 So I was standing next to some random guy in the urinals And I decided to conduct one of my routine MCTs You know, about manliness comparisons Shocked and discouraged Bias way of making myself feel manlier So I decided to go to a source with very little expertise on masculinity According to my ex-boyfriend I don't know how to access August 20th, 2000 I told my wife Oh yes, he did And if there's anything I've learned from accidentally offending my feminist friends It's that even women don't want to be reminded that they're women And passive-aggressively turn this conflict into a speech topic I'm not the only one struggling with masculinity According to Harvey Mansfield That's right Mansfield Harvard professor and author of the 2006 book, Manliness Masculinity means less and less as our society moves towards gender equality However, much like the goldfish I flushed when I was 10 Manliness is still alive Which women know Underworld and many men and other men except Your last laugh happened when I was 10 And thanks to slow social progress Psychological health problems and even increased risk of suicide So today, in order to examine this issue We will first suck it up And look at Manliness in America Next, we'll stop crying And look at the problems And finally, we'll grow a pair No solutions And me, like my grandfather's sex drive Is on the time It's like my grandmother used to always say You don't get any extra points for just flying there Oh, looking close, my grandfather's dead In McAlister, it is 2009 Look, man for apology The science of why the modern male is not the man he used to be Modern societies just show me the rules Traditionally filled by manly men Clearly, my grandmother's been doing just fine I'm just kidding, she's dead too In her article, The End of Men published in the Atlantic in August 2010 A award-winning journalist Hannah Rosen points out that with men accounting for three-fourths of the jobs lost during the economic recession Manliness just isn't enough to be competitive in a modern economy and men will have to adapt However, according to a January 2012 France by one of my friends Men are stupid and will never change Faster than an Italian Christian In November 2010 interviewed for Solon.com anthropologist Peter McAlister points out that whenever people feel insecure about the future such as during an economic recession or persuasive round they can't clean the images of family men like there's no tomorrow when in fact, scientists have proven that there is a tomorrow No, some will come We've got to know the situation a little bit I like to do what I do at the end of all my dates and spend a few minutes telling you what went wrong Problems will focus on today Politics, psychological health and homophobia First, a 2011 study published by the American Journal of Political Science tracked every single bill introduced in the Congress between 1981 and 2009 and found that the bills introduced by women were more popular had more social significance and were passable often but even so, women are still underrepresented in the American government including Hillary Clinton and Rick Santorum Have you even been forced to convince the public that they actually are men? Unfortunately, the words of anthropologist Peter McAlister in mind it makes sense that when the public gets worried about the economy they would resort to blocking to manly politicians because of the association between manliness and strong leadership Thus, much of the public ignores women after polls on election day even though women after polls is rich love it's just about daddy issues It's also about men's issues kind of like a male feminism feminism One of the biggest feminist issues today is the psychological health of men A study published in the 2005 issue of the Journal of Men Studies found that pressures caused by the male gender pool can lead to increased depression anxiety and family conflict and is probably why Candice would never smile She thought it was a stroke and his face may as well be stuck out there because our culture teaches men not to express emotion and in the fall 2010 issue of the International Journal of Men's Health it was clear that this aspect of the male gender pool can lead to increased risk of suicide and I thought suicide was like okay so I couldn't think of a tasteful suicide joke but maybe I'm just shooting myself in the foot in the head and if that joke didn't blow your mind I'm telling you to hear this one knock knock who's there? homophobia The male gender pool causes many men to reject anything that's seen as gay trying and sometimes creating homophobia and that this is the exact same type of indiscriminate rejection that I face whenever I try to make out with one of my straight friends It's not gonna be the only thing coming out tomorrow Homophobia to the mix makes this a factor in many of the gay teen suicides that have occurred and if the speech is starting to get depressing don't worry it gets better now that we know that there are a couple solutions a social one and a personal one first on a social level we shouldn't be trying to crush manliness like monster trucks at a rally we should be trying to transform it like Optimist Prime to do this we can use mass media technology to make rapid cultural changes for example in 2009 the inter-agency gender working group reported that a social advocacy group in Uganda launched a BMM campaign it was as swift as a coursing river with all the strength of a great person 2006 will come and reach 9 million people significantly more than the number of Americans that can even locate Uganda the number that they can save Uganda by liking our Facebook video found that these ads had significantly changed men's attitudes on manliness for the better which is great because I can now finally tell my creepy schizophrenic uncle that the media really is being used to control the mind well, not exactly but you know what? he deserves it he keeps making me clean the stains from the back of his van it's challenging on a personal level in her influential book gender troubles published in 1990 gender theorist Judith Boulder argues that gender isn't something we are it's something we regularly do I like to think of it this way a man isn't something I am it's something I'm extremely curious about we regularly deviate from the gender norm that we can bring the binary nature of gender in our society so the base solution is to go out there and do some good old vacuum gender vending and learn to express more emotion women learn to ignore them what they do if done regularly it can help to make the gender rule more fluid allowing men to be free from art and society without resorting to more masculinity but more importantly it'll get my coaches off my back for a gnoming meaning something about gender vending and isn't that what it's supposed to be for but it's just what it wants there are feelings about manliness next we've learned that it's okay to hide out the problems and finally we've pulled in some solutions so in hindsight maybe I shouldn't have gotten so upset over being called a tofi wife I should just be happy with however masculine or feminine I really am no matter what anyone has to say and it's probably also not very healthy for me to be comparing my manhood to the random strengths that you're in also well at least not with a wife