 The first question is for Stada Mediam. So it says, how do I build my confidence to put my face on social media? I have studied Islam and counseling. I have so many things I would love to share so I could also connect with like-minded people. I feel like I learned so much yet only have a minimal friends to share with. When I share, I feel amazing. I also want to have the right intention and have been told that I could attract a aim. So I just want to obviously be a target for Aayn. Can you give her some advice about being in the public eye and avoiding the eye perhaps? Just being using social media for good and how to kind of check your intention. Bismillahirrahmanirrahim, al-hamdulillahi rabbil al-alameen wa sallatu wa sallamu ala rasulillahi. When I first joined social media, it was because I wanted to make da'wah to a cohort that I was part of and just help them see the beauty of Islam. In that time, I never put my face up and I was just like, absolutely, I would never put anything related to my person online. And I just want to share with you this development because I think it's important for us to think about all the different aspects if anyone's doing public work. Over time, as I was giving lectures, some of my lectures were shared online and so slowly my face is online more and more because people are sharing the lectures. And then eventually, I started getting messages from sisters who were really struggling with being a visible Muslim. Just very, very, very hard. There was an era in which a lot of social media influencers who had established hijab companies and who had been kind of like the pillars of encouraging hijab were going through a difficult time and removing their hijab and may Allah bless all of them. And hijab is a very difficult subject in so many ways. So in that time, I was getting so many questions related to just hijab and being public and all of that. And so I started to ask my teachers and the people who mentor me, scholars who mentor me about how to help women see themselves in different areas. And one of the pieces of advice that I kept receiving was they need to see other Muslim women who are in different spaces. It's one thing to see flowers with a caption and it's another thing for them to see someone who they can relate to. And I have to say that I am physically, like I don't post my picture unless there's a reason. I don't have like, it's a personal choice. I just, I don't have like the photo shoots of myself like at the beach and respectfully to anyone who does it, that's just not my style. I try to make sure that what I post is with an intention that it's showing other women or it's talking about an aspect of character, that's a personal thing. Videos, I've talked to Dr. Haifa about in the past, the style of social media right now is videos are here and it was something I really struggled with because when I did take a video from, you know, like that pillar over there, people just felt like they couldn't connect to it and I would get that feedback. And I want to say that I really dislike being social on social media. I hate having my picture on social media. I hate being in videos on social media. I would completely leave social media if it wasn't for the messages that I receive specifically from women who talk about how just seeing the visibility has made an impact on their lives. And it's not because I'm actually doing anything good or because I'm worthy of that. It's just literally sometimes someone needs to see someone else to feel like there's community and they just feel that community. And so, when I'm sharing with you this advice, I'm sharing it from a place of hating being public. I don't like to be public and I wouldn't encourage someone to be public not because it's not helpful. I've told Dr. Rania to get a TikTok. I asked Dr. Haifa to get a TikTok. I think, all of us want to do TikTok. Okay. Let me just say, I told everyone but two of them actually did it. So what that says about them? Masha'Allah Tabarak Allah. Some of them are the chosen. I'm just kidding. No, I'm just kidding. TikTok is a beast. But the people on TikTok are you young people and the types of messages that they're hearing on there are from people who know nothing about Islam who have 500,000 followers and who are like women who are the majority of help. I'm like, I'm like, this is what young people in high school and college are hearing about Islam. Everything is so supportive. Be whoever you want. Be whatever you want. Flot what you got. Everything you want, you're accepted. But in the Muslim community, no, don't be whoever. You end up hide everything about your existence because it's better for women not to exist in first place. And that message is really hard for a young person who's struggling to figure out what their identity is. And so why I'm telling you all of this because the benefit of being on social media, I have seen it. I'm sure anyone here, Dr. Rania, Dr. Haifa, anyone else? Oh, Sada Hussai. Why didn't I see you, Sada Hussai? Sada Hussai, may Allah bless them for the difficulty of experiencing the reality of social media. It's a beast and there's so much hate and there's so much frustration. The amount of nights I've waking up with anxiety in the middle of the night because my face is online is just so much. But what I've seen is the messages from sisters, especially younger sisters and older sisters. It's just been so worth it. And so why I'm telling you all of that is because if you feel like what you wanna do is give a particular message and in a field that really needs to be represented, especially from women, especially supporting other women, I think it's such a critical, critical role that someone needs to take. What I would recommend is number one, make istikhara. I personally make istikhara before basically any post. I make istikhara multiple times before doing things and I ask for advice. I send what I'm about to post to other people and getting their feedback before I do. I think that shura is really important and the intention thing. People ask me this, they're like, how can you maintain a sincere intention with the more and more people that might see, the more and more people that it's about followers, it's about likes, it's about all those things. I'm like really, I think the best advice that I can give you is be an extremely insecure person because nothing will impact. You will never be good enough. And so that's my advice, just be really insecure and make istikhara. I like that only the people here are lacking because they know my insecurities. But I guess what I'm trying to say is, at the end of the day, you always think like, this is not coming with me to the grave except to be a punishment unless you do it for the sake of Allah. And if you're not doing it for the sake of Allah, what doesn't matter how many followers you have? First of all, Facebook was a big thing. Barely anyone uses it, I mean all respect to the people who actually do. And now, okay, so then I'll, now what? Now TikTok is the thing. And 10 years, let's just remember who we are. This life, most of our names are not going to be remembered except for insha'Allah all the sisters that everyone in this room and everyone that we love, I mean. But the point is that, I just really have a time for 20 minutes. Oh my gosh, the point, make istikhara, make da'a, ask a lot of people. May Allah make you sincere and always ask Allah to purify your intentions, to be sincere and think about what you're doing before you do it. Make multiple intentions before you press post because really it doesn't benefit you in the long run for any other reason other than you doing it for the sake of Allah. May Allah's plan until I make us all sincere. I mean also PS, please download Qariah, the woman Qura'an reciters app. Since we're talking about social media, it's on app stores, both of them, Q-A-R-I-A-H. It's free, it's for women Qariah, the woman Qura'an reciters app. I've met so many of you who are like, I love the work you're doing. I'm like, have you downloaded the Qariah? They're like, no. I'm like, why? It's free. All right. Just to add one thing. Yes. Zaki lahirya, Maryam. This was one of the best advice I was given 20 years ago. Don't learn to teach and don't learn to be famous. Don't go on social media if you want to. Don't. Go against your nefs because you're gonna be drained. You're gonna be following how many people they like me, they don't like me and the followers. Don't, wait. If Allah wants to use you through social media, he'll use you, what I just shared with you. The TikTok that now I am on, Allah knows how many people for years they were after me and I was absolutely against it. You know how Allah made me do it? You've talked to me, but I wasn't convinced. A 16 year, you know why? Because you always wait till Allah shows you. This is very important. 16 year old boy, his mother sent me my clip. She said, someone put it on TikTok. And I said, really? Was not us, someone. And I said, and she said, please put yours on TikTok. I said, why? My son really loves it. Halas, done. Did you see my point? So for the sister who asked, Allah gave you the knowledge, but he didn't tell you teach. He didn't tell you go on social media yet. He taught you, wait, ask him to show you. Because that's a dangerous trap. Social media, being popular, being famous. Don't you think it's easy to be in these shoes? You know what I'm talking about. So wait, if Allah wants to use it, use it or not? Ya Allah, use me and don't replace me. And he will use you the way he thinks is the best for you. I'm sorry I took it, but I just wanted to make this point. It's okay. The next question is actually for you, Dr. Haifa. What to do if two people are strongly convinced that they are being wronged by the other person? If both are taking guidance from the Quran and Sunnah, what are looking at things from a completely different opposite lens? Okay. I'll remind you of Hadith of Ar-Rasuh, al-Salaatu As-Salaam. I think he said al-Salaam, the meaning of liyanzun ila makani fil-Jannah. Whomsoever, leave an argument and you know you are right, but you leave it. Look at your place in Jannah. That's the answer. Period. Because if you were right and you did it, you're placed in Jannah. And if you were wrong and you live it and you left it, alhamdulillah. Period. This also goes to Tuskeer and to your nefs. Don't defend your nefs. I have to show her I'm right. That's your nefs talking. Leave it. Leave it for Allah. And he will absolutely defend you and show you, be iznillah. DozakAllah khirm, stada hosay, the mic. Regarding privacy within the marriage, you were talked about transparency. What are the limits? What if others like the in-laws ask espouse not to share a halal but private conversation? Bismillah, al-Rahman, al-Raheem. I saw that question. I was a little confused by the context. The in-laws are speaking to whom and it was a bit confusing for me, but in general, I would say that as I mentioned during the talk, there are certain things that are sacred in the marital relationship and the bond that we have with our spouses is really important to maintain. As we know, Iblis seeks to destroy the family because if he destroys the husband and wife, he destroys the family, he destroys the community, has a circle effect. So we have to be on guard and know his tactics and having secrecy and these duplicitous natures where I have my life and you have your life and we don't ever really have transparency I think is a very dangerous game to play and it comes from a lot of these modern ideas about women and men having to always have everything as Dr. Haifa beautifully alluded to. It's always these political ideas that come into our marriages. We have to use hikmah, we have to use wisdom and I think just having some basic understandings between you and every couple is gonna have to decide what that means. For example, my marriage, my husband any day, any time of the day, it doesn't matter, it's in the middle of the night and the morning if he wants to see my phone, marihallah, here you go. There's no, oh no, you can't look at my stuff, it's private, he doesn't have access to my passcode. I just don't believe that that's healthy so he can get into my phone and I can go into his phone. I have all his access to his emails, he can go into my email, he can do whatever he wants. But he knows respectfully, there are certain things that are very private and I tell him because I have sisters that message me that for that reason please do not touch these things because it's confidence that I have of other women or other people but everything else between him and I, there is this understanding that there's no privacy. So I think really having a culture of mutual respect, of honoring one another's preferences, some people might have more things that they are, that they want just from experiences. I know people have come out of really unhealthy relationships so they might need a little bit more in their current relationship because of their past. So just being compassionate and seeing people where they are and having open dialogue, I think will remove a lot of the doubt and suspicion and all of those things in Shaitan and that he wants to create between the couple. So just have open communication, that as far as in-laws and other people, again, we have to be very clear about boundaries within our marriages and that goes for anybody that's not involved in the marriage, you can always seek advice, but to have people meddling in your marriage, I think is also a very dangerous thing so we should be very clear that we will as a couple, for example, if we have problems, that we have one person or at least there's a due process of how we're going to mediate our problems, but it's not this kind of open, haphazard way of letting anybody into the marriage because there's things that are very private and once you lose trust, again, this is how Shaitan sows those seeds of discord. So these agreements, a lot of the stuff can be taken care of with premarital counseling, so please, if you're not married, go into premarital counseling because experts like Mashallah, Dr. Rania and others who are in the field of either mental health or do this as a professional, this is part of their expertise, they will guide you on how to have these contracts that are mutually beneficial, that is the key, it has to be mutually beneficial, that's very different than equal, okay? And those words I know are interchanged, but mutually beneficial is rooted in respect, it's rooted in, again, Taqwa and inshallah, in the pleasure of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala above the nuffs and if we, I think, conduct ourselves in that respectful way, we will have agreements with our spouses that will not leave anyone feeling that they have a need to hide or have a need to do things any other way, so I hope that was clear. Jazakallah. We've got a question, somebody wants to take their shahada and we don't know if it's in person or online. Allah Akbar, because, Allah Akbar. Allah Akbar. Allah Akbar. Wow. Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. Alhamdulillah. Alrighty, can you tell us about yours? I just received the question right now, so that's it. So I have some friends in the community, I live in Pacifica, Madison. Nice to meet you all. Thank you. I actually come from an atheist family and I've done some research here and there about all the religions and just so happens that this is the one that sat in my heart. I had some trouble kind of connecting my head and my heart because there's some things I'm trying to learn about logic and, but I feel it in my heart and I'm ready to say the shahada. Yeah. So Madison, just let me give you a little bit of, so you're coming to a religion which is the essence of it, is the base of every religion. It's only one God. You worship and you submit. That's basically it. And all the other religions, the base is the same, but then things change and that's probably why your heart fell to there and that's the usual story because anything else, I wouldn't say it doesn't make sense, but doesn't make a pure sense. Can't be more than one. This is too perfect. This is too sophisticated to have too many people. You know what I'm saying? So it is one. So this is basically what Islam is submission to the will of God. That's what we were all talking about. And basically what I'm gonna, you're gonna say after me, I'm gonna say it in Arabic and just say it. Then I'll say it in English. I wanna say it very slowly. I'm like driving in the car. No, so you're practicing. And there's a disclaimer. Honestly, we had no idea. I just read the question. If you saw me, I was, I leaned exactly. And I leaned to Stada Fadwa. I was like, oh, and who is she? We don't know. Alhamdulillah. So basically the declaration of Shahada or the declaration, the door to get to Islam is that you declare two things. That Allah, God is one and Rasul Aleyhi Salat was sent a messenger. Muhammad, peace be upon him, is his messenger. That's basically it. So Bismillah. Ashhadu. Ashhadu. An. An. La. La. Illa. Illa. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. Illa Allah. May Allah keep her strong everyone she's an amazing community make a dua for us I'm jealous because you're pure and I mean it the person who enters now Everything else is white. So I have a lot of things to clear everybody She is pure whiteboard. So welcome my dear may Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala make you a key that you guide other people Ya Rabbi I mean now you can hug Yes On behalf of the Rahmah Foundation, especially the MCC we wanted to give you this gift box called being Muslim Inside you'll find a run and a prayer rug and some other books to kind of begin the journey and some other goodies and things But we are here in person. So this is for you Madison. This wasn't planned. This wasn't I just brought this out of nowhere. I don't know where MCC Michelle I'm Ella bless this message and the convert committee. That's here. There's some wonderful programming here And we hope you'll join us She's saying you really she's saying she just found us on YouTube a week ago Oh, but a lot of guides whom he wills You know, I want to say one thing whenever you do a good deed the sign that the good deed is accepted When Allah follows with another good deed So look at this subhan Allah you came you support me a lot he would all the organizers and this is the second time actually Yeah, this is the third conference. This is second time last time the same thing happened And that lady was actually not in the conference. She texted says wait for me. Remember. Yes, and we waited for her May Allah accept from all of us may Allah make us an example To the people outside that they see us and they want to enter Istanbul Right back to the questions just real quick side of sight. Who was the one who slapped Amin aradiyallahu anha? Abu jahid For those of you taking notes. All right, so the Hussain again So what author's books did you utilize for your talk and would you recommend to learn from I? Have some children's books on like Sahaba and Sahabi at and then online sources. There's mashallah a lot of hadith Websites a lot of the contents available on hadith and there's also great talks. I listened to one by Which is a really great talk doctor Omar Suleyman. Mashallah. He did he has a series So I would definitely recommend listening to that one. I Is it the first I don't know if that's the title of it. I'm sorry, but first Yeah, he did it on different like Sahaba's have yet so much a very rich information Yeah, dr. Rania as we know about the roles of women outside of motherhood But for me, it's been challenging to learn about Sahabia during their pregnancies and and challenges other than the story of a smat and Mediam it is a blessing but There are mental physical challenges in which our culture wouldn't minimize them Are there any resources for that also? Does manastan offer therapy or care for postpartum depression? Absolutely Absolutely, I can probably talk about postpartum depression forever So upon Allah and how much our cultures and ourselves particularly even as women But I'll also say all people including doctors. I can't tell you how many doctors don't believe in postpartum depression It's the strangest weirdest thing. I'm like, how did you graduate from medical school? You don't know that postpartum depression is real Sometimes it's their own lives as physicians that I'm they're saying yeah get over it What do you mean get over it? Have you not studied that particularly? I'm gonna go into whole spiel now. Forgive me, but certain mental health conditions are Biologically connected postpartum depression is absolutely one of those because it is hormonally based more often than not Other types of sometimes in the postpartum depression itself or other forms of depression anxiety could also have environmental causes So if you're living in some really difficult circumstances Think about all kinds of things that kind of really caused you anxiety and difficulty could also cause you postpartum depression After the birth of the child or now we mostly could call it Perry part of depression even within the pregnancy and after it Or if it's not biological and it's not genetic and it's not environmental it could be Actually cognitive it could be spiritual could be many different things actually But to me it's so amazing that we get so stuck on these things can't possibly be true One in reality the very same hormones that allow that baby to be in the mother's womb and carried for all those months is Also are the same hormones implicated in postpartum depression If you believe pregnancy can happen then you believe postpartum depression can happen too plummeting of those hormones causes some woman to experience postpartum depression We had I don't know how many to say the father. How many did we have in the room over 300? Yeah The stats are one in four women experience postpartum depression now count off one two three There are so many women in this room alone plus all of our sisters online We see you in here. We love you. Mashallah who also have experienced postpartum depression in their life So when women negate that I'm like hold on You know your own sisters and yourselves This is very common The quicker that we could actually get over this issue And be there as a support for each other The better we're all going to be for it The better that we say to our own daughters and our own sisters snap out of it or Shame on you. Allah gave you a kid. How dare you be upset? These are real things that happen And so in short, yes, Maristana. Alhamdulillah is our local Islamic non-profit that dedicated it's dedicated to mental health and actually integrating Islam into the therapy It offers all kinds of therapy and support. Alhamdulillah professional by those who are trained professional therapists The booth is at the back. I think sisters just meet us or somebody somewhere and can answer your questions InshaAllah, but also Please know that is also virtual. So again for the state of california Anybody in the state of california can access that care And also, please know that we also make sure that it's financially available MCC has been a wonderful partner. We're able to have financial support for those who can't afford the therapy And I encourage everybody to get that support Even if it's not postpartum depression even it's family counseling for your own kids If it's academic support that people are struggling with testing anxiety, let's say or whatever kinds of difficulties Please get the help folks Now back to the sister who's asking What can I do about the stories related to pregnancy that seems that I was very clear about The story that I told about say the amina the mother of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam what she experienced was a miracle Are we clear about that? The prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam is entirely a miracle And so clearly his pregnancy was going to be a miracle too The fact that she didn't feel the heaviness that a woman feels when carrying a child or the difficulty that comes with it Or the very mere fact that when he was born He didn't have any of the filth you know the the stuff the fluids that are on a baby He didn't even have that when he was born the whole thing sallallahu alaihi said the whole story is a miracle So clearly that's different than any one of us Right and yeah pregnancy stuff And I too wish that our cultures and our communities would stop minimizing the difficulty that actually comes with it And also the struggles and pains of infertility There are struggles and pains all throughout whether having children or not having them and so What do we do? We support each other and we understand that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala actually allows for Us to understand the wisdom behind either the challenges or the ease that Allah gives us and every one of those pregnancies Is different or the lack of them is something also challenges and difficulties that Allah has given us To help us through into that next stage But a lot of that comes with wisdom and I hope you'll find that people along give your path inshallah to help you understand those wisdom inshallah You mentioned that sumayah radi allahu anha made a sacrifice giving away something that is valuable for something that you recognize Is clearly more valuable But how do we reach this date where we can achieve those sacrifices in our daily lives if necessary for us from pertaining to our Dean Especially when it seems so hard at times Is there anything that we can do to achieve that level of taqwa to zakallah. I really loved your talk Is that good inshallah when I reached that level of taqwa I'll share my tips with you We're all struggling right. We're all on a journey Nobody is perfect. Nobody has got it all figured out So when we're talking about trying to reach a particular stage of taqwa, I don't think any of us has like Next thursday, I'm gonna be done inshallah I'll be you know, like I've reached that stage, right? So What do we do when we are faced with some sort of struggle or sacrifice? I think the the biggest thing that I would suggest Obviously after dua and turning to Allah and making sincere dua to Allah Is also make sure you have a support system. A lot of people go through these things alone They feel maybe embarrassed that Maybe they feel like the thing that I'm going through is trivial So they trivialize it and they feel embarrassed because they think other people are going through worse What do I have to complain about? And so they they don't seek support Or they feel like nobody in the world could possibly understand what I'm going through. I've got it so terribly That they just feel like they feel hopeless, right? And we don't want to be on either extremes and we ask Allah swt to protect us always seek support You look at the lives of the prophets, they sought support, right? We look at Musa alayhi salam, right? When Allah tasks him with going to fir'aun He has this entire conversation with Allah, right? Allah shows him these miracles He's speaking directly with Allah, right? Then Allah shows him these amazing miracles And then Allah tells him go to fir'aun and musa alayhi salam says, okay, let's go No, he makes dua, right? First he makes dua and then after he makes dua, what does he say? Okay, I'm going alone No, he says let my brother come with me, right? And Allah says, accept his dua. Allah doesn't say Didn't I just say I'm with you? Why are you asking? No, right? So it's okay to seek support. The prophet sallallahu alayhi salam sought support, right? What is, we know that the prophet sallallahu alayhi salam made dua that ya Allah allowed one of the two Ahmadis to accept Islam And Umar ibn al-Khattab was the one that Allah sallallahu alayhi salam chose to bless with Guidance, right? The prophet sallallahu alayhi salam sought support So that's the first thing that I would suggest and really the main thing I would suggest is seek support. I can Guarantee that a lot of the sacrifices and the difficulties that we go through somebody has probably gone through something similar If not the exact same thing, right? So Talk to your sisters and the community get to know your sisters reach out to professionals if you need to but don't go it alone Okay, keep your du'as with Allah. Keep Allah close to you. Ask Allah for help But also seek support from your community from the sisters who love you May pray that Allah sallallahu alayhi salam makes it easy for us all to reach a level of tapua that he's pleased with Um Sure just quickly just like you're hitting excellent advice and I just wanted to Echo everything you just said as far as support systems. Alhamdulillah. We are so blessed in this community to have Masha'Allah Dr. Rania and Maristan and this organization that provides professional services But here at mcc2 we're also Head in that direction of trying to really create support systems that are you know more Just for for those who don't really are not ready Maybe perhaps to to seek out or maybe they are and they're doing it You know in conjunction with but they want actual sohbah So we just recently with it's been a couple of months But here the last Saturday of every month at mcc from 9 to 11 am in that room Myself and a few other sisters in this community come together. We read Quran We do dhikr. We do salawat and then at the end we do something that is exactly Everything that Osada Fasino was talking about we're just seeking support, but in a very non-intrusive way. It's just it's Whatever whoever wants to share And it's really just healing and and Holding space with one another listening to one another And alhamdulillah. I've been doing this for a pretty long time And I feel like every single time we do those dua circles where everybody kind of just shares whatever is burdening them I always get a lot of feedback that I really needed this today I needed to feel held by my sisters Heard and then I feel like most of us. Alhamdulillah Allah, you know has I think women generally We tend to know the solutions to our problems, right? Which is why one of the biggest complaints women have of their spouses is they're always trying to solve their problems And you're like, I don't want you to solve my problem. I just want you to listen to me complain about my problems And I think validation and really just having a comforting voice I mean just even being up on this panel I feel so reassured when I can see like mashal stuff for saying she's been awesome nodding her head Letting me know. Yes. What you're saying is resonating and or you know all of my co-panelist It's very comforting to the human heart, right to be seen and to be heard And we're missing that that's the bottom line We are so disconnected as a community and the problem is is we come into a lot of these spaces Because of the pressures of what being perfect at everything being the superwoman I have to have it handled that we are leading with a with the facade and the persona that we want people to think of us And to find spaces where we could just be real and raw without judgment And you you you share at your own discretion. So there's no expectation to share But there's permission to share So I invite all of you if you would like it's open. There's no commitment required But I we created this program specifically for this to create places of sahba. So May Allah give us all You know support and let us all come together inshallah. This is beautiful sisterhood And that's why we love I have a foundation and we love jannah institute and we love all of our female led organizations because this is what they're doing How did I just I don't love the qadi app? Yes Yes All right, thank you. A stab at my dm is next a couple of questions regarding Can women follow the janaza and watch the burial of their loved ones and can pregnant women go to the cemetery and also Going for hajj or omara while any faster hide. What what are some resources about figuring out how to do that? Um, and I know you're you have a book coming out in six months inshallah inshallah So with regards to just because we're I don't we're not giving a whole class I won't give you all the different opinions and the reasonings. Why I'll just give you the base answer Yes, it is permissible to follow the janaza and to attend the burial pregnancy mencess None of those have a weight on whether or not you do that That includes washing the body. You don't need to not be on your period to be uh do so However, let me just say you are going to see a difference of opinion sometimes from scholars And I'm not going into all the details of that right now just because of this the reality But the point is that there are going to be some of the same exact texts are understood differently by different scholars and different Medahib So yes, there are going to be scholars who say that it is impermissible And then there are other scholars who refute that and they provide their proofs on why it is permissible Amongst which the prophet's always said I'm passed a woman who was um upset emotionally at the grave Of her son and she didn't realize there's the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam And he reminded her to be patient and she spoke Disrespectfully just in the moment of her grief and the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam didn't tell her you're You're not allowed to be here He's a legislator of law He is an incumbent upon him to make that clarification Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam if someone is in the middle of doing something that's not that's not correct And he sees it sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. Um, I showed all the aloha anha She went and visited the grave of her brother Rumi allahu anhu and then a companion saw her and asked about specifically aren't women not supposed to be going and I'm super summarizing this Um, but she responded she asked the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam in another narration What should she say when she goes to visit the grave the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam taught her what to say So these are all evidences on women going visiting the grave There are a number of them from the sahabiyeh That exists and that came after the initial prohibition and then the order to go with the recommendation to go Other scholars who would disagree with this are going to look at those later narrations and give reasonings I showed all the aloha anha only visited her brother because you couldn't she couldn't attend the jinn as a for example They're going to give their reasonings on why no actually this is not meant for all women This is a specific circumstance. Do you see where I'm coming with like how the scholars look at it differently? Sorry, I can't go into it more here, but the point is um, there is ample evidence to allow for it to be done with regards to the Mensa's question Yes, so to go into hajj or omrah you don't The only part you absolutely need to be and will do in you can get into your haram on your period You can do the other rites on your period, but you cannot make tawaf. However If you're in hajj or omrah and you're only going to be there a few days and you don't live You know an hour or two hours away that you can just you know, be in a haram for a certain amount of Or excuse me never mind. I won't say that part. Ignore what I just said the point is Not everyone's group can just stay longer until a woman's period is done. That's just not realistic today And so if you are not able to make omrah without being pure from your period Then ibn Taymiah and a number of other scholars mention that yes, you can make the tawaf on your period because you don't have another choice There's a discussion on whether or not a woman needs to give a sacrifice for that Ibn Taymiah's opinion is not that there's other discussions on whether or not it should be done So if you are going to go for hajj or omrah I would recommend reaching out to your hajj or omrah group Although now you can go on your own. So maybe that doesn't exist. I can't tell you a A source that I know of in english. If anyone knows, please share it That's why part of the book that hamdallah I finished writing the main script on has a whole section on this just because I couldn't find an english Inshallah, I pray it'll be beneficial in a year inshallah, but if anyone has resources It smells like smoke As-salamu alaykum I make dua that the book comes out and it's pleasing to Allah a couple of couple of points for the ladies When there is a different opinion What you need to do is you need to respect both It doesn't matter which one you follow and now I say this to myself number one who are who I am to argue Following there is two things about janaza There's following the janaza and then then being in the graveyard side during The barrier and then there is visiting the graveyard afterward. There's three things you have to separate Now it all depends upon the scholars who tells you you you are allowed to what you are going to be doing there I don't know if you have been there. I have been there It's one of the hardest things you'll see is when you put your loved one in a grave If you don't think you can obey Allah swt In that moment then don't go If you can and it's a reminder This is actually why he allowed it later on He said it I prevented you from visiting the graveyard now go because it reminds you of the So if the woman is going to go composed Dressed pleasing to Allah swt I attended one And I said to myself now I know why some scholar says don't go And I am a woman So if you are gonna go Pleasing Allah swt dress code actions. What are you doing? Then yes, you can follow that opinion If you cannot obey Allah In whatever the way it is then don't go Because you are starting something Others may follow you and then you need to answer to Allah swt So you need to know there's two opinion both are valid as Mr. Adam Mariam said the discussion is is this is valid. This is valid But you as a person when you are there what are you going to be doing? I I attended one young woman They were putting her in the grave and people were doing selfie I attended it's not I heard I did see it And then I said now I know when some scholar says don't do it Dr. Amina, can you share a bit about how women who converted in secret Even hiding their faith from their husbands manifested their day-to-day practice of islam So how do they take care of their obligations? Do we know? So subhanAllah at the time of umman fadr allah and ha actually a lot of the The pillars of islam that we have now were mandated the second year of hijra So she had been muslim for a long time and what we don't like again subhanAllah I think we all kind of talked about this the first 13 years in mecca was Who is Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala? Who are you like when you look at the meccan quran Which is the overwhelming majority of the quran? It's about good character and it's about good ethics And the reason I think this is so important is like there's the hadith of the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Where he says a tadruinam al-muflis. Do you know who's broke? And they said Have any dollars or cents And he said no he's a person that prays and fasted and then comes the day of judgment They insulted so and so and they did they hit so and so they did like subhanAllah You lose all of your good deeds that way So part of first and foremost grounding ourselves in ethics subhanAllah at the time They didn't the the salat they used to pray once in the morning and once in the evening And it was only turakas And they would only the fasting that they would do because like if you're trying to hide your men Those are the two major things You would and they had to fast the day of Arafa. The Ramadan was not mandatory yet I've had a lot of friends that would tell me stories of praying in the closet And I know other people of like oh, you can't pray in the bathroom. That was the only place that it was private enough For them to be able to pray they just close the toilet seat like if you can if you can worship freely Thank Allah for that Because you don't realize how incredible an opportunity that is subhanAllah If someone can like may Allah protect us if someone leaves Islam Where someone actually becomes muslim they usually do it during their college years And there's so many people I talk to you're like we can't tell our parents We won't we won't be able to go to go to college anymore So there's a lot of very real implications in people's lives And especially like subhanAllah you don't know if you don't know how your family is going to react You try it a bit by bit And you take your time with it and you see counsel And you do your best SubhanAllah, I mean I especially like there's I mean right now the stakes are do I get to graduate from college or not? Do I have financial support or not? There are people may Allah protect us as literally your life is on the line if you become muslim May Allah protect us from that. Can I add something about the Hajj? No one has their period for the whole two weeks of Hajj Like feqhan you that you can't and unfortunately the most popular opinion out there is like just take the pills For you to take the pills where it regulates your period enough You have to take them for three months, which means that before Ramadan you started taking them The overwhelming majority of women don't do that And if you go and you miss one and then you start spotting and then people get confused and now they're frustrated And they're like am I not praying am I not praying like it just it frustrates me because the way it's told is like Oh, just go take care of that go be less woman at Hajj. You don't have to be any less woman at Hajj like It just it's so like I'm didn't thank you I went when I went like I was I was in a really large group and I'm telling the the male scholars I'm like those are the women that are still on their periods. Just send them to me Because I was also still I'll just I was still on my period. I was waiting till I was done And then I took the group we did our umrah And then if you get like there's more Mariam and I are working on scenarios Hopefully if we can have it published before next Hajj, that would be great inshallah But really and hamdulillah like there's there's ways to talk about it and there's ways to figure it out And if in the extreme case that you got your period the morning of read then you just missed the time of when the tawaf became mandatory And you can't you're not going to finish before you leave because you're bleeding more than seven days Then okay now then you can take the exception But for the overwhelming majority it's like a statistical anomaly That that would actually happen Not to get too nerdy All right, so dr. Haifa Um, can I call the event in my home when no one else is home? Maybe the medium would love to demonstrate an event for us Uh, can I call the event in my home when my teenage son is home, but doesn't want to do it? Why do you want to do it? You always have to ask yourself. Why do you want to invent the wheel? And you know sahabi at the time of the Rasulullah s.a.w. had a beautiful voice And say the aisha couldn't stand up and do her a dan Why do you want to do it? I think this is something we women really need to so one of the speakers said don't fall in that trap If they didn't do it don't do it. You know what I would worry about worry about your quality of sada worry about your khushua Worry about what you are reading in the sada Why do you want to do the adhan? And if your son doesn't want to do it guess what how many apps that do the adhan these days? I attended recently a home the whole house had adhan Honestly and I was like, where is this coming from? And they just showed me the phone And there was connected to all their speakers Don't waste your energy my beautiful sisters In things that may not get me to jannah And I said may not focus on things for sure guaranteed I don't have a lot of life to live or thousands of hours There's different opinion about in general the woman is not supposed to call for adhan. So why do I want to do that? Period Yeah, you want to practice your voice? memorize the Quran It's time that many am a lot of times in conferences and lectures We get the push to make a change in the oma and make a difference I really admire all the people starting institutions and leading organizations, but I feel Spread thin just from focusing on raising a righteous family Being a good wife dealing with family issues and keeping up with my own dean. How can I do it all like you all? Dr. Right is going to answer this I We could tell that we could tell the dr. Rania. We could tell the story of Dr. Rania tell the story of early first women's dean intensive So we wanted we want I'll tell I'll start the story, but then she can talk about How she juggles and a lot of it has to do with support uh, but I mean you guys see the pretty side of us coming to the conference like we had to plan dinner You know our spouses. Hamdillah are supportive in that You know, they're taking on responsibilities that we would otherwise do We don't say they're babysitting because we are both parents to our children All of the things that you had to do and I talked about this that starting at two o'clock We gave sisters a chance to like make a good breakfast Or brunch, you know to finish your laundry do the grocery shopping And then come rest at MCC. Well, do you listen to your Program we the same thing happens on the other side of the stage. Sisters have to travel You know Make plans come from different areas So all of the logistical things, but I think for a lot of our teachers the the intention Wanting to do and serve the community Putting whatever a law facilitates for us is what we do Um, you know, we can't always be at every program at every talk fill every request But just trying to be open to everything that we can do And I know a lot of amazing sisters who Are doing work in the community that nobody knows about Whether it's feeding people providing them groceries watching children, you know So just to facilitate somebody else being able to do what they want It's happening everywhere. A lot of the silent soldiers that nobody hears about, you know All of that is happening. So don't minimize what you are doing As long as you're doing something and you have to ask yourself What is like Dr. Haifa says, you know, not what I want to do, but what is Allah? Opening up for me to do what is that path that Allah has made easy for me And do that And just go with it Because there's a lot of things that you may think are better than other things But you don't know Allah SWT how he's created your path to jannah and so Just walk whenever path Allah opens for you and inshallah will get you to where we all want to be Which is inshallah with Allah SWT and our beloved Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Chillin in the jannah Drinking milk and eating honey And inshallah, that's what we want. We want to be together anyhow Dr. Rania No, no, that was perfect wasn't it? Allah Akbar Uh instead of senior, how do you suggest finding balance between sacrificing time in this dunya and making time to build your ahida? Balancing the career and seeking knowledge Oh, that's an interesting one So How much time do we have? Yeah, yeah, we actually we don't we only have seven minutes Okay, so i'm gonna give you a three minute answer inshallah or try Here's the thing right um It's a very broad question because there's this idea that they're kind of mutually exclusive Um, there's also this idea a lot of the times. I think when we see speakers On the stage and we hear so much about what they've done We don't realize that this is years Years of work, right? Um The other thing is everybody's situation is different, right? So what one person is able to do with the resources Allah has blessed them with Another person may not be able to do they've got other talents that Allah Santa has given them Um, also even as an individual, right? I'm gonna ask you all a question raise your hand if your entire life has always been the same Nothing's ever ever changed in your life Nothing has been just permanently the same All right, most people are not like that, right? um, your You might be Single then you're married. You might have kids. You might be working. Then you're staying at home, right? People situations change and so we have to allow our uh actions to Kind of mold and to to kind of go with the flow if you will, right? I'll give you a personal example For example, when I started the Qalam Seminary 2015. It was a one-year program There they have a five-year Alamea program now. They don't have it anymore or they they didn't have it at the time So I did the I did a year of Arabic Then I did a year of seminary. These were all full-time. I wasn't working, right? Then I realized I have to pay bills So I should probably get myself a job and get back to work Um, then Qalam started their five-year Alamea program. I was like, this is amazing I'd really like to be able to do this but honestly, I can't afford to take five years off of work and study full time I just can't it's not something I can afford to do Um, so what I did is I joined uh different institutions that do part-time classes That I can do online. That's around the time when I did my HIV. I did my jazz ads and the qira ads Um, and so forth, right? So you have to allow yourself to find a way based on your situation You have to be practical, right? You're you're not going to Race around like I I did a I did a master's degree in Islamic studies during COVID And the only reason I was able to do it is because of COVID Um, where the university is in London and they decided to offer their classes online Because of COVID it's been my dream to go to this university and study there I was like, I can't afford to quit my job and move to London and then Allah s.w.t. Made it easy for me and Oh from um university of London. They have um, uh department called soas Um, so I did my master's degree from there But it was easy because all I had to do was 7 a.m. To 9 a.m. I would take a class And then I'd get to work and I did that for a year, right? So Allah s.w.t. will open doors for you. Your job is to never lose touch do whatever you can That's practical That fits your schedule, right? Don't don't say okay. I have to memorize Quran in six months I have to master the Arabic language in three months. I have to quit my job and leave my family and move a broader What works for one person doesn't work for the other person What works for you won't work for other people and so forth, right? So I think that's what it is is you have to prioritize you have to be balanced, but don't lose touch, right? um, we have so many Organizations and such now. Alhamdulillah that offer different courses and stuff You'll find something that works for you make dua to Allah that Allah s.w.t. will make it easy And you will find things that you can do Also keep knocking at the door sometimes like if you want to study The door doesn't open And then you get frustrated. I remember I was taking maliki thick with shahamza and it was like to hot up her to hot up her to hot up her I think I took the same book like four or five times because it was the only one That was being offered at the time in the area and I wasn't able to go abroad to study And I so I went I did the worst thing ever I went to shahamza and complained And I said shahamza, you know It's kind of like I'm doing the same book over and over again. I feel like you know, I wish I could go I was complaining because I couldn't go anywhere to study and he said, you know There are people who want to study And there are people who want to want to study Yeah And he said check your intention Maybe you want to want to study Which means like you want to be part of that group that wants to study But you don't actually firmly have an intention to study And then I was like Okay And then we got a resident scholar From the country I wanted to study in And then we got another one and then we got another one And so, Alhamdulillah, he brought that to my attention and sent me straight This one's for you, Dr. Rania. So you can have the mic You mentioned blended families to step children become mahram Do you need to wear a veil around step children or adopt the children to husband siblings parents and children become your mahram That was all the fifth questions Masha'Allah Well, kind of I'm going to take the approach that was that the madhyam took and say that there actually are some differing opinions related to the nuance Questions because these are multiple. I don't even think I caught them all right there But all the different questions I think I want to go back to the more important piece of this and then tell you references and resources where you can learn more About the specific case the reason for that is it has a lot to do with the agents Of when these children come into the family It has to do with whether they were nursed or not There are so many different pieces to this particular Question And so it's probably not going to make a whole lot of sense to do a whole thick lesson right at this very moment But the broader question that I think is maybe fueling perhaps some of this is the concept of blended families And I was talking about the household of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam And how there were multiple multiple different people on that household Particularly, I mean the one where he after he's married with the sitna khadija Rado Allah on her and of course there is her children There are at the time like we said adopted son and then Allah spent to clarify that adoption is different than biological children So say bin haritha There is sitna baraka that we talked about today There's also and then her children that come into the picture right and then there is of course the uh, say daali So his own cousin Right who is brought into the household as well and then his own children So what I meant by the blended family is that you have so many different today. This is what we call this term We call it a blended family in which you have different people from different families that are all or different You know that are not necessarily all related to each other who are living in one household And I think the bigger part of the questionnaire is how do you keep that kind of Peaceful atmosphere with so many different types of people when sometimes panel lot even with biological people all related to you It's hard to keep any peace at all Subhanallah And I think what I'll end on since that you know, I said the earlier part of references This really has to do with learning the thick of the rules right the actual rules Related to the nuance of your particular family if you are in a blended family or hope to one day be You're considering that for yourself is to definitely seek out Your teacher, you know the thick teacher of your community the the person who can answer those nuance questions for you as one important place Secondly to learn for yourself too because this comes down to our own far as I knowledge about you know It really comes down to understanding lineage and understanding who's related to who and who is a mahram to who Which is really important because then it comes into the rules of do you cover in front of the person do not Is this person considered like your brother sister or not? Can I marry them? Can my children marry these people and so on and so forth So it's actually pretty important rules here and they're all taught in the science of fiqh or Islamic law So I hope inshallah you'll if it's inspired you to take some of these classes They are offered as we were saying find the opening inshallah in the place to to learn them For yourself to seek out a teacher who can answer the question for your nuance Learn for yourself and take some of the question some of the fiqh classes yourself inshallah if you haven't already and thirdly if you are in a blended family or part of it or have Those extended to you that are part of that Do seek out the kind of support and help and this is my plug up with the plug in again Of kind of getting that therapy and support and help when needed because this is not an easy situation We said the prophet's household salallahu alayhi wa sallam was the most peaceful and happy household of the entire region They had the prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam Right the one who the perfect of all creation who taught us how to be Have the kind of adab and with the kind of wisdom and treatment of each other that today you would call interpersonal relations If we can learn that prophetic model from the sunnah of the prophets of the law All of us would do better And until that's the case we all need some help MashaAllah and if you are not able to figure this out on your own This is where the quran tells us ask the people of knowledge if you do not know That could come in the form of our teachers Our counselors, but potentially also those who've professionally studied Marriage and family counseling that can be in the form of professional therapist or a Muslim Hopefully drawing from the sunnah as well. So that's my plug and Maristan is in the corner in shah So seek out that kind of support and help in abadak allahu alayhi wa sallam Just like we did get a number of questions about just big questions about like, you know The baby's female and urinates on you things like that. There's a lot of big questions Again, I would just reiterate and say take take a good class. It'll take you don't walk you through All of those scenarios and then you'll feel confident when you're worshiping alas MashaAllah. I think that's one of the best things about Taking time to study the basics, especially tahada because it's everyday stuff Is that you just worship with confidence and then you don't have that In the background wondering am I doing this right? It's just clarity. Alhamdulillah Um Before I ask the speakers to give us ways to contact them. We have two more questions I used to wear hijab. I don't anymore due to past trauma. I've been contemplating wearing it again But I have dealt with the past sexual assaults and other trauma It's difficult to reconcile the trauma with my dean and hijab Things within the dean can be triggering while I try while I try to work past it Your advice subhanAllah This is something I always say to myself and we all have to do this May Allah make us always keys for khayr and not keys for the opposite. Obviously, I mean I think Allah is that this person The trauma came from a religious person Or quote-unquote practicing person Allah knows and this is where the trauma is. This is very difficult situation There's no answer will be given in a one minute for this We need to talk this person needs definitely counseling professional counseling To get over the trauma and of course rania is way more Professional than me and knowledgeable in this case, but you need to have counseling to get over the trauma itself first Yes, the trauma isn't related to to religion, but also that you have the trauma in there So this needs to be taken care of and then the second thing is The hijab related to that and we need to dig into it. Why is that? But if I want to just give a general answer, it's probably not going to be enough for that person, but for everybody This is what I will say always when you have a hard time forgiving someone Which we all have I always remind myself of this how many times I have disobeyed Allah How many majors since I have committed major. I'm not talking about minor my soul And everybody say the same question But he still feed me And he still give me a roof And he's still waiting for me to say astaghfirullah And he still wants me to go to jannah Why I can't do it if you think this way It will the the road for forgiveness will be much easier And there is a dua in the Quran actually which happened as a Sayyidina Umar used it later on in his khilafah Allah don't put in our hearts Any ill-feeling grudges hate to any of the believers Anytime you look at someone and that's someone she or he have hurted you. Allah knows what they did Say that dua It works wonder Because who is going to clear your heart? It's only Allah subhanata That person definitely needs way more than what I just said may Allah subhanata make a lot of dua to everybody And you make dua for yourself that Allah subhanata heal you healing is is not easy Subhanallah unless you've really connected with Allah subhanata You're really at that level where you don't see anything but you see Allah subhanata may Allah make it easy for the heart So I just It's in surat al-hashr. So it's a half of a It's for the naja women But he may call on us Rabbana La tajal Feeqaloobina Ghillan Lilladina Amano Rabbana inna Karawaf Or Rahim yallah don't put in our hearts ill-feeling Ghill is is hatred with anger Both Lilladina Amano toward the believers. So that tells you a believer can hurt you You can lead to a Hatred in your heart And then you say Rabbana inna Karawaf or Rahim You are all merciful And so I want him to forgive me then I need to do it with other people. It's in I will check the number. I'll give it to you I'm sorry I attend Dua is in the middle of the verse. It's not at the beginning of the verse So we're Actually trying and dealing with the case where it's it's not from a Muslim person at all So there's a different there's there's two points in the quran or Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala talks about hijab One of it in surat al-noor where it's talking about modesty and in surat al-hazab It actually talks about identity and I think it's important to distinguish the two because if they're like I'm just gonna Actually, Daniel Mugahed did research about this the the spikes in islamophobia are actually during presidential elections It's not actually related to to terrorist attacks or anything like this because it is more about the rhetoric And my my sister at the time when the election was going on back in 2015 2016. She lived in Kansas. She has four kids The answer to her I think is different from an answer to me. I don't have any kids This is my job. I live on a college campus Like you you do have to use some judgment if the idea is fear And if that is the case because you do have you do have responsibility to protect your own life like this is Part of our sharia, but even within that because I feel like there's a fear because hijab affects our identity Make sure that if like like you can tie it backwards you can wear a cap You can do so many different things because ultimately at the end of the day I need to face Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and say I did my best And because this affects our identity may Allah protect us a lot of the times I see someone that would we take off their hijab and feel like that was what was holding them And then it feels like everything kind of just let go So how do I then maintain things and collect them because modesty in and of itself is one of is a part of our faith And it sometimes is embodied in hijab, but it's embodied in so many different other ways as well And I think that's important to just to know that Um, I have another it's past my bedtime guys. I'm sorry No, this was the other thing It really really frustrates me in the Muslim community when women are told you wear hijab So you don't attract the men. This is our act of worship. How they make it about them Like I just I don't Hijab is our active worship to remember we're more important spiritually than we are physically Your intention and it is important Because people in society tell us this is based on your value. We're like, no, no, I'm more valuable because Allah said I'm valuable And this is our active worship. So your intention in it is important the there's a There's a lot of victim blaming that really makes me mad The anytime there is these like these unfortunate incidents like what was she wearing? Who freaking cares? She's not the one that perpetrated a crime really makes me mad when people try to associate those two things We really have to work hard to disassociate those two things because they're idiots online that are seeing these things And is we have to make sure that we are actually correcting those narratives And that we do actually have healthy relationships with our bodies and healthy relationships with our hijab and we feel spiritually uplifted wearing our hijab And when someone is struggling with their Muslim identity That we have grace with them of like tell me what's going on with you spiritually I remember I had a student that came to me and she said I haven't prayed in three months Do I take off my hijab? I feel like a hypocrite And I was like really I think you should start praying. I don't think you should take off your hijab They're two separate acts of worship. You don't know what brings you back to Allah And can you imagine someone be like well if you didn't pray, look you might as well not pray honest. That doesn't make sense You do as much as you can on Allah The hadith of Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam says Just really fill as many other gaps as you can get as close as you can None of us are making it to jannah because they did it all Nobody We make it to jannah because Allah is merciful Including the prophets like really can anyone worship like him? He said Except that Allah envelops me in his mercy Subhanallah, you know, nobody's deserving. Allah is generous Sorry, I know I went on a rant, but I just May Allah protect us all Yes We're gonna just do a tell us how you can how you can be contacted. So just how can we contact you after today? On the stanford website that might my emails on there. I'm so sorry Are you on social media? So the easiest way to contact me is instagram or facebook, although as The media said who's on facebook anymore? No, I'm kidding. I'm still there, but I'm much more active on instagram And then my email events dot hosai my first name at gmail.com. It's always open as well I'm notoriously difficult to contact I really don't do social media if you send me a message on facebook I'll never read it Because it goes into that other inbox, you know, like if you're not friends with someone Everyone's like what the heck is facebook? I don't do instagram or tiktok or any of that stuff So if you really want to get in contact with me send me an email It's my first name dot my last name at gmail.com. Make sure you spell fosainan mohammed the way I spell fosainan mohammed Otherwise, I don't know who it's going to So it's f u s e i at a dot m o h a m a d at gmail.com Okay, if you spell either of those wrong Allah Insha'Allah Insha'Allah you can get hold of me through the different organizations that I'm part of so whether it's madistan or whether through the rahmah foundation Or just come see me on a friday night insha'Allah once we start our holoca's back Next month insha'Allah to Allah Also, like the others that have the social media accounts that I was very much dragged into There are there are messages that are checked not often by myself, but are checked there That you can send to insha'Allah. We'll try to get back to you, but no But just know that it is a team of people that are getting back to those So everything's kept confidential, but you are able to reach there I know some people have asked about trying to find emails I'm notoriously bad with emails But if you do send through the dms the direct messages or send through the organizations that then forward Hopefully you'll be able to reach me with enough, but it's much better to just find me in person I look forward to seeing you all on friday nights in shul You kids send me a message on at the Miriam Amir T. H. E. M. E. R. Y. A. M. I. M. I. R. That's on instagram Or tiktok But more importantly, you can also simply connect with my app It's a That's a Q car qr code here anyone who hasn't downloaded it can simply take a screenshot And you can download it right now. So go ahead and do that insha'Allah. Let me know if you want to have one of these Take them to your communities take them to your local halal shops Anywhere you'd like It's free Insha'Allah next year. It's going to be interactive where you can recite with the qariahs insha'Allah Can I also say that I spent like my entire Ramadan listening to the qariah app like it was literally So beautiful to recite along with other women who are reciting It reminded me so much of my days spent in syria with women Who are hafaad of the quran and hafiadah of the quran and women who are leading in prayer like that was our That was that was our reality all the time And I was not I was telling myself that many of them I didn't realize how many women have never actually Experienced that because they haven't met women who have memorized the quran who lead prayer with women That is and or just even like qiam and ladies we do them with the rahma foundation Hopefully all of you have enjoyed them But also here right in this very room over here We've spent so many nights all night long in qiam all with women reciters, but what do you do when you're home alone? I'm today not so please do download that I think it's so worth your time insha'Allah Yeah, okay. So how are you? You can find me. I'm sure you can You can reach me through email. It's dr. Haifa at jennahinstitute.org You can find me on instagram. It's Torah sheikh Haifa unis. That's you will find there. You can send me a message I'll do my best to answer. I I don't promise it's going to be right away So please forgive me if you call me good luck if you text me another good luck Right um, but may Allah make it easy. I mean you all have to know that we have so many things to do Right um, go and visit our website jennahinstitute.com