 Bismillah ar-Rahman ar-Raheem. As-salamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. Alhamdulillah wa salatu wa salamu ala ashraf al-anbiya'i wa al-mursaleen. Sayyidina wa maulana wa habibina Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. Wa ala alaihi wa sahbihi wa sallam tasliman kathiran. Again, salamu alaikum everyone. Alhamdulillah, we are here for our third session of Purification of the Heart. Thank you for being here. I made a few announcements before we officially began to those who were here early just to again keep everybody on the same page. We've switched over to the webinar format. So the chat box is open and I invite you to participate via the chat box. I'll ask you some questions right now because I want to begin, inshallah, and we'll begin like we did last time with a bit of a quiz, okay? So if you remember from last two sessions that we had, or if you have notes, maybe you want to take those notes out and quickly look them over, okay? And the first question I have is who can tell me who the original author is of the text, the Arabic text that we are talking about here, okay? Because there's a person who lived 200 years ago, about 200 years ago. Very good, alhamdulillah. So we have some answers. Good job. So I'm just going to make a slight correction because all of you have answered the same answer. So his name is actually Imam al-Mulud, okay? So a lot of you are responding Imamul-Mulud, which is fine. It's like a quick way of saying it, but the accurate name is Imam al-Mulud, okay? Just wanted to clarify that, very good. So alhamdulillah, this is Imam al-Mulud's text and he lived about roughly close to 200 years ago. Who is the person who translated the book from Arabic into English? What's his name? Very good, masha'Allah. Excellent, okay? And what, where does Sheikh Hamza, all of you masha'Allah who are answering had it. You were the first to come in, very good. And Shamina, second Bilal, third, awesome. Great job, you guys. Aiman as well, great job. And Layla, all of you are answering it wonderfully. Where does Sheikh Hamza currently live? Where is he situated? What part of the world? Bay Area, oh, there we go. We got Bay Area and then we got Yasin with the correct answer. Berkeley, very good. So he's in Berkeley. Does he have a special, you know, place that he works at? And if so, what's the name of that place? Who can tell me the name of the place? Very good, masha'Allah. Aiman, you came in there and had it, you said Zaytuna, but Aiman got the full answer for Zaytuna College. Very good, awesome. You guys, so did Youssef, Bilal, Yasin as well, awesome. Okay, so next. We right away talked about a certain number of hearts. Who can remember the very first heart that we talked about? Okay, there were a certain number of hearts. You can tell me if you want the number of hearts, but what was the first one that we covered? Very good, masha'Allah. So Ismail answered eight, awesome. Good job, Ismail. And then Yasin came with the first heart as the dead heart. You guys are on it, excellent. The first heart was in fact, the dead heart, very good. And what's the last heart called? If you can give me the Arabic name, even better. The last heart that we talked about, very good. Aiman came in with the sound heart, awesome. And what's the Arabic of the sound heart? Masha'Allah, very good, Shamina, awesome. Great job, you guys. You guys are doing really well, masha'Allah. Okay, so we covered a few different diseases already. Who can remember the very first disease that we covered? The first one. Okay, Yasin came in with miserliness. Very good, what's the Arabic? Bilal, you answered me before I even finished that question, you are awesome, great job. And Issaan, very good. You guys know the Arabic terms, awesome. What is the disease of the heart? Now I'm gonna switch up the questions a little bit to try to pay attention to the definition, okay? What is the disease of the heart where you're too, you can't control your excitement and it makes you prideful, it makes you maybe wanna spend on things a little bit too much. It's like you can't control it, it's too exciting. And that leads to extravagance. Very good, awesome, Afnan, great job. Wantonness, very good. What is the Arabic of wantonness called? Afnan again, look at you, masha'Allah. Very good, that's so exciting when you guys get it right like that, awesome. Okay, so there's another disease of the heart. I'm gonna give you the Arabic term. I want you to quickly, okay? It's like lightning. You're gonna type it out, the English of it. What is the English meaning of the word borod? Who can tell me, borod. Wow, Afnan, man, masha'Allah, you are just ahead of everybody right now, huh? You're coming really quick, super fast. Masha'Allah, you guys are awesome. Okay, next, this is the disease of the heart where you harm people or things for no reason whatsoever. You're just not having a good day and you feel like you can hurt something. Awesome, Bilal came in with it, with the word iniquity, very good Bilal, masha'Allah. Who can tell me the Arabic name of that? Oh, masha'Allah, Bilal, you're like right there with me. How you know what I was gonna ask, didn't you? Very good, we got Bilal, we have Ehsan and Afnan. You guys, all three of you got the word, it's baghi, baghi, right? Great job, you guys, I am so impressed, masha'Allah. Okay, this disease of the heart, the Prophet SAW said in a hadith, he was worried that towards the end of time, we would be like the froth of the ocean and he said we would have wahen in our hearts and then the companion said, what's wahen, Ya Rasulullah? And he said, this disease of the heart, what is it? Very good, masha'Allah, Ehsan, baghi, awesome. Love of the world, haba dunya. Now you're on it, see, that's what I love. Ehsan, you went with the English and the Arabic in one answer. Pay attention, you guys, that's a really smart way of getting the full answer, right? He's shown me he knows both. Great job, masha'Allah, Tabarakullah. Okay, then we went on to another disease of the heart. This is when you see something in someone and you can't control your desire for it and you actually want them to lose it. What is the Arabic of it? There we go, masha'Allah, excellent. So, Yasin got this, Ehsan again came through, Bilal Shamina, all of you, you guys kind of all answered at the same time, it just came rolling in. Amen, Taslim, good job, awesome. Very good, alhamdulillah. This is a disease of the heart that the Prophet, peace be upon him, said, it consumes your good actions like fire consumes wood. What is the name of that disease of the heart? Let's see who was paying attention. It consumes your good actions like fire consumes wood. Is it jealousy? I kind of tricked you guys there and some of you fell for it, but Shamina, I'm sorry, who did I see? Aisha came through. It is envy, you guys, envy. Remember, envy and jealousy are kind of used, oftentimes to mean the same thing, but they are slightly different. Envy, you want the other person to lose what they have. Jealousy, you just want it and you're insecure about things, okay? So that's why where it comes from, whereas envy is just really about having it and wanting the other person not to have it. So very good. And Hasad, very good. Hadid, thank you. Is the Arabic word for envy? Excellent, you guys are really doing wonderful. Mashallah, alhamdulillah. What is, okay, this is the trick question or not trick question, this is the bonus question. Let's see who can get the bonus, okay? Do you get this one? Mashallah. Halas, you're really paying attention. So let's say Ahmed, I'm just making up someone. Ahmed sees Bilal. And Bilal is memorizing Quran and he's got juz, I'm not memorized and now he's onto the 29th juz and he's doing really good. And then Ahmed goes, man, I wish I could be like Bilal. He's got so much Quran memorized. Why can't I do that? I'm gonna go find a teacher and I'm gonna do this. What is that called? Yes, Bilal got it, mashallah. How perfect is that, right? Because Ahmed and Bilal, you're on it, mashallah. This is ghipta, okay, ghipta is what? Ghipta is a good form of jealousy, right? It's when you're competing for good things. So when you're trying to gain knowledge, what's the other reason that the Prophet said you can have ghipta for? So if you're, it's good jealousy, right? It's good to compete with someone for this. So one is knowledge, what's the other thing? Who can remember? Come on, you guys can do it. You've been doing amazing so far. Wisdom and knowledge kind of go hand in hand, right? Because you have to be wise, you know, or if you have knowledge, hopefully you're wise, right? Okay, very good. Afnan, mashallah, it's what your gave is I think a pretty good answer and Yusuf as well. Wealth or sadaqah, so the means to do things, right? So if you see someone who has a lot of wealth, you can have ghipta for that person as long as your intentions are good, right? You want to please Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala so you have that jealousy like, oh, I wish I had that kind of money so that I could do a lot of good in the world, right? Like help orphans, right? This is a great cause, right? Or build a masjid. So there's a lot of great, great things that you could do with the money. And if you have ghipta for someone who's wealthy, that's okay or for someone who has knowledge. You guys are so amazing. I love that you guys are paying attention and you're remembering stuff that makes me so, so, so happy. So may Allah bless all of you. Now are you ready to start our third session? Cause we're gonna introduce you to three new diseases of the heart. You guys ready? Pay attention now, okay? Or take some notes if you want to. But let me go ahead and pull up my presentation to make sure that we are ready. So my first screen share, bismillah, and you should be able to see my screen. And now we're gonna go into presenter mode and boom. Okay, you guys see it, yeah? Insha'Allah, let me actually pull up the chat so I can see what you guys are saying. So what do you guys see on the screen? You see week two? I'm from the sisterhood side, looks perfect. Okay, alhamdulillah. Thank you, JazakAllah. Okay, this is from there. All right, here we go. Ready? So week two, we had week one last week. We did two sessions. This is where we're at now. So we're going to cover these diseases this week, insha'Allah, okay? For today's session, I only did the first three just because I didn't have honestly enough time to prepare more. And also number 10 is a big one. And I wanna kind of focus on that a little bit more on Thursday. So we'll get through the remaining four, insha'Allah, on Thursday, okay? But for today, we're gonna go over blame-worthy modesty, which is Hayat Dameem. And then that is holding onto one's wealth. Oh, I'm sorry, did I not? Oh, no. I think I unfortunately forgot to cut and paste the proper column here on the right. Let me go back to the previous slide. I hopefully have it here somewhere. We're just gonna do a quick rewind, rewind to here. This is, where did we go? Not here, here. All right, so we're gonna go to number seven, eight, and nine, okay? So my bad, I forgot, I didn't properly cut and paste this definition part of it, so I apologize. Number seven, blame-worthy modesty is shyness or cowardice that prevents someone from addressing a wrong or inquiring about a need. So what does that mean? It means when you are too shy to act in a time where you should act. Let's say you're listening to a teacher like myself or maybe you're at the masjid and there's a khutbah going on and they say something that is not clear. Maybe I say something too that's not clear and then you're like, oh, should I ask or not? Should I say something? Should I raise my hand and go, teacher, teacher, I didn't understand that, right? Sometimes our shyness prevents us from acting when we should. So we're gonna talk more, but that's just a quick example of that, okay? Blame-worthy thoughts. These are thinking about things that are prohibited, okay? Like if you're just letting your mind kind of wonder on and you're just thinking about things you shouldn't think about and we'll talk about what we mean with that, okay? But anytime you have thoughts or just really pointless or it's a waste of your time that would fall under Blame-worthy thoughts. And then fear of poverty. So that is when you're so afraid of not having enough food or wealth or material things that it creates this anxiety in you and it almost basically kind of destroys the way that you live your life, right? A lot of people and it's somewhat kind of could be tied to miserliness because if you have a fear of poverty, it might lead you to become someone who's hoarding their wealth, right? Cause it's like, oh no, I can't spend too much money because I'm gonna be poor or I'm gonna not have a home to live in and those thoughts can kind of just really take someone to a very dark place where they lose complete trust and all us upon that. So we're gonna talk about those three diseases today. So let me now fast forward really quickly to see how fast I can go, okay? And I'm gonna click as fast as I can, okay? But how fast was that? Nope, here we go, here we go, wrong one. Okay, so here we are. We are on, again, blameworthy modesty. So first, before we even get to blameworthy modesty, let's be clear about what the word modesty means, okay? So Muslims, we know this word, it's a very big part of our faith but sometimes we need to really have a broad understanding of modesty because it's not just about our clothing, okay? A lot of times when we hear modesty, it's referenced to dressing modestly, right? But it's more than that. It's about being humble and not showing off. And when we say showing off, this obviously includes showing off our bodies, right? Which is why we dress, we cover, we dress modestly because we don't show off the things that are private, right? A lot of times I told us to be modest in the way that we dress. So it's about not showing off our bodies or our good deeds, skills, strengths, whatever gifts Allah SWT has given us if he's blessed us with. If you're a modest person, you don't show off, okay? Why? Because you're confident. You don't have a need or a reason to be a show off. Someone who shows off, they're insecure, right? They're insecure. They feel like I have to show this because then I get attention. And if I get attention, it makes me feel good about myself. Muslims, we don't look to other people for attention. We look to Allah SWT. He's the only one whose opinion of us matters. So we don't feel the need to walk around and strut our stuff and show our skin because a lot of people in this culture, right? You see them all the blah, and as the temperatures get warmer, they start wearing inappropriate clothing, right? And when they do that, our job as Muslims, because we don't judge people, right? We do not judge people. We say that, I'll leave everybody to Allah SWT. And I have actually a really good story that I'm gonna share in a moment about not judging people. But when we see someone who's dressed in an inappropriate way, we show our modesty by what lowering our gaze, right? So here Allah SWT tells us, tell believing men to lower their glances and guard their private parts, right? So you lower your eyes so that you don't see things that are immodest. And you also cover yourself, right? You cover your private area. That is pure for them. God is well aware of everything they do. And then say to the believing women, oh, excuse me. Where am I? Sorry, you guys, I'm butterfingers here. Okay, I'm trying to move this little chat box because it's in the way of the text, so I apologize. Okay, so say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty, that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what must ordinarily appear, right? Our hands, our face, that they should draw their veils over their bosom. So you see our hijab, we cover ourselves, right? This is how Allah SWT instructs Muslim men and women to dress. We dress in a modest way, right? And I'm just gonna quickly tell you guys a story that this really actually happened to me. I was once at an airport, and this was a long time ago where I was younger and I didn't know a lot of things. And I thought that, you know, I'm better than people because I was wearing hijab. And so I did. I kind of let my arrogance, self-righteousness, which we'll talk about, right? It's sometimes you get a little too, you think of yourself as better. And this is dangerous. It's a disease of the heart. But if you don't know it's a disease of the heart, then you can have it. So when I was much, much younger, this happened to me where I was in hijab and I was at the airport and I was waiting for my ride. And all of a sudden I see this woman and she gets out of her car. You know, when you're at the airport and you're waiting for people to pick you up, you have to kind of wait there and all these cars are coming and going. So she got out of her car and she was dressed very inappropriately. She was wearing shorts, very short shorts and like, you know, a tank top. And I just looked at her and I judged her. I did. I thought like, wow, why is she dressed like that? It's so wrong. And I had all these negative thoughts. And then Subhanallah, she ended up, it was kind of a very strange experience for me because I'm just waiting there. I don't know her. She's a stranger, but she ended up closing the trunk of her car and she saw me. And then she started walking towards me. So I'm like, whoa, what's going on? Why is this woman who's like a stranger walking to me? Right? What is she going to say? And I'm like, you know, so I kind of was like a little like, you know, just paranoid like what's going to happen now? All of a sudden she comes and she stands in a very humbled state, very humble. She has her head down and she goes, salamu alaikum. I know I'm not dressed very appropriately. You know, may Allah forgive me. I'm a Muslim. I'm a convert and I'm raising my son to be a Muslim. I saw you and I was so happy because I thought maybe you can help me give me some recommendations for children's book because I want to raise my son as a Muslim. So she's saying all of this stuff to me, Subhanallah, right? She's not dressed modestly. I'm dressed modestly, but this is where we look at the hearts, right? Her heart was in such a good state because she recognized her mistake. She was humble and she wanted to be better, but I let arrogance in my heart, right? I thought I was better and I was judging her. And then Allah, he's the one who made this whole event happen, right? She, there's no way I would have ever thought she was a Muslim the way she was dressed, but Allah wanted me to have that experience because it did, it changed my mind about a lot of things. I started to really look at my heart more and say, Hussai, how could you have let your heart become so filled with arrogance that you walk around judging people because of the way that they're dressed, right? That's not for you to do. You don't judge people. We don't judge people. We know what's right and what's wrong, but we leave the judgment to Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala, right? He's the only one who judges. So when we say that, yes, we live in a society where a lot of people are not dressed appropriately, our job is not to look down on them because they don't know. Many times people don't know. This woman, she was a convert and she was trying to be better. So just like Islam took 23 years to complete, some people, they take time getting a good habit. So we just have to leave the judgment alone, but what we do instead of judging them, we turn our gaze away and we wish well for them that Allah guides them, okay? So that's what this hadith is telling us, to lower your gaze. Don't judge other people, lower your gaze. And I wanted to share that story so that you have an example of when sometimes it's not so black and white. You might see a Muslim and think, oh, they're amazing. And then you see someone just like that and think, look at them. But if you really judge that situation, who was better and who wasn't, right? She was much better than me. And that was a humbling moment for me and I'm so grateful to Allah that he did that for me because it literally changed everything. My perception of everything was different then. I started looking at the diseases of the heart and realizing I had a lot of them. And that's how I, Alhamdulillah, benefited from this amazing science of purification of the heart. So Alhamdulillah, okay. So now, what else do we know about modesty, okay? Here we have another hadith where Qur'an Ibn Ilyas reported that we were once with the messenger of Allah, Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when modesty was mentioned to him. And someone said, oh, messenger of Allah, is modesty part of faith? And the Prophet Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, what rather it is the entire religion, Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So this is a very big part of being a Muslim. Then he said, verily modesty, abstinence, reticence of the tongue, but not the heart. And deeds are all part of faith. They bring gain in the hereafter and loss in the world. What is gained in the hereafter is much greater than what is missed in the world. So why did I put that phrase, reticence of the tongue, but not the heart in yellow? Because this is telling us that reticence means when you're holding back, right? You're holding back. We should hold back with our tongues when we, maybe there's a situation that we don't like or where the judgment might take over. We shouldn't comment, but not in our heart. In our heart, we should be very clear about what's right and what's wrong, okay? And that kind of ties into what blame-worthy modesty is. So let's be a little bit more clear here. So again, modesty is something, it's a whole religion. Every part of us, we should, I mean, our part of our faith thing is, modesty is a big part of that. But we have to understand that this quality has to be in balance, right? Between one's spiritual heart and one's conscience. So here we have praise-worthy modesty activates the conscience, right? And protects the spiritual heart. It helps one to lower the gaze, protect the heart from being exposed to things that bring it harm. But blame-worthy modesty impairs the conscience and by extension, the spiritual heart. It prevents one from acting or speaking up when it is necessary and it invites cowardice into the heart to become a coward, right? That's what blame-worthy modesty does. You're not very courageous when you have blame-worthy modesty and this is not part of our faith. We should be people of courage with Allah SWT, all right? So let's look again at some examples. So for example, as I said earlier, not asking questions about one's dean out of shyness. So if you're ever not clear about something, but because you don't wanna embarrass yourself with your friends in the class or maybe in a situation where you don't know all the students, you feel a little awkward about talking, remember this, you don't wanna have blame-worthy modesty. It's much more important that you speak up and you don't have to speak up right then and there, maybe after the class, right? You can go to the teacher and say, Mr. or sister or brother or sheikh or sheikh. I didn't understand when you said this. Can you please explain it to me? But not to be shy in the class and then even after the class go, oh no, I don't wanna go up to the teacher and have this conversation with them. That's too embarrassing because then it's like, I didn't know and everybody else seemed to get it and I don't wanna look like I'm not smart. And all of those thoughts, that's what blame-worthy modesty is, right? When you sit there and you have this conversation with yourself that you're too worried about how you look in front of other people and it prevents you from learning, right? And so at the bottom, you see this hadith here. Aisha, the Prophet's wife, may Allah be pleased with her, said, how excellent are the women of the Ansar. These are the women of Medina, right? They do not allow shyness to prevent them from asking questions and understanding the religion. So she's making an observation here that says what? Look at how amazing these women of the Ansar are. They ask their questions. They're not clear about something. They're not gonna go, oh, I'm just gonna, that's okay, I'll pretend like I understood it, right? And this doesn't have to just be for religion. Let's say you're in a math class or you're in another class, you know? You should have the courage to always, if there's some knowledge that's being taught to you and you don't get it, to make that a priority instead of yourself, right? It's not about how you appear because very wise people are okay admitting that they don't know. Imam Malik, who was one of the great four Imams of the schools of Fiqh that we have, he was known to very commonly say, I don't know. When people would ask him questions, he would say, I don't know. And this shows not that he doesn't have knowledge but the opposite, that he's actually very wise and he had, I mean, he was very, very knowledgeable. He's one of the great Imams, but he had the humility to know when he didn't know, right? And so we shouldn't let our shyness of not knowing prevent us from knowing. That's what blame worthy modesty is, one example. Another is not standing up for someone who's being wronged. So if you see a situation, let's say there's a bully, right? And he's bullying or she's bullying someone and you're just standing there, you know what's wrong but you can't find the courage to say something, right? Or to do something, to put a stop to it. We find this problem everywhere now in schools and in other places, a lot of people, not just youth but like adults too, they freeze up and they don't say something when they should and then they watch and instead, unfortunately with phones now, they're recording it, you know? So it's like here you're watching someone get beat up in front of you and instead of acting, you're just gonna record the video? Like that's really not good, right? Cause you're not helping these people at all. The one who's doing the harming and the one who's being harmed, both of them need help, right? And that's what Muslims are called to do. The Prophet's Muslim told us we help, you know the oppressed and the oppressor and we help the oppressor by stopping him from being oppressive. So you wanna separate people when they're fighting because, you know, the one is getting hurt but the other one is also causing a lot of damage. So let's help both of them. If this happens, you know, especially with friends or people that you know you should be worried about both. Not having the courage to stand up to an unjust person. So in the first situation, you're not protecting someone who's being harmed but in the next situation, it's where you're not confronting that person who's doing the bullying, right? And saying, listen, what you're doing is wrong and you need to stop it. This is all, you know, part of again, what can take over someone if they have blame or demodesty. And then also not participating in something worthwhile and beneficial out of shyness. So this is similar to, you know, what we've talked about, which is you see something either that's harmful that you should address or that's beneficial but your shyness prevents you from getting it like the knowledge, right? Or let's say, you know, everybody, all of your cousins and friends want to go somewhere and maybe you, you're kind of like, let's say they want to go roller skating, okay? And you've never roller skated before but the idea of it is like, oh man, I don't want to do it because I don't know how to do it and I don't want to go and embarrass myself. So then you don't go. You end up going, no, I don't want to go. All because you let this shyness prevent you from actually benefiting. You're going to spend time with your cousins and friends. You might learn a new skill but there's a shyness there that prevents you. That's blame worthy modest, okay? So hopefully this disease is clear. Now, how can we get rid of it? Or how can we treat it? Well, the first thing is that you put the pleasure of Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala before anyone else, okay? You're always thinking as Muslims were always, always, always thinking first, will this make Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala happy or will it not make him happy? That is it. With everything that you do from the moment you wake up until the moment you sleep, that should be your thought process and everything. Because everything we know as Muslims, our Dean is complete. Allah's given us answers about everything through the Prophet's wisdom's example but our Dean, we know right and wrong and we know and if you don't know that's what you have your parents for and other people you ask questions. But in your mind, that's how you check yourself and that's how you prevent Shaitan from making you do things that are wrong. You have that question. Is this gonna make Allah happy or not happy? And then you act, right? But this is how we should be. So if we start putting that into practice, you'll find that even if you're uncomfortable with something if you're thinking, okay, if Allah will be happy with me, I'll do it. Then inshallah that courage will start to grow in your heart because you're always thinking of making Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala happy with you, okay? And I see a quick question. I'm seeing the chat box, but I'm sorry I'm not able to answer every question, but this one is an important one that I do wanna talk about real quick. If you're scared of getting hurt, okay? Now the word vulnerable comes from, I think it's Greek or Latin from bonus, which means to be open to injury, okay? And it means to be open to being wounded, okay? That's why we're, when we're ever in a situation where we're afraid to act, yes, that's part of it. We're worried, we're worried that we're gonna be rejected or embarrassed or humiliated, all of those things, right? But part of the youth experiences, you're kind of in a test phase of your life where you're leaving childhood and you're growing into becoming an adult. And just like every adult before you, all of us went through the same experience. And every child after you will go through the same experience where you have to kind of test things out and get better and better. It's like a practice sort of phase, right? So if you want to grow and kind of go through that process a little bit in a better way without too many bumps along the road, then you have to say, you know what? There's a first time for everything and I gotta try it and I have to muster up the courage. And even if I'm worried about everything, it's okay. It's probably, I'm probably making too much of a big deal out of it in my mind because if there's adults in the room, inshallah, they're all mature enough, they're not gonna laugh at you or embarrass you or anything like that. Rather, they'll probably encourage you even if things don't go your way. Let's say like go back to the roller skating example. If you're gonna, if you don't wanna go roller skating because you don't wanna fall, right? It's happened to me several times, even as an adult. You can either fall and then make yourself feel bad and think, oh my gosh, I'm so embarrassing and oh, why did I do this? I'm so a failure. I don't even know how to roller skate. I have no coordination and let all those negative thoughts come in your mind. Or you can say, dude, I just roller skated for the first time and it's okay. At least I had the courage to do it. And even if I fell, oh well, people fall in the time. Even professional skaters fall. There's people who've been at the Olympics and they fall. So falling is just part of human experience. Gravity is a force. So it's not that big of a deal. And instead of letting, you know, Shaytan or your own nuffs make you feel weak, you wanna say, you know what? Let's just get back up and laugh it off. It's no big deal, whatever. You know, when I used to do it, when I was a kid, I would always like, if I tripped over something, I would always pretend like it was a new dance move. So I would just be like, oh yeah, check it out. That was just me being cool. And I would just say something silly. And then everybody would laugh, right? Because my attitude was I'm not embarrassed by this. I'm a human and it's okay to fall or have, you know, slip here and there. Even if you're talking like, I've been speaking publicly for a long time. Sometimes when you first start off, you get nervous and you're like, you say things like that. It's okay, because the more you do it, the better you get at it. And then you look back at those times, you just laugh like, oh yeah, that was me practicing. You know, it was my practice runs and it's okay to have those experiences. So you gotta get out of that mentality that, oh my gosh, I'm so scared of being looked at and embarrassed. Strong people are like, you know what? It's okay, it happens, you know, I'm just gonna keep trying, push forward, okay? So thank you for that question. Now another thing to get rid of this is to ask questions when you don't understand something. Force yourself, get into that habit. I don't get it. I need more clarity because you know what? It's not that you necessarily have a, you know, like you didn't understand it and there's something wrong with the way that your brain worked. What if it's the teacher? What if the teacher didn't explain things correctly? I'm a teacher, certainly we are not perfect. There's times where we don't do a good job explaining something. So the students are confused. That's our fault, that's not your fault. So what you wanna do is if any time you don't understand something, ask with humility, right? Don't assume that the teacher just failed to explain it, right? Just ask with humility and say, teacher, I'm sorry, I didn't quite understand something. But remember that it might not be that you didn't understand it well. It might be that the teacher didn't explain it well. By asking with humility and, Adam, this is always good. You allow the teacher to correct themselves, right? The teacher will come back and hopefully explain it better for you, inshallah. So, but find that courage to be, I'm gonna ask that question, okay? And then practice more courage and use judgment when you see something wrong or injustice. For example, I said about the bullying thing. If you're seeing a situation where there's a physical fight, you don't have to jump in, okay? What I said earlier about stopping the fight and separating the people, I'm not saying to necessarily get into the fight and hurt yourself or get hurt. You don't need to do that. The judgment comes in to say, this is wrong. And instead of watching it happen and freezing, like, oh my gosh, this is, whoa, this is crazy. I'm just gonna watch it. The judgment says, this is wrong. I need to go get an adult. And you, you're the one that leaves your backpack, tells a friend, watch this, I have to go run and you go get the nearest teacher and say, teacher, teacher, come here, there's a fight happening. That is being a wise person. Cause what you're doing is saying, I don't wanna just let this happen and unfold and have an injury and someone really get hurt. You know, there's been some really terrible accidents, you know, recently, like last year, I remember reading a story about a fight that happened at a school and one of the students was unfortunately killed. He actually died because when the other student hit him, he fell and on something like a cement piece that was very hard and his head hit it really hard and he was injured and then he eventually died. So you never, God forbid, wanna let people in that type of a situation get all the blood carried away, but imagine you can save lives just by going and getting an adult, okay? So that's what courage does. And that's the opposite of this quality of blame or the modesty. So inshallah, that's the first disease of the heart. We need to move forward to the next one. So let's go ahead. This is gonna, this is about the next disease of the heart. So did you know, sorry, let me move this. I don't know if you guys can see all of everything on my screen, like the chat box and everything, but if you can, sorry. So did you know that the average person, average person means you can't obviously go around asking every single person on the planet. So what we do is we just kind of take a poll and then determine how many people from that group of people this would apply to. So the average person has about 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day. That's a lot of thoughts, right? If you think about it from the moment you wake up until you sleep, you're thinking all the time. Your brain never really shuts off. Even when you're watching something like on TV or playing a game, well, for playing a game, your brain is definitely active. But if you're doing something more passive, like watching a show or a film, your brain is very active because it's understanding everything, it's processing everything, it's taking all those images in, right? So there's a lot of activity and thoughts that are happening. But of those thoughts, this is what's really fascinating. 80% are negative. SubhanAllah, isn't that sad? This is why is that the case? Why is that the case that 80%, more than 50% of our thoughts are negative thoughts, right? They're not good thoughts. What we have, we know from our tradition, Shaytan is real, right? He is the whisperer. He likes to take away good feelings, good thoughts, good experiences, even our prayers, right? When we stand up for prayers, he loves to distract us and suddenly we're thinking about things that we weren't even thinking about at all because he likes to just put all those thoughts in our mind. So 80% of those thoughts are negative and then 95% are exactly the same repetitive thoughts from the day before. So we tend to think about the same things over and over and over and over again. This is the human being, this is why we say, Allah SubhanAllah created us with these issues and we have to do the work of purification of the heart and of the mind and of the tongue and all of the things that we have. We have to purify our thoughts. We have to purify these things and there's ways to do that, inshallah. Okay, so let's look here. Next slide. So what are specific things that we shouldn't think about? Because negative thoughts can fall under a lot of different categories or we could cover a lot of things but we're gonna talk specifically about two things. First thing that blame worthy thoughts, the thoughts that are not good, are thoughts that are about the nature of Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala, okay? We have, Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala has revealed himself to us through the 99 names, the Asmaa al-Husna, which are the attributes of Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala and of course we have the Quran which are His words and only His words and then we have the Hadith Qudsi which are sort of like their revelations that Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala gave to the Prophet Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. They're not in the Quran, they're in the Hadith but all of these things are Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala teaching us about who He is, right? So for us, we only base our knowledge of Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala on what He's revealed to us but sometimes our mind can start wandering and we start imagining things and we think about things that are not good to think about with relation to what does Allah look like and how is He, all of those thoughts are, we have to turn those thoughts off because there's Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala says which is what, there's nothing in creation that is like Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala, okay, nothing in creation which means that there's no way that we can try to imagine Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala in our mind because everything in our minds is from what we see and what we know in the universe, right? So it makes no sense to try to think about Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala when He's told us that there's nothing that you can even come close to that would be similar to Him. So don't even try but have the hope that insha'Allah we're going to insha'Allah see Him in the next world. That's why we wanna go to Jannah. The greatest prize that we could possibly have is to see Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala in Jannah, okay? So this is why it's so important that you just turn off that thought and say I'm not gonna have those thoughts about Allah. I'm gonna wait for the great prize of seeing Him in Jannah. So that's the first thing that we wanna again address. And then the other thing is to think about thoughts about other people like their faults, right? A lot of times people will just waste their time thinking about other people whether it's a stranger or someone you know if you're just wasting those precious thoughts for 60,000 thoughts and you're thinking about things that you shouldn't this is the what falls under blame worthy thoughts, right? In the Prophet's wisdom said here he said there is a tree in paradise reserved for people whose own faults preoccupied them from thinking about other people's faults. So SubhanAllah if you spend more time on your own self and trying to fix yourself than you do thinking about oh why does this person dress this way and they have such a bad habit and look at you know they play basketball like this or you know we can get very judgy about what people do, right? We'll pick apart everything about them. That's Haram you shouldn't do that, right? We talked about this a little bit I think last time where we said there's in the heart where you actually can have bad thoughts about people in your heart and this is Leba which is gossiping and it's really one of the worst sins. So we wanna stop that, right? And the Prophet's wisdom promised a tree a special tree in paradise for people who were more worried about their own situation. So Haram that are really important for us to think about. Okay, so next slide here. So how do we treat this disease of the heart? What's the way to fix it? Well we study the 99 attributes of Allah's pathara commonly referred to as Asma al-Husna. We should know the 99 names and try to really understand their meanings and you can ask your parents questions like maybe one attribute every day you know in 99 days you'll know all of Allah's pathara's attributes or if you wanna do more than one but you can really make it a very good exercise of just getting closer in your better understanding of who Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is, right? By studying them and then remembering again as we said that beyond our abilities as human beings to really capture Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala so we shouldn't even bother but at least if we try to connect to Allah's pathara through his attributes it will deepen our love for him and it'll help us to again follow his commands and prepares us for the hereafter where we hope to see Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and finally all the questions that you have about well this doesn't make sense and I never understood this you can ask him then inshallah. You know we just have to be patient and then Imam al-Ghuzadi said, sorry. Uh oh, ah, here we go, sorry. Imam al-Ghuzadi said that the way to word off distracting thoughts is to cut off their source, avoid the means that could create these thoughts. If the source of such thoughts is not stopped it will keep generating them, okay? So there are some things that, and that, you know, or some people sometimes that make you have bad thoughts about other people and you have to, you know, have, don't have blame or the modesty, right? You have to tell that friend maybe, you know what? Maybe we shouldn't talk about people because it's not good. That's really good. You're showing courage to tell that person it's wrong and you're preventing yourself from falling into bad habits and cutting it off from the source. So sometimes that's what you need to do. There's also other, you know, like television can be bad music can be, there's bad elements in television, bad elements in music. So if you're getting thoughts because of a certain show that you're watching or music that you're listening to, stop. Very simple. Because if you don't, then those thoughts will just keep coming back, right? You just kind of have to cut them off at the source. Like, you know, this is making me not feel good or I don't feel positive after this. So I need to really, you know, stop this stuff, inshallah, okay? So that's how we correct this disease of the heart. So the next one is, let's see here, listen to that. The next disease of the heart is fear of poverty. Okay? So let's talk about what this is. Well, first, Allah swt says to us in sort of the Baqarah, He says, those who in charity spend of their good deeds by night and by day in secret and in public have their reward with their Lord, on them shall be no fear, nor shall they grieve. So Allah swt is telling us right here, whoever does, you know, good deeds we spend in charity and we do our, you know, our good works in secret and in public, maybe there's times where we wanna show good works because we wanna encourage other people, but then there's other times where we just go more inwardly and it's more private and both of their situations are rewarded with Allah and He is telling us, if you're do these things and you do them the right way, the way that the Prophets last time taught us, you won't have any fear. There's nothing to be afraid of because you understand that Allah swt is always with you, right? And that He's the one who blesses us and He gives us all of our gifts, our food, our water, our clothing, our shelter, our families, all of the things that we have are from Allah. He distributes them to everybody and until the day, until we leave this earth, we will have our sustenance, our portion, right? Some people get more in this world. There's people who get more wealth and some people don't, but everybody gets what Allah decides for them and we have to respond by being patient and grateful, that's so important, that we're grateful for whatever Allah's given us because all of it is a treasure, right? And so here, the Prophets last time said, charity does not decrease wealth. No one forgives another, but that Allah increases His honor and no one humbles himself for the sake of Allah, but that Allah raises His status. So charity does not decrease wealth. When you are a giving person, you should know, especially if you give in charity, that you're not just because the money's leaving your hand, right? It's like, oh, here's $100 and I have to give it to this organization or this poor person on the street. It might feel like you lost $100, but you didn't. This Hadith is telling you, you're actually gaining more and the reward will come. Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala will bring that $100 back and more to you at some point. And I've had this happen to me so many times I can't even tell you, where you give for the sake of Allah and then all of a sudden it is, He repays you maybe the same day, two, three, four times that amount, right? And I've had people have the same story. They've written a check and then in the mail, like the next day, they get the exact same amount for that check. That's happened to people before or twice the amount. You know, so Subhanahu wa ta'ala, we should never despair that Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala is always with us and He repays generosity with generosity. Remember that. You're a pays generosity with generosity. So in the next slide here, remember that when you have Khufal faqar, the problem is, is if all you think about all day long is money and it's all you see, right? And it's you're just afraid of losing it. Then what happens is, you're likely not gonna do your obligations to Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala or your family. You're probably not gonna be very good with your prayers. You're certainly, you know, won't be good with zakat and giving away sadaqa. You might not even wanna go to on Hajj because you're too worried about how much money it's gonna cost you. Oh man, it's cost like $4,000 to go to Hajj. I don't wanna do that because what if I, you know, they'll have enough money for next year or this and you start thinking about all these things. So it prevents you from doing good deeds and even your prayers because if you're afraid of, you have Khufal faqar, you might work overtime and let's say you work so much that you forget to pray because you're too worried about getting money. So this is a problem with being obsessed with money and not remembering that Allah is the one who gives to everybody and everybody will get what they deserve. Nobody will take away if Allah destined for you to have something and it's written, nobody and nothing can prevent it from coming to you. So you just have to have that trust, right? But this is the danger of letting greed or, you know, Khufal faqar which can sometimes lead to greed, enter the heart, okay? So another thing to also remember, excuse me, is this verse from the Quran where Allah responded it says, take from their wealth a charity by which you cleanse them and purify them and invoke blessings upon them. What does this mean? It means that whenever we give charity, it actually cleans our wealth for us, okay? So I'm gonna explain a little bit more what that means. Where did that? Oh, here we go. So this was supposed to be before the other one. That's okay. So if you see this cute, adorable little boy, I'm thinking boy, maybe girl, because she's got earrings on. So let's just assume boy or girl, either way, it doesn't matter. What is, let's, you know, he doing, right? He's washing these clothes, okay? He's washing them with his hands. Most of us, we probably have never done this because our parents are taking care of our laundry. They put it in the washing machine and it comes out magically clean, right? But if you really think about it, when we play, right? On the left side, let's read. Sometimes when we play, we get our clothes dirty in the mud. Sometimes when we eat, we get stains on our clothes from food or when we work on an art project, right? We get some paint or glue or glitter all over our clothing. When we cook or bake, right? There's egg splatters, oil splatters, you know, flour and our clothes can get really messy, chocolate, right? Whatever it is, we know that we have to wash our clothes to keep our bodies clean and the rest of our clothes clean. Because otherwise, if you leave that dirt or that filth on your clothing, it might get on something else, right? So we understand that when it comes to our clothing. Well, with our money, it's the same concept that there's parts of our money that we're not always sure is it coming from a halal source? You know, is there anything that maybe this money was involved in at some point that wasn't clean? Let me clean my money. Let me clean my wealth, right? Just like this boy is vigorously, you know, scrubbing away the dirt from the clothing. And how we do that is through Sadaqah and charity. When we give part of our money for the sake of Allah, Allah says it purifies the rest of our wealth. So whatever else we have saved is clean even if there was something, you know, that maybe wasn't halal in part of that wealth, right? So this is how charity works. It helps to clean our wealth and it's such an important part of that, right? So let's see here, uh-oh. So here's the treatment, okay? So how do we treat for fear of poverty? First, we have a good opinion of Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala and we remember that he is the one who again distributes to his creation whatever he wills, right? And we should have trust in him. He has no need for anything that we do, right? So even when we give for the sake of Allah or anything we should remember Allah has no need for any of that, right? And he says here in the Quran, chapter 51 verse 57, he says, I do not desire from people any provision, right? Which is anything, nothing. Nor do I desire that they feed me. So nothing we're doing is increasing Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala. He is above all of this, everything, right? He's not a human. He doesn't have needs the way we have needs. So when we do something for his sake, we have to put, you know, remember that he, you know, we're not losing anything, right? We're actually gaining it because he has no need of what we give. And then the Prophet Salaam told us that contentment is a treasure that is never exhausted. So we all want treasures, right? Everybody wants a lot of wealth and power and all of these things that we want, one on one. Well, the greatest thing that you can have is to be content, which is to be just grateful. Like, Alhamdulillah, you know, Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala, you've given me a great life and I'm grateful for my health, for my family, for my, you know, pets, for my siblings, for my clothing, for my toys, for everything. You just start naming things randomly, right? My books, my school, my teachers, right? I'm grateful for my friends. So to be in a state of contentment, it's like this treasure that you just, wow, there's so much of it, right? But you have to do that as an exercise. You have to think about all the things that he's given you and really sit there and go, wow, I have so much to be thankful for, right? Because there's a lot of people who had everything and then boom, something might have happened where they've lost things and they spend the rest of their life saying, you know, I wish I could have those things back. And they might be simple things that we take for granted, things that we don't even realize. You know, I remember like my teacher, Sheikh Hamza actually, he talked to us about, you know, think about like eyelashes, you know? How many of us have actually sat and thought, Subhanallah, we should be so grateful for eyelashes because they're so tiny, they're so small, and we have them, we were born with them, but they have a huge function because without eyelashes, things can get into your eyes. There's a lot of problems and then you can't see very well. There's people who have to constantly lubricate their eyes and keep them moist because they don't have, you know, protection from these eyelashes. So there's things that, same with the hairs in our nose. The hairs in our nose are so important because they protect us from having problems when we breathe. But how many of us, you know, look to that and go, wow, thank God I have hairs in my nose, right? Because who thinks like that? But if you actually think about, if I didn't have these hairs in my nose and all the green stuff inside of it that traps the dust particles, that's what those things are, right? The B word, you guys know what I'm talking about. People pick at them, gross. But anyway, it's another conversation. But those things are important to our health because if we didn't have those, then all of those, the dust that is in the air would go into our lungs and we'd be coughing all that time. So do you see how Allos Pond has created us with this incredible machine where if you start thinking about all of its parts, it's like, wow, wow, wow, wow, wow, amazing. Even the heart, you know, how much blood, like pumps out, I don't know, how many gallons, hundreds of gallons of blood every day or maybe thousands, it's a lot of blood that the heart is pumping through our system. But it's like a machine, it's incredible. So this is what contentment does when you're grateful to Allah, Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, it just opens this feeling of like, I have so much, I have a treasure already, I don't need more. And then you don't have fear of poverty. Okay, inshallah. So that is the session for today, you guys. Alhamdulillah. Those are the three that we're covering today. I wanna hear from you. So we have a few minutes left, very few. I'll take some questions if you have. I know there was a lot of conversation as we were going, but let's see if there's any questions about what we've covered. If you wanna retype your question in a few minutes we have, I'm happy to answer your questions, okay? This one out. And then just a heads up about next week. I think I have, let me see. No, that's, so next week we will go over, I'm not, sorry, not next week, on Thursday. We'll go over ostentation, relying on other than God, displeasure with divine decree and seeking reputation. Heads up just for FYI, but let me go ahead and stop screen share here and we can now talk inshallah. Okay, so let's see here. Questions, I'm gonna get back to the chat box. How many sessions will we have inshallah? Well, thank you for asking sweetheart. We have Thursday, next Thursday, this Thursday and then the following Tuesday and the following Thursday. So that's one, two, three more sessions after today. Altogether six sessions. So for whatever reason, we may need to add one more because we don't finish them all. I'll let you guys know if the possible seventh session, but for now, three more sessions inshallah, okay? Okay, so quick questions here. What if you're terrified of losing something rather than money? So very good question. You know, if you're afraid in this world, you have to remember that Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la, if you ever lose something of value or important to you in this world, inshallah, you have the hope of, you know, be patient with that loss because there's nothing happens in vain, which means there's always a wisdom of why things happen to us in this world, always. And you have to remember that Allah knows what's best for you. Maybe in that loss, something really good can happen, right? For example, I'll tell you there's that organization called MAD, Mothers Against Drunk Drivers, right? There was a mother, I'm assuming, I think it was a mother, but she lost her child in a car accident because of a drunk driver. So what did she do? She took that energy, right? That terrible loss, it was a horrible thing to lose a child as one of the worst things that a person can go through. But instead of, you know, doing, just being in a state of sadness for her whole life, she said, I am going to make sure nobody ever experiences what I went through. And she started this organization called MAD, and now it's international, I think, or definitely national, but everybody knows it. And it's to prevent people from drinking alcohol and driving. So she took that loss and did this amazing thing that's helped millions and maybe billions of people in the world. So you can turn loss into something positive if you always have a good opinion of Allah, that if he took something from you, there's a reason for it. And inshallah, with your patience, he'll replace it with something better. And he'll use you to do a lot of good with it if you're a patient. But if you think like, oh no, I've lost it and now the world is over and I'm gonna fall into a state of depression, then you're forgetting that Allah is, you know, he can give you anything you want and you have to turn back to him and just ask him to give you patience with that loss and to replace it with something better for you in this world and reward you in the next world with it as well. Because, you know, some things are hard on us, you know? I lost, for example, my pet how many years ago, maybe nine years ago, and I think about her all the time. And it hurts, it hurts because I loved her and it was a difficult circumstance. But I'm hopeful that inshallah, she's gonna be with me in Jannah. I really do, I pray that Allah's part of that helps bring her to me in Jannah and I get to see her. So I always hold on to that hope. So if you have a loss of something, always remember Allah will, inshallah, reward you with your patience, okay? Let's see, what if it's cyberbullying? So I'm assuming that has to do with blame worthy modesty. If it's cyberbullying, you should also speak up. If you see someone on social media, treating other people poorly, you can talk to them directly and say, hey, I've noticed that you're leaving really mean comments and trolling people. If you know them, like let's say it's a school classmate or something, have the courage to say something. But if it's a stranger and your account, I would always say be careful because some of you are really young, but if you do have social media presence and your name is visible and people can easily find you, you wanna kind of watch how you engage people online because there are a lot of bad people online. But I think if you're a young person, I would just take it to your parents and say, listen, I have this person or this whoever that's I think they're being mean and they're cyberbullying, what should I do about it? And talk it through with your parents. They'll help you figure out if that's something you should get involved in or not, okay? But be cautious just because again, the digital world, we don't have full control and there are a lot of evil people out there. Okay, so let's see, masha'Allah. Can you continue this class? I love this. Aw, how sweet. I just, thank you. That is such a sweet comment. I love doing it. Well, I wish we were all in one together, room together because it would be a bit more engaging, but I love that you guys love it. That really fills my heart. So thank you for that lovely comment. Yes, it's called blame or the modesty, okay? So the class is called blame or the modesty, masha'Allah. Very good. Okay, awesome, you guys. Well, I think I answered all of your questions that I can see. Oh, wait, what did you do? Oh, yeah, no, how many questions? Yeah, I think I've answered all of your questions. Thank you for being here again. You guys are awesome. May Allah bless all of you and protect all of you. Have a wonderful Iftar if you're fasting. Remember me and my family in your Dawaz, okay? And remember to study, because remember I'm gonna quiz you guys on Thursday with the rest, okay? And talk it over with your family. Teach them, be the teacher, you know? If your parents weren't listening, say let me teach you about some diseases of the heart today, okay, and take it from there. All right, you guys have a wonderful evening. Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu.