 ويعلم ما في البذ والبحر وانه أعلم كل شيء that is in dry land وكل شيء that is in the depths of the ocean وما تسقط من ورقة إلا يعلمها A leaf doesn't move on a tree except that he is aware of it ولا حبت في البلومات الأرض And a grain of wheat doesn't move in the darkness of the night except that he knows about it ولا رطب ولا يابس إلا في كتاب مبين Nothing is wet, nothing is dry except that it is recorded in a clear book He is خالق كل شيء, he is the creator of everything And he is على كل شيء قدير He has power over all possible things And after praising that individual where There is not a single person that can ever match his worth In character or in beauty to ever walk on earth I envy every rock and tree And every grain of sand That embraced his noble feet Or that kissed his blessed hand As the great Imam البصير رحمه الله تعالى He says in his famous poem The قصيدة البردة He says He says were you to mention Just merely mention The marvels and the greatness Of the messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم You'd find that just by the mere mentioning of them It would bring dead bones back to life So imagine mentioning the Rasool صلى الله عليه وسلم And what effect that would have on our hearts He is the beloved of Allah And he is our beloved Sayyiduna ونبينا وحبيبنا محمد الرسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم وعلى آله وصحبي وسلم الحمد لله It's a great honor to be here Once again Just again As normal routine Just came from the airport Hence my slight delay But الحمد لله It's great to see so many worshippers come Despite you know Whether it's rainy or snowing I'm aware that this particular state It's not known for the rain الحمد لله The rain is a mercy And when it's torrential like this We ask Allah سبحانه وتعالى To protect us from any sort of difficulty That comes with it But at the same time It's always a mercy And the believer always looks at things With a positive outlet The believer should always think That there is always a khayr in everything يعني عجب اللي كلي عجب اللي أمر المؤمن It's such as the affair of the believer That every single thing that he sees It's greatness There's always some greatness in it الحمد لله I actually was thinking I obviously had a flight to catch And I was just thinking What do I speak about And سبحان الله As the خطيب As mentioned generally before When we are living in a society Like this It's a global village Then the خطيب Tends to be aware of the issues That are happening around the world now Because all of the issues are pretty much the same As I mentioned Probably in the last خطب that I did A couple of months ago I said that generally What would happen is the خطيب The person who's delivering the جمع He would be from the local area And he would be aware of every single thing That is happening in the local area And then he would give a خطب On the basis of what's happening in the area But now because we're living In a day and age of social media And everybody knows what the issues are Because the issues are now like universal So where I'm from in the UK The issues are the same You're going to find people And by the way From the time of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم Up until now The issues have always Pretty much been the same There's always going to be A battle of goodness and evil And that's the way it is But they can come in different forms And the greatest And the best of goodness Is attaching yourself To the رسول صلى الله عليه وسلم Attaching yourself To the Sunnah of the رسول صلى الله عليه وسلم So whatever difficulty You find yourself in Whatever obstacle You find yourself in Wherever you are in the world You know that the answer Will be in the Sunnah Of the رسول صلى الله عليه وسلم Or the principles Or the principles of the Deen That have come down From centuries 1400 years of tradition That we are proud To be a part of That's where the answers come As Allah سبحانه وتعالى Says أطيع الله و أطيع الرسول و أقولوا الأمر منكم فإن تنازعتم في شيء فردوه إلى الله و رسوله That you obey Allah Abay the رسول And obey those who are in leadership amongst you And of course The علامة have discussed What this actually means But at the very least On a micro level We can say the علامة The scholars that are around us Whatever they say Or whatever they tell us Because they have a foresight And of course those who are close To Allah سبحانه وتعالى The men of Allah They have a foresight They can tell you Look in this day and age We are having these sort of issues But everybody is aware Right And فإن تنازعتم في شيء If you dispute regarding something فردوه إلى الله و رسوله Go back to Allah And go back to the Rasool صلى الله عليه وسلم For us go back to the Quran And go back to the Sunnah of the Rasool صلى الله عليه وسلم The ayah that I recited Actually so a couple of people smiling It's almost like an ayah That people don't necessarily like To discuss But everything in the Quran Is relevant It's pertinent And it's The Quran is timeless Every single lesson in the Quran Is timeless Wherever you find yourself In whatever day and age You find yourself Every single ayah of the Quran Can be pertinent to you And on the basis of العبرة العموم اللف Like it's a principle That you find that Even on the generic wording Or the meaning You can find so many lessons From the Quran الكريم One of the biggest issues That we find now Is this whole This crisis of gender Identity crisis almost Not necessarily an identity crisis But in particular a gender crisis You know you find people Who are saying now That there's more than two genders And سبحان الله The Quran is very clear Whoever من عميل الصالح من ذكرين And there's only two things You're either a male Or you're a female There's no such thing as This whole non-binary thing But see That's one issue And that's obviously an issue That needs to be spoken about In probably lectures And different And things like that What I wanted to Particularly focus on today In the short time that I have Is this whole idea Of masculinity And what masculinity actually is And it's probably a topic That's already been spoken about But very You know Something that I've been looking into Because you know this whole The red pill movement And you know people are like What is a man And people actually assume That a man is someone who Looks down on women Or speaks against women Or you know And that's not actually What a man is As I said before If you ever have a dispute Regarding anything You go back to Allah And His Rasool صلى الله عليه وسلم The real man And the greatest of men Is our Rasool صلى الله عليه وسلم And the guidance of him And his guidance Come from the Quran And Karim directly And when I looked at The word of Rijal itself Which is the plural of Rijal Which means men in the Quran It comes 27 times In various different forms And subhan Allah Sometimes you back to think Like what are people Assuming that men are Like men are Those people who are You know macho men Or those that go to the gym And lift I don't know how many pounds And you think that's a real man But what is Allah who Subhanه وتعالى Says a man is And interestingly With the way in society We're living in now People are unfortunately Men anymore And you could say The same thing with women Women are not women anymore And the reason is because We've moved away From the guidance of The Quran and Karim So what is Allah who Subhanه وتعالى Say about men What does Allah say Allah says for example One of the ayat of the Quran And I'll move on to the Ayat that are reciting The Khutba What does Allah say about Rijal He says And this is a part Of a longer verse In one of the earlier Surahs That were revealed In the Quran That the men are those Who love to purify Purify themselves And this purification This tahara Is not It doesn't mean like You know I have Like 30 showers a day And I'm a real man now And it doesn't work like that This tahara Is more so The inner purification And interestingly You'll find That in so many circles Now all around the world Like I deliver courses Online for example And this is And that was It really shocked me And rather didn't shock me But it's something That it's a common theme You know whenever There's a class Or there's a course Or there's something That you know like The ulama come And they say You should attend A particular course Or a gathering Or something along those lines Or you know When I'm delivering Online courses For example Why is it that most Of the people That sign up are females That's just something That I've noticed It's just It's an incorrect observation But I'm only going to go Based upon what I know Right? And what I've seen in my life Over the last Two or three years When we're teaching And when you find These courses And you find like For example There'll be a gathering tomorrow Right? And I know There will be a gathering tomorrow Because you know Our honorable Shaykh Samir is here So there'll be a gathering And there's going to be A reading of The Hikm of ابن عطا إلا But you'll probably Find that mostly It's women that turn up And the reason is Because either For many reasons Either Or women don't get The opportunity So whenever They do find an opportunity They'll take it With both hands Right? But that's Not my concern right now My concern is Why is it that You don't You don't find Men turning up To these things Because men have this Intrinsically Built ego Inside of them And they think That Oh, we don't Need to learn Oh, we don't Need to study We don't need To develop ourselves So everybody here Whenever you Find an opportunity To improve yourself Then you should Go and take That opportunity With both hands Because Because Because Because Because Because Because Men are those Who love to purify Their inner They love to Increase themselves And improve In themselves And you find Many men Sitting at home And they say I don't need to do anything I already أحدهم لا يفعلوا ذلك هذه الأن لكن الموضوع هو أنه ماذا تفعلون في حيث أن تتجربك كأسر؟ أعلم أن أخينا يقول أنه لماذا يتحدث عن أسرح؟ ربما أنه في مرة أخرى لكن هذه الأسرحة يتحدث عن هذه الأشياء يقول أنه إذا أنت تتعلم عن أسرح، تتعلم عن الإنسان وإذا أنت تتعلم عن أسرح، تتعلم عن أسرح لكن الموضوع here is that كم من of you are always and I speak to the men here directly and maybe women who obviously are responsible for men as in like their children etc. كم من of you men do you find or how many times do you find yourself thinking I need to improve in XYZ area and by the way just praying Salah giving zakat and fasting is not enough right عند الله it's enough because these are your obligations that you have to do but then you may find like people who on the outer they're manifesting all of these things and they pray their Salah they give extra charity and they come to the masjid every single day but they go home and they will abuse their wives for example what's the reason for that and why is that and that's why men can't even be trusted anymore because we can get very clearly as a man right this is the why because they don't love to purify they don't love to increase and improve themselves and this is something for all of you to think about at this moment in time how many what do you do in the week to improve yourself as a person say the عمر رضي الله عنه ورضاه he said and this is also mentioned in in a hadith different a hadith now reached by the prophet صلى الله عليه وعاله وعاله وصحبه وسلم that a man or an individual who has the same day as the previous day he's in loss that every single day you should be striving to improve because this is the guidance of the Quran الكريم they are diseases of the heart that everybody suffers from myself included right يعني الرية showing off ostentation kibir arrogance vanity jealousy envy these things and if you read the hadith about these things that everybody struggles with but that's not the point the point is that what are you doing to work on these things and now this applies to women as well what are you doing to work on these things what are you doing to what are you doing to improve yourself when it comes to these things the one who loves to improve himself is the real man according to الله سبحانه و تعالى for example kibir kibir is a beautiful example right a beautiful and ironically is that the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم has said that the one who even has an atom's worth of kibir of arrogance will not enter jannah that's a very scary thing now what does kibir actually mean what does arrogance actually mean that when somebody tells you that you have to improve right you deny it listen you should work on yourself in these aspects oh no no bro not me man you know I'm okay man every single week you're receiving nasiha from an imam you know you should do this or you should do that even when it comes to the smallest of things like you should pray five times a day right and the issue is that the real person who is beloved to Allah is the one who is truthful in fact in the hierarchy of who is the most favored يعني أولئك مع الذين أنعم الله عليهم من النبيين والصديقين والشهداء والصالحين this is a hierarchy that Allah سبحانه و تعالى gives and it's a direct of the ayah that we recite all the time عليهم those whom Allah سبحانه و تعالى are favored the siddiqun are greater than the shuhada and the salihun now siddiqun according to the Mufassirun refers to the companions of the prophets but why how did that person become a siddiqu this is the issue being truthful doesn't necessarily mean not lying with the tongue being truthful means being truthful to yourself يعني الرجال يحبون أن يتطهر that I know that I I have things to work on I know that I have deficiencies and being truthful to yourself means that I know that I have to take action in order to work on these deficiencies that's a true siddiqun because somebody can turn around and claim that I've never lied in my life I've never actually uttered a lie in my life but that doesn't make you a siddiqun because a siddiqun is the one who doesn't lie of course with his tongue which is obviously something that you're not supposed to do anyway but it's a person who doesn't lie to himself who's true with himself and the biggest issue that we find is people aren't even true to themselves and that's where keeper can creep in this arrogance this level of arrogance can creep in because when people tell you that you need to improve or you need to do X, Y, Z يعني when Imam comes every single week and he says you should do X, Y, Z and you're thinking and he just goes into one ear and comes out the other يعني it's one of those things and from the South Asian if you speak Urdu it goes into one ear comes out the other but the one who loves to purify himself is the real man and that's the guidance that Allah سبحانه وتعالى gives and many many many other verses that Allah سبحانه وتعالى speaks about what the real man is and by the way women are also responsible because women and the cycle is absolutely phenomenal the way Allah سبحانه وتعالى has created this cycle women are supposed to obey and serve their husbands but the cycle is incredible because once a woman has a child and the child is a boy or a girl or whatever then the child who is a man serves his mother and it's a full cycle that's the way it works but what are you doing to improve yourself what are you doing to incite another man to improve himself and that's something for you to all think about and that's the purpose of a Jumu'a that's the purpose and we come here and we receive reminders because the reminder is constantly beneficial for the believer تنفعوا يعني يدلوا على الاستمرار yes constantly beneficial for the believer that maybe you've heard these things before we'll be saying you're saying same old masculinity it's a thing now everybody speaking about it but it's going to be beneficial if you take heed and that's why whenever you sit in a Majlis or you sit with the علام or you sit in a Masjid and you're listening to some نصيحة you should come with an empty vessel our teachers would say if you come with a vessel which is full like I know more اني مري تو عمرتني هو جي ايه what's he going to tell me yes you know I'm this old now I'm 60, 70 years old I'm not obviously you know pointing out the elderly only yeah but even if you're 25 and I've got a degree yes I've got a degree I don't need to improve what's this Imam going to tell me or what's this person going to tell me I mean that's what Qibir is and that's something that you know we should really really evaluate and reflect on سيدنا إمام الغزالي رحمه الله تعالى was one of the greatest علامة to ever have lived actually from the Seljuk Empire he says that he mentioned this in his إحياء he says a moment of reflection for a believer is greater than a thousand voluntary prayers something to think about I guess I haven't got the time to go into the verse that I actually mentioned but perhaps another time we pray that الله سبحانه وتعالى accepts this from us and Allah سبحانه وتعالى allows us to really reflect and think about how we can improve so we can be those people who love to purify ourselves and then those people who become the محسينون and those people who are Allah سبحانه وتعالى love بارك الله لنا ولكم في القرآن العظيم وانفعنا وإياكم بالآيات والذكر الحكيم إنه تعالى جواد قديم ملك بر روف الرحيم الحمد لله الحمد لله رب العالم والصلاة والسلام على أشرف الأنبياء وأمام المرسلين وعلى آله وأصحاب جمعين لما بعد فعود بالله من الشيطان الرجيم بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم إن الله وملائكته يصلون على النبي يا أيها الذين آمنوا وصلوا عليه وسلم تسلمة اللهم صلوا وسلم وزد وبارك على سيدنا محمد انطب القلوب ودوائها وعافية الأبدان وشفائها ونور الأبصار رضيائها وعلى آله وصحبي وسلم خصوصا على أفضل البشر بعد الأنبياء سيدنا ومولانا أمير المؤمنين وإمام المسلمين أبي بكر الصديق رضي الله تعالعن وعلى عدل الأصحاب المزي المنبر والمحراب الموافق رأيه بالوحي والكتاب سيدنا وعلى إمام المشارق والمغارب أسد الله الغالب سيدنا ومولانا أمير المؤمنين وإمام المسلمين علي يبن أبي طالب انكرم الله تعالى وجه الكريم وعلى ابني الكريم السعيدين الشهيدين أبي محمد شيء يعتمد اشهر محمد أرون أصلا بأخطاد فقط عالات معه I was in the car وعالت وكانت وقال وكانت بسيطة علي ليستضع يجبني أن تصمأ يمكننا تجاهها لكن ليستضع مفتاك أو تبوه او something like that ومخفض كما يقول هل يجب انحشر في السعيد كنب ماهذا هل هناك من سبه فأنا قلت لا, لا يوجد شيء معي هنا بحيث يوجد شيء معك وقال ماذا يعني؟ لأن الناس يساعدون بالأسفل وهذا هو شيء ما أريد أن أتركك أعلم أن الناس الآن لا يستطيع أن يذهبون بشكل جيد أو يتحدث بشكل جيد ولكن الأسفل لأننا نجد أسفل الأسفل وهذا يوجد كل شخص إذا كنت أبوك، كنت أخوك، كنت أخوك، أو كتبك أو كتبك أو أبوك، أو أبوك فأخوك أسفل الأسفل تساعدون بشكل جيد أنهم يتحدثون بشكل جيد لأن الأسفل تجد أسفل لأنه يعتقد أني كان مجرد لأنني لا أترك أحد أنا أجد أسفل في ذلك لأنه يجب أن أترك ويقوم بإمكاني أن أترك السؤال is هل يمكنك أن تستطيع في أسفل؟ فقط أزل للعالية. كن يفعل يفعلون أنما ذهبون هنا. ربما، ماذا؟ فكيف يساعدون الناس لأسفأتهم لأي أتفapo؟ لكن تفسيرا، هل يمكنك أن تقعد في السحر ومن ذلك يمكنك to reflect؟ وبعد أن تتصفوا عن الله سبحانه وتعالى ومن ذلك يمكنك أن تتصفوا عن رسول الله عليه وعاله وصحبه وسلم ولمنظام أن الله سبحانه وتعالى تفعلت لك وكان فيه جدًا أن يجب أن تقوم بعمل رائعك حتى when we're praying Salah, obviously we're not silent and we shouldn't even pray Salah silently yes, you know that people who pray الله أكبر and they keep their mouths completely shut and they don't even move their lips according to the علامة, the prayer is not even accepted طيب, point being is that rather not accepted, valid acceptance is up to Allah SWT but the point of reflection here before I leave you is that how often do you sit in silence? can you sit in silence? and if you can't, you really need to start whether you're commuting to work whether you're driving, it's something that you need to think about so we pray that Allah SWT allows us to reflect and be people of reflection