 بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم الحمد لله رب العالمين وصلى الله على سيدنا وحبيب قلوبنا وشفيع نفوسنا أبل قاسم محمد وعلى آل بيته الطيبين الطاهرين المعصومين لا سيما بقية الله روح وأرواح العالمين اللي ترابي مقدميه الفداء أما بعد رسبيت السكولرين أولدين أخوانيين السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته شاء الله أولاً أولاً أولاً أرواح أولاً أريد أن أرغب ورغبنا أرغبنا ورغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا في مقامة إمام إمام صاحب العصري والزمان في المدينة أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا أرغبنا تحديث بشكل محاولة تحديث بشكل محاولة ما يمكننا أن ندعم حياتنا حياتنا حياتنا عن عالي وفاعتمه ويقول لنا أن هذا شيء يستطيع مالذي يبدأ؟ وإن شاء الله اليوم نريد أن نفتح المفاولة في هذا المشكل لأن في مباشرة نجد نفسنا في المشكلة المشكلة سرية من المشكلة المشكلة سرية من المشكلة المشكلة في المشكلة المعرفة في المشكلة العام على اذاح نجد نفسنا في المشكلة المشكلة وفاعتمه when we look at the concept of marriage especially when we look at the lives of the imams especially عالي وفاعتمه because on one aspect we find that yes their marriage was blessed فالسول الله كانت مجموعة في مجموعةهم الله سبحانه وتعالى قلت هذه المجموعة في المنطقة قبل المنطقة لكننا نجد هذا على أول أسبب كأننا نكون جداً جداً جداً في حياتنا كما نرى لدينا مجموعة من المنطقة وفي many occasions نجد مجموعة من فاطمة الزهراء في which الله سبحانه وتعالى يتكلم للمجموعة الإسلام لو لاك لما خلقت الأفلاك لدينا مجموعة ثم يقول لولا علي لما خلقتك يعني ما؟ إذا it wasn't for Fatima I would not have created any of the one of you but before it he says if it wasn't for Ali I would not have created you and then before that he says if it wasn't for you I would not have created the universe or it might be a plural he's saying universe is the majority of it now let's find that yes these people have a significance in our life these people play a vital role but when we take their life how much of it do we have but when we take their life how much of it do we actually apply when we learn about the story of the marriage of Ali ibn Abi Talib and Fatima al-Tazahra how much do we learn from it now insha'Allah tonight in 15 minutes that I have I want to talk firstly about having role models and the importance of learning in a practical manner not just a theoretical manner that's number one number two I want to look at the marriage of Ali and Fatima and look at the specific aspect of it that applies to us which is in our days the mahar and insha'Allah we try to learn from this and try to put it on a 21st century basis what's happening within our communities what's the walls that have been put up and especially in cases which people want to get married now insha'Allah by the end of tonight we want to learn that yes we can apply Ali ibn Abi Talib's marriage and Fatima al-Tazahra's marriage to our own lives and insha'Allah you can help me by starting tonight with the loud Salawat Ala Muhammad and Ali Muhammad now the importance firstly of role models that we have is that when we look at role models often when you ask the youth and insha'Allah we have a lot of youth in front of us tonight when we ask them who do you look up to you find many of the youth that's insha'Allah in front of me and they say that one of their role models will be Ronaldo and everyone's up and they say what Ronaldo many other people say that Messi is my role model and they actually look up to them saying that these are the people that I want to strive to be like these are the people that I hang posters on my walls these are the people that I Google from time to time to keep up with their lives how much goals have they scored what they're coming in the ladder where is Maryam Adrid coming or where is Barcelona coming who do they have as their next fixtures who are they going to verse what are the likely outcomes they read reviews and they occupy themselves learning in the people that they look up to such as that we refer to earlier such as Ronaldo and Messi being sportsmen of the 21st century and arguably two of the best players in the world yes without a shadow of doubt but when we look at the aspect of role models and we find the youth that yes they're attached to such and such these two figures in history we find they've occupied all their time learning about these figures understanding these figures understanding their lives understanding how they became what they became even often you see people are having the same haircuts people having their jerseys people updating their statuses but when we look at and question how much do we know about our Imam have we questioned how much we know about Ali ibn Abi Talib have the females questioned themselves how much do they know about Fatima tu al-Zahra what year after heger did they get married what age did they get married what they did in their marriage ceremonies what they gave up in their marriage ceremonies why are they looked at and when Allah SWT teaches us about who to have as role models who refers to these in union now obviously there's lessons to be learnt when we look at role models such as the superstars that we the soccer superstars that we mentioned earlier we find that they may be good in one aspect which is the sport that they play which is soccer however if we find that we want to follow every single footstep of their life that's where the problem comes if they have a haircut for example that doesn't occupy itself or looks it looks doesn't occupy and go hand in hand with that of a religious background if someone sees that haircut and says well you know what that person may elude to not being religious that haircut is still taken upon it says doesn't matter Ronaldo wore it Ronaldo did such and such Messi listens to this this music Messi goes to these places so they follow in every aspect and that's where the danger lies yes we look at them as good superstars we try to follow them in let's say soccer perspective for those soccer fanatics however we don't apply everything to our lives and that's where the importance of a perfect role model comes into perspective yes the people that we follow nowadays that are fallible we don't follow them in everything however when Allah gives to us from the Holy Quran He gives us nothing but perfection when He gives us the examples of the prophets nothing but perfection when He gives us the examples of the imams nothing but perfection that's why whatever story we hear whatever line we hear from these people we know that's perfect and also not only is it perfect that we can apply it to our lives each every individual can look at a particular hadith and discover new ways in which to apply it to their lives every story that we hear from the imams and the prophets the more we gain knowledge and we hear the same story it has a different effect on us a different parameter a different dynamic in which it may apply because of that new knowledge that we have the same as the Holy Quran the more we learn about Ahl al Bayt the more we increase in wisdom increase in knowledge the second time we read that particular line in the Holy Quran it may have 6 or 7 new meanings that we didn't even think about and that's the aspect in perfection when we follow these role models we will keep elevating we will keep going up in the eyes of Allah سبحانه وتعالى now the question arises is in aspect that we want to talk about tonight which is the aspect of marriage when we look at the marriage of Ali and Fatima what can we say that we are not applying to our lives what aspect can we take from their lives and say that you know what theoretically yes I believe that Ali and Fatima was a beautiful marriage yes I believe that their Mahar was arguably around about from 460 in some narrations other narrations say that 480 ounces of silver that was the Mahar because when Ali ibn Abi Talib came to the prophet of Islam the prophet asked him what do you have oh Ali and he says I have that which is a horse and I have a shield and the prophet says no you'll need your horse for your work you'll need your sword to defend Islam however you are not need of a shield sell it and whatever comes from its value bring it forth as dowry and that's how we have the mustahab dowry nowadays which is arguably between 460 to 480 ounces of silver now when we take that aspect nowadays when we look at the life of Imam Ali and Fatima to Zahra when he came to the proposal the prophet of Islam did he not have any other proposal except Ali ibn Abi Talib did no one else came to Fatima to Zahra and asked for a hand on the contrary there's narrations that tell us that there was no one in the Arabian Peninsula except asked for the hand of Fatima to Zahra people that came and offered wealth upon wealth people came and said I will offer you a thousand dinas because that's the aspect that they had this was the major aspect of counting units which was a thousand so if someone says I'll come with a thousand thousands it's a million isn't it I said that's how much gold I will offer when Ali ibn Abi Talib he doesn't say I have learnt from the prophet of Islam one million doors of knowledge he says that he has taught me one thousand doors of knowledge and from each door one thousand other opens up meaning one million doors of knowledge so that's the aspect of an absolute or a major number of value when they come to the proposal and say I will give you a thousand thousand coins for a dowry of Fatima to Zahra do you think he will be bought out by money do you think the prophet is selling his daughter no he didn't look for value he didn't look for money he didn't say well this persons offered me fifty thousand you should offer me more only then will I accept your offer no nowadays when we look at our daughters when we look at our sisters when we find a person that comes to propose they didn't ask for the question well does he pray five times a day does he attend the mosques what is his عقيدة like how religious is he how much knowledge does he know what's the first question what's he working how much does he make in a week what property does he have what car does he drive these are the questions nowadays and even when the fathers accept when you come towards the daughters the daughters will ask the same question yes I've accepted you that's not a problem but my friend they've offered her fifty thousand dowry how is it that I don't have fifty thousand you think I'm less than this person I'm not less than such and such friend of mine why is it that she should have fifty and I shouldn't have fifty if not more and that's where we begin to have problems within the community this person was what was looking in a reference point to her friend my friend had fifty thousand how is it I don't have fifty thousand more if you compare that's where the that's where the downfall of society lies when you compare other than that of what Allah has given you the comparison when Allah says the comparison and the red line and the reference point to all your marriages should be Ali and Fatima we don't look at our friends and the people that have made it within societies the people that are when you open a magazine and you open the TVs and you say to yourself well this such and such person had such and such wedding dress she had such and such palace for her wedding it doesn't buy you happiness you ask anyone in our knee approaching eight billion population ask anyone has money bought you happiness and look at the reply you get you find that people living in palaces that only can be explained or described as a heaven on earth you go into those palaces that people dream of going towards and you find there's not one corner of that palace that has a scent of happiness the father is in a corner the mother is in a corner the daughter has problems upon problems the son is causing mischief left right and center where you find there could be a house made of clay a house made of nothing simple simple house however it has happiness bursting from every corner such as the house of Ali and Fatima when we have the reference point of Mahar that's our Imam's occupied and said our mother Fatima had such and such Mahar no way will we ask or we will allow anyone of us to have something higher that's the reference point that you want to have when someone comes and approaches don't look at how much he has in the bank don't look at how much he makes in a week because one day he can be making hundreds of thousands in all the way sustenance can take it all the way be happy you have health people occupy their wealth there's a person as I don't want to mention his name but this person was a racing legend billions upon billions he occupied during his time then he had an accident and he's paraplegic and he spent all his wealth that he's occupied amongst the ease trying to find the cure for what we have when we thank Allah SWT we just don't thank him enough Ali ibn Abi Talib has a beautiful narration saying if I want to only say thank you I should have a thank you for being allowed to say thank you towards that which you have blessed me with so in actual fact I could never say thank you enough for giving me the blessing of the word thank you imagine that's Ali ibn Abi Talib nowadays when we're in a position of power and someone asks for our daughters or our sister's hands in marriage the questions 21 questions if he doesn't meet these criteria then next until our sisters and our daughters become of an age where he says well you know what I should have said yes to such and such person he was a mu'min or when they marry for wealth or when they marry for looks they say I should not have married for this because wealth goes looks go what stays is religiosity when the prophet of Islam says to us he says if you marry for three reasons and there is a fourth if you marry for three I guarantee you that these three will be removed but if you marry for the fourth I guarantee you the three what are they he says number one people will marry for good looks as if someone may find someone extremely attractive you can't take your eyes away and you go towards your parents I can't dad I can't if you don't marry me to this person that's it I'm gonna commit suicide I don't know how I'm gonna live on the other aspect you find that this person when he marries to this person that he married only for the sake of good looks of what he attained as good looks you go and ask that person and you say to him well what happened he says well yes she has good looks but her tongue is not that very good looking her speech isn't very good looking her أخلاق isn't the best of أخلاق he says well where's the looks now he says well the looks have been degrading in my eyes ever since the prophet says that he says if you marry for good looks Allah will make that person that you married for good looks lower in your eyes and appear to be that which is not very good looking because of the mannerisms because of the أخلاق he says number two people marry for wealth he says if you marry for wealth and it goes both hands by the way I'm talking in a male perspective going towards the female or a female perspective marrying the male for that purpose it's a equilibrium it's a balance it's not just for the males or for the females it's on both contexts if you marry for wealth the prophet says what he says if you marry for wealth Allah guarantees that that will diminish number three he says number three if you marry for lineage and we're not saying obviously from good lineage as in such and such is the son of a pious man it's different when you marry for lineage it's because he's a son or she's a daughter of a king or a queen it will give you prestige it will give you some position you marry for a position let's say this person is the CEO of a company if I marry him I will be elevated in the ranks or the eyes of my friends he says Allah will make sure that your lineage will not be that of a good lineage after that's why you marry he says however there is a fourth reason that you may marry that will Allah will bless you with the other three what is it he says religiosity if you find a man that's religious or if you find a woman that's religious and you marry them because of their piousness because of their piety their closeness to Allah سبحانه وتعالى he says Allah will guarantee you the other three he will guarantee you wealth he will guarantee you sustenance he will guarantee that that spouse will be beautiful in your eyes because of how much you can see Allah through them and he says your lineage he says your lineage will be that of a good lineage a respected lineage a person that will come to inherit you will be that will raise your name not degrade your name he says that's important aspects to look at when you're looking for a spouse he says that's a very important aspect and that's something we can learn from the marriage of Ali and Fatemeh nowadays when someone wants to go out and try to get married nowadays there's something that they have to get ready for financially they have to get ready for mentally physically whereas if we look at the time of our prophets no you didn't have to save 50 to 100,000 to get married no you look at the story of سلمان المحمدي once upon a time he goes past a place by the name of Median and he finds himself in a place where it's enclosed but it has four corners and people were situated in every corner so he says I remember the prophet saying that it is very recommended and it's actually looked down upon not to sleep with a spouse on a night he says okay he says I remember this as I was going to sleep that night he says one of the corners look at the beauty of this narration and try to apply it to a 21st century try to see if nowadays we can apply this particular situation سلمان الفارسي what does he say he says I saw an old man with his daughter in one of the corners he says I went to that man I asked him he said he says oh man he says I am سلمان المحمدي I am one of the companions of the prophet of Islam I was a person that was on the time of the prophet of Islam I was a person which saw the prophet I was a person in which has instilled with the prophet I have talked with the prophet I was one of his companions he says yes not a problem he says what is it he says I have heard the prophet say such about getting married that you should always sleep with a spouse and not sleep by yourself and it's very recommended he says will you not marry me your daughter look at the beauty of the narration so the person says not a problem he goes to his daughter he doesn't say yes or no from his own instance he goes to his daughter he says oh daughter he says I have a person outside he says that his name is سلمان المحمدي he says that he knows the prophet that he is friends with the prophet he was a companion he saw the prophet he lived with the prophet he says and he is proposed for you what did you say what have you to say she says not a problem not a problem the narration stays look at the beauty of the narration he says from that instance the father read the he took the hand of his daughter put it into سلمان المحمد he says go that's it you are married go nowadays we might look at this as wow but nowadays we actually the same smile that we have the same laughter that we have in such an instance should be tears dripping down our faces do you know why brothers and sisters is because the more that we have increased this in difficulty the less people are getting married the more people that are not getting married the more males in the households the more females in the households the easier you make it for the religious people the easier Allah سبحانه وتعالى will make it for them in their future lives the less you will see calamities within the society that we live in the more beauty you will see in the religion of Islam when we call ourselves when we call ourselves when we call ourselves do we question ourselves how much do we actually learn from him because to be a Shi'a of someone means that you share from the same mentalities you share from the same ideologies you share from the same stories you learn from the same principles you apply to your life that which you preach that it's to become a Shi'a to be a Shi'a is to follow in the footsteps of the Shi'a of Ali ibn Abi Talib it means you're in the same footsteps as Ali ibn Abi Talib stepped when Imam Hussein on the 10th of Muharram referred to the opposition he also called them Shi'a but he called them the Shi'a of the opposition the followers in the footsteps of the opposition didn't he didn't call them the Shi'a of Ali ibn Abi Talib no, Shi'a means followers but how much do we follow that's the question we have to put into our lives brothers and sisters how much do we actually follow from the prophet of Islam and I end on this narration insha'Allah because there's a beauty in it when the prophet of Islam is asked he says oh prophet I love you he says get ready for poverty get ready to give up that which you love get ready for that and I've mentioned this narration but when he said Ali ibn Abi Talib says I love Ali what was the reply what was the reply of the prophet of Islam when someone says I love Ali ibn Abi Talib and I try to be like him what did he say he says prepare for calamities he says it's not an easy task that you know when a person by the name of Abdullah ibn Ya'qub comes towards in the time of the ma'moon the grand chief of the time by the name of Yahya ibn Akthem and he was bear witnessing for a specific incident he was a witness Yahya ibn Akthem looked at him he says well I'm obviously going to take your witness because of the position of the person you are he says you're a man of piety we know that you're a man that stays up night in ibadah I would have taken your bear witnessing except look at this narration it says except that you have one small aspect in you that I may hesitate to take you as a witness he says what is it he says they say that you have an inclination towards the people that call themselves روافظ did you see that aspect he says you are a pious man a man that stays up the night and I would not hesitate to take you as a righteous witness except that I know that you lean towards the people that call themselves روافظ meaning what and that's instance the person begins to cry so I am thinking that he offended him by saying that you may be of the Shi'a he says don't get me wrong I didn't mean to say that you are of the Shi'a I have stories that say you incline towards those people the person says don't get me wrong I am not crying because you've said that about me I am crying because you've associated me with people that I wish to be towards on the day of judgment when we take this into perspective brothers and sisters and we end on this note we want to pray to Allah on this blessed night that Allah will grant all those that are unmarried will make it easier for the parents for the children for the men for the women that are unmarried to be married will stand under this particular دوم or this roof next year and we will know that our sisters and our brothers are married and we pray to Allah that he makes it easy as he made it easy for Ali Ibn Abi Talib and Fatima Al-Zahra we pray to Allah that he may allow us to stay firm on this religion to follow in their footsteps and not to go against anything that they teach or preach to us with this blessed night with the Surah Al-Mubarakat Al-Fatiha but before the 3 of your loudest Salawat على محمد وقال محمد