 Y'all give me one second Here Situated Hopefully you can hear me if you can hear me. Let me know just say yes. I can hear you Okay, awesome awesome Tony Gaskins here Wanted to pop in and chat with you tonight Do a Q&A. I'm gonna try to do these on Sunday nights at 9 p.m. If I can hopefully Won't always be able to so, you know, please bear with me Sometimes out of town for my son's schedule or something like that. So You know, it can get a little tricky. I want to say thank you to my new members So, yes, I will be saving the live every time I do it It automatically archives. I believe and I would have to manually delete it for it to be done Now on these lives. I want to be able to allow my members of the blessed tribe to Submit questions any question that you all have and if there are no questions I'll kind of always have like a little topic But if you notice Beside everyone's name who's in the comments, you see like the little symbol that is that means they're a member and so To join to be a member then you would have to Go to my main page and by the subscribe button You should see a join button or look in the description of My last video and you'll see the link in there where you can join and the purpose of the membership is really so I can Have a group of people who are like-minded seeking growth and I can receive questions from you all things that you would like me to address topics You want me to touch on so that's the purpose of of the live y'all give me one second. Let me Do something really quick. I hold on one second Okay Y'all forgive me forgive me for that. I had to Turn off my turn off put my phone on do not disturb. Can you hear me at my live? Let me know say yes, Tony you back Hey, I'm still working out this technology. I am not a youtuber So I'm still trying to figure thing everything out if you have any questions From a blessed tribe member, please put your questions in there. What's on your heart? What you thinking about what have you been dealing with any situations in your current relationship or? Situation ship that you're going through My question is why? Does a man get upset with me for refusing his sexual advances who made it clear that he does not want me? and now I really I Understand where you coming from with that and It's kind of crazy as you read the question It's like wow like this guy's really getting upset After he made it clear that he doesn't want you to be honest with you The number one thing that men hate is rejection Men hate rejection and a lot of times people don't realize it But that's honestly why a lot of women end up dealing with the same man for so long It's because men hate rejection So if we get fired from our job We can't like just go back and get our job if we get cut from a team We can't go and beg to be back on the team the one type of rejection that men feel We have some say so in is when we're rejected by a woman And that is why a lot of you end up dealing with the same guy on and off for years or dealing with a guy For so long. It's because he doesn't want to accept the rejection So that's that's the only reason why he's mad to be honest with you What do you think about the no-contact method? Does it work and should I even want it to work or just move on? The breakup was his doing. I'll tell you this When a man breaks up with you It's over like yes He can come back, but you shouldn't want it to come back because One thing about a man is that we as men will never break up with you if we feel You are The one for us. So when a man breaks up with you, it's really like the nail in the coffin like And see when a woman breaks up with a man It's a little different because it's you having to cut him off because he's not where he needs to be He's not doing what he needs to do So you break up with him to send him a message Sometimes you're saying it's over, but sometimes you're saying look I'm breaking up with you because you need to learn you got to grow to be with me But when a man cuts the woman off if it's not because of a lack of growth So like if you didn't cheat on him if you weren't cursing him out If it's not because of something like that And he just broke up with you And it wasn't for Anything that you did wrong per se then it's him telling you you are not my wife You're not the woman for me. And in that case you got to keep it moving Hey impris, thank you so much for for joining as a member glad to have you Octavia Tatiana Erica candy I really appreciate all of y'all being members means a lot really does and now you see even with this membership I still it's still a lot of questions in here So that's why I had to create a little membership even though it's only a dollar 99 a month I know hopefully that don't send anybody accounting a negative, but Even with that I realized I had to Have a smaller concentrated group to where I can get questions How to love a cold-hearted man? To be honest with you Tatiana is not worth it It's not worth loving a cold-hearted man If what you have to do is you got to be able to tell him like listen, you're cold-hearted And you need to heal you need to grow you need some time But I can't really deal with you on this level Let me see what this is at the top where it says Okay, it's y'all Writing okay But you can't deal with a cold-hearted man because A man already a man with a good heart a man who is not cold-hearted Is still dangerous just because of our Desires that we have that we don't know how to control Until we grow It's dangerous dealing with a man who was Raised in a two-parent home with a good heart to deal with a man with a cold heart You really setting yourself up to be abused in every sense of the word And possibly even kill if he's truly cold-hearted. So me being a man. I don't I don't condone that I don't recommend that I would not even I wouldn't even entertain it Because he because he's gonna have to warm that heart up and when you leave him is what may make him Realize he needs to warm his heart up Do men get bored in relationships slash marriage Alexis. Thank you for being a member. That's a great question That question too real that question is too real Whoo, that's that question too real y'all is y'all are not ready for that type of question That's the question that that's the type of question you ask But you really don't know want to know the answer to that But yes very much so very much. So men are I don't know how to put this but men are really Most men are really just a child who Has aged I'll be honest with you. I'll be honest with you It just most men are children who have aged meaning My five-year-old He's my he's a boy He will sit down on my phone to play a game With me and he want to change the game every five minutes And i'm like my goodness. Can we play one game for 10 20 minutes? He want to change the game every five minutes He wants to download a new game every five minutes and i'm like wow And and and it's not 80d or 80 ad or nothing like that. It's literally just That's how men are as adults too My wife she used to always tell me I hate watching tv with you because you just flip from channel to channel to channel You're watching the terrible stuff too And so the thing about it is a man in order to Be grounded you have to make sure that you're dealing with a man Tiarra thank you so much Samina thank you for joining the blessed tribe You have to be with a man who understands his Purpose a man who has a has faith Who has a belief system and the reason why I say that is he has to have something outside of the relationship That keeps him engaged and active and pursuing something like my wife probably Gets tired of me talking about whatever project i'm working on But if I didn't have my purpose me serving you right now Then I would be bored in my relationship because of the nature of a man's mind It truthfully has nothing to do with the woman like it's not about the woman fun tessa Thank you so much for that. Um, I don't know if you just signed up for the membership I see it said $1.99. Thank you so much for joining me and being a blessing But it honestly comes down to that man So that's why when you're building with a man and you're talking to this man It needs to be something where this man share. Thank you for joining It's not shakwita or shakwisha. No, that's that was that was a name. God bless you But I forgive me if I said it wrong This man has to have something That he is connected to and if he doesn't if he doesn't have a purpose If he doesn't have a vision if he doesn't have a plan you getting cheated on Just point blank period you getting cheated on and if it's not with women then physically Then it's with men or it's with pornography or it's with gambling. It's with Drugs weed alcohol. It's with something just because of the makeup And until he matures and he comes into his purpose now look It's a lot of questions piled in here. I'm trying to Somebody say I emailed your question the email questions Now I won't say your name on the email questions, but what I will do It on those email questions. I wish I could figure out how to pause this Is I will read the question without saying your name or anything like that and I will answer it in a video And I'll try to do want make a question like that my topic at least one video of the week Why wouldn't x ignore you when the issue was them in the first place, but in private Want to talk Well, see nicole Your ex ignoring you because they've told somebody That They are not with you and don't want you But want to talk to you in private because truthfully they want to go from being Your boyfriend or girlfriend to being friends with benefits If it's a man and you're a woman they say see nicole So I don't know if a man a woman oh nicole. That's a woman. So yeah, he wants to really He wants to keep you a secret and he wants to downgrade you from girlfriend to friends with benefits So in that situation you got to ignore him and keep it moving My question is why do some men feel they can cancel seeing you one day and then contact you the next day like nothing happened A man does not feel that way. He's honestly just trying. He's he's gambling He's taking a gamble to see if you're going to allow him To contact you like nothing happened the next day Now when he writes you if you say listen, you know What happened yesterday and if it's not like a near-death type thing Like something super super serious, then you need to be able to let him know like i'm not with that That's the first and that's going to be the last time that that happens I I got guys that I work with who they get behind on their work and they're always late and every time You know somebody died in their family, you know every time somebody died the cat died the dog died They cousin and died nine times So some men will start to realize how how you will cut them off for stuff that is not real And every time they cancel it'll be because somebody has died or something like that But when you let him know that it's a no-go, then he's going to get right Carmel Cole, thank you so much for for your blessing. I really really appreciate that you don't you don't understand Hey, that's why i'm over here on this youtube just because the the audience is different, you know Y'all y'all appreciate you work with me and i'm not all that tech savvy I'm all up in this camera. This camera all in my face. I'm I'm camera shy and this thing All in my face Oh lord, hey, I'm sorry. I can't see all of these questions On the Caleb curl video you mentioned healing from the past. How do you do this? Nicole to be honest with you what you're doing right now is a part of healing So to heal from your past you have to be able to identify What happened in your past? So you got to literally Write it out. It's almost like you going down through each incident and you jotting it down But what you have to do is you have to give it a label and what I mean by this I'm not talking about how everybody is using the word narcissist But I mean you got to be able to look at it and say, you know what that was not love that was I've learned that was self-hate I've learned that was insecurity I've learned that was a form of abuse and the way you do that let's all you thank you so much Let's all your black man bless you And the way you do that is you get new knowledge So everything that has happened to you in your life. It has been downloaded in your mind And you have been taught that that is what a relationship is That that is what a man is that this is how women should be And so you believe that and you live through that but when you Are trying to heal you're getting new knowledge impris brown say the self-love course Which I believe is free or one dollar on tony gaskins academy.com That's my name academy.com. I got a bunch of courses on there and Jasmine sims. Thank you so much. Bless you um, you can email support at tonygaskins.com if you want to do one-on-one coaching I am accepting clients right now only through december Uh, because january I got to make some shifts Uh, she's a quitter. Thank you so much. God bless you So when you get this new knowledge and you start to shift your mind because now everything Everything that you've learned when you hear something new you replace it So what happens is we look back and we see we see things in our life Misunderstood 88. Bless you. I really appreciate your love and support And we look back and we say you know what? This was What I accepted as love and I thought this relationship was love But really this was abuse because I never knew that a man Checking my phone every day or telling me what I can and can't wear Or taking my money and then giving me an allowance out of my money was abuse So you'll hear things and you'll learn things um queen I'ma say queen. I don't know if that's you know, I'ma just say queen smith It maybe I'll spell it different Quine, I don't I don't think it's quine now It gotta be queen. If not, that's that's the new spelling for queen now. That's what you got to go by I really appreciate you share Thank you. Share h you always there with me So understand this so what you if you sit down and you create a growth schedule And you just gotta really appreciate you and you you are learning daily and you say every sunday at 9 p.m I'm getting new knowledge every sunday at 9 p.m or every morning 20 minutes in the morning i'm reading And this new knowledge gonna continue to replace the old knowledge And knowledge is what like to say knowledge is power The reason why they say knowledge is power is because knowledge is actually knowledge produce confidence To me I really really really appreciate you. Thank you coach for the empowerment platform I appreciate you if I miss anybody y'all gotta forgive me. Sometimes it's flying. It's showing the messages all At once really really fast. I wish it was a way I could pause it so I could see the next Question trying to see y'all gotta forgive my Okay, I see Running into an issue with men thinking they are the prize. How can we as women Show our worth without giving off thirsty energy Hmm, you know what today men think they're the prize because of the amount of single women versus the amount of single men So the thing about it is this this is the difference between being wife material And being girlfriend material. There's a difference in this So what happens is in this you have to realize that You need to set standards for yourself So what I mean by this specifically is you got to say look when I'm dating a man I'm not washing his dirty drawers. I'm not going over his house to cook him a meal I'm not cleaning up his house. You know doing his laundry. I'm not loaning him money Katina Johnson. Thank you so much. God bless you. I'm not sleeping with him I'm not doing anything oral with him in place of physical I'm not doing any of that. And so you set these standards and you say, listen, we could talk on the phone We could FaceTime Deborah, um, that's that's a different currency where you are you in london Or somewhere. God bless you. Deborah Goodie So when you set these standards, he now knows and he looks and he says, you know what This woman right here is a is a prize because this woman right here is different This woman has standards. The last woman I was with loan me 500 In the first two weeks of knowing me the last woman I was with slept with me on the first date on the third day the third night In the first two weeks the last woman was spending the night at my house in the first week The last woman was washing my clothes in the first month the last so he has all of these things So he has these somebody said a great thing. He said Empress Members copy your comments so you can post them later. Hey, thank you for that. Just in case it You know gets beyond me And so when you set these standards, that's when a man realizes But what happens is there there are most women are becoming desperate And so because a lot of women are becoming desperate Women are now competing For a man and in this competition It's this woman want to cook this one. We want to clean this one. We want to sleep with him This one want to do this so it's it's given a man It's given a man his this assumption to where he's like Okay, I could do what I want to do, you know, because these women desperate these women thirsty But when he sees that you are not desperate And that you're not thirsty meaning that you have standards things that you will and won't do In in the dating phase now he sets you apart now you're different from other women What a man goes after finding out I'm abstinent for five years Family doesn't get my point Well, those are the men. Well, no, let me change that I'll be honest with you Glam rocks make up. Thank you so much for being a member. I'll be honest with you now It's a little hard to understand. It's a little hard to understand because people teach this differently But I'm a man who really was a player. I really was out there What you have to understand about men is that you can't tell a man Who does not really know you who is not in love with you You can't tell him that there's no prize For running the race What I mean by that is most men nine out of ten men unless he's abstaining From intercourse before marriage himself Unless he's like that like what I showed Caleb on the videos earlier the guy interviewed Caleb Unless he's like that already He's coming to sleep with you and this could be a good man when I say a good man this could be A man that a woman would label as good Right a good man does not mean a perfect man And so when you tell a man that you are abstinent So I say slim see I can't focus on what I'm saying because you talking to me while I'm talking She said focus on what you're saying and and let us welcome the newcomer so you can get through these questions for you Hey, I'm not welcome in the newcomers. I'm saying thank you for the people who donating Because they got a donate button on here. I didn't know about it. So it's showing me like, um Ralph Ralph Sean Ralph Sean Your daddy named Ralph Ralph Sean it looked like Ralph Sean if your dad is named Ralph And I hope he is named Ralph because I'll be saying it's like Georgina and all of that God bless his soul He wanted his daughter to have his name if that's the case now, but I thank you for what you did Hey, not y'all forgive me. I can't see all the message one of the members got on to me because I'm trying to say Thank you. So y'all welcome the new people for me, please And um, and if I miss you a god bless you if you Did hit the little donate button or whatever it is. I youtube is is showing me something But I thank y'all so much now Oh, okay, I remember what I was saying Back to what I was saying you cannot show a man that you don't know Because what you have to realize is that he does not Jay, I appreciate you. He does not love you. He does not know you So if he is getting to know you and you tell him that Basically when you say I'm asking until marriage He hasn't had time to fall for you yet So his heart is not in it. He has no attachment. He's like, okay. I'm out of here, man I ain't with that So a lot of times a man wants something that he doesn't even know he wants Because he doesn't even know he wants you So my wife and I we were intimate, you know before marriage So I can't but I honestly what happened was is she made me wait longer than I had ever waited So for me, I counted it the same Because I was a one night dude, you know, I was the type of dude that 99% of the women I talked to It was in the first night It was going down and I don't know if it was my talk game. I don't know it was my eight pack I don't know what it was or they just was college and just crazy I don't know what it was But when I met my wife and I had to really work and I had to really wait I was like, whoa, it's different. So in the process of working for her I fell in love with her And so that's why when even when we became intimate When we became intimate I still was all in because I had to work for her what's happening with a lot of women is You're telling a man your entire business and your entire life story All your past and everything Before he even really knows you before he has feelings for you So if he tries to come on to you, that's why I say you should only shannon god bless you shannon In my mastermind and y'all subscribe to shannon. You see her face if you see her face shannon owns Y'all do me a favor and subscribe to shannon page. She's working on her video She's trying to get it down and figure this youtube thing out Subscribing is free y'all help out. She's in my mastermind group. She's a life coach. She's an author I think she's released a book But she's doing a thing she she reminds me of myself because she kind of you know, she got an accent of her own Um miss myself. I really appreciate you Uh guys don't approach me but women who are less attractive than me get attention and relationships Could I get a vice from a male perspective? Tension and relating. Oh, that's a good question. That's a good question Hey, so what I was saying about the other one is take your time and don't tell a man that you app That you waiting until marriage because this is why I say this because truthfully you don't know Truthfully, you don't know you you cannot make that promise you you say that but truthfully If if if that wine hit you right If if the right song come on with the right drink with the right time with the right day of the month With the right cologne with the you just don't know You say it So then what happens is if you've told him that and then he ends up and falls in there Now you've lost all his respect So instead of saying instead of telling him you're abstaining to marriage you can just turn him down And say no i'm not ready for that and then as soon if he keeps Trying Then the fifth sixth time he's going to get it That I have to work for this woman's heart For her To be comfortable with me or to consider lying down with me And then he may not even try anymore because he may start to really like you and fall for you And then if he tries you even later and 10 months in and he still can't get it now he gets a new message. Okay I gotta make it exclusive with this woman to be able to lie down with her He make he gets exclusive Then he can't get it. So he said oh I gotta post this woman on my social media to be able to be with her Then he said then he was like, okay uh Y'all forgive him hit my little noise So then he said I gotta post on my social media then he said, oh, I gotta take her to meet my mom Oh, I gotta go meet her dad and let him know who I am So every time he tries to be with you intimately and he gets turned down He gets a message to himself that says I need to go to the next level I gotta go to the next level and I gotta do more and and then eventually it's gonna come to I gotta get engaged to this woman Because I really love her on the why I keep trying so I might as well get engaged to Because I feel like she's the one So then he gets engaged then he tries you and you like I'm not ready He's like, when are you gonna be ready? What do you mean? You're not ready. We we engage what you mean? You're not ready And you like I'm just not ready. I'll know when I'm ready Some people gonna tell a grown boy is gonna tell you Oh, that's games or that's mind games or you playing mind games you leading the man on The grown boys who are youtubers? That's what they're gonna tell you because they still playing the game and they won't they want you to know when they slide in your DMs They want to know if you abstain until marriage so that they know not to waste any time with you But see if a man does not know what your plan is Then he has to inquire within he has to get to know you And that's where a lot of women mess up Natasha. God bless you That's where a lot of women mess up is you go and You tell a man your whole you read him your whole script So if you read him your whole script, he gonna play denser Washington And he gonna play the mess out that role because you just read him the whole script But if he does not know if you don't give him the whole layout the whole blueprint Now he has to work. He has to get to know you. He got to spend time with you Can something still be attached to you If only men who want to sleep with you approach you I've done a lot to change my life. What can I do to stop it? I'm abstinent and waiting for marriage Mona, that's a good question. That is a good question Um, I'll tell you this I will tell you this Mona. Um every man who Now one thing about these q and a's these q and a's is is exposing The real from the faith. I want you all to understand that because with these videos You don't know how long a person sat there and wrote down notes and and shot the video 10 times with this q and a You get to really see if somebody in this space because God called them and they supposed to be here Or or if they trying to the pimp the system online Uh, vj. I really appreciate you. I think a little young lady's name was mona who asked that question or Let me see I'll forget. Oh, yeah mona what you have to realize is every single man that approaches you again unless he is Absinent he wants to sleep with you. He's coming to you to sleep with you So that's that's So don't look at it like oh It's my loose pass That i'm still giving off those vibes. It's it's not that That's just that's just men. That's what men want to do and so what what has to happen is And it's going to be hard to hear but Y'all you have to have enough Going on with you Enough around you going on in your life meaning that your goals your dreams What you're trying to accomplish your ambition You have to be working on you so much that you are to the place to where when he looks at you Talene I really appreciate you Miss myself It's a million people in front of you and you actually not a member So i'm answering the members questions first if you click on where you see subscribe You'll see join and that's what I told my members I'll do and y'all see how the the woman came in here and said you didn't answer my question You see these 500 questions in here By goodness So what you have to realize is you have to realize that it's going to take honestly You having a routine you getting out the house And you every week you're going to a coffee shop. You're going to a bookstore You're going to the gym and you have something in place Luxa little god bless you bless you and you have something in place to where you are looking and you're able to say look I got a schedule. I got a routine. I got goals. I got dreams when a man comes into your life He sees that he feels that and he realizes that so where he had you in this box of look. I just want to Sleep with you now. He says whoa this woman different this woman special. It's something about this woman So at that point now you understand that you may have to go through nine men approaching you For that tenth to be the one So don't just think it's something on you now for some women it's something on you and you cannot it just You just got that oozing out your pores and you can't help it You can't help it. You can't change it. It's just it's in you not on you. You heard that before Some women It's just in them and it just it's just radiating from I don't know Where it come from. I don't know if you're a descendant of Jezebel Which could be you could be a descendant of Jezebel and I ain't saying it in a bad way But it just it could be your grandma had a spirit on her but for some women it's just something oozing from you and It's it's something that you can't change but you have to work on the inner and as long as you know It's okay to be attractive. It's okay to be sexy or all of this net As long as you know, you're not lying down on your back to win a man To please a man to try to trick a man get a man Then you don't have nothing else to worry about, you know, you can't you can't be mad at anything on top of it Can you talk about the three month rule? On the three month rule what I want you to understand with that is that In my first book what daddy never told his little girl I talk about the three month rule and I think I mentioned that And make it work as well But what I'm what I'm saying with the three month rule is I wrote this in 2007 Steve Harvey called it the 90 day rule in 2009 I repeat I wrote this in 2007 it came out in steve's book in 2009 as the 90 day rule but essentially was The same rule very similar But what I meant by it is not that on day 91 You spread ego and you sleeping with a man because he made it 91 days What I meant by it is that a man who is serious A man who is no I didn't see it Tasha Posted again y'all got to keep posting because if y'all following the chat You see that chat long gone. So y'all just post your question again a man who was serious about you He will take three months To get to know you So what I mean is he'll go three months without even asking to sleep with you He'll be talking to you about you and your hopes and your dreams and your goals He'll be concerned with you and he won't be trying to lay down with you And at that three month mark, that's when you know, okay, this guy's serious That does not mean you spread ego on day 91 But what that means is now you can upgrade him to the next class Because now, you know, okay, I could take him a little serious because he's still here We're still talking every single day Tony it takes Steve the court a Just if I had Steve kind of money, I would try to get me a little check off that What it was is Steve had a ghost writer So the ghost writer could have read my book and and put it in there and just gave him the concept and told him Hey, it's the concept What you say about this So it could have not even been him Let me try to a I'm trying to be fair on these here questions Um All right, y'all post your question post your question on here again, I'm doing all this trolling How do you move on from a 19 year marriage recently divorced when he did not put up a fight now he has moved in With a woman and her kids Kila bath and body. Thank you so much. Or is that yeah, I think it's Kila or kia kia kia um To be honest with you it's going to take you longer But you move on the same way you will move on from a the one year marriage or from a one year relationship You put one foot in front of the other you you're in the right place right now You're in the right place you're learning you're growing you're getting a new message You're hearing new things what you're going to have to do is what I call watch game film You're gonna have to watch game film. So you look back over those 19 years You may need about four to 12 sessions of coaching and you go through those 19 years And you talk through that relationship and you break down the relationship and you look and you say, okay Was this love was this abuse wherever the red flags you identify all that you put all the lessons You put all the lessons from the relationship Now you take that new knowledge and you move forward with that new knowledge And so and once you do that and you continue to work Then that's how you will be able to heal from that, but it's gonna take some time. Hey CJ Johnson Hey brother, you might be the first man I see as a as a member on here Now CJ might be in here this month and gone gone next month But CJ that man, I really appreciate you my brother. I thank you the first man I've seen I thank you a man. I'm trying I don't want to get too close to this camera because like I say I'm camera shy And I'm trying not to get too close. Hey Tony, bro I wanted to know why is it hard for women to accept honesty And and straightforward man A lot of the times it seems like they think you're playing games And they are not used to a man For a man to have standards CJ. That's a good question and Just like with men Women are conditioned Women are conditioned to based on what they've gone through based on what they've experienced So you meet a hundred jokers. You think 101 is a is a joker too. And so what what happens is is you have to understand and the one thing I always tell men and Somebody explained to miss myself that when you give a donation on there, that's not paying for no question I don't even know what that button on there. That's you too. That's you saying look to the person talking. Hey, I thank you for what you're doing I can't I don't even see your question I don't even know what your question is you have to post your question again Because it's a it's a thousand questions that came in there It's like what look up That's what CJ talking about CJ talking about you the man trying to say you don't appreciate a good man Now understanding this beyond God appreciate you what I tell Men is you have to be prepared to heal a woman's heart before you can have a woman's heart and what I mean by that is Almost every woman I've met has been sexually abused Or physically abused financially abused verbally abused emotionally abused A lot of men have gone through those things but in the life of myself I've never experienced no type of abuse So what type of abuse have you experienced CJ? And so and then when we look at our abuse in a lot of cases as a man We have an experience even half of what a woman has gone through So when you're dealing with a woman, you have to understand that even like with the lady who who's going off on me in here She's snapping on me by her question I that could be dealing with her ex-boyfriend mad at her ex-man And taking it out on me But that's what you have to realize that Most women have experienced so much nonsense so much craziness That they don't even know how to process a good guy. I remember talking to my own sister She's like Tony. I can't appreciate a good man. I don't know how to appreciate a good man She's like I start a fight with a good man because I'm so used to Aryan Let me find this lady question I'm scrolling looking for your question To the to the young lady Okay, now let's see her question now Guys don't approach me, but women who are less attractive than me get attention and relationships Could I get advice from a male perspective? Okay. I remember that question Uh-huh, and I read it because it came in a green Now I'll tell you this right here If a man does not approach you Honestly, and this is hard to hear But if a man does not approach you it's because you are not approachable And what I mean by that does not necessarily mean that's a bad thing But what I mean is that you have to realize that for some men if you dress a certain way If you dress a certain way and you you Carry yourself a certain way and you look really classy. It may honestly make that man feel like That you are Intimidating that's not your fault What what happens is when a man sees you he looks at you and he says, you know He he looks at your heels. He looks at your outfit. He looks at your nails He looks at everything and then he makes a judgment call and says look if i'm gonna be Her husband can I keep her? In Gucci and gold can I keep her as looking as nice as she does and if he says no Then he keeps it moving and so sometimes it has nothing to do with you and something that you're doing wrong It's just that to the average man the men that you're passing You are not approachable to them because they might not be on that level And so that's what you have to realize is that You know, it's going to be A situation to where a man has to be where he needs to be He has to be who And and one thing that's something that you can't really Try to concern yourself with because The man for you Has your number what I mean by this the man for you He has your code To unlock the safe of your heart meaning that if you're a confident woman if you're a successful woman If you're a driven woman if you're an ambitious woman the man for you has everything in him to Be with that type of woman to approach that type of woman and it depends on how he sees himself And so that's what you have to realize is It's just going to take a different type of man But some women are in a league of their own to the point that you attract a unique or a rare man You don't attract a common everyday man So that's why I say you got to have a schedule to where you're really getting out of the house So that you're not just going to work and going home You have to have enough things if you're really looking to get married You got to have enough things on your schedule so that meaning On monday. I'm in bible study. You know on wednesday. I'm in the yoga. I'm in class cycling class or Writing class on friday. I'm going to the lounge list to the live music on saturday from 10 a.m. To 2 p.m I'm in starbrook. So bars and nova working on my dream on sunday. I'm in church So you have to be in these places to where You are being seen by more men because the man that you are going to attract is Uh Just more rare I saw I saw my number one supporter now share Share h I have seen her it could because she had the little avatar But I've seen her in my comments more than I've ever seen anybody and share I I I just dread the day I just do not look forward for the day that I offend share Because because the more you talk you go and venture to offend somebody. I just see somebody and he'll talk about i'm mean I ain't mean i'm just real You know, I ain't mean to nobody if I was mean I wouldn't be on here I wouldn't be on here talking for an hour if I was mean But share you say octavia post your question again i'm rooting for you So if share rooting for you I got to find octavia Because share listen I haven't seen her so many times and and women be bringing a boyfriend pain and taking it out on me And share she'll get right with them. I was like is that my mama My sister with a fake account I mean she'll Rip them a new one Well, you said octavia, but I ain't see octavia I'm looking for octavia question I told my wife I was gonna be on here 30 minutes and see that's why I have to pray I mean that's why I'd be asked her for forgiveness because I get on here and be serving y'all and I can't go past an hour now Man, I just saw a brother I saw another brother on here I think it said coach rod man. I appreciate your brother if you want to take the life coaching certification Um use the coupon code. Thank you Just one word. Thank you you click on it Then you hit have a coupon enter. Thank you it'll take 50 off So hey, don't tell nobody else And it's on tonigasinsacademy.com Why did he say he would drink alcohol to get over the relationship after I threatened to leave? Did he care? Since he just talking One thing about women y'all have been created in wire to take men seriously They be honest with you and I tell my wife this all the time. Don't take me serious Don't take me serious a hundred percent of the time you you could take a man serious You could take a man serious 50 percent of the time because a lot of times men just talking To be honest with you Octavia, I see you when do you what do you do? About a husband that doesn't have the respect to come home You go to the divorce court and I know a lot of christian folks don't say that and you know Against divorce, but I trust God and believe God and I know he working with me and through me And when a man And although if a man does not have the respect to come home Then that already lets you know he's cheating on you And you might not want to waste any more money to get a private investigator, but he's cheating on you And so if a man cheating on you Then guess what? It's time to go Maria. Thank you. Maria is in my mastermind group I really appreciate you Jackie She said this may not be I mean I gotta do it. I gotta try something I can't I can't shrink my you know my following But this actually is is small because this is only open to members for to post so That's just like a hundred people, but it's 800 people watching if this was open to for every all 800 then this Thing will really be crazy. So that's why I created the bless tribe just so I could try to shrink it down some So I could get some focused questions How did you heal move on from a narcissist who is a habitual liar? Cheater and user you're gonna have to do therapy. You're gonna have to go to therapy because a narcissist is a clinical diagnosis So life coaches youtube talking heads Pastors ain't none of us really qualified to speak on narcissists What are your thoughts on dating someone who is agnostic? As a woman who's been brought up as a Christian Are you a Christian? You say you've been brought up as a Christian. Are you a Christian? Because it's a lot of it's a lot of atheists in the church It's a lot of agnostics in the church meaning going to church out of tradition But not really keeping God's word and serving God. So if you're a Christian Then no, you should not be with an agnostic I don't know what an agnostic is, but it sounds like don't believe in God or or that might be atheist I don't know what an agnostic is, but I know it ain't Christian. And so That you will be unequally. Yo Tony do you think that after the third date I should take turns dating while After that, I don't understand your question take turns dating. I don't understand Baptist and Adventist is a Little different than a Muslim and Christian or Christian with an agnostic or atheist Are you talking so I know y'all answering each other question. Thank you The blessed tribe Tony we can only see the question of a member But you can see all I can only see questions of a member too The non-member the only way I saw a non-member is if they donated if they gave if they hit the money button And they put and they donated something whether whether it was a dollar 99 one young lady Lulu, I think gave 999 I could see their question if they donated if they're a non-member other than that. I only could see the members Do you believe good-looking people? Only date good-looking people Alina that's a great question. That is a great question My god, that is a great question And I'm I'll probably close on that question 55 minutes baby babe What you doing? What you doing? Huh? That's how you looking at me I said what you doing? What's the Oh, you you gave up on the tree Oh, like hanging up ornaments You need my help To do what? Oh, oh, okay. You want me to get the ladder? Okay, so you want me to wrap it on up? Huh? You sure hey, you know what you'll bring my wedding ring off the table Oh, you got on your finger. All right. Just keep just keep I had my hands is peeling and so I had my hands peeling and so I had to do this hand thing and something like this What my wife had been doing so I put my ring on the table But I don't like not having a ring on And looking crazy, but we were decorating the tree But she let me come serve Because she had to do some some other stuff on the tree But I'm gonna answer the young lady question about the looks do good-looking people only date good-looking people Destiny you right. I blush when I talk to my wife. I love that one of them And I ain't trying to leave uh, no nika if I'm saying your name, right? But let me let me explain this to you. This this is this hard to explain Because beauty is in the eye of the beholder So one thing that I've realized is that The thought of thinking you look good depends on how you were raised And what you went through growing up So as I was growing up when I got to seventh grade I had puberty So I had acne on my face on all across my forehead all in on my face and and so what what happened was is I thought I was unattractive and I was like man. I'm ugly and so I went and I was quiet That's what made me an introvert and very very quiet Then as I got older my face started to clear up and I would be talking to some people one-on-one I'll be talking to a woman and she would be like You know, why are you so shy? Why are you so shy? And I was like, I'm just shy face And why are you shy face? I used to have acne. Well, you don't have acne like that no more I say but still it shaped you, you know in your young years. It made me very quiet and very humble and even though My face cleared up. I'm still the same way quiet and all of that and so What what happened is I was dating Women that I thought Were not that attractive I was like, she looked decent. She looked okay, but maybe She looked okay So, you know, I could take advantage of in a sense of like I could use her I could cheat. I could do what I want to do. That was my real thought as a grown boy And so that's what's happening today. So when you say Do good-looking people I talk to a lot of women clients my clients who are women Who they will say on the call, you know, I know I look good I know I'm very attractive and then I will see a picture of them and I'll be like um so, um so, uh, so you say you was attractive and And um, and and you are right about that now you are attractive and you have, uh I'm married. So I'm gonna try to explain the way We'll see the thing about your look is and I'm trying to find the words because I'm like, wow This woman says she know she attractive And I'm like Lord help me if I'm missing this but I'm missing this I would rather her say I feel like I look decent because that's what I say. I say I I say I know that I don't look good, but I know I don't look like a 67 Mack truck. So I say that And I think that's the approach we should all take is humility not saying well, I know I look good because Beauty's in the eye to be holder So everybody see people differently. So I say that to say that You know when you see a couple I know When I see a couple being a relationship coach when I see a guy who falls inside of What women say is handsome with a woman Who does not fall inside of what men say is handsome when I look closer into that I see a broke man With a woman who has a good job on average Or the other way around when a woman looks what men say looks good with a man who Who does not look good to women? I see A man with money And a woman who wanted that money And so what happens is we see this like Rick Ross for example When I was a matchmaker The description of Rick Ross never came across my desk Lil Wayne the description of Lil Wayne never came across my desk Jay Z The description of Jay Z never came across my desk So when I see men who look like this With a woman who looks like the type of woman that a lot of men say they want It's because I see the money It's the money across the board and so That Is what has dispelled the idea that good-looking people are only with good-looking people Because money financial security position Okay, because Um I'm I'm trying to I ain't gonna say no names. I'm not gonna say any names, but as you looking around Um It was a pastor It's a it's an african-american pastor. Who's a mega pastor? He has a daughter Well the daughter husband divorced his wife to be with her And she probably 10 or 15 years younger than him But what she doesn't understand Is that it's not her booty It's not her beauty It's the fact that she is the daughter of a mega pastor and her new husband Wants the throne Because me as a man Can look at her and see what men see And that's what's happening today That's what's happening today Is people are getting with people for their money Or for their position in life And that's what's happening. I see me and my wife when we got together We Were completely broke We were completely broke So I was 21 She was 19 So When I saw her I said Uh I I walk in paths and I said she cute I said to myself she's cute And I'm sure when she saw me she probably was like He's short But he okay. He he's good. He he decent looking Because she's 5 8 i'm 5 10 So technically i'm short because i'm short some women who 5 foot call me short i'm 5 10 and so We was on the same level And then we grew together And so people would say um Oh, a tone is easy for you to say this and that it isn't that because your wife is beautiful My wife is beautiful But when I got with her She didn't wear makeup She had a hair pull in a ponytail. She was naturally beautiful And and she didn't have the money that she has access to today So she was a good looking woman And I said to myself I want a woman Who look good Waking up in the morning and so That's why I chose my wife because I got to see her without makeup Without a hair without a hairstyle. Yeah, my wife could hear me But she didn't heard this story a million times and she know I keep it real She know that i'm not just going to be like Oh, I fell over thinking you would just drop that gorgeous because she knows she wasn't even trying to be Because she didn't wear makeup. She was very very uh chill she humble but now Now that she's grown fully into herself because see a lot of men marrying uh Coca-Cola me I married wine My life my wife like wine. You hear me? She get fine With finer and finer with time and whereas a lot of men woman Because they went for the woman that was the glitz and glam The woman who had the lashes. She had the the the the Fake booty the fake breath. She had the the the fake this the fake that already she had all this stuff already trying to catch a man He went for her Because of what she could show him and then sometimes those women may go the other way my women Not my women my woman she Was growing into herself. She was still learning men She she knew how to catch a man because she wasn't looking for a man She was biomedical science major. She was focused on her grade. She was focused on her future So that's why it was totally different. And so now That now she's full grown woman I'm able to look at her and say wow Wow This woman here absolutely gorgeous at 21. I didn't know how to see that or understand that or appreciate fully Beauty because you 21 You don't even know what really looked good at 21 So today I say that to say On these here relationships you seeing today even not just celebrity now In your normal city in your city, you're going to see a woman who is pretty with a man who is looks challenge and But that man on a construction company that do 300 000 a year And that woman on her third marriage And so you like Okay, that's okay. I see that's how you got him I see even in the city in my normal city I see the club promoters and the djs and the people who famous in your city Will have somebody That is not in a looks category Disclosed invoke for future reference if he didn't say the name it shouldn't be mentioned. We are on social public site Thank you jc law I didn't say names for a reason now It's more situation than that now because we got more than one african-american a mega pastor But me I just got to keep it real my dad always told me toner don't speak names don't speak names And so I try not to speak name But at the same time I try to keep it real because I got to address these kind of his situations Um, Bianca, you don't even know if it's your pastor And for one the pastor that i'm talking about I know him personally. I talked to his wife personally The pastor i'm talking about Bianca. So let me get you together real quick I talked to his wife personally and I asked her personally because this is what I do And I said did y'all have issues sister? Did you cheat on him? She said no tony? I I didn't cheat on him. Nothing was going wrong. She said it was a normal Marriage the normal disagreements the normal situation. He met this lady You know a year ago at this conference a year later. He come telling me he's leaving me And they have three kids together So at that point right there Bianca you you obviously didn't go to the church because I had spoke at the church three times And I knew the man. I stamped the man. I liked the man. I appreciate the man, but me being a man I know men I know men And I know that man and I know why he divorced his wife Because I know what's in stake So that's where I met with that and so for me at the end of the day I work for god I work in the kingdom and the bible tell us To go to one another and I went to him man to man And he didn't want to address it. He didn't want to talk about it because he know my clarity He know my vision He know that I know he know I know the game So after I asked him about it He never spoke to me again Because he already knew what it was if it was if it was legit. He would have said to me, okay Okay Yeah, tony this right here this right here this right here You know as a brother as christians, but He went on by his business Tony can you speak about singleness being a ministry? I believe this gets to the root of things when people struggle with accepting not being in a relationship or being approached Um singleness should be your ministry But the thing about it is you can't make it you can't be so attached to it That You are repelling your potential partners because You want to have a ministry so If you are in that season of singleness then be in that season But then when it's time to transition and god sends you your husband now your ministry transitions with that But don't be in a situation to where You get so attached and I remember a lady was telling me that Who was a virgin and she was like that became my identity it became my god and I began to worship My virginity to the point that when I got married I felt Like I had lost something I felt like I didn't have an identity I felt like I lost my worth because I was worshiping my virginity to where I didn't even want to be intimate with my husband I remember she told me that so you have to Make sure that if you make singleness your ministry that Once it is monetized You know and you earning from it as a coach as an author that you don't get attached to it and repel The love of your life because you want to continue getting too money Please address why a lot of our men think we have to prove that we deserve to be cared for protected loved and cherished It's just conditioning. It's just conditioning uh, jesse Sunday's at 9 p.m. I'm gonna go ahead and get ready to go um because you know It's it's been 73 minutes and I need to get on out here and help my wife finish up with this here tree I mean just hey, she's so amazing tell her thank you. She let me serve. She let me live my purpose and she loved decorating for christmas and I'm not as crazy about it as she is but um, I try to You know get in there and help and I had to take all the stuff out of the attic today Put the tree up and now she you know putting up some ornaments and stuff like that Vivica, I thank you so much to everybody who hit that uh donate button. I don't know how that works. I don't know how that even Come on here like that But I really thank you so much. I appreciate you for appreciating. I really appreciate those who appreciate and I just Make sure you hit the subscribe button if you if you're watching and you haven't The reason why i'm doing this for those of you who don't know been never heard of me The reason why i'm doing this is because I'm in a season of right in my wrongs. I've been doing this for 12 years This very thing that i'm doing right now I've been doing this for 12 years giving away the game being real I don't have a lot of male friends because I keep it 100 real and I tell the truth And guys who I've known guys who I deal with They know where I stand. They know how I treat my wife. They know i'm 100 faithful. They know I treat her like a queen They know what I stand for because I've been I've been a doll Up until the age of 21 when I met my wife and she left me after two months because I was trying to be Toxic with her and then we got back together six months later Happen stance. It was God's doing it was happenstance to us But I know it was ordained and then we got married 10 months later And I've been on that path ever since then 2007 so we're going into 2020 and I'm still here today I'm still here today. I'm still doing it um Relationship advice is not what? Pays all my bills That's not how I earn a living. It's a part of what I do But it's not the end all be all as far as money is concerned Because I have I have 11 businesses over 50 streams of income and I got to create. I'm a full-time entrepreneur That's why I say I thank y'all for the support But what I'm doing is my purpose not just about profit It's not about profit at all because I can't gauge it Whereas you go work on a job and you can get a check every every two weeks. I can't gauge that In what I do so I had to lean and trust on God to say look you called me to this You gave me the wisdom. You gave me the message. This is what I'm gonna do And I trust you to provide so I thank you all who support me and thank you for becoming members I know $1.99. It's it could be nagging You know at times with all the stuff that we have going on in our world I mean you got netflix and you got all these other subscriptions So I really thank you for supporting me and so For those of you who are members I post it in the community You could click on community and you can see the email address that I posted So if you have a question those questions are not Answered one-on-one every question I get I answer those questions Um, I thank you share. I might you might have to be my uh secretary on this her life Those questions I answer those questions on On a video So, but I don't say your name or anything like that because I just I don't have a time to answer one-on-one So understand that please understand that that I have to answer it For everybody so that one question if it's a hundred other people going through what you're going through I could reach a hundred people with that answer instead of just one because I just I don't have enough time So thank y'all. I'm trying to make sure I ain't missing anything. Um, I gotta forget. I gotta get my little stands Okay, I think I don't figure this thing out almost. Hey, god bless y'all. Thank y'all so much Let me figure out make sure this here gonna archive In case anybody want to Watch it back But this here may not aren't I don't know if it'll archive. I think it does but if it doesn't God bless you. We'll talk soon Well, Ulysses I often hit the button Then then Ulysses coming here My brother, I so appreciate you. I think this this yeah Ulysses mill third My lady doesn't give selfies to me. What does that mean? Ulysses, uh It sound like to me Well, that was young lady. She says send me a pic is annoying now. He say that's that's his lady now But I tell you my wife, she really don't send me selfies either Uh, you might not just not want to be on the on the on the phone You know What he ladies getting you together, Ulysses Glandon Ross said why you need a picture? Well, uh, Chrissy say it's still annoying. Okay. Okay. And see I always say I really don't answer questions about women because I don't understand women Now I heard Ayesha Curry say she stay sending Stealth Curry noobs You know, I don't know if that's insecurity or if that's love or she just Hear all the rumors about NBA players and trying to make sure her man ain't one Ain't gonna be doing that stuff on the road. That's not gonna keep him from doing it on the road, but you know Whatever it is. I don't know But um, uh-huh miss perfectly in person what you doing with these pictures Well, hopefully you got your answer Ulysses all about the Ulysses donated. He's not a member Ulysses joined as a member now. So these ladies could finna answer your question Brown sugar say come see it in person. I can't say to email for the questions but um Cash because it's people who not members on here watching this So what I'm saying is go to the community page and you'll see a post that's for members only Hey, god bless y'all. I got to go my wife's there working and and with the tree right outside my office And she working so I need to go on help her and try to make up and you know What is it 86 dollars y'all donated tonight? I'm gonna get an 86 dollar my wife Man she buys go to Sephora for her. Let me do this. I'm giving us 86 dollars for Sephora But you heard that They donated 86 dollars. I'm giving 86 dollars for Sephora Okay She said thank y'all so much. Hey god bless y'all. We'll talk we'll talk soon