 na uamputuwa teahisha, kwenimisha hindi instagram kama miisim tuwa ku dance nisa ga tik tok midu wetato amani ni first ya kwa you find people use tik tok but they never done some tik tok but they always enjoy the content that is there so you don't have to do tik tok video for you to be on tik tok i can enjoy without that gives me hope Mwakani ma post just the other day on TikTok Zimi ni ni fatema wana Wala hai That day I heard a story Do you know what's your name? Okay, my name is Purity Gaki I am a teacher in Carlson International School I am also a guide at the Newkansela In my Instagram I am Purity Gaki Facebook Purity Gaki TikTok Purity Precious 1-1 And I am not yet in X Ya Okay, when it comes to guidance and counseling we are focusing on students mostly because I'm dealing with teenagers Where? Most of them they come from far countries like U.S. America and they've got so much issues that we We normally have some stages of development, maybe they have a family issue that we have to go through and then give them the timings. Yes Mashi daze to Zote Zawatu anze ni same Siyonage kama zneza kwa same Ni same Zunafa na na, they are the same scenarios like we have the family issues, they are all the same Like we have Religionships at home The single mother The ones who are staying with their mothers only So these are some of the rampant issues that we are currently having Also we've got the issues about vaping Gaysim And lesbiansim This is another kind of thing which is trending among the international schools that we are holding We are trying to help them so that they can adapt to the environment That they can fit into the environment that we are in in Kenya I never have spared it It's not easy Yes We have to encounter this every now and then And they may not pass before we have heard of such issues But because of the trainings, the sessions that we held with them We are able to come and maybe we are taking them somewhere I have so many questions So many questions but I want to link them to the topic of the day Yes Okay Let me first introduce the question We have been trying to get you to go over there on our socials Without actually telling you the story But the ask of the day is The office is dirty talk So that colleague when you open a jokestafu Mikiwa jobu kujas ama ana bo So let's for example say this is a school setting Does that come off as harassment? Amani joks too Okay to some extent it becomes a joke To some extent it may be personal But we have to wait on how someone has put that joke Like for instance you take an issue where Someone may come shouting in the staff room And all of you are busy Maybe you have some deadlines to meet And someone shouts all over Is disturbing you Is tapping you Picking your pens Maybe it's too much at the end of time And you are marking the papers You have deadlines to meet You have the report forms to prepare And then this guy or anyone comes And starts interrupting you Then this becomes a joke But to some extent also it distracts you From that working mood And then at least you feel like You are just said to know you are okay To some extent I am saying It's positive or negative Because it will distract you At least now you are able to Come back to the normal life setup Where you are not having so much pressure Too much pressure that you are working on And to some extent also it will waste for you time Maybe you are targeting And by this time Actually I teach Kiswile Geography I have to mark 11 papers all of them By the time break you think Na fukiri ya Na fani kweni me maliza ii 11 papers So you may not meet your target As a person or as a person So sometimes na kwenga jokes Na kwenga jokes Ya true Like for example when someone comes and tells you You look nice today You take it in a positive way But if you overdo it Becomes to become negative Which will affect your working Like I feel for example If you are working with someone And then the jokes get to be too much They will start looking like See na zam fani iwi na Ta fani akito yote So it gets to other extents That you can't get out of it Yes, especially if someone is superior They can undermine you Like totally Buna tuongi ni kama mene na kusumbu na imhansam Let's assume No, it's okay Let me give you my handsome face Una dukuna dukuna Ya true Like even someone telling you A beautiful girl touching you You feel nice But na zam It's too much They start visualizing you every time Telling you nasty things It gets to a point where It gets out of hand And it affects the working In the center Aita kana utaki kwenga job matema Mga mukutana kwanza Mga tuge story Naeza Kuna weni wuna click na utu Right Aita kwa that intense Akuna yengina they overdo it Once you overdo it That's the problem Yes Even you can see your work matema You look nice today You smell good Ya, but if you take it to other levels At work can be very messy That leads me to another question But before I ask the question That I want to ask kindly What I saw on Facebook The comments So we have Vincent To go to says Kidi mani in Nenda na wakati I like your handle Says mimi ndani Jamal Present Obie njistinia Nmeku wuna Binjwe Franklian Says you need to Okay, see you Kelvin Karanta Excuse me Nyandratko Okay, now this is about The previous guest Strength of a woman Of crush amengi I will convey the message Westi Gibson says Loving the show Mm-hmm We have on Dennis The yes We like those people When you are on get Chapo They keep you going Bana He says Hashtag when the morning Good morning Yana kwangatusa Whu nijaz Sana Nkama kilofisik Ako nahokamitum moja Mm-hmm Dennis Nkasa says Natuzo Nkwa na Muesi In Bungama County We appreciate you Sami Allen says Bila huyum Job day in Abou It's boring At first Kipitum says Good morning Wait for a fortune From south B Ngo B Whu nijaz Baya sana We are broad broad are hey y y Now, for example, nituwa na flat, flat na wewa ya naongi ya chafuchafu ki doga maikushikam kono kasi kasi ahoka feeling na lugengu na ituwa jih, that that ka, yuki mani didi, amakutu didi wakua, that that ka feeling that you feel when you know the goose bumps in ituwa, now what is it in your language, yes, kindly So now, akshafari waza, alafu manze pichana waka girl friend, waka boy friend Ikosa wahiwa, amam manza kwa overdo? No, ikosa wahiwa, I think that's where we're getting drunk, you can have an office bee, so you always wake up in the morning to go meet that office bee of yours, but if you have a office bee, I don't think you'd like jokes from other people because you know that you have that one person So energy, bebe wakua li ya kini kwa saia na nda kwa mbe office bee, bebe ebu che kimi, kwa saia na naku manesha message Why you think you're part of this? Okay, I think to me, ikwa sawa, when you have someone who maybe it's your bee in the office or someone new you get along with them, sometimes you come from home, you go so much pressure, you have moonswing and once you meet the person you are able to interact in an open way and therefore it becomes easier for you even to run the day because you not carry the stresses that you went from home to work, therefore you are able to balance between the working home because of this person, maybe the person is muna klik na e na kutu sawa, maybe the jokes he brings, they are kib, they are knives for you and you feel full of life Kedoga kwa wanzi kupika lanshia watua wili Ana Ya kwa wana kwa day, since you're in office today Which brings me to my next question, is it inappropriate to date a kawakwa? if you're in a kawakwa then you're like writing a joke In this case what i feel if it was in the olden days it would be like so inappropriate But right now people are doing it I think it's for you and your person to know the standard you set when it work If you have personal things with me, let it sort it at home I think it's the boundary you create between you two people When it's work, it's work We are not joking about it Do you think it would work? There's a meme that says Luluhasan is the only female who knows where her husband is at all times Like wakiwa job, wote wako job She's the only woman in this lifetime who knows where her husband is all the time But sometimes it's a bit hard for our professions And I imagine for you too, when you go professions that need human contact Like nenda job, lazima ni kwen me fry That's why she says it costs her energy Nani me toka heartbreak maybe For all you know ni kwa heartbroken buwa na Amal ni konja, there's just something happening but I have to mask it Imagine having a bae in the office Or even worse, mutu anze kuflats na e Bele aku Makosa ifa ni keibisa sa alafut Okay, to some extent it becomes stressful Let's say you are dating someone and this person as you say maybe starts flirting someone else that you can see and you know for sure this might be and we are moving somewhere It gives you that issue of becoming now this person is doing this because we are dating or we having him Then you are left wondering kundis person Anani fanyama darawa mani nini And this may bring conflict between two of you to some extent That was signed It may be tedious in the manner that you have to be cautious on some of the things that you've been that stuff from e manze uwezi fanya kitwenye uta fanya kasi rike kwa sababu Yes, so you find yourself even you are isolating yourself from other people because you cannot even have a discussion with others since you feel if I say this I will perceive it how will you take it will it be positive or negative So you find yourself excluding yourself sometimes you are all alone because you don't want him to be hungry or you don't want to bring anything that will bring conflict among you between you Yes, and at the other time also you need to be so cautious about how you work because this is where you are getting your daily brain maybe let's say you done the dating and everything and you are now moving to the next step of marrying this is where you are getting the daily brain therefore you need to work as you know these are family but not a dating site anymore Yeah, I like the way it works Yes Then how you feel about it So basically you don't support it dating in the work space I support it because socially most of the time you are in the office that's your working area from let's say you reported work at 7 live at 4 the entire time you've been there from Monday to Friday then only two days that you have for yourself So where you going to get these people that you'll date you can get them from the work Ya nini, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday Thursday, Friday Saturday, when they date Sunday, when they charge Kwa ni stachok api amemi Kwa ni stangaliwa na monomimimi kwa ni tese, tese place James, speak to me Personally if you it works honestly speaking if you found your person in the work space what do you do you have to find those dynamics that's gonna work for you alternatively you can look for a job somewhere else so that you can enjoy that kwa space you want not seeing your person every day alternatively That's a lot Amma piai atafute Ya nini siza tumaanza kusema where you found me here amma siju because of my pens but also how comes so many things Guys, guys Alright Now before they tell me I don't have a lot of time left Do you have any experiences in the office of how okay definitely ju watua mi agri nani kama piai na nini mi pithana nazo what are some of the ones that were okay that you could condone and some that were just no money you unovado and when does it pass to the point that unanda kum report now this one is harassing me I need now human resources to come in or I need some authority to come in and help me Yes please Personally I feel if you want to have an office have someone you in the same level of work I don't believe having an office is better if you have someone superior because that may end up being very bad because at times if he is tired of you undermining you can overwork you but someone in the same phase brings you lunch does the small small things and help you in a project can like help you if you get your work space so yeah Just come home dosing tu anakanga lehando Wachia om kule tukwa machu One life na kudega na promises I'll help you get promoted I know people trust me baby You see how sweet it is the same way it's gonna be when it starts being messy when it starts overworking you and telling you it's five you're supposed to clock out at five brings you more work at five what are you gonna do about it you'll get messy Just the way it is so sweet it's gonna be also messy Can I tell you a story of when I triggered Mahali I used to work as a waitress in a certain restaurant so I met her I left with the manager it was a random like me when I went to work I called the guys and then I was told ok kujana kusik so I started so I'm friendly and I want to get to know people around Pindu to pimane but it's kinda drug pimana sometimes see must move kupimane za kwangalia tukwomba I did not have that wisdom at that time so kusimoja had it kinda to hang out na watwangu see I brought work into my personal space Makosa number one Just kumamaliza kupimana kumamaliza kupimana how his personality is if he is volatile or something so I think he came and thought now hey Val Val nam suha and gave a box but me say kwa apu I truly was not they didn't want me to at that time but I was just not into it weh ili ma kasi rikon ili receive kasi amon ili kwa kuh wait on tables nili jiku ta mimin do na pigade kihadi na funguwa na kafu and extra two hours alafu kuna zones when restaurants are big kuna zones nili kwa na jipata all of them at once nasiwezi kata apani kikandzo kata higenda kwa shida it was very difficult guys kata vene tu mani fumbu that is a memory I had lost somewhere okay now back to the question please okay I was saying I also think to some extent just if you have been in office bay did someone who is in your level because at the moment you go to someone who is superior someone who has an office somewhere in that job that you are working in it comes with a lot of main disadvantages first you love to be there is the issue of pressure if there is any conflict that you held before with this person or if you have got any disagreement with this person it all comes to work because this is the place that you are meeting and then the person will start now harassing you and it can go to an extent of you being sent away from the work so maybe if you are dating you have an office bay have someone who is in your level who have got their offices who can say if I say today purity you are out yes so when it is easier when you have someone you can at least discuss come the issue and you are able to come to conclusion in that funny thing is I've always imagined that it's one way like manome anakutaputa kama dem if you do not comply or if you don't enter books for lack of a better phrase shida but I recently heard of a dude who went through the same thing like mahansam, vahansam young man one of his bosses kwaatsuna mwangalei kwaatsuna mwangalei ahizi and that's how the dude just even ata ili kwa taftekazi after that because he was a really good intern I would like to assume but ili bidi atoke what are we going to do? madamsikutaki mumama after benten and why are they usually buried by the way with children what is the problem why is it like that why is it like that what happens if they don't pursuing you but it's them pursuing you and they are pursuing you by force what do you do in that situation now that's the tricky part especially if where you are working the results have HR the owner is everything so that one would be so hard because you can't even address them you cannot air out your issues so at times you tend to just work with the pressure that you have as you look for something better but there is no alternative either you give in or you opt out naoneza give wo jupato in more problems naoneza maybe you could have just worked out for you so well tfotaf buona tfotaf this is never easy as well I think it's the same if they are the ones who are pursuing you you may have too much pressure from the same bearing in mind this person is the one who says the ones who bring the rules and the regulations to be followed by all the workers and you are among the workers and he is seeing you in another way he wants to maybe date you and have the staff and you know even if you give in this person maybe will see someone else in the same job so to some extent as Jena say you just work with the pressure but you look for something else to do so that you can exit because finally you will love to be sent away even if you don't want because the pressure that you will be given so that you can give in or maybe become the way that he wants you will not work with it so better you look for something else rather than to be sent away from the work unexpectedly kwa mrembo na kwa mahansa kwa shinda kwa kufo we gotta wind this up it has been a very interesting conversation let me say it please don't forget to give in to the work where you can give in but we will see over and funny thing is let's say kwa mrembo na kwa mahansa but purity as gay is a number but if you don't want to give in to me go find a room go get a room guys thank you so much both of you thank you thank you let's start with you Jay thank you so much for having me here today these things need people need to talk about them more because people go through a lot of work spaces it's the way they don't have the freedom and the capacity to talk about it so yeah thank you so much and the topic was nice it was a pleasure being here thank you I think this is something that is talked about we need to have some platform surely for the work for the work that we do because these are things that are there they will be there in as much as we have the gender that is the female and male and therefore we need actually the women are the ones who are vulnerable in this situation because in most cases we are the ones who are we are being chased by these men so it gives us to come up with a certain platform that the people who are working the gender which is being taken advantage of so that we can help them and we can create for them somewhere where they can air out their issues it was nice being here at least we are able now to open up the platform for the people who are working in different areas so that they are able to air out their views thank you so very much Jane and beauty one more time before we get done with you here on white in the morning let me wrap it up now finish wrapping we will put a bow on it and call it a day but we told you it's going to be content so even after the show I encourage you to stay here on white but in the meantime