 We start with the name of Allah, the Most Merciful, the Most Beneficent, the Most Kind. However, we translate those names, the Al-Rahman, the University, the Merciful, and the Al-Rahim, the Particularly Merciful. Among the mercies that Allah has manifest onto us is that He has made us Insan. He has made us Insan, and Insan, we translate as mankind, man, but where it comes from, there is a difference of opinion whether Insan comes from Nessia to forget. In our nature, Insan is to forget. Or if it comes from Uns, if it comes from intimacy, sociability, and both of those things are found in Insan, that we are consistently forgetful and we seek sociability, we seek intimacy with others. And so among the mercies that Allah has manifest onto us is that He has given us this desire to be with others, to have Sohbah, to have positive companionship. And had it not been for this companionship had Allah not given us this, we would have found ourselves constricted to find ourselves left to our own devices to ourselves with no support from one another. With no means to show love to one another and to receive love from one another. With no means to show the other generosity and no means to receive generosity from others. We would not have seen and have an example of others to remind us of where we are deficient and seen the deficiencies of others to remind ourselves where we need to improve ourselves and where we need to seek Allah's protection from other deficiencies that we see in others. And we don't see deficiencies in others except that we first know that it's in ourselves, that we don't see ostentation showing off, except that we recognize that first this is a quality that can be inside me. And on the other hand we don't see generosity in someone else and appreciate it except that we realize that that is perhaps something that we could do. And so that we love generosity from others and we despise ostentation and arrogance for these lowly qualities, these lowly traits in others. And we know that the Prophet ﷺ said that none of you truly believe until you love for your brother, until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself. And so we love the sociability for ourselves. We like good company and we like to receive the benefits of good company. But we often don't recognize that perhaps our company is not beneficial or good for others. And so in this light Imam Abu Hassan Al-Shadr i Rahimullah Ta'ala, one of the great scholars of this tradition says Don't have companionship with anyone except that they have four traits in them. And judo min al-qilla generosity, imposity. When there's little, when there's little and that person is still generous that's a beautiful quality. Number one, that quality. Don't have companionship of anyone except that they have that quality in them. And then number two, and to have and to pardon or overlook iniquity, oppression. When your rights are trampled, someone who overlooks those occurrences, that's a beautiful quality that forgiveness that people have for others. And patience during tribulations. Patience when calamity strikes, that they're not people who complain. Something wrong is something wrong in their life and then all of a sudden it's a bunch of complaints. Nobody likes hearing complaints, right? We complain to people, either people don't like hearing our complaints or they might find themselves a bit comforted that their love, that their situation is better than yours. They're comfortable with your complaint and the situation or there's nothing they can do about it and they sit there and listen. Our complaint is towards Allah. And then the fourth quality, every law, contentment with the divine decree. And these last two going hand in hand. Patience with tribulations and contentment, pleasure with the divine decree that whatever Allah did He did and I'm not going to complain about it, that's what Allah manifests and I'm content with that. And so these four things, the point of this is not for us to look onto others and see where are people missing these four qualities. The point of these is that if we search for these four qualities and others, if we want to find it in others, we should first find it in ourselves, that we like to find generosity in others, we like to find pardon when we make mistakes from others, we don't like hearing complaints, we like when people are patient with us and we like when people are content with us or content with the decree of Allah that we don't like their complaints. But if we want that for ourselves, then we should love the same thing for our brother and for our sister, that the other should receive the same sort of pardoning, that same sort of forgiveness, that same, you know, the overlooking, the same generosity that you, right, that munificence, that generosity that comes from when somebody asks you and there's several types of generosity you can give someone and can ask you and you might say, okay, I can give you, or somebody can ask you and your face can be beaming with joy and you're happy to give. And so this, we might tell ourselves, is a bit difficult on the ego, a bit difficult on the nefs, a bit difficult on the self, right, that somebody steps on your toes and to overlook that, or somebody asks you for something and then you want to depart with it is difficult, that we see it as our, we see it as our, as our, as our property when someone asks and we say, okay, I'm doing this person in favor by giving them, right, or when we have patience, we see that as some sort of trait that it takes from our ego to have that patience or to be content even when things don't go the way we want. And so we might complain and say, yeah, those things are good, but it's difficult on the self. And if then that's the concern, then the portion for the self is that if there is Jude, if there is generosity with others, Allah shows generosity to us on the day when we need the generosity most. On the last day, when we're standing in front of Allah and we know that the deeds we've come with and we know the quality that we put into our deeds and the attentions we had around our deeds, when we need that generosity most, when we know that those deeds, number one, were created by Allah, that He allowed us through those deeds and then He's buying them back at a price higher than their worth. On that day, we need that generosity of Allah. So we show generosity with others. And then we find ourselves receiving that generosity on that day. Similarly, when we overlook the iniquity of others, when people overstep their bounds or step on our toes, when we look over that from others, that Allah overlooks on the day of judgment when we're more in need of overlooking. That a few rights, a few comforts in the dunya, if somebody calls you something that you don't like to be called, if somebody bumps into you or so on, whatever you can imagine, wherever it may be where there's some sort of iniquity of current, if we overlook that and say for the sake of Allah, I'm overlooking that because this is what Allah loves. On the day of judgment for ourselves, we find that Allah pardons. The things that Allah didn't love that we did, the times that we transgressed against Allah when we had iniquity against Allah, when we oppressed ourselves against Allah, then Allah overlooks that. And patience, when we're patient with people here, then that patience that we see with Allah, the most patient who is patient with our wrongs and our transgressions time and time again and gave us chance over and over again to correct ourselves and forgave and overlooked, then that when we need that patience for those transgressions, it'll manifest on that day. And then the lila, the contentment or pleasure when there's no pleasure that can save us except the pleasure of Allah on that day, then the pleasure of so and so and this person and that person won't do anything that if we please that person and this person, but we didn't please Allah then we didn't recognize that what Allah wants to do, what Allah wants to do, the Allah and his messenger, so Allah wants to have more right to be pleased. On that day, then Allah's pleasure, that pleasure we need the most, that pleasure will be shown to us. So if these four traits of companionship, a good suhba, if we find it difficult on ourselves and it's difficult for our ego, difficult for our lower selves, difficult for our souls to do these four things, then we should remember that there's something in it for us as well. So long as it's coupled with the sincerity that is sought from us. I'll say this in Arabic This is the four traits that we look for in other people. And we seek protection from the harms of the opposite of these four. From people taking us into account when we do something wrong. From people being stingy with us. From people being impatient with us. From people being displeased with us. Uncontent with us. Again, the point of this is not to look to others and see what do I need to look for for good companionship. The point is how do I become a good companion of others? Allah has placed me on this earth amongst other people. And we're going to be around other people, whether it's our families or our co-workers or our friends, whoever it is, you're going to be around other people. And if we're not able to make ourselves good companions, if we're not able to find the quality of good Suhba, to be the source of good Suhba for others, then it's hard to expect that others be good Suhba to us. And our Eman is not complete until we're good Suhba to others because we love to be good Suhba, good companionship for others. But until we love that others be good companions to us but until we are good companions to others, our Eman is incomplete, as the Prophet said as we mentioned earlier, that nobody truly believes. Their faith is incomplete. Their belief is there, but their faith is incomplete. It's not perfect faith. There's many a hadith like this, right? They're not going to be truly believed until such and such and such and so and so. There come in a hadith. There's many of them. But amongst this, amongst these a hadith that is integral to us being inside, being so the social animal, the animal that is social with others, that is integral to that is to become good companions of others. So that when there is no companion and there is no one, there's no sahib, there's no bani, there's no ummihi wa abii, there's no companion, there's no children, there's no mother, there's no father on that day, that the only person who can be our sahib is Allah Azza wa Jalla. The only person who can look over us and the only companionship that we look forward to is Allah Azza wa Jalla. And then that companionship manifests itself to us if we were good companions here. So may Allah make us people of positive sahibah. May Allah make us the people who are who are generous and receive generosity. May Allah make us the people who see ourselves as protecting others from our harm when we distance ourselves from others rather than protecting ourselves from the harms of others. May Allah make us the people who have who have pardon and forgiveness for others so that we receive His pardon and His forgiveness both in the dunya and the akhirah. May Allah make us the people who have sabr so that we have His ma'iyah, that we have the proximity of Allah. Inna Allah al-Asabireen. May Allah make us the people who have that sabr so that we are counted amongst the sabireen so that Allah is with us in the dunya and in the akhirah. May Allah make us the people who are of ridah so that we enter into His paradise with complete pleasure and contentment when Allah says insha'Allah say to us Ya Yatuhannasunga Fa Inna Injiri Ina Rabbi Kirallia Tamardiyya O tranquil soul return to your Lord both pleased and pleased pleasing Fadukhuni Fi Ibadih, Fadukhuni Jannati and enter into the ranks of my servants and enter my paradise. So may Allah make us the people who enter both pleased and pleasing may Allah make us the people who recognize these character traits in ourselves may Allah make us the people who look for these traits in ourselves before we look for it in others may Allah make us the people who have patience upon the commandments and the prohibitions that Allah has given us may Allah make us the people who have no source of peace other than to Him so we say Wa Minka As-Salaam Wa Minka As-Salaam Wa Minka As-Salaam Wa Minka As-Salaam Wa Minka As-Salaam Wa Minka As-Salaam Wa Minka As-Salaam Wa Minka As-Salaam Wa Minka As-Salaam Wa Minka As-Salaam Wa Minka As-Salaam Wa Minka As-Salaam Wa Minka As-Salaam Wa Minka As-Salaam Wa Minka As-Salaam Wa Minka As-Salaam Wa Minka As-Salaam Wa Minka As-Salaam Wa Minka As-Salaam Wa Minka As-Salaam Wa Minka As-Salaam Wa Minka As-Salaam Wa Minka As-Salaam Allah, Allah's appreciation of the indications and allocations on the first teacher, the teacher of all teachers, the Prophet ﷺ and Allah says, إِنَّ اللَّهُ مَلَا اِكْتَ الْسَلُونَ عَلَى الْنَبِ يَا أَيُّهُنَّ الْهِنَّ اَمْنَ صَلُّوا عَلِيْهُمْ تَسْلِمَ تَسْلِمَا Allahumma, al-Saniyya, al-Saidana Muhammad, wa ala al-Ari Sayyidina Muhammad, wa ala al-Aswaji Sayyidina Muhammad, wa ala al-Akhlabi Sayyidina Muhammad, wa ala al-Ansari Sayyidina Muhammad, wa ala al-Ata'i Sayyidina Muhammad, wa ala unumma Sayyidina Muhammad, wa ala al-Ari Fasad Al-Saniyya Ali, إِنَّ اللَّهِ إِمُرْ بِالْعَدْنِ وَالإِخْسَانِ وَإِتَا إِدْا القُرْبَى وَيَنْهَا عَلِيْهُمْ فَحْشَائِي وَالْمُمْتِقَ الْلَلِيْهِ يَعِلُبْنَ عَلَبْنْ تَلَكْتَرُونَ وَذْكُرُ اللهِ اذْكُرْكُمْ مُمْ مَرْ مَرْ مَرْ مَرْ يُوْبَ وَذْعُوْهِ يَسْتَجَبْ لَفْمْ قَالَفْنِ وَالْمِوْ اَنْسْرِ يُوْبَ