 Hi, I'm Matthew coast head dating coach and founder of commitment connection calm and today We're going to be talking about how to set boundaries in dating so if you're out there dating people and you want someone to respect you and Value you as a human being in a person You have to set boundaries. So there's kind of three Things that you need to do to set a boundary and here's what they are First you need to state what your desire is They it's important that when you're setting your boundary you let that person know That you're still interested in them because it kind of softens what it is that you're saying and makes you not sound like a Person with a stick up your butt The second thing you need to do is set the boundary say what your boundary is and the third thing is Give a reason why? Which is very very important having a reason why you're setting that boundary is very important having rules and Boundaries for the sake of having rules and boundaries is not a good way to go Having rules and boundaries because you have a good reason why is But that's neither here nor there so let's move on so And there's there's actually a fourth thing right and ask him if he agrees to it So let's say that you need to get back early, right? What you'd say is I'd love to hang out all night But I need to be back by 10 so I can get some sleep before tomorrow Right, so we have the desire like I'd love to hang out all night and then we have the boundary But I need to get back by 10 and then we have the reason why? So I can get some sleep before work tomorrow And then the last part is asking if he agrees to it. Can you have me back here by 10? right and so that's how you set a boundary and He's either gonna say yes or no, and then you're either gonna stick to your boundary or you're not And my suggestion is that if you want someone to respect you that you stick to your boundary so the next one is This this guy calls you up and he wants you to come over for a booty call And you don't want to do a booty call So this is something that you might say say that sounds like it would be a lot of fun And I'd love and I'd love to come over some night in the future, right? So this is your desire that sounds like it's a lot of fun, and I'd love to come over some night in the future But then you're setting your boundary But I'd rather we meet up during the day for now so that we can get to know each other a little bit better So you're setting the boundary and then you're giving a reason why but I'd rather we meet up during the day for now So that we can get to know each other a little better first And then the last part is how about we meet up during the day this weekend? and so you're basically asking for an agreement to that and You know it's possible that he could end up leaving and you know Not end up You know calling you or wanting to hang out with you in the weekend but that's fine because He may just be looking for a booty call or a friend with benefits type Relationship and if that's not what you're looking for then You need to respect yourself enough and value yourself enough to only accept what it is that you want in your life So that's it for this video If you want more information on how to attract a quality man into a committed lasting relationship Make sure you go to my website at commitment connection calm and take the quiz I'm Matthew coast and I'll speak with you again soon