 Hello everyone Welcome to another Nox5Live video Just checked into this room in my pyjamas Relaxing and it's New Year's Eve For most of us I believe Depends on where you are in the world As you probably know I am in Japan right now And here it is 10 10 16 p.m So just an hour and 45 minutes until We are into the year 2024 But yeah, as you can see I'm just laying in this room my beds In my pyjamas And these are actually my pyjamas. These are just the ones that they provide here And I just thought I'd put them on Get comfortable before I begin this video Yeah And this one It's a very big topic Very big video Talking about how narcissists Always lose in the end So before I begin Let's hit that thumbs up button down below For this very important topic There are so many victims survivors Of narcissistic abuse Who need to hear this information But they may not see it Unless You all hit that thumbs up button down below So that it helps a YouTube algorithm To get this message out there To where they will be able to see it So please hit that thumbs up button down below. It will take you two seconds. Thank you But yeah onto the message Narcissists always lose in the end And that's not just something I'm saying to make you feel better Although I'm sure that it will But that's not the only reason why I'm saying it. I'm saying it because it is actually true Yes, narcissists always lose in the end I've never heard of any Narcissist winning They always lose They're always miserable So they're losing right now. It doesn't matter Where they are who they're with what they're doing How successful they are how much money they have You can be sure that no matter what they have or Who they're with they're still miserable They always are To know that you've only got to look back at everything you did for them To see that there is nothing and no one that will ever make them happy And they're never gonna win with anyone anyway Just remember how it went down with you They will always lose because they lack empathy They have an inability to share other person's feelings and experience as if it was their own They gain relatively nothing from seeing your happiness Your pleasure and satisfaction that doesn't even do anything for them Not as it would for us When we do something for someone When we're there for them we help them That makes us feel good too We enjoy it just as much as they do Just that act of giving and sharing But it's not like that for a narcissist because they can't Share your happiness Yeah, they can read into it. They can tell When you're happy when you're satisfied But then they feel like that's taking something away from them Because they don't get to experience that So then they get envious of you And then they just start to think what is the point in even trying to make you happy Because all that's gonna do is make you feel good and they're still gonna feel miserable And in fact, then they're just gonna feel even worse because then they'll be comparing themselves to you Of how you can feel good, but they can't So it's never anything that you can mutually share with them And they never cared about you They never cared about your feelings once or needs That never meant anything to them Well for us as empaths We can't just witness another person's Pain or distress or They're upset about something They need our support We can't just Stand there and not do anything about it As empaths we just cannot do that But narcissists can And this is how you know from how they treated you to where they never even cared about you They never cared about what you were going through. They never cared about your feelings once or needs This is how you know that whatever situation they move on to no matter who they're with now They don't care about that person as well They're just in it for their own needs. That's all that there is If they could care about anyone else while they would have cared about you But they have the chance But they didn't and that is how you know they're never going to care about anyone And that is how you know they will never have a successful relationship They will never experience true love intimacy or deep connection with anyone That is how you know that so If that's not losing I don't know what is And because of this lack of empathy that they have It results in them taking a lot of risks To where they become very impulsive and reckless They do a lot of Damaging and harmful things They're very unpredictable It's like people never know what they're going to do next And they have very poor judgment They make a lot of mistakes They cause a lot of damage themselves and other people as well If you give a narcissist enough rope They will hang themselves They will shoot themselves in the foot They will cut off their nose to spite their face Because they're very impulsive and they're very reckless If they want something They've got to have it when they want it Regardless of the consequences or how it may affect you or anyone else And even regardless of how it may affect them in the future Because they're never thinking about that They do a lot of reckless things to us and other people as well They make a lot of bad decisions And there is a price for them to pay for that And they don't always Just evade the consequences of their actions As they may have done with you Other people they won't be so tolerant Or accepting of it So while they may have gotten away with some things with you They might go off and pull that same thing with someone else And then it's a different story They could end up getting in a lot of trouble They could end up causing a lot of problems for them And honestly a lot of times it does Many narcissists They might get away with things for a certain amount of time But then eventually They do it to the wrong person And then before they know it They're in jail Or something has happened to them Maybe someone just kicked them out of their home Now they're homeless Not everyone is as nice As we are As we were to them Because we were always there for them I mean think about it Just look back and think about the things they got away with with us Everything they got out of us It's like they really Exploited and took advantage of us They had a good run with us They came in with pretty much nothing and left with everything They left with far more than what they came in with We left with a lot less So we got the short end of the stick I tell you they may have been very lucky with us because we're empathic Some of us are codependent people pleases We give so much of ourselves. We are very selfless You think it's going to be like that for them With the next person With someone else And they got so used to it with us It became their new norm It became what they were used to After all of that time they spent with us In some ways you could say that it disabled them It's made life a lot more difficult for them now Because Now where do they go? Who do they go with? After they've already seen And had the best They've had someone who was there for them no matter what no matter what they did All of the things they did to you you were still there All of those times they Lied to you cheated on you stole from you They future fake they kept you waiting around for months or even years. You were still there You were still supporting them After all of the things they did to you you were still there You still remained loyal and devoted to them You really think they're gonna find someone else like that They're not gonna find someone who cares that much Someone who cares So much and gave so much of themselves But they got so hurt That they ended up finding my videos on youtube Because it mattered that much to them And I was that person as well Six years ago When I first discovered About narcissistic abuse I first watched one of sam vacanin's videos And it's because I cared that much About what I went through About the narcissist I was dealing with About our relationship And the hopes that I had for a future with them Yeah, I cared that much that I found these videos on youtube About narcissism And at the time I even booked a coaching session With Michelle Neves At the time her channel was Named Surviving to thriving Yeah, I booked a coaching session with her About six years ago Because I cared that much just as you do Just as you are now watching me After my six years of research And my lifetime of personal experience You really think they're going to find someone who cares as much As we do I really don't think that they will And in all honesty I don't think they really care that much About that I mean if they really wanted someone who cared That much about them They probably would have been more careful To not have messed things up with us And if you look at the people that they surround themselves with I mean it's like a group of Alcoholics Or drug addicts, they're all the same They all share the same kind of addictions They all do the same things They may all be narcissists They're all fake They surround themselves with other fake people People who quite clearly don't even care about them I mean if you look at it You cared about them more than anyone else in their lives More than their own family or friends You cared about them more than they even cared about themselves You did more for them than they ever did for themselves And look at what they did to you They exploited you, they took advantage of you They tossed you aside like you were nothing Maybe they cheated on you, they triangulated you with someone else Someone who didn't even care about them Someone who was nothing compared to you Someone who could do nothing Compared to what you did for them So it seems that They don't even care That they're losing you even though they may know That yeah, you did care about them more than anyone else in their entire lives Or that you did more for them than anyone else Even though they know all of that they can still get rid of you So what hope have they got for the future? I mean just think about that Can you imagine doing that? Having someone in your corner By your side who's loyal and devoted to you Someone who Would give their right arm for you Someone who would do anything At your back and call They're always there, they're always listening to your problems Doing anything they can To please you, to make you happy Someone who cares about you so much That they care about you And think about you more than they even think or care about themselves Can you imagine having someone like that in your life? And you just take them for granted and you toss them aside Can you imagine doing that? That's what an narcissist do, that's what they did to all of us So where do you think that's going to lead them? Where do you think they're going to end up? If they've already thrown away The best thing that ever happened to them Because I know all of us, I mean If we All just shared our stories right now Of everything we did for the narcissist Everything we put up with I mean, wow I'm sure everyone here Just to listen to each other's stories We will be thinking If only we had someone like that who could do even a fraction of that For us in our relationship I mean that that would be incredible, wouldn't it? Just the things that all of us have done for the narcissist I mean, can you imagine if someone came into your life? And did even a tiny fraction Of what you did for the narcissist in your life Someone who cared about you It's a tiny fraction of how much you cared about the narcissist Can you imagine what an incredible relationship that would be? To have someone like that in your life And would you take that person for granted? Would you just toss them aside like they're nothing? I don't think you would do that I know I wouldn't I would love cherish and respect that person I would do everything out of my power to make sure that I don't lose them And that's really what gives us hope in the future Just this mindset that we have As for narcissists If they can do that they can just Take us for granted When we care about them that much What hope do you think they have For their future? Who do you think they're gonna come across? Who do you think they're gonna meet? I mean, even if they do meet anyone good, they're just gonna do what they did to you again To this other person Just look at the people they surround themselves with Just look at their friends, even their family members It's like they're all the same, they're all fake None of them are really trying to change or improve anything in their lives Many of them have all of these addictions Tobacco, alcohol, recreational drugs And yeah, some people say that we are The sum or the average of the five people we spend the most time with And just look at the type of people that are around You really think they can elevate When they're around those types of people You really think that's going to lead them anywhere good I mean, the best shot The best chance that they had in their lives Was with you That was as good as it was going to get for them And I see that in my own experiences If they'd asked the first that I was with, if they'd just treated me right They could have had a pretty amazing life with me where everything was taken care of But they had This guy who Cared about them Loved them More than anyone else will ever do for them And of course I know that, I mean I already know how some of them have ended up already And things haven't gone too well for them This is what happens when you take people for granted When people are there for you People love you, they care about you They treat you right That doesn't mean you should just go and exploit them Take advantage of them Rob them Cheat them and lie to them That doesn't mean that you should go and do that Those are the types of people who deserve more love Appreciation and respect More than anyone else Especially if They underestimate themselves, they doubt themselves, they don't realize just how great they are They deserve more love More appreciation than anyone That's why I have to get on here every day To spread this message Because I know many of you who are watching this right now You were that person to the narcissist You were that person who was always there for them You did everything you could to make them happy You gave everything, you gave your life Got back nothing in return, other than abuse Medibulation, lies, future faking Discard, triangulation, maybe even a smear campaign as well Sacrificing your life Giving it all away And that's how they repay you That's what you get back in return And that's how it should be clear to you They're always going to be miserable, they're satisfied If anyone or anything they have in their lives They're never going to find happiness, satisfaction True love, intimacy, a deep connection They're never going to have that And they're always going to end up losing in the end I've seen it before, I've seen it so many times These knocks They really lose out in the end At the older they get They become even more obsessed Even more bitter and resentful They become stalkers They have so much time in their hands Nothing to do with their lives No purpose, no meaning Many of them they just try to keep tabs and pass sources of supply Or they just focus on their past successes They're never really trying to build anything new in the future Things just fall apart for them The older they get They're doing so many bridges So many failed relationships So many things that have gone wrong And it's like, where have they got the show for it? After everything they've done I mean, it's very sad for these narcissists because If you look at myself, my own experiences, my past The narcissists who left me Things really went downhill for them after that It's pretty obvious that if they stayed with me They would have had a really good life I mean, I built my successful business on YouTube I'm a life coach, a CEO of a company now I made over $1 million by the age of 33 Travelling the world I've been to about 15 countries Been travelling pretty much every day for the last five years I mean, every narcissist that I was with If they just treated me right and they stayed with me They didn't take me for granted They could have had an incredible life with me And I would have loved them, cared for them Been there for them No matter what But as for the narcissist It's really bad for them The older they get Because they just can look back at their lives And it's just, it's like A cemetery, a graveyard of everything that used to be The people who used to be there And now they're just ghosts of what they once were Shells of the people that they used to be Because they were so much more They had so much more potential Before that narcissist came into their lives They could have been something They could have done something with their lives They could have been something incredible They could have made a great impact on this world But instead That narcissist ruined it for them And that's really what they have And again there's just A string of failed relationships When they were always the cause of it Because they just didn't care They liked empathy They only cared about themselves They were never there for anyone They never really listened to anyone They didn't care about their feelings once or needs No narcissist only cared about themselves And just imagine all of the shame that builds up Through all of those years All of those failed relationships All of those lives that they destroyed Just imagine all of the shame they must feel From that No narcissist can ever look back And think that they ever did their best You know, like you or I I look back and I can honestly say The narcissist that I was with I gave it all I gave my life To the point where I I developed such extreme anxiety, paranoia Depression I ended up Drinking a lot of alcohol Doing drugs I even became suicidal Because I gave so much of myself I gave it all And even money I gave hundreds of thousands Of pounds To support narcissists I gave everything I couldn't have given much more I sacrificed my life so many times For so many people I gave it all And that's how it's so easy for me to look back Without any regret Because it's like What more could I have done If that wasn't good enough for you Then Nothing is Because I really did my best I did everything I could But these narcissists They do very little for us It's always the same They always leave with a lot more than what they came in with We always leave with a lot less So how can anyone think That they're gonna go off and do better without us I mean that doesn't make any sense We were the glue But I held them together We were keeping them sane And you really think they're gonna find someone else like us As I said before A statistic show Only one to two percent of the world's population Are empaths We're very rare It's highly unlikely they're gonna find someone else Who will support them in the way that we did Who will be so selfless and sacrifice themselves Like how we did for them So this is the message for you to begin the new year To know that You shouldn't have any regrets You gave it all You did everything you could And if that wasn't good enough Then nothing is Nothing will be You shouldn't worry about that They all end up losing in the end They take people for granted They burn bridges Whoever cared the most about them Whoever did the most That is the person they take for granted That is the person they ruin things with Whoever was always there for them Whoever remained the most loyal and devoted Whoever was the most selfless and just gave their entire lives That's the person they seek to destroy And they create this false narrative about them They start a smear campaign Because deep down they already know What they've done They already know that they messed things up But the best thing that ever happened to them The best chance they had They messed that up Because just look back at everything you did for them They gained so much from you What did you gain from them Nothing You were just abused You lost everything You lost your emotional mental health You lost your money Your resources You lost it all By the end of it You were anxious, depressed Maybe even suicidal They really brought you down And yet they ruined things with you Am I right? Let me know if I am right Hit that thumbs up button down below Because if you do believe that I am right We need to get this message out there So that other people see this as well But yeah, it's New Year's Eve 11pm here in Japan I'm just sitting on my bed Christmas day as well I just went out for a dinner on my own Not for long Just in the city In Osaka Now Christmas Eve I'm just here in my room No party and nothing It doesn't seem to be too much going on here in Japan I mean it's just not really that kind of place Like partying so much I know some of you may say Tokyo But actually last year I was in Tokyo as well And that was the least fun place for me From what I've experienced in Japan so far I enjoyed traveling around Although I will say that I did like the Pokemon Center in Tokyo I've always loved Pokemon I'm sure you may have seen my Pikachu In some of my videos And also I've got my own Pikachu as well Nala She's my little Pokemon But yeah, there isn't too much entertainment here I just find I'm kind of bringing the excitement of myself Bringing the fun As you may see with all of the traveling I'm doing All of the places I'm going I do a lot of fun things But yeah, not really too much going on here in Japan That's why Christmas day I was on my own, I just rented a house To relax And now New Year's Eve, I'm just sitting in this room On my own Haven't really met anyone fun here Anything interesting? I mean people here are very quiet There isn't really too much going on like that And as you can probably tell with me I mean just from watching my videos I am definitely a high energy person Tons of energy I mean I've got more energy than a 10 year old child Easily Even though I am 34 I'm January 24th I'm going to be 35 years old I still feel very young I mean it's 11pm I was driving for like 6 hours in the car today Maybe more I'm not even tired I have so much energy I have to take A tranquilizer every night just so I can fall asleep Because I have that much energy I just never get tired Of course it's very difficult to find someone Who can match this energy that I have But I'm not in Japan for long I am Flying out again In a couple of weeks Going somewhere new Somewhere I haven't been before I will be going to the Philippines And I actually Have an audience from the Philippines already I do get quite a few thousand views each month From there So it will be interesting If I have any fans on here Who are watching this right now from the Philippines Maybe we could arrange a meet up when I get there I'm actually already talking to Quite a few people from the Philippines already Yeah it will be arranging To meet up It will be fun To explore new cultures New traditions I mean I don't really know anything About the Philippines I think I've only known Two Filipinos in my entire life So yeah it will be interesting Something new I'm looking forward to it Looking forward to exploring And also sharing the experience with you Because of course I'm never alone It's never just about me It's about all of you as well The thousands of people who watch my videos every day So of course I will be sharing that experience with you And I'm hoping to meet Some beautiful Filipino women From what I've seen My type of girls I do like that exotic look Light brown skin Long black hair Yes that's definitely what I like But personality I don't really know what to expect I don't really know much about it But that's cool too It's good to not know what to expect sometimes as well I mean I've been to so many different countries now I've been all over the UK I've been to France Sri Lanka Thailand Malaysia Vietnam Taiwan South Korea Japan Many of which I've been to several times now as well Sometimes multiple times in one year And it is interesting to explore the different cultures and traditions The different ways of life I mean that's what I like most about this world is Diversity I like the way that we're not all the same Every country is different We don't all do the same things We all have our own identity There's things that distinguish us Certain countries from other countries And of course yes there's different religions Different foods Different climates And of course there's different people as well Different lifestyles Different ideologies Or at least there should be But yeah now I mean a lot of places are becoming more and more the same Unfortunately I mean that is the way it's going It's going to become more and more like that as time goes by It's like wherever you go in the world now You can always find the McDonald's and Pizza Hut Starbucks Wherever you go You'll always find people with tons of tattoos Drinking, smoking Listening to hip-hop music Never used to be that way But that's the way it is now And I'm not really a fan of it As many of you may know I mean I do support traditions I'm not all for us all becoming all the same I'm not all for that at all I do support diversity And I think it's natural We should all just be ourselves But yeah I have been enjoying my travels overall And I am looking forward to exploring the Philippines It will be a new and interesting experience for me And something that I can share with you But yeah that's it for this message I hope it was helpful for you I hope you all had a great Christmas And happy new year 2024 It's been a good year for Narc Survivor A lot of new videos, new content New information I learned a lot of things in 2023 That I didn't know before I've learned a lot of new things Seen some new countries as well I was in Vietnam and Taiwan I'd never been there before So lots of new experiences in 2023 for me And I am still in the process of Uploading the content onto my Instagram At this moment I'm still back in February 2023 So just beginning the year But there is a lot of good content To look forward to on my Instagram Which I will be uploading Over the upcoming months I have lots of pictures and videos For my travels in Sri Lanka Malaysia Vietnam Taiwan And of course Japan as well For the last month of the year So all of that will be coming up Over the next few months It may take even up to one year For me to post it all And then of course by that time I will have done even more travels in 2024 But I'm trying to speed it up if I can I mean there's just so much content to go through So I may just try to post only the most important things And also you may have noticed There is a new video format on the channel The video that I posted yesterday It was about housemaid campaigns Destroying assasins and their flying monkeys I'm not sure if you watched that video yet But it was very different to the usual Because this one was a pre-recorded video Instead of just having an arc so I have a logo You can actually see me in it So do check out that video from yesterday And there will be another video just like that Beginning in about three hours There will be a video premiere So again thank you all for joining me On another Arx 505 video Happy new year And if you found it helpful please give it a thumbs up down below It will take you two seconds Let me know what you think about this video In the comments down below Hit the subscribe button and click all notifications So that you will be notified when I upload a new video And if you'd like to book a one-on-one coaching session with me Just go to my website It is NarcSurvivor.co.uk And also my Instagram You can follow me 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