 Self-esteem is central to everything in your life. The way we see ourselves influences our behaviors and decisions. Parents will often try their best to foster a good and healthy sense of self-esteem in their children. But some may not be mindful of the mistakes they're making and how it negatively affects their children. It should come as no surprise then that according to psychiatrist Dr. Neil Burton, low self-esteem often results from traumatic childhood experiences. With that said, here are five telltale signs that your self-esteem was destroyed in childhood, according to experts. Constant comparisons You constantly compare yourself to the people around you and feel like you'll never measure up to them. This is a habit you most likely picked up from childhood when your parents compared you to your siblings or other children your age, saying things like, why can't you be more like so-and-so? According to licensed mental health counselor Arsha G. Ramayah, most parents do this because they want to push their kids to excel and give them an example to aspire to. But it often just ends up hurting their self-esteem and making them more competitive and insecure of other people's accomplishments. This is because growing up, children need a lot of positive attention and validation. And if you were constantly deprived of that, then it most likely destroyed your self-esteem. Criticized for abilities or characteristics. If your self-talk is largely negative, it's probably internalized from the negative feedback you received from your parents as a child. Then if you constantly criticize yourself for your abilities and characteristics, which are things about yourself you can't change or control, then it'll definitely take an emotional toll on you, says licensed clinical social worker and child development specialist Claire Lerner. Continuing to do so can also make a person feel insignificant, unappreciated, and disconnected with who they are. A better strategy Lerner recommends could be to build your self-esteem by embracing the things that make you unique, focusing on your personal strengths, and developing your own voice and identity. If you find this video relatable and helpful, please give the video a thumbs up and subscribe to the channel. Now, moving on to the next point. Forced to conform and obey. Some parents believe that they need their children to mindlessly conform to all of their expectations and obey everything they say, otherwise it's a grave sign of disrespect. But having such strict and authoritarian parents often takes away from a child's sense of independence and creates a stressful environment for them growing up. According to an article published by the Michigan State University, this parenting style tends to worsen behavioral problems and lead children to becoming either more aggressive or submissive, socially inept, indecisive, and have poor self-esteem. Rigid need for perfection. Are you terrified of making even the tiniest mistake? Do you instinctively lie or make excuses to try to get out of it? If so, it's likely that you do this as a coping mechanism from the excessive scolding you received from your parents as a child over any mistake you made. Making mistakes is an integral part of a child's learning and growth, explains developmental psychologist Dr. Marilyn Price-Mitchell. So when children are given the freedom to do this, they aren't able to test their resilience and build their self-esteem based on their ability to bounce back and learn from their failures. You are essentially raised to believe that nothing short of absolute perfection is expected of you, which leads you to becoming extremely anxious, risk averse, and have no sense of initiative or openness to experience. Afraid of own dreams and goals. Last but certainly not least, if you're afraid to share your goals with other people or dream up a big future for yourself, then that's a red flag that your self-esteem was most likely destroyed during childhood. Because childhood is when we learn to dream and aspire. If you grew up with parents who ridiculed and validated or chastised you for it, saying your dreams were unrealistic, impractical, or irrelevant, then you most likely felt that you needed to settle for the safe and ordinary life your parents wanted for you. Studies such as the one by Wendy Grolnik in 2016, a professor of psychology at Clark University, have shown that a person's success is strongly linked with the time, support, and encouragement their parents gave them, which made them feel confident in themselves and internally motivated to succeed. So what are your thoughts on this video? Do you relate to any of the things we've talked about here? Parents aren't trusted with their child's precious sense of being, whether they intentionally or unintentionally hurt your self-esteem, know that it's not your fault and you did nothing to deserve it. Your inner child won't be easy, says psychiatrist Dr. Neil Burton, but there are simple ways you can start, such as listening to your strengths and achievements, practicing positive thinking and positive self-talk, making a habit of things that make you feel good, like dressing well, eating healthy, and exercising, doing more of the things that you enjoy and are passionate about and surround yourself with supportive people. So what are some ways you plan on building your self-esteem back up? Let us know in the comments down below and leave some encouragement for anyone else who may be feeling the same way.