 Five things narcissists do to get you back When you discard the narcissist or they discard you You might assume that the relationship is over. You might assume that they're not going to come back But they will often come back to you They will often hoover you It will either be to pull you back into the chaos and drama That they have created or to continue using you as their supply But it is not because they care about you. It is not because they love you Narcissists are self-absorbed and they lack empathy They only care about themselves They only care about their own needs And if they believe that you can meet those needs And make their lives easier They will come back to you, but it's not to give anything to you Even if the narcissist did have something to share They would still keep it to themselves Narcissists are only interested in taking from you There's never an equal exchange with the narcissist You will always end up getting the short end of the stick But they will hoover you if they believe they can get something out of you One They will say or do whatever they think you want When you are with the narcissist They refuse to say the things you wanted them to say They refuse to do the things you wanted them to do They would withhold things from you Or hold it in front of you like a carrot on a stick Making you believe that one day they would give you what you want Or maybe you have never told them what you wanted And they acted like they didn't know They didn't understand what you wanted But then suddenly they hoover you Telling you exactly what you wanted to hear Doing exactly what you wanted them to do As if they knew what you wanted all along They will make you believe that they're finally going to be everything that you wanted them to be But more often than not They will not follow it up with action Two They will use future faking The narcissist will use future faking Usually because they don't even have what you want But because they don't want to invest the time and energy that it would take to give it to you They will promise you anything that they think you want to hear But they will never follow it up with action It's just another way for them to pull you back into the relationship so that they can get what they want Your time and attention You will never get what you want from the narcissist Because most often they don't even have anything to give But if they can get you to believe that they do They will play along with it They will act like they're these amazing people Who have everything you want When really All they've got for you is more problems of disappointment Free They will get you involved in their drama The narcissist will get you involved in their drama As a way of pulling you back into the relationship They will make you believe that you have caused all of these problems for them by leaving They will make it seem like you abandoned them You ruined their lives And now you need to come back to fix it You need to come back to help or support them They will be very demanding They will try to coerce you back into the relationship by using force or threats They will make you believe that if you do not come back There will be serious consequences If they can get you to be afraid of what they might do It puts you under their control It makes you more willing to come back For They will tell you they love you The narcissist will tell you they love you They've always loved you They cannot live without you They will tell you whatever they think you want to hear Whatever they think will get you back They will say you're their soulmate They will say you're meant to be together They will pretend to be sorry for everything that they've done They will promise that they're going to change But again This is just future faking The narcissist doesn't really love you They never even took the time to get to know you But they will tell you whatever they think you want to hear If they believe that it will get you to return Five They will get other people to talk to you The narcissist will enforce their flying monkeys to contact you These might be people who they use to pressure you and to come back They will try to make you believe that the narcissist is threatening to do something if you do not return They will shift the blame onto you They will try to make you feel guilty They will try to put you in a state of fear To keep you under their control Or some people may think they are helping you They may have been manipulated by the narcissist And they may think that it is in your best interest for you to return They may not know what you have been through They may not know the whole story This is all to get you to contact the narcissist It's to get you to return to them The narcissist might try one of these tactics To get you back But now that you are aware of the signs You are more able to protect yourself It should help you to avoid falling for their lies If the narcissist tries to contact you Use the gray rock technique Observe don't absorb Respond don't react Don't give them any emotion Only talk is needed Don't let it develop into a full conversation Just respond with two or three words If you have no ties to the narcissist You can go no contact Take the focus off the narcissist And put it back on yourself Start taking care of yourself again Reach out to family or friends that you can trust The narcissist isolates you And takes up all of your time So that you don't have any time to take care of yourself You don't have any time to spend with anyone else So once you finally get away from the narcissist You can finally start living again You can finally be you Thank you for watching I hope this video has an interview Please like, comment, share and subscribe Click the bell icon to receive notifications For my future videos Check out the new Narc Survival website At www.narcsurvival.uk Where you can read my blog posts Book coaching sessions And join a support forum My PayPal link is in the video description Coaching inquiries You can email me at coaching at Narc Survival at www.narcsurvival.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon