 You get a girl who's a different. Her typical body language is going to be back turns. She's going to not look at us in the eyes. She's going to look around a little bit. But a typical non-investing body language, right? If you remember back to Commandment 3, we're going to be shan away at her. We're literally going to be constantly trying to keep this going, talking to a wall almost. So we have to battle this or make up for this by mirroring what she's doing with her body language. So you're going to fight your instinct to invest more with your body. All it's going to do is make her feel uncomfortable. It's rapport seeking. If she turns a little away from you and you just come up more to try to talk to her some more, it's going to go downhill. So if the girl's here and I see her do this a little bit and I'm facing her, I'm going to keep talking to do this. I'm just going to literally kind of mirror her. Now what happens? I know some of you, I have this question because it haunted me for a while. What happens if the girl literally does one of these? Like she turns almost completely away from me, right? I can't just talk to her like this. That's just weird. So in that case, I'll just reposition. I have feet. I can move. So many people don't think they have feet when they go and talk to a girl. They literally just, I have to stand here and I can move this way and do things with my arms but these are planted, all right? I think I'm like Bruce Lee. I want to be moving around. I want to be positioning myself wherever I see fit. So if a girl comes over here facing this way, I'm just going to move and talk to her this way. I'm just going to position myself right in front of where she's pointing. Make sense? You can move. Don't think you can. The idea is that the verbals and your nonverbals cancel out. It's almost like a push-pull. With my nonverbals, I'm matching her a difference. I couldn't, you know, I don't care at all. These are concepts like false time constraints come in or that body rocking. I'm about to leave any second. But verbally, I'm committing. I'm blasting things off. I'm friendly with her. The other thing, it was kind of a, you know, it messed my mind a little bit because in a community, you always hear stuff about make strong eye contact. Always make really strong eye contact. This is the one time we have to watch this. I noticed I got much better results when I would have my eyes wandered around, when I wouldn't like, lately look with her right in the eyes. When I did make eye contact, I kept it. And if she looked at me, I would keep it. And I would keep that strong because I wanted that contact. But if she would break off, it became very rapport seeking for me to constantly try to make eye contact with her. And staring at her, I would just mirror. I'd break off, keep talking like I'm ADD and something else caught my attention and then go back and then go off again. You gotta counterbalance your verbals with your nonverbals. You can't just go all in and try to do engage rapport seeking. You have to balance this. All right, it's kind of a tightrope act. I'm not gonna lie. On one hand, you're plowing in there. You're staying, you're keeping the set going. You're constantly talking. On the other hand, I could walk away any minute. I want nothing from you, yet I have to keep talking to you in a friendly way because that's just kind of guy I am. But I'm not doing anything game to try to pick you up. It's very much a tightrope act. All right, commandment number six. Now I'll show you social trap questions. All right, this is the first time we're gonna try and really bait her to invest. We can do nothing if we're just the ones plowing and talking. We gotta start doing things to get her involved in this interaction. So, what is social trap question? It's questions that creates feeling of social obligation. It's things that she just feels a need to address or say. It's just really rude or really awkward for her not to. I'm gonna give you a secret about women. They can't handle feeling miscalibrated more than you do. Like, if we do something miscalibrated, we're like, oh, fuck. You know, we're like, all right, that sucks. If a girl thinks she's doing something miscalibrated or something that's socially awkward, it like haunts her. They have to be socially appropriate. They put so much weight on this. So much of my game, so much of what I do is based on punishing a girl by making her think she's being socially inappropriate. She's being miscalibrated because then she feels a real hard instinctual need to fix that. And that helps bait her to invest. That helps bait her to chase. So, what are some examples of questions? One you should, one almost everyone here will probably know if they've read some any sort of stuff on this, which is, so how do you all know each other? There's a reason this line has been used since 2002 and it's still being told everybody. There's a good reason, because it works. It gets them opening up. It's like, before they weren't giving you anything, they feel obligated like, well, okay, I know her through college, you know, whatever. They start explaining the dynamics. Another one could be, which one of you is more outgoing? All right, why do you say that? Get them explained, open in question. Or something simple, like, I'm thinking of switching out my usual checking code drink tonight. Any suggestions? You can be like, no. It could, but then you can just be like, well, what are you drinking? It gets them to open up and start talking to you. That's not in the typical interview format. Where are you from? What do you do? What's your name? You're gonna have a poor seeking. It's more like I'm just being social and asking these normal friendly questions that ask to anybody. It always comes under the guise of polite curiosity. I'm not coming in gaming. My usual approach, again, I wanna stress this, is I will come and approach a girl, assuming she's gonna be attracted to me. Assuming it's gonna be on, she's gonna love me, it's gonna be playful, it's gonna be great. And then I'm gonna see there's the indifference there and it's not happening that way. And then I go back and I go screw any try of attraction stuff, screw trying to do any gaming stuff, comfort issue, I'm going back, I'm just gonna be social polite, friendly guy and get her just talking to me. So all this has to be under that polite curiosity frame. These social trap questions are gonna be very situational. I gave you some standard ones, but more often than not, it's gonna be what's going on in that group. It's gonna be stuff on the current events, observations you're making about her. It's gonna be on the things that she said or the way she's moving or acting. There's gonna be something that triggers your mind of, this is a question I should ask this girl. And you need to bait this out of her. This is a bait tactic right now, this commandment. So do it by encourage your motions. Look her expectantly. So for example, what did you do yesterday? Yeah. And? Well, you're walking around. Mm-hmm, what kind of restaurants? Do you guys see how he's doing that? All right, all I'm doing is encourage your motions, quick, simple questions. And how? Restaurants? Really small little things. The entire time, looking expectantly, not in my head. Like, yes, tell me more. What else? It gives you that feeling, and hopefully you felt that pressure also of, oh, okay, I got it. What else do I say here? Right, and that's the feeling I want to create in that girl, that little bit of nervousness. That feeling of, oh, maybe I'm doing something wrong here. Maybe I'm the one being uncalibrated. Even if the girl doesn't like you, and she's feeling different, she wants to know in her mind, I'm calibrated. I'm doing the right kind of things. So again, this is how you're baiting her to do it. But again, if you show her that you see the indifference, she's gonna be like, oh, that is calibrated. He knows I'm being indif, he knows I don't like him. So why would he keep talking to me? He must be a loser, so screw off. If you keep doing it though, if you keep talking to that friendly vibe, you don't acknowledge it, and you start baiting her this way, she starts opening up without realizing she's opening up.