 Hey what's up you guys welcome back to my channel if you're new here hi hello I'm Lydia and as I know I'm ill so please bear with me in this video. Today I thought we could talk about BPD and relationships. Now I'm someone who has BPD and other diagnosis which if you're interested in that I did make a video a while back talking about my diagnosis. There's on my care plan which I'll link up there. So BPD and relationship is an interesting subject because not everyone would BPD struggle with these thoughts and feelings. I'm someone who does struggle with relationships and BPD. Relationships are complicated. We've got friendships, we've got lovers, partners, whatever you want to call them. Family. I know personally I draw relationships a lot but it's not something that I just don't see the need to have a certain relationship. I don't have friends really so I don't have friends. Everyone that I had friends that I had friends who have walked down my life. My ear needs to pop. The reason I wanted to talk about this is because it can lead to serious issues if it doesn't work out. Let's start with love and relationships. So you're in a relationship and then suddenly it breaks up as you break up with. If they are BPD it's good to affect them because we all fear a random man and maintaining a relationship is like a full-time job because you put 100% effort into this relationship and suddenly it breaks down and you left feeling abandoned. It's quite a family relationship. We all have a family. Whether we talk to a family or not is another thing. Using my own experience here, I got into an argument with my mom and my stepdad where I outed everything that ever happened to me on Facebook and how they treated me. They basically kicked me out and they drove me all the way back to London and I made a video which I will link up there saying I couldn't cut my family off because I felt so hurt. I made a video saying how I was going to cut them off. I'm so not sure I did end up doing that. I get on a lot better with my family now. I'm living in supported living. My point is, is relationships BPD are hard and we go to extremes. We can hate you and we can love you but you don't get both. It's one or the other and it can change so I don't know. BPD has so many symptoms that integrate with each other. Relationships and abandonment hit the home together. I don't know, relationships and BPD are hard and really in the sand. When I said we can love you, we can hate you. There isn't much middle ground. Anyway, that's all I've got for this video. If you have any further comments related to this, let me know in the comments down below. I want to know your opinion. Also, if you want to support the channel, you can do so on Patreon which is linked up there or PayPal for a one-time donation which is linked in the description down below. Thanks for watching and I'll see you in my next video. Peace.