 The biggest killer isn't always money being broke biggest killer in this world is loneliness It's a lot of science on this and loneliness is on the rise. So I'm traveling the world and Let me give you the simplest best life hack to make friends all around the world no matter where you go and Do it fast and you make the right? Vibe of friends, right your social circle you build a global social circle. So here's what I do I'm I'm In Europe right now, and you know, it's intimidating to make new friends My best friend is died, you know, it has me thinking a lot about Friendships and how they're hard to make quote-unquote, but that's a real limiting belief An Amish guy once told me, you know new friends are good But old friends are better and there's truth to that, right? but you need new friends because sometimes old friends are moving on or like I said my best friend died and Sadly, but here's the hack Because you got two parameters two constraints. You want to make new friends. You don't want it to be shallow global was great because you get all this like diverse kind of Mindset and you get all this eclectic would be the right word. I hate the word diverse now It's such a buzzword, but here's what I do Anyone you meet so here's the hack you make a little small talk and you say yeah I'm doing jujitsu class. I found a good teacher You want to go with me or I'm doing a Muay Thai class or I'm doing it going to the gym You can use the gym. Jim's not quite as novel remember humans have these 25 cognitive biases That that attract to their the human brain's attention So humans have this reward system and novelties huge So when you say Brazilian jujitsu or you say Muay Thai or you say even boxing like not that many people do that Now if you're not into those sports, you can swap it out with whatever Kayaking I just like like boxing jujitsu because there's usually group classes It's not that expensive to bring people and it's super novel But again, you can adjust this a little bit, but try this way and like here's the thing It's a there's this concept of self-selecting groups and adverse selection, right people who say no to that Either they're busy, which is fine But if they're not in that mindset of self-development, you know self-actualization Then good riddance if they say no, but you'll find people will be like ah I'll try that and then you go into like a group class or I yesterday did one with like four or five people From all around Europe that I just have met in different places and we did a boxing class And it's crazy. It actually builds camaraderie faster There's this science that when humans do hard things together I don't know if you ever heard of this like best place you can take someone on a date is like a roller coaster Because they say this rush of dopamine When you're next to it, it's like an anchoring so they start associating you with this rush So like even a horror movie works because even though it's a negative Rush, right court is all all this stuff. It's still anchors to you as kind of like Oh, remember them around this person. It's emotion inducing. So That's why I like to do a tough class like jiu-jitsu people are gonna feel uncomfortable most I mean, I've done it for many years, but the average person didn't ever even thought of it But it's in our consciousness like the average person in the world wants to be more fit Okay, and like I said, you can do the gym. I just find the gym to not be so novel So it's like, oh, I'll come to the gym with me Half the world's especially if you're in Europe is already going to the gym Maybe in America or not many people are in shape. You can say, you know the gym But this starts to build a social circle shared activity in something That's a little bit tough that gives that emotional that psychological rush that they then anchor on you as like I want to run around this person. I like my emotions change remember no matter what you think humans are a Emotional being by the way anybody who tells you what whichever your friends tell you they're highly logical is probably your most emotional friend There's a good book on this called Descartes error by the way on a side note saying it's not even possible for the human brain to function Without emotion So you we're not able to be spock from Star Trek or robotic as much as we try it would actually in that book It's a scientific book Descartes error talks about how basically brain function was shut down So when you're traveling the world making friends, the reason this hack works is because one If that self-selecting group and the people will say no is kind of the adverse selection You don't even want right they're not on that mazel hierarchy of needs trying to get to the top of self-actualization By trying new things right so you're gonna get a person who's a little bit of a risk-taker Right you don't want friends that are totally risk-averse. I mean you want some But you know Homo sapiens our ancestors the ones who survived and evolved had a little bit lower risk aversion They were able to move before The storm or before the Ice Age hit you know the migration of humans across the globe Shows that those who are a little bit open they call it in the hexaco, which is kind of the best personality Test in the world better than 16 personalities or Myers-Briggs these 25 facets of human behavior one of them is openness to new experience So and and intelligence has been linked to openness to new experience So by bringing up stuff like you want to go to jujitsu or Muay Thai like since most people haven't done it It's kind of subconsciously. I shouldn't say subconscious. You're inadvertently Selecting people who are willing to take a little bit of risk and it's not much So if that freaks them out on the risk barrier, you probably don't want to be in your social circle You're gonna need friends that are a little bit Open to some new ideas. So anyway, I hope this helps you, you know one thing I like about Scandinavia Scandinavia If you Google the least lonely people in the world, it's like Denmark Sweden, you know and the reason being I mean partly is it's a complex reason if you're an anthropologist And you study Viking culture even though we know Vikings as you know berserkers and this kind of aggressive plundering group, but really they were very Could almost say communal So if you go to a Scandinavian school, they foster this group mentality So I think the average Danish or Swedish person has like 12 friends the average American has like two Adult I'm talking about like people just like lose their friends So you have to work against this because as I said at the beginning of video all the money in the world Doesn't matter if you don't have anyone to enjoy it with Money best spent I look back and I've spent money on different things I'm kind of a mad scientist with life But like the expenses that I don't regret even if they were kind of extravagant are the ones like flying in my friends You know going on a global trip. So Grow your social circle. So yeah, the average Danish person. I think that's 12 friends. I'm average American. I was like two adult Like actual close friends. You see it. You go out in Scandinavia People are at big tables with friends for just like hours They're not just I got a restaurant On their phone getting a quick meal with maybe a buddy. They're like enjoying life So all money in the world doesn't matter if you don't have anybody to enjoy it with that's their science to that Like the actual marginal utility of wealth You can graph it with if you're in a bubble You know, imagine you're on Mars alone and you're the richest person. You have all this material stuff The famous billionaire the Greek billionaire. What was his name? I forget he married JFK's widow He said, um All the money in the world wouldn't matter if there wasn't women. Sorry, that's one take on the social thing But I mean friends So use this hack Make friends build your social circle. You should have at least 12 people in your phone That you talk to on a daily or weekly basis Unrelated to business or stuff just friends and not all of them shouldn't be family either Family is good. But you you know sometimes there's a friend that's Closer than a brother. That's a famous saying, you know, there's sometimes there's a friend that's closer than a brother Friendships if you study like dr. David buss is evolutionary psychology Families and friends have other social dynamics that sometimes make make them in conflict You know, leave a comment below Contributed conversation. What's a hack to make friends anywhere you go that I forgot about Contribute tell me what you agree or if you don't agree. What's something better than jujitsu? What's something better than kickboxing? By the way, I highly recommend you jump in my new 67 steps I made a new version of 67 steps. It's one of the most Widely purchased um self-development programs in history. 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