 One story that I've shared here once or twice that's a pretty I guess you could say the most Personal story I've shared probably on the internet is when my best friend committed suicide about three years ago and I wanted to share it again because I want to highlight what I think is a really important lesson for all of us Because I feel like one of the things that led to my friend killing himself Was the fact that he had a hard time being vulnerable. He had a hard time admitting that he was really struggling in life and He was too caught up in his ego of wanting to look good of not wanting to say hey I'm a successful person, but now I'm struggling and I do think a major reason why he decided to kill himself Was because of the shame and the shame meaning he was so attached to his ego and couldn't admit that He had been a great great successful person But at the moment he was not and that shame on one level was one piece was too much to bear So in this video, I want to share what I think are some of the key lessons that are the most important for modern people for modern humans who have these Unprecedented rates of depression and anxiety Where we can't get out of our own minds at our own egos and focus on what we think is most important in life What's up guys Alex Hein author of the book master of the day So actually how my best friend that I met was through this mutual goal-setting group And the first link in the description is a link to this goal-setting worksheet That my buddy Clint and I had actually ended up putting together for us to reinvent our own lives and create something incredible Where it wasn't before so if you click that first link enter your email You'll get the free goal-setting worksheet and an email every three days. That's a beginner goal-setting course So I think the first lesson here is to do something that matters to you You know, especially now with this social media. This wasn't around when I was even 20 So you imagine my whole childhood not only had no internet until I was 12 or 13 There was no internet at all no computers and then suddenly we had the internet and I find that now the social media has really made it even more complicated and You know for me as a youtuber, I'm uploading this content But even I'm constantly comparing myself like oh this video got 3,000 views Well, if I got 300,000 I would have made a lot more money and trust me I could use that money So you get into this trap with yourself of even if things were going okay, or they were going well You could always find a way to do them better and that can become like either a healthy thing like I could do better But I did great or it become this pathological thing where it's like why am I not doing well like that? And so when I say do something meaningful to you Almost all the messages in life that we yet are from the outside Telling us to pay attention to the outside to look at that to do success because it looks good to date the hot girl To find the successful guy. These are all things you can demonstrate and show But you can't really show the inside and the inside is character or virtue or ethics These are things that they used to be really important throughout history But now in modern times you don't hear about character too much And I think because people are so focused on the external not only are we more depressed and more anxious We're less fulfilled, you know So if what you really want is to be an artist then freaking create art if you want to be an artist who's financially successful then create art and Track how much money you make and measure those things and don't give a shit about views or popularity or any of that stuff None of that will even matter now The second thing is that I want you to do what intrinsically speaks to you internally Because 20 years from now even if you become the next Steve Jobs the next Michelangelo the next Mozart No one will really care or think about you that much and I say that in the good way not in the oh What's the point then I say that because even Steve Jobs who was one of the richest most successful men in the world an innovator People don't really talk about him that much anymore He doesn't even been dead that long and Apple the company is still alive And so even the best Olympian is forgotten 10 years from now because there's a new Olympian and If that is not a reason to go after what you love to do what you want to follow your intuition No matter what weird path may bring you down like it brought me to China on a one-way plane ticket I never thought I would come back. I thought I would become a monk Stay there forever You have to follow those intuitions Because if you're doing it for your mom and for your dad for your friends to impress people to look good Even though you don't feel good That stuff doesn't last It can't last That's the physician who becomes a doctor because they want to make the world Impressed and make mommy and daddy proud and prove to their friends. Look who I am now That is then the alcoholic at age 45 divorced because they're internally they're internal inside That was empty But outside it looked great The world is filled with these kinds of people you don't see it in the short run and you sometimes will never see it But behind the scenes they're not doing well And the last thing is that when you stop chasing the admiration of the world you're free You're completely free Just think about the curse if you are a youtuber or a content creator on the internet and your mission Soul mission is to make money and have a business then you're just creating content. The world wants not that you want to create You're probably not creating anything new. You're probably not adding any value to the earth It probably doesn't matter if you live or die because you're creating the same content that everyone else is creating But if you're free from that Then you become an innovator and when you look at the inner you look at honestly the people of disproportionate success They are the innovators the artists. We remember we're doing things different The inventors we remember were creating new inventions the physicians the The war strategists these people were all doing different things Creating new things that had not been on earth Following their natural inclinations following their destiny and that is why they became so successful Renowned but more importantly Probably deeply fulfilled Driven by this love of some interest this great river of interest that they want to play in So I want to leave you with this We have this fear of death in life But death is the most important thing because it forces humans to live their lives wisely Because if you're giving an unlimited timeline You most often will not act and do the things that you've always wanted to do since you were young and If you do what you want free from what the world thinks you're totally free to follow your natural inclinations your loves your passions so every day internally you are full and It's often that same person who externally has all the success and all the things that we all want So I'm gonna leave you guys there for today And if you want to help figure out what it is that internally drives you and is your passion and your destiny Check out that goal-setting worksheet in the description Because it tells you how I reinvented my life and became more of the kind of person I always wanted to be both fulfilled and also more successful externally So you can check that out and of course you can check out my last videos there and there