 In this video, I want to talk about how you're probably not having fun the right way Which is a strange thing to say but I see this From time to time with people when I ask them Are you having fun in your life? Usually when I'm trying to show them that how important it is to have fun if you want to be productive They show up with procrastination issues and having guilt-free fun Is one of the very first things we have to put into place if you are going to be productive But here's the point of this video is We don't know how to do that Because people often tell me Well, you know, I'll ask them well, what do you do for fun? Are you having fun? And they say yeah Yeah, yeah, yeah, I watch I watch movies update video games. I go for a walk. I play music. I go swimming. I do all these things And it's like oh well this person is already having fun. So, you know, I guess I can move on to the next thing here There's no need to worry about that until We delve a little deeper into that and we find out Here's the question. How do you feel when you're doing those things? And I want you to answer answer that question for yourself. How do you feel when you're having fun or doing these fun things and Very often the answer is, you know, I feel a bit guilty when I do that when I'm doing those things I'm not really enjoying it or they'll feel when I'm doing those things those fun things Which as I've said is essential for productivity What they'll say is I am second guessing myself all the time when I'm doing those things So I am at the swimming pool and I think and you know, I really should have been working on that report or They're working on the report and they're saying, you know, I really should have exercised this morning or I got to do that later So it's a thought or I should be doing it now or it's always second guessing what they're doing and thinking they should be doing something different to the thing they're currently doing But ultimately the most important thing is that they're feeling guilt About what they're doing or having not done enough of what it is that they're doing or needs to do later So the question is then we say, okay, well, look, that's actually not having fun That doesn't sound like fun because if you feel guilty how you haven't fun But the question comes up. Well, okay. Tell me the solution. How do I have fun? Because I I talk about it. Neil Fiori talks about it in his book also The importance of guilt-free play or Non-negotiable guilt-free fun. You could call it Well, here's the answer How do you have fun without guilt? You need to take it seriously Okay, isn't that almost an oxymoron? Have a serious attitude towards fun What I mean by that is we tend to Engage in these things that are fun But we kind of fall into them passively In order to remove guilt What we have to do is validate it. We have to be more intentional with it We have to prioritize it. We have to engage with it consciously Proactively rather than passively and it's in the doing it Intentionally and by that I mean, you know, the serious thing is scheduling it Setting aside time for it making sure that it's a part of your day and in doing that That validation or that proactive choosing of it or scheduling it is the thing that validates it. It makes it Worthy it makes it okay. It makes it Justified in our minds So this is just a way to say In order to get to the point where you are having guilt-free play non-negotiable guilt-free play It should be something that you are scheduling Especially if you have procrastination problems Because that little half-two voice in your mind that's saying you should be doing this should be doing that You have to do that you should have done it yesterday and it always leads to the second guessing and indecision all the time it will highlight I'm cause anxiety about the fact that you should be doing that thing that you don't really want to do Okay, I call it responsibility That's there's nothing wrong with that that there are things in life that we feel like we have to do well things that we don't really Always enjoy we see them as an obligation or responsibility and some of that in life is fine But there tends to be this thing of okay, I'm focusing it all the time and yeah I get that fun stuff later or I'll get that fun stuff if I've done X Y and Z in this responsibility stuff non-negotiable guilt-free play means It shouldn't be contingent on whether or not you've had a productive day non-negotiable Validated make it important make it just as at least equally important to your responsibility tasks So that is my suggestion for how you remove guilt around your play and my play I just mean it can be different things for different people, but the real central part of what it means to play is There's a few aspects to it. I in any way, I think if it the first aspect of it is it's restful It's rejuvenating It typically has no goal oriented energy around it in my book procrastination decoded I also refer to it as embracing your inner slob So it's those things that you know, you kind of feel oh well video games You know, I shouldn't be playing those those are kind of bad, right? And not really Not really. Maybe it'll work for you. Sometimes it helps people really relax There's no there's no bad activities necessarily right, I was assuming you're not being You know, obviously Do something dangerous or harmful for yourself? But video games watching movies it could be going for a walk. It could be doing things, but it shouldn't be stressful. It shouldn't be overly exerting yourself so that part of ourselves is not a bad part and The need for play and rest and relaxation needs to be taken against or be myself taken seriously and And you know for those people who are still in the fence about my approach to this I really want to just reach you right now if you are struggling with procrastination and you really want to get over this issue I Want you to listen to me Your problem isn't motivation Your problem is that you don't validate a very essentially important part of yourself you see it as Liability or you see it as a luxury that you may get around to eventually, but only if you're productive That is not the way to think about this. That is not a healthy attitude That is not the way productive people think And that was a surprise to me The more people I talk to I Realize that people are who are genuinely productive or even more than that people who are genuinely productive slash creative Tend to have a pretty healthy attitude towards rest and play so the invitation again guys Prioritize it schedule it see it is non negotiable for yourself that will remove guilt from these activities You're sanctioning in it. You're giving it the two thumbs up. Yes. This is okay now We're doing this on purpose. This is not something. I've just fallen into passively do that and That part of the shadow which I talked about in the past Comes out of the shadow. You're integrating this is a healthy part of yourself and now this other part that wants to be productive It's like there's no handbrake on in the car and There are still things in terms of Overcoming inertia that you'll have to deal with with procrastination I have talked about those before and I can talk about them again in terms of actually starting the work You know, but a big big part of this Is the lack of validation for guilt-free play? So just another invitation guys take it seriously If you really wanted to go to the next level with your productivity if you want to start reaching those goals You're more creative in your life Prioritize guilt-free play guys. Thanks a million as always for watching these videos. It means a lot to me and When you watch the video or if you like the video or subscribe to this channel it helps me reach more people and That's really what I'm focused on is is helping people to get this information because it's life-changing And it changed my life and it's changing the lives of people who are adopting this new paradigm about productivity So when you do that it really helps out and I appreciate it greatly Take care of yourself, and I'll see you in the next video. Bye for now