 y gallwch chi'n rhywbeth i'r cyfnodd. Roedd chi'n rhywbeth i'r cyfnodd yn rhywbethu. Yn oed yn ymryd i chi'n mynd i'w chyfodol. Yn oed yn ymryd i chi ei wneud o'i unig i'w cyffredinol yn y fwy fath. Ond mae'r pwysig yn yw, dwi'n fwy'n bod chi'n rhywbeth i'r cyfnodd, dwi'n cymryd i chi'n hyn oed y gallwn. They never cared when you were upset about something. They never cared when you felt betrayed. They never cared when you felt that they were being mean to you. They didn't try to fix it. They didn't try to co-ordinate with you. Instead, they blamed you for everything. They blamed you for judging them. They said you were selfish. sy'n ddweud o'r amlwg. Dyna sy'n ddweud o'r amlwg sy'n ddweud o'r cefnodd honnol yn ei ddeamol. Mae'r greu mewn gweld o'r amlwg ar ddweud o'r amlwg i fewn ddechrau mewn gweld. Fy datblygu'r mewn gweld. Mae'r amlwg wedi'u'i gweld. Dwi'n rwy'n ddweud o un o'r llun o'r hynodau'u gweld. Rydym yn gweithio. ddim olwch fod yn felly i'w ffrifu'r llythau a ddim yn ei ffordd i'r bwrdd. That is why from this point on, you need to realise that you're not going to get a healthy response from the Narcissist when you choose to express your emotions, and you also need to realize that you can not change them, you can not fix everything in life. You may want to be a good person. You may want to help people. Ond wedi bwyd yn fforbwydwyr, yn ffordd o'r trofhydd a chael y mynd i'r ddweud Ond rwy'n mynd i'ch cael ymddangos Rydych chi'n bwysig yng nghymru Rydych chi'n bwysig fel eich cyfeithi Rydych chi'n bwysig fel eich gafodd Rydych chi'n bwysig i ddefnydd i'r dysgu Dwi'n bwysig ychydigwn i'r syniadion i ddod, oherwydd rhai cael y gallu gweithioON Felly ni wpineg o'r gweithio yn fwy gyd. Felly ni wpineg o'r gweithio yn rheoli. Felly ni arno f molta gweithio'r dwrom i'r bleidio. Fi'n ei di wrthio bydd i fynd i'r cynhyrchu. Felly ni i'r lleisio sy'n morhefyd. Felly ni i'r lleisio sy'n morhefi. Felly mae'r lleisio ddim bydd arnos rhywbeth oes o ddweud i'r ddweud ac mae'n meddwl i'r lag o'r sefydlu ddim yn ddod oes oherwydd yr un oes ddwylliannol. Ond yna yn ysgr�fau bythau o'r slofiad o gael ei wysgol i ddweud olyg rhai mwyaf, ma' rhai ddweud ei wysgol hofnt iawn a'r holl ymlaen, ac yn enw yn ysgrifftio, dwi'n meddwl hyd i ddweud. Nid yw bod os ddwylliannol yn ei hefyd. Nid oes o ysgrifftio, There always has to be something wrong, because there's something wrong with them. They have these insatiable desires that can never be fulfilled. They can never be happy with anything, and you will fail by trying to make them happy. It will only destroy you in the end, which is why the best thing you can do in this situation is to give them your silence. Your silence can be a weapon against narcissistic abuse. It gives you control over your own life. It gives you control over yourself, because when you're around the narcissist and they're insulting you or putting you down, you have no power. They're taking all of your power away from you, because there is no power in constantly reacting to them. You become their slave. You become defensive. You get upset, because you're no longer in control of yourself. You're no longer yourself at all. You're their slave, and they're your master, because they know if they push your buttons, they're going to get a reaction out of you, which is exactly what they want. They want you to be their slave, and they want to be your master. But when you give them your silence, you take your power back. Your silence tells the narcissist that you're not joking. You're not messing around. You're not willing to tolerate their behaviour. It tells the narcissist that there can either be a healthy relationship or no relationship at all. It tells them that you're not going to put up with it, but when you remain around them, they take that as a form of consent, as though you agree with them, as though you think that what they're doing is acceptable. It's only when you walk away that they finally realise that you don't accept it, which is why when you remain around them, nothing ever changes, because they see your presence as a form of consent. If you weren't okay with it, you would leave. That's how they see it. But when you give them silence, it shows them that you no longer agree with what they're doing. You no longer accept it, and by doing that, you take your power back. You're no longer in reaction mode. You're no longer enmeshed with them. And their way of dealing with this is to talk about you behind your back. They will talk about you to other people, because in their minds it makes them feel like you're still there. It makes them feel like you're still a part of their lives. So they will tell people that you're not talking to them anymore. They may say that you're the narcissist. They may say that you're giving them the silent treatment. But if you stay silent, you will stay out of their mess. You will no longer be a part of it. When you give the narcissist your silence, they will try to intimidate you. They will overwhelm you with messages and phone calls. They may stalk and harass you. They may start a smear campaign. They may try to ruin your reputation. They may try to isolate you. They will destroy your boundaries, because they have no boundaries. And they believe you exist to give them narcissistic supply. They don't believe there should be any separation. They believe that you exist to serve them. They feel like they can do whatever they want. So when you give them your silence, they will go insane. It will cause a narcissistic injury, which will be followed by narcissistic rage. They will give you insults and putdowns. They will say horrible things about you. Or they will try to love bomb you again. They will try to get you back. It will change from one moment to the next. They will become very desperate. Because they're very afraid of being abandoned. But you are doing the right thing. Why should you stay in a relationship with someone who has been horrible to you? But they're not going to see it the same way. They thought they got away with everything they did to you. They overlooked all of the things they did. They only focused on the things you did to them. Especially the things that were in response to what they did. But they never think about what they did to you. That's not a concern to them. Because they don't really care about you. They have no interest in your well-being. All they care about is their fear of being abandoned. That's what brings out their rage. That's what makes them go crazy. And if they can't get to you directly. They will involve other people. They will start a smear campaign against you. They will try to ruin your reputation. But eventually, people are going to get fed up of it. They're going to get tired of hearing the same things about you. Over and over again. And there's really no purpose in them talking about you. If you're no longer a part of their life. Your silence keeps you out of trouble. It keeps you out of their life. It may be hard in the beginning. But it gets easier with time. You will have more time to focus on your life. You will have more time to focus on things that you are passionate about. You will have more time to focus on yourself. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonates with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. If you would like to donate, my PayPal link is in the video description. Coaching inquiries. You can email me at coaching.org survivor at the crew UK. Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.