 This seduction took me six months. Now keep in mind, it's okay to have a seduction that lasts six months as long as that is not the only seduction that is happening. Yeah, we call these works in progress. Or ones that are on a low simmer, they're good. They test you, you work on your long term game and your slow simmer game, that's awesome. But don't invest everything into that one person. So during that six months, I was otherwise engaged. Don't worry. But this was the one I was working most on. And the story of how I eventually got her into bed is something that I'm gonna publish basically as a book because it's fucking epic. But there was one point where I eventually managed to get her out at night time and into a bar which she'd never been into. This girl was actually hunted down essentially as a trophy bride. Some Russian guy who had Australian citizenship had gone to Russia to find the perfect virgin. Yeah, he'd gone over and hunted this girl down and found out that she was a virgin from a good family and all this stuff and he went to the parents and said, I can give you a daughter a better life in Australia. Can they have a hand in marriage? Yes. And her mother went and spoke to her and said, you know, this man can give you a better life in blah, blah. And she says, mother, I don't love this man but if it makes you happy, I will do it. Serious. And so they got married. Yeah, and she comes to Australia. This guy turns out to be abusive, part of mafia. She, like so she sleeps with this one guy, hates it, leaves him, goes into protective custody and goes and is living out in a women's shelter out somewhere in the suburbs and that's why she's at CentLink. Fuck. All because like me as a bungling, like, you know, broke musician went, oh, I like Russian girls. Hey, I'm in way over my head here, but hello. Yeah. Was not prepared, not ready for this kind of woman but did it anyway. And I remember, so she came out at night to see my band which was a highly unfashionable funk band. She didn't like funk. And she liked accordion playing. And then she swept into this Brunswick pub, this smoky, dirty pub with about 20 people in the audience and like my friends were all hairy and like covered in leather and stuff. She didn't like any of this. If you know what a hot Russian girl looks like, she's dressed like a futuristic hooker. Yeah, so she has like white boots up to here and high heels and leopard print skirt and like panda fur wrap. Yes, panda means you are rich if you can kill panda. And you know, she's dressed like this and strides in and everyone's looks at me like, she's way too good for you and weird boots. And she walks up to me and she looks me up and down and I'm wearing the same thing I always wear. And she just looks at my shoes and she says, you wear same shoes in club as on street. And I'm like, yeah, that's my style. To her, I was nothing in terms of an expression of an attractive or successful male. Yeah, I was not what she was looking for. And yet begrudgingly, she let me seduce her over time. And it was simply because even though I had no value, really, you know, in the societal strata of things, even though I was like in well over my head, I didn't really know how to communicate at this level with this type of woman. I was showing up and I was okay with who I was. Yeah, I had $20 Feyu Kung Fu shoes because they were comfortable and they made me ready for action. Yeah, and I had a shitty band and all this stuff. And I was obviously unemployed. She knew this from the very beginning. And yet this woman eventually became my lover. That question I asked at the beginning, has anyone got any answers? Well, at some point it's gonna be now because it'll be when that happened, which would have been now at that time, wouldn't it? Yeah, any other answers? When can you change your behavior and make a breakthrough? Everyone ready to make that decision right now? You know that breakthrough? Yeah, I mean, no. That's a good thing about asking a question is you get to be the adjudicator on what the correct answer is. Like, no, they're like, no, that's the correct answer. I'm on stage, I know. Well, I'll give you my opinion. Okay, let's take an abusive husband. He slaps his wife around when he gets angry and gets drunk. And then the next day he wakes up and he goes, oh, shit, what have I done? And he goes and tells his wife, I'm sorry, baby. You know, I'll love you and I'll never do that again. Is he gonna do it again? Right, of course he is. Because post the event, you cannot change a behavior. Prior to an event, you can prepare for but you can't change your behavior. That's what you guys are doing over this weekend. You are preparing for events. Yeah, you are sourcing information and mindsets and inspiration, all this stuff. That is, giving you some preparation is clearing up some blind spots, is giving you some tools in preparation for the events. The only time you can really shift a behavior and have a breakthrough is at the moment when the old behavior reaches its peak. The only time that guy can stop being abusive to his wife is at that moment when he's going like this. Yeah, because that's when this reactive behavior has exhibited itself and is about to follow its course and reach its resolution. So if you're looking at how do I get over a fear of approaching women, well, think about me back in Centrelink in 2006.