 Well hello and welcome to Understand Men Now. I'm Jonathan Asley of JonathanAsley.com and I'm so excited to be shooting this short video for you today. Our topic, trust this emotion when it comes to choosing men. It looks like my buttons weren't on there. Trust this emotion when it comes to choosing men. Really quickly, if you're new to my YouTube channel and this content resonates with you after watching this video, this content resonates with you and you feel like you'd like to talk to a coach, check out the link below to schedule a discovery call with me to see if working with the coach is right for you. Okay, trust this emotion when it comes to choosing men. So I have a little story to share with you. And by the way, for the record, I'm actually single. I'm not in a relationship right now. I am divorced. I went through divorce. I had a significant relationship but at this moment in time I'm single. That doesn't make me flawed. That doesn't make me incapable of giving advice. Okay, and a lot of people can judge why that's the case. Most people don't realize that I lost my son Connor two years ago and it was a very traumatic event. So I'm really rebuilding my life since then. But why share this with you that I'm single is recently I was interacting with a woman. She emailed me on a dating site. We exchanged a few emails together and then we just jumped on. I said, would you like to talk on the phone? She said, yes, great. We got on the telephone. We had this great what I thought was a great two hour conversation. Okay, and we planned a date like five days later. And then I said, Hey, would you like to talk on the phone again before we meet? And she goes, Sure. And we got on the phone a couple days later. And I just felt her energy flat. I felt I felt something. It wasn't so much that let me backtrack the conversation was flat, not her energy. The conversation was flat. And I got off the phone, I said, you know what, something doesn't feel right. Just that's it. Something doesn't feel right. And then I said, I bet you anything she cancels on me. I don't know why I just had this gut feeling this gut feeling. Sure enough, two days later, I got a message. I'm not feeling well, I have to cancel. Now there wasn't an apology I have to cancel. There wasn't I'm looking forward to reconnecting with you. She just canceled it. And I said, Hey, I hope you're feeling better. And then I followed up with maybe we should, you know, let's connect when you feel better. And then when I did that flat, nothing. So now here's what's interesting. When I said something feels off, I did two things in my head. I said, I wonder if she met another guy. Like that was the first place I went. I bet you she met another guy. I just had this feeling, even though she hadn't canceled the date yet, I had that feeling. Or I wonder if something about me turned her off. Now, this was my ego trying to rationalize the feeling of something just felt off, just something felt off. And so what I'm leaning into today, leaning in, what I'm leaning in today in this piggybacks from a previous video I had, is learning this emotion is your gut. This, this emotion is your feeling, your gut feelings. Our gut is speaking to us all the time. The problem is, we then try to rationalize what's going on with our gut with our head, we project things, we make up stories. Now, quite frankly, she could have met another guy, or she might have been turned off by me. It could be very valid the stories I came up with. Okay, or something else happened. Most likely it's one of those two things. But we have to be careful of the stories we make up associated with our gut, because this emotion is simply a feeling of something is, is feels right or feels off. Something, I don't want to use the word right, something feels on or something feels off. When something feels off, that's the time to really check in with yourself. But the problem is, most of us are clouded with our ego. This is why I highly recommend the book, Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Joe Dispenza, Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself. This will help you rewire your brain and get that ego out of the equation, so you can lean into your heart. But really, it's more your gut. It's more your gut. And that's what I want to talk about, because that's how you're going to know when someone's right. Now, many of you are clouded in this area. This is why I highly recommend the book, The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer, The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer. This is a great book to learn how to talk to the voices in your head, that egoic voice, that roommate in your head, where there's the devil on one shoulder and there's the angel on the other shoulder and they're talking, talking, talking to you. This is a great book to heal that. As well as to piggyback on that is my book, What the Heck is Self Love Anyway? By the way, the links to all the links, there's a link below to my book recommendations and everything if you want to check out the books I'm recommending. Have you purchased any of these books? If you have, please post a comment below. If you've purchased my book, please let me know you have. Have you trusted your intuition? Have you mastered and learned how to navigate your intuition, ladies? Women are supposed to have amazing intuitions and yet I see them continually choosing the wrong men over and over and over again because they're not listening to their gut. So have you learned to master it? Please post a comment. I want to read. Tell me what's going on in your life with this regard. Are you listening to your gut? Are you listening to your intuition? When we master that and let me just say this about intuition and this is really critical. Intuition speaks to us in a very calm place, a very calm place. Fear is agitated. Fear is agitated. Intuition speaks from calm. So when I thought something fell off with her, it was coming from a very calm place. I leaned into myself, said something just doesn't feel right. Now, I didn't try to overanalyze it. I still stayed, even Keele was planning on the date. I didn't cancel it, but I knew something was off. Let me ask you, this is a really important question, ladies, and I'm asking this because I've heard it over and over and over again. Have you been in a relationship for six months, a year, a couple of years, and it ended? And do you ever go, you know what? I knew something was off in the beginning, but I went against my better judgment. Have you ever gone against your better judgment? Please post a comment below because I see this happen so frequently. So do you get the gist of where I'm going? Break the habit of being yourself. Get connected to your intuition with untethered soul and love on yourself, self-love, because that's going to make you open and receptive to a great relationship, and that's going to help you when it comes to choosing a guy. And if you need more help, schedule a discovery call with me because that's my expertise, is teaching out of that man. And so schedule that call to see if working with the coach is right for you. All right, I'm going to wrap up this video as I always do. First off, giving myself a big, gigantic shot at the better hug of self-love. I'm going to reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay. I'm going to ask you to turn to somebody and give them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love, and we can all use more love in our lives. I want to thank you so much in wishing you a super duper, wonderful day. Bye-bye now.