 In this video I am going to be talking about narcissistic projection and projective identification. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. Click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos. If you would like to donate, my PayPal link is in the video description. If you are interested in one-on-one coaching, you can email me at www.naxfathercoaching.gmail.com Check out the new merchandise in the Narx Fiverr store. We have new designs on our t-shirts, tank tops and mugs. The link to the Narx Fiverr store is in the video description. Narcissistic projection. The narcissist will often accuse you of things such as cheating, lying or stealing. Being mentally or emotionally unstable. Attention seeking. Selfish. Or they might even accuse you of being the narcissist. When the narcissist is doing this, they are actually speaking to a mirror. They are projecting the behavior onto you. They project their unhealed parts onto you because they refuse to take responsibility for them. They don't want to self-reflect or look within and resolve whatever their insecurities or deficiencies are. They hate that they are attention seeking, desperate for approval, envious, jealous. They hate that they feel vulnerable and shameful. When the false self can no longer hide these feelings, their unhealed parts then surface into their consciousness. This can often cause a narcissistic injury. The narcissistic injury could be caused by something real or imagined. It could be caused by something you said or did which may have triggered them. Or it could be them reacting to their inner critic or an assumption that they have made. It is inconceivable and intolerable for the narcissist to accept these feelings as if they were their own. This is something that they must avoid experiencing. They cannot accept that they are wrong or imperfect. When you try to confront the narcissist about their behavior, they will deflect and then project it onto you due to their feelings of revulsion or strong disapproval. They have this survival mechanism where they will assign their unhealed parts onto you. This results in you being punished for challenging their false self. And then you become this bad person or someone who has done all of these terrible things will be in the cause of them. This then gives them the opportunity to punish you even further, even though you may not have done anything wrong. When these unhealed parts appear in the narcissist consciousness, it is their body telling them that something needs their attention. These issues never get resolved because the narcissist refuses to reflect on what their body is trying to bring to their attention. Instead, they will invent things that didn't happen, distort the evidence, assign significance to irrelevant things, anything to avoid the truth of the situation that they are wrong or imperfect. When the narcissist deflects their unhealed parts, this becomes real to them. This becomes the truth. They don't consciously understand that they are deflecting their unhealed parts onto you. In their minds, you have done something wrong and you deserve to be punished. The narcissist is speaking to a mirror. They don't see you. In their minds, you are just an object used to serve their needs. They assign their negative or positive traits to you. But they never actually acknowledge you as a separate person. You are just an object or an extension of them. Projective identification. This is where parts of the narcissist will be forced into the other person. In some form of unconscious fantasy, the narcissist will strive to find within you the embodiment of projection. They will try to find the representation or expression of something intangible or visible for which they can then use as a hook to hang projections on. They will even induce you to become the embodiment of projection. They will persuade, lead, incite, whatever it takes for them to create a suitable participant for their projection. The feelings which cannot be consciously accessed will then be defensively projected into another person to then bring these thoughts or feelings to the conscious mind. The narcissist uses projective identification as a type of defence, a form of communication, a basic form of relationship. Riding the self of unwanted parts will fall controlling the other person's body and mind. The feelings and attitudes that are forced out in projective identification can be both good and bad. The narcissist may project a feeling of hope within another person when they cannot consciously feel it themselves. In an emotionally healthy person, projective identification helps to experience empathy and to understand other people. The narcissist's projective identification is created from their inability to form a connection or bond in a healthy way with another person. Their emotions are projected onto you because they are unable to contain or process reality in a healthy way. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonated with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. Click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos. If you would like to donate my PayPal links in the video description. Coaching inquiries you can email me at narksvivercoaching at gmail.com. Check out the new merchandise in the Narksviver store where you can purchase your own Narksviver t-shirt, tank top or mug. The link is in the video description. Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.