 You have a lot of power. It's a lot, right. Which means you need responsibility. It's like spider-man. But I don't want to become like so like squeaky clean that it's like not fun anymore. One of my favorite quotes is this. When the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the fear of change, we will change. Up everybody this is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution. And if you're new to my channel, my channel is all about mental health. And what I like to do is pull things from the YouTube community and pop culture to try to teach you how to improve your mental and emotional well-being. So if you're into that kind of stuff make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell. So yeah just so you all know anybody who's been around for a while and you're like when are the Shane Dawson videos gonna finish? I am going to try to wrap up all of my Shane Dawson content by Sunday. Speaking of Sunday, we are doing our very first charity livestream pretty much all day Sunday right here on the YouTube channel. So make sure that you have the notification bells turned on. This charity livestream is gonna be for our amazing editor Zach to help out his family during this rough time. So I will be on for most of the day. Tristan might be popping in. Dylan might be popping in. We'll be answering mental health questions. We'll be playing Fortnite. We'll be doing all sorts of crazy stuff. I don't know why I hyped that up like a wrestler but anyways just be here on Sunday anyways. So yeah I'm gonna try to wrap up all the Shane content but there's so many important lessons and it's just the eyeballs are there and I can take this to try to teach you guys some stuff. So this is a very important topic. So in in the last video the finale inside the mind of Jake Paul like Shane and Jake were having this conversation and Shane was kind of like asking over talking to him and asking him about like toning it down and things like that and Jake said something that I think a lot of a lot of you can relate to where he was saying like I'm worried that you know if I do this I'll be too watered down and I won't be me anymore and like I can definitely relate to that. I can relate to that so much and this is actually something one of my friends asked me about not too long ago. So I have a really really good friend and she was she was messaging me. She was asking me about depression and things like that and you know I was just like when I asked everybody about have you considered like therapy or anything and she told me she's like one of the fears I have is that if I do therapy it's gonna change who I am. I'm not gonna be me anymore and like I was like man I can definitely relate to that. So if you're watching this you might be someone where this you have this fear like your your your pain in your life is so great but you're afraid to change. For example I know that there are certain people with like bipolar disorder where they're afraid to take medications because they feel it would take away from the good things that they experienced during mania like their creativity their energy and all of that. So like this is something that's really really important for us to talk about and I want to share some of my experience about this. So those of you who don't know me I am a recovering drug addict and alcoholic I've been clean for six years. So I had so much fear of change so I personally got clean through 12 step programs even though I kind of like diversified my recovery today and try to give people like alternatives and stuff like that whatever works for you baby. But anyways like 12 step programs are what helped me get clean and 12 step programs obviously have the steps and like when I came in when I came into the program I had like these ideas about myself in there and like I knew I had to change. I knew I had to change not only was I addicted to drugs and alcohol I wasn't allowed to see my son friends and family hated me I was broke I had no job I was dying I had an oxygen tank everything was bad like everything in my life was bad but I needed to change right but I went to these meetings and I just saw how happy everybody was and they were like hugging and smiling and talking about forgiveness and all this like trial and law mushy stuff and I'm like no I don't want to do that I'm like these steps doing these steps are going to turn me into a wuss and I don't want to be a wuss right like that was my fear of change I thought that if I worked this program if I got better if I healed myself mentally and spiritually that I would become some kind of person that gets walked all over right because we talk about you know kindness and compassion and empathy and forgiveness and tolerance and patience and all these other things like well those all sound good on paper like I don't want to be somebody who gets walked all over now I think the first thing that we need to talk about if and if you can relate to that is this this fear of being mistreated right that's something that I had to get over I had to get over this fear of being mistreated I think the misconception that a lot of people have especially when trying to like better themselves is that just by practicing more empathy and kindness and compassion we're gonna turn it's gonna make us feel weak right we're gonna be weak and let people walk all over us but like there's a balance that comes with it like I talk a lot on this channel about boundaries right so like while I'm patient tolerant loving and understanding like I set up boundaries with people I've just made videos about not caring what people think like it's these two polar opposite things seemingly right where I care about everybody but I also don't care about anything you know what I mean I'm like that's a great place to be I get to pick and choose what I'm going to let affect me right so it's important to set up boundaries but also practice a little empathy like something I always say something I always say is that I love everybody but I don't like everybody and that's one of the boundaries I set up like I don't have to like you I don't have to hang out with you I don't got to go over to your house for dinner we don't got to go on vacation together I don't got to pick up your phone calls I don't got to answer your text messages I don't got to answer your DMs I still love you as a human being I have empathy that I'm sorry that you're a jerk I'm sorry that you're hurting I'm sorry that there's something inside of you that makes you act the way that you do but for me and my boundaries I don't have to put up with that stuff and that's something that I learned so there's so many parts of ourselves that we want to cling on to and something that helped me out was taking a personal inventory so a lot of people are afraid to take this personal inventory they feel like it's gonna beat themselves up but it's not just dissecting yourself and writing down basically what an inventory is take a piece of paper right take a piece of paper draw a list down the middle write down all of your good qualities write down all of your bad qualities or qualities that you would like to change right so for me for example the qualities I had was you know like I'm very kind and compassionate and you know I think about others and all this other stuff but on the other side of that like the negative things that I wish I you know that kind of get me in trouble is I always speak my mind I always tell people what I think I'm always I'm very stubborn like these are these are bad qualities that my brain tricks me into thinking are good qualities so basically I looked at this list I'm like okay let's just do a little house cleaning how about I keep all the good things that are helping me progress in life and I get rid of all the bad things that are that are holding me back or causing problems with my relationships so for any of you out there who are struggling and you're afraid to get help if you're afraid to go to therapy if you're afraid of going on any kind of mental health journey please listen to what I'm saying this is not changing everything about you it is just some house cleaning you are looking at the parts of yourself that are causing you emotional or mental or spiritual whatever kind of pain that you're having right like one of my favorite sayings is pain is inevitable suffering is optional I know so many people I know so many people who live in their suffering right that's why I say we talk about the problem but focus on the solution because we're all going to experience pain we're all going to experience pain at some point in our lives whether it's a loss of a loved one lost of you know a relationship lost of a job or money or whatever these things are going to happen I hate to burst your bubble these things will happen to you okay but we get to choose whether or not we suffer we get to choose whether or not we sit in that pain we get to choose whether we want to sit in the self pity and the loathing or if we want to make changes and start progressing in our life and that's what I try to empower all of you to do like I am so so so sorry for anything that you've been through recently or in your past but today is the day where you start to make changes and move forward and start healing and one thing I want to do is take these last few minutes to give a huge shout out to one of my loyal subscribers her name is Karen and Karen just made a video over on her channel I'm going to link it down in the description go check her out go subscribe but she watched my video about me saying I'm a Shane Dawson butt kisser and how to not care what people think right so this ties into what I'm saying like Karen that people are gonna think I'm soft or I'm a wuss or da da da da right and what Karen talks about in her video is that you know she she backed away from YouTube and she's you know worried about other things in her you know even professional life because she's cared too much about what people think and like man I can't tell you how much this type of video warms my heart like I know sometimes I suck at getting back to DMs I try to be in the comments as much as possible Tristan helps me too but like when you guys message me and like you tell me that something I put in a video like helped impact your life in some way like that makes everything worth it that makes every hate comment worth it that makes every everything worth it all the people who say oh you're just a drama channel because people like Karen and a lot of you see what I'm doing you see that I'm taking something that you can relate to and and teach you something to improve your mental health and I really love his approach to talking about mental health he uses YouTube pop culture to talk about some topics that are maybe difficult or complicated or that maybe people might not want to really talk about so you know believe it or not as much as I don't care what people think that kind of stuff really helps me out so I love when you all do it and like I was just telling Tristan right because she's the one who sent me Karen's video quick Tristan made a promise to Karen that she would watch the video Tristan watch the video send it to me and like I was just telling Tristan like I want to I want to do this I want to make this a community I love being involved with all of you every problem that I see with YouTube like I made a video not long ago that nobody watched it was called be the change you want to see in the world I see so many problems with YouTube and I want to be the change that I want to see and part of that change is connecting with all of you as much as possible staying involved with you as much as possible promoting you as much as possible and what you do so do me a favor go check out Karen's channel why did I mess up her name go check out Karen's channel it's linked down in the description below all right anyways that's all I got for you with this video but let's leave some comments down below are you afraid of change are you afraid of bettering yourself do you think that you're gonna become a different person by changing all right let's talk about it in the comments below anyways again that's all I got if you like this video please give it a thumbs up if you're new make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because tomorrow on sunday we are doing a charity livestream for our beautiful editor Zach all right huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel all over on patreon and if you would like to support the channel click the top right there all right thanks so much for watching don't be afraid to change I'll see you next time