it. Love mental illness talk about all the time Well We love metal do I think Trisha Payness is a bad person No, but when she discusses what she's been through and the symptoms she's been diagnosed with by her therapist I think it explains a lot about what all of us see and there's a lot that we can learn from it What's up everybody? This is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem But focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is all about mental health and sometimes what I do is pull Different topics from the YouTube community and try to see what lessons we can learn from it Whether it's people's successes or missteps or whatever it is. There's always something to be learned So if you're into that stuff, make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell and follow me over on Instagram and Twitter At the rewired soul. All right, so a ton of you Message me and ask me if I saw, you know Trisha Payness on the h3 h3 podcast And I saw a bunch of people talking about Twitter like this is the best h3 podcast whatever so I was like, okay I'll check it out. All right, so we're gonna be talking about What went on in that podcast? We're gonna be talking about borderline personality disorder But listen last week. I made a video and I promised you I made you a promise that any video I make I'm going to be sure To provide you with value. Okay, when I discuss these things and and whether you believe me or not I really don't care But those of you who are rewired soldiers out there who come here to try to learn how to improve your mental and emotional Well-being what I want you to take away from this is how to learn how to deal with people in your life And some of them may struggle with borderline personality disorder and here's one of the main reasons why this guy right here This d-bag of all d-bags right here. His name is Paul Elam Okay, and he makes videos about how people with borderline personality disorder are these evil awful person and he has like this whole like migtail community of People who like just talking about how those with borderline personality disorder are like the devil All right, I made a video about this dude a while back I'm gonna link it down in the description below read through the comments Okay, so part of what I'm doing here is to educate people and hopefully Hopefully people can understand a little bit more. All right, but Here's here's a clip that I want to start out with I go to dbt classes. Where's my camera? It's right here. I go to dbt classes. Okay. I get on the troll I find For borderline for borderline personality disorder a lot of people think I have bbt and I go to dbt for it It's group therapy. I make the skills. I do the lessons been going since May 8th. What's up? Is it borderline personality or me? I'm thinking of antisocial. What is borderline personality disorder? I don't know people diagnosed me with it. So I don't know Tell me to go to these dbt classes So, okay, so maybe he thinks I asked him I said tell me do I have my bipolar or some shit And he's like well everyone has traits of like personality disorders. He was you have like traits of borderline person I've never taken medication for any sort of mental illness. There's nothing wrong with it I love mental illness talk about all the time We love mental illness. All right, so check this out. Okay, I Have worked in addiction treatment many many many people who come through treatment Have borderline personality disorder. All right one of the symptoms of borderline personality disorder is substance abuse So it's no wonder that a lot of them end up in a drug and alcohol rehab So this is just my suggestion based off my experience working with thousands of people with borderline personality disorder But it's for people who might have BPD as well as people who know somebody with BPD So one thing right here, okay? And this is just purely my opinion like Trisha Paytas And I don't know if she just wasn't opening up about it fully on the A3 podcast, but she's like, I don't know I don't want to know what BPD is or whatever. I go to these dbt groups or whatever No, okay, so I've been diagnosed with a generalized anxiety disorder and depression and as well as I'm a recovering drug addict and alcoholic like Something that has helped me more than anything is Educating the hell out of myself about this stuff like it's so important and it's liberating too Like if you have any mental illness, I don't care what you have right Educate yourself about it like it helps you realize like oh, this is what's going on It can explain a lot of the thoughts and feelings and emotions that you're going through but here's the best part You ready you start to find solutions Okay But what I always recommend to people as well like when I was working in the treatments and I worked with a lot of families and everything Like that I highly recommend that if you have a loved one struggling with a mental illness Such as borderline personality disorder or even addiction or depression or anxiety or PTSD Whatever it is educate yourself about them. All right Like if you love that person if this is an important person in your life Educate yourself about it right because it will help you help them more It'll help you help yourself more because I made a video about this the other day about Trisha Paytas We take things so personally. All right, but we when we understand the illness that somebody is struggling with we don't take it as personally, all right, but The other part this clip right here. So should we wrap it up? Is this how you experience everything? It's like 100% this and then oh my god Maybe there's something wrong with me This is one of the main traits of people who struggle with borderline personality disorder But listen listen to the words coming out of my mouth like even like Trisha Paytas said her therapist said a lot of people have Symptoms or traits of personality disorders and what they're talking about right there is black and white Thinking which is sometimes known as splitting now for people with borderline personality disorder. This is to an extreme Okay, you're all good or all bad. All right They will love you one day hate you the next day one of the best books out there If you want to educate yourself about borderline personality disorder is a book called. I hate you. Don't leave me Also, if you have a loved one who struggles with BPD get this book. It's called walking on eggshells It was specifically made for loved ones of those who have BPD All right, but you need to understand the black and white thinking of love somebody one minute Hate in the next minute But even if you don't have BPD like I made a video a long long long time ago about I called it like borderline society or something Like you see this happen all the time like look at look online How many public figures everybody loves them one second then one tweet comes out and everybody hates them Right. So a lot of us struggle with black and white thinking and we need to work on that by just being realistic all right, so Again, I don't think Trisha Paytas is a bad person But a lot of these are just part of what she's dealing with. All right, and is that an excuse? Absolutely not like this is my Complete personal opinion on this. Okay, like I was thinking about which direction to go with this video And I'm gonna toss this in here and this is where we're gonna circle back to what I titled this video like this is me personally just me personally and I Have to live my life a certain way because I am a drug addict in recovery and There's there there are certain things that I know will lead me to relapse So I cannot hang out with certain people my my circle of friends is very very small, but Trisha Paytas is not somebody that I could be like Really good friends with right like I would have her as like an acquaintance, right? And some of you might have a friend like this and it's totally up to you So I'm not saying like nobody should be friends with her, but like in the podcast. There were multiple lies In there, you know what I mean? One of them and it might be pure ignorance It might be pure ignorance that she just didn't know about that video. All right, what you do I don't I'm gonna show you I don't I make no money off adsense. Why do you think I do patreon and show my Make no money. Well it supplements your income obviously, but no video has to prove Okay, now what do I do it says get started log in There your hand Now go to that video, how do I do you do it? Anything that's private, but it's all demonized hold on hold on hold on Where is it apology and then it's coming up regarding my I'm transgender three million views green icon Monetized and I'm gonna tell you exactly how much money But yeah, so she made $8,000 off that and this is something that I see a lot of youtubers complain about like oh you get demonetized and demonetized And demonetized and demonetized like you guys all of you who are the audience I just want to let you know like it is it is inflated Way worse than you think it is like is demonetization an issue. Yes, but not everything is being demonetized Here's a great example like they were talking about trish of patiss's 10 inch lady bits on this podcast and It was fully monetized when I watched it like there was like three or four Mineral ads in the first 20 minutes. Okay, so like I love the work that nerd city did on his video But anyways, but when it comes to trish of pain It's like I hope I'm trying to give her the benefit of the doubt that she was just ignorant and didn't understand But I can tell you as a YouTube creator like YouTube when you're uploading a video And if you don't monetize it it like shows you like a little red error, and it's like yo You you might want to monetize this. All right, so I don't truly believe Necessarily that she didn't know it was monetized, but she made $8,000 off of it, and that's the conversation got wacky right there We got a little like uncomfortable and everything but the other thing was too She kept talking about on the podcast as she's been sober since May 8th, and I made a video about this because She also lied when she said this but I did a lot of pills like a lot of like pain pills and stuff for my So that's been my whole life is just pills, which I don't I can't even take I'm like if I have surgery now I don't even like I just I tore my meniscus in September, and I had like I didn't take any pain pills for it I was just like I don't want to do that and here's a clip and why I made a video about that I Should pills miss I obviously was taking pills for the pain of my knee. I only take one Pain pill now a night before I go to bed So I don't feel don't like get worried for me or anything I mean, I was worried for me like I was like I don't want to take any more pain pills But I just take one painful for bet and I'd be profan in the morning to reduce swelling So I do take pills. I feel like I'm in a good headspace enough to not abuse them so That's good because my drug of choice was prescription opioids, okay? So I had a lot of people request me to make a video about this and talk about it from the recovery aspect of it And yeah, she was taking painkillers. She said she added under control what I did with my video was I discussed The the safe ways to do it if you're an addict in recovery Because there is literature in both AA and NA about taking these types of medications in Recovery, but she just lied right there, too, right? But finally one of the last reasons like I wouldn't be able to like Keep somebody like that around as a friend, right? And these are just things I want you to think about is There's no strict moral compass. All right So a lot of you know I've been diving really deep into moral philosophy lately and moral psychology It's absolutely fascinating So what you learn is based on how people were raised and how they grew up and all these other factors People lean more conservative or more liberal, but I think just from my perception I think the majority of people the majority of people that I've encountered and that I witness on the internet and in real life A lot of people don't have a very strict Moral compass, okay? This is very apparent when Trisha with Trisha paid us how you see her inner lawyer We call it the inner lawyer who's rationalizing and arguing her points about what Ethan is and isn't allowed to joke about Right, but then you see her talking about her love of someone like Howard Stern. Okay now This isn't just a Trisha paid us thing you do it I do it and one of the reasons I'm trying to learn so much about moral psychology is Because we need to become more self-aware of this like I made an Instagram Post the other day and I forgot what it said exactly, but that's what I was talking about We're all hypocrites all of us me you everybody. We are all hypocrites Especially when it comes to morality It's just some of us are self-aware about it and sometimes that's the best that we can do and I have a whole series Called morality Mondays where I'm diving into like morality and discussing it if you would like to learn more about it Make sure you subscribe and ring the notification bell and check in on Mondays But there are a lot of reasons for this and like basically what I've just been learning is like I'm starting to develop more empathy Like I understand why people justify the things that they do why people get pissed off about the things they get pissed off about Why people get angry and upset about the things they get angry and upset about Because when you sit back and look at it from a rational perspective rather than an emotional perspective you're like oh It makes sense. You know what I mean, but a lot of us aren't self-aware about it But anyways to sum this up to sum this all up. All right. I had a comment the other day I'll put it on the screen if I can find it but It was a great suggestion at the end of the videos just kind of wrap all the solutions up So the first one is if you have BPD Educate yourself about BPD educate yourself about the symptoms. All right If you're the loved one of somebody with BPD Educate yourself about it and get your own help if you need to all right If you have a parent a spouse a child or somebody like that with BPD get therapy if you need to I'm gonna link two books down below one of them is called I hate you don't leave me the other one's called walking on eggshells. All right two solutions right there The other thing I was talking about is just be mindful of who you keep in your life The other day I made a video about the biopsychosocial model of mental health All right in the social model is who you keep in your life My life has gotten a lot better Since I have limited the amount of people that I hang out with all right So those are some solutions for you, baby But anyways, that's all I got for this video if you liked this video Please give it a thumbs up if you're new make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell and a huge huge Thank you to everybody who's supporting the channel over on patreon and you know what I got some DMs Like so people been buying the merch giving some hoodies for the winter So I appreciate all of you and I appreciate everybody who gets my mental health books and supports Channel that way all right. Thanks again for watching. I'll see you next time