 Why you should never call a narcissist out? Why you should never call them out on their lies and manipulations? Why you should never call them out on their nonsense? You cannot get a therapist to help them to understand that they are the narcissist. You cannot show them one of my videos. They are never going to get it. You cannot call a narcissist out. It never works that way because they're self-absorbed and lack empathy. In their minds, they are always the victims. Things are only being done to them while they cannot do anything wrong to anyone else. So they are never going to process in their minds that they could be the problem. They are never going to see it as though they have hurt or manipulated you unless they believe that it was justified. And then that's just going to give them narcissistic supply. It's just going to make them feel powerful and in control of the situation which in their minds is everything that they should aspire to be. You might get to a point where you've taken so much unwarranted abuse from the narcissist where it's made you so hurt and upset that you just want to come out and tell them what they are. But if you do call them out and you do tell them that they are the narcissist they are just going to turn it around and call you the narcissist. And then they're going to go on another one of their hour-long rants about all of the reasons why they think you're the narcissist which may be considered further abuse and harassment. But most of the time they're not even aware of what they're doing and even if they are, in their minds they believe that it is justified. They believe that as long as they do it, it's okay. They had to do it. It was necessary or you deserved it. They will gaslight you. They will make you doubt your own memory, perception and sanity. They will manipulate you. They will insult you. And by the time their rant is over you are going to think that you're the narcissist. You're going to be so hurt and confused by all the insults they're throwing at you that you may actually begin to question if it is you because that's the clear difference between us. We look at ourselves. We question if we're doing something wrong or if we treated someone unfairly. Well they just don't care. Well they might even see themselves as being powerful for putting you beneath them. You cannot call the narcissist out. It isn't going to work because they're not even going to listen to you. They have never listened to you. They have never valued anything you've said. So why would they start taking you seriously now when you tell them that they're the narcissist? The narcissist is never going to list any negative feedback about themselves. I know that when many people have watched my videos they feel like everything suddenly makes sense. They finally understand why the person they're with is always playing the victim and why they're always made to feel like everything is their fault. They finally understand that they're dealing with someone who is self-absorbed and lacks empathy. Someone who doesn't care about what they want or how they feel. They finally get it. Why they're always feeling validated and confused. They see my videos and it all makes sense and they may want to share this information with the narcissist hoping that it's going to change something. But that's really not a good idea. And it isn't going to change anything because narcissists have no desire to change. They think that they're perfect. In their minds everyone else is the problem. The world needs to adjust itself to accommodate their needs or expectations. Yet at the same time they cannot see how that is the foundation of narcissism. If you call a narcissist out on their behaviour you will be putting yourself at risk of danger or harm. They will go insane. They will fly into a rage. It will be a very unpleasant experience for you and even though you may have told them that they're the narcissist they are not going to hear you. They are never going to look at their own behaviour and think that they need to make any adjustments. You can show them books, videos, take them to therapists but none of it is going to make any difference. They're not going to want to change anything. They will only use those resources to point out your faults and mistakes whether they are real or imagined. It's just going to make things worse but I can understand why you would feel like telling them. You feel like you've received this revelation. You understand their motives and you just want them to realise the true purpose of their actions. You can figure them out all you want but it's not going to change anything. They're not suddenly going to be nice to you just because you've figured them out. Instead of trying to call the narcissist out focus on protecting yourself. Don't engage in their arguments. Observe, don't absorb. Respond, don't react. Don't personalise what they're saying to you. Manage your expectations. The best way to show the narcissist that they're a narcissist isn't by calling them out. It's by gradually pulling back the narcissist's supply gradually distancing yourself. They may try to pull you back in when they realise you're no longer playing their game but you don't need to tell them that you've figured them out. All you need to do is stop engaging. That will tell them everything you need them to know. Thanks for watching and I'll talk to you soon.