 Hi, I'm Matthew Coast, head dating coach and founder of commitmentconnection.com and in this video we're going to talk about why men joke around about serious conversations. But before we talk about that, if you're struggling to attract the right man into a committed lasting relationship, make sure you go to my website at commitmentconnection.com and take my quiz. So today's question comes from a woman in our community and she's asking, How do I understand why men joke around about serious conversations and how to approach a serious topic and get a direct answer and not a smart remark? So men joke around about serious conversations because they're uncomfortable about the topic that you're bringing up. And this is actually a pretty common thing that lots of people do all over the world. I actually grew up in an environment where we didn't talk much about serious things and whenever serious topics would come up, we would make jokes about them and try to avoid them at all costs. And so I totally understand where this comes from. This is definitely a nurture thing, something that people do growing up, something people learn from their families or their friends or, you know, whatever environment when a topic is serious, they avoid it and they joke about it because they don't know really how to get serious sometimes. And it's uncomfortable for them to get serious. So if you want a direct answer, you need to emphasize the seriousness of the conversation that you're having without getting without attacking him or blaming him or making him wrong. So just get all that blaming and attacking and, you know, you always do this type of thing out of your vocabulary and instead just, you know, emphasize that you're having a serious conversation. Just be like, Hey, you know, like, let's talk about this. This is something important to me and, you know, I need to, I need an answer to this, you know, and if he starts trying to get defensive because he's used to people attacking him. Just say, Hey, you know, we're on the same team here and, you know, I'm not attacking you, you know, I care for you. I love you and I just need a serious answer to this question. And if you show him that you're serious and that he can't just laugh it off and you're not attacking him and that you're on his side, he's much more likely to give you a real and serious answer to whatever your question is. So that's it for today. If you want more information about what's stopping you from attracting Mr. Wright into a committed lasting relationship, make sure you go to my website at commitmentconnection.com and take my quiz. I'm Matthew Coast and I'll speak with you again soon.