 السلام عليكم هل أنت لا تنسوا هذا؟ أنا أخذت the 4 ورطة فهي لم أمتلك جيد وإذا حييتم بتحية هل أعلم؟ أين مريم؟ وإذا حييتم بتحية فحي بأحسني منها أو ردوها عندما أنت أنت، وهذا هو الوضع of your Creator, in mind. It's not mine. It's not someone's opinion. عندما أنت أنت مجرد، وإذا حييتم، عندما أنت مجرد with a greeting. السلام عليكم is a greeting. And what a greeting? سلامه أهل الجنة. It's the greeting of the people of Jannah. And there's two orders here. One is an order, the other one is a recommendation. فحيو بيأحساني منها. It's an order. It's not my choice. Respond better. I say السلام عليكم, peace be upon you. Don't say وعليكم. وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته. Don't forget this. أول ردوها, minimum, is to respond. So there is, I don't know, maybe we are close to 100 in this room. Maybe I heard 10 voices. Don't do that. You missed the focus. The best thing I heard today. مي الله ري وردو يأوسنه السوسة. Which we miss all as women is the focus. The focus, we are distracted, we are shattered. We go right and left. Anyone say something, we go. Stay focused. And after I listened to all the speakers, I said to myself what I'm going to say. سبحان الله. But I need to bring you to reality. I have been living in since the morning. Since 11 o'clock. We've been living in the past. And I always say, and Allah is my witness. I wish I was at that time. I wonder how these people didn't believe. Can you imagine? الرسول عليه الصلاة والسلام in front of you. سيدة خليجة، سيدة فاطمة، سيدة عائشة. What struggles they had. But we are his beloved. They are his companions. You know the hadith. We are the people who are loved to him. Provided we deserve that title. So let's come to reality. We live in 2021 almost at the end. How many of you are out of town other than me? And I know. Some of you are out of town. Majority are in California. So Sunday we are in November 28 2021. I'm not living with سيدة فاطمة. I'm not living with سيدة خليجة. I wish I am. No, I'm either a student and I'm going tomorrow to the college and Allah knows what I'm going to see without going to the details. Right. I mean I can share with you what she sees every day at Stanford. Or if you are like me and Dr. Aranya tomorrow we are going to work. We are going to reality. Or if you are going to home you are going to reality with your children and all the struggles of raising children in this day and age. Am I correct? So what do we do? Have you ever asked yourself this question? He put me here. He did. He chose and he is who? Capital H. Capital H. He chose me or he chose for me to be in 2021. He could have easily made me with the Raswa Ali صلى الله عليه وسلم and breeze. Even the difficulties I'll breeze because he's going through it عليه صلى الله عليه وسلم. But that's not his choice. And everything Allah choose this is the first thing if you're going to write anything as a woman it should be every human being but specifically women. Anything Allah choose for me is the best. There's no other answer. I like it. I don't like it. It's hard. It's difficult. It's may Allah forgive me for this word that we all say it's unfair. Why me? It's good. Then next question is going to come. What does he expect from me as a woman? That's why the title The Muslim Woman Are you? And I'm asking everybody Are you? I need an answer. I want an answer clear. Are you the Muslim? Are you a Muslim woman? Absolutely. Now the next question Are you the Muslim woman? He wants you to be? The like of Fatima of 20 May Allah be pleased with her of 2021. The like of Sayyida Khadija of 2021. The like of Sayyida Asya 2021. And like the Sayyida Maryam of 2021. Yes or no? I didn't hear an answer. You're all right. We're not. Why? Have you ever asked yourself why? What is the difference? You need to ask yourself that's how we change unless we know reality we will never change. I can claim whatever I want to claim but he knows my reality and he knows your reality. Why I am not and all the speakers may Allah bless them all eloquently explained to you they did not live easy life. They had all the challenges we have. What is the difference? Can anyone say any word? What is the difference? And what is Allah said in the Quran about this قالوا شغلتنا Who can finish it? Hiya Maryam أموالونا وأهلونا They say we are busy with our children and with our wealth homes كرير How much we have in the bank account She has bigger home I need to do the same She just bought this The purse competition I call it It's so sad but it's reality Purse competition Shoes competition Home competition Children competition We are busy with this They had all this but they did not allow it to move them away from Allah Refocus Exactly the word that Shaykh Hassan said I keep reminding myself every morning Number one who are you And I'm going to give you one by one Number one I and you and every creation of Allah from الجن والإنس On this earth We are here for one reason And what is that reason وما خلقت الجن والإنس إلا ليعبدون I did not think إلا ليعبدون I did not create Inse engine Allah said this In صورة الداريات But to worship me Worship me is a loose translation It's a very loose translation Because when I tell you What is the Ibadah What is worship What are you going to tell me What are you going to tell me Fast Pray Go to Hajj Alhamdulillah I work a job What's wrong with me That's not it That's superficial إلا Ibadah Act of worship It's everything This is the whole amount of scholars That defined it differently The one I'm going to share with you Is the definition of Imam Ibn Taymiyyah And it's very practical We don't have to be scholar To be a servant of Allah In fact Most of the real Ibadah Of Allah Majority were not scholars كانوا عارفين بالله They know Allah إلا Ibadah Act of worship Everything Everything Allah Loves Loves And like I'm sorry Loves And he's pleased with You're a boy of Allah He loves And he's pleased with Look at this Internally And externally So I'm not with people Something When I'm known I'm something else Internally And externally From Words And action Words And action One more time Everything Allah Loves And pleased Internally Externally Saying And actions Then you are The servant of Allah Then I am The Fatima Of 2021 And I am The Khadija Of 2021 May Allah Be pleased with them And Sayyida Asya And Sayyida Maryam If I follow this If I follow this From the moment I open my eyes To the moment I close my eyes To the last breath he's going to give me If I live with these six Then that I am Who he wants me to be Wherever he will put me As a mother Or a motherless As a child Or a childless As a professional Or taking home Or staying home As a student Or not It doesn't matter It doesn't matter This is who you are Or Who he wants you to be Are you? That's the question You have to ask yourself Every moment Since morning We are here Where you are Ibad Allah Inshallah Yes Ya Rabbi Amin But have I shown him And I've said And did And act And prayed In every way He loves And pleased And pleased with How many times Let me ask you this question When you want to do something The question inside you What people will say about you Will this person will be happy Will that person will not be True or false True or false How many times You ask this question Are you happy with me Are you happy with the way I am With the way I dress With the way I speak With the way I respond Do we ask ourselves this Do we? Honestly Do we? We want to be the Abdullah You want to be The Sayyid of Fatima Of 2021 Work on your relationship With Allah That's number one And let me take you through What He said about the Muslim woman In the Quran Do you know that? Do you know Allah described us In the Quran? Not by name But what does He wants from me Yes or no? Absolutely Unfortunately We read the Quran Ramadan is coming And some of us have memorized Some of us understand Where is the proof Where is the practice Number one You look at yourself As a woman You are two parts You are external The way I look The way you look And there is internal Only He knows Let's take the external first I'll leave the best for the last What does He want me to look like? Not the way He created me I have no choice in this How does He want me to look like? What did He tell me? قل للمؤمنات يغضضنا من أبصارهن ويحفظنا فروجهن ولا يبدين زينتهن إلا ما ظهر منها And then He goes on ولا يبدين زينتهن إلا لبعولتهن أو آبائهن God is surat al-Nur The light And He is saying First He said it to the man This is one of the times where الله سبحانه وتعالى He separated the order One for men One for women And came to the woman Say to the believing woman You and me Do what? External I'm going to tell you What He wants from me You say to yourself Check it I do it I don't And if you don't do it Say why Number one Lower your gaze How many of you Lower their gaze When they are talking To the opposite gender Muslim or non-Muslim Don't show me hands It's not about you It's in general Whether with Muslims Or non-Muslims Lower your gaze Lower your gaze That's who He wants me That's what He wants me to do That's what He's pleased with me Then I am Then I am Say the Faltima at work And I am Say the Faltima in college What do you think Say the Faltima When she was talking To Sayyidina Abu Bakr Or to Sayyidina Omar Or Sayyidina Muad She would be joking And you know How we speak these days Lower your gaze That's the first thing He said Number two Please forgive me I don't mean anybody here What do you wear What do you wear What is this focus On beauty external And no focus On beauty internal And He said it The idea that everybody Wanted to translate And explain the way they want To tell me hijab And I don't want to use The word hijab I'm going to use proper Islamic attire Is not an obligation Let them say Whatever they want to say Let's meet On the Siraat And let's answer Allah that question Don't show your beauty Period And always women When they ask me I'm sure all of you Have heard this question Can I put What about the Muslim Nail Polish You all hear this question I won't go through that I say one thing He said Don't show your beauty What does Nail Polish does Where his makeup does And then you answer Your beauty ladies And that's the hardest Thing for the woman One of the hardest Things of the woman When you are in front Of that mirror Remember you're A servant of Allah Remember this And say this to him Is this how you want me To go out Is this pleasing you Does this makes you happy If you hear the answer Yes, go out If you start Justifying it Then you are Not say the fault About this time Or say the Aisha Or say the Hadija The way we look I have no idea Why pleasing people And pleasing ourselves Is more important Than Allah It's astonishing fact to me Everybody else Is doing it That's how I hear it Young and old Everyone is doing it And I say What about Allah No answer The way you look The way you look What do you hear What do you listen to What do you listen to These days with social media And TikTok And everything else The poison around us When you turn it on Again ask yourself This question Is this pleasing to Allah Is this something He wants me to do Well Allah And I said his name Each one of us Internally knows the answer But you justify You know He's not happy With what you are hearing What you are listening to Regardless Three What do you say التنق وما أدراكم التنق What did he say ثكالتك أمك يا معاذ This famous Hadith about speech سيدنا معاذ This Sahabi This companion هو الرسول عليه الصلاة والسلام Said يا معاذ إني أحبك معاذ I love you Imagine who is that معاذ May Allah be pleased with him Imagine if الرسول عليه الصلاة والسلام Look at you Or me And says يا هيفاء إني أحبك يا الله I'll be dead right away يا ربي أمين But doesn't come from vain Do you see my point It doesn't come because I am who I am Or you are who you are I have to earn it And سيدنا معاذ And he said يا رسول الله Are we going to be taking accountable About what we say And he asked very simple Question ثكالتك أمك يا معاذ He answered May your mother mourn you Meaning You will be dead And your mother will mourn you And your mother will mourn you What else will put people Into narration On their faces Or on their noses In the hellfire But The harvest of their tongue What do we say women And I specifically say here women Because we are more In that aspect همازن مشاعن همازن لمازن مشاعن بنمين We don't like her We don't say anything But our face say a lot In مساجد I'm not saying outside In مسجد She comes in And everybody looks at her And maybe this is the first time She ever comes to a Masjid And we start judging And looking at each other And then start talking Watch your tongue ladies Watch your tongue سيدنا أبو بكر سيدنا أبو بكر حلد his tongue سيدنا أبو بكر Who I and you He held his tongue And سيدنا عمر صاحن And he said what is this He said هاد أوردنين موارد This Took me through the path Meaning the wrong path Jail it As one of these scholars said The thing that needs long jail Is my tongue You are a Muslim woman And you are the servant Of Allah Nothing comes out of this But what pleases Allah And sometimes I say this to myself I wish I can have selfie 24 7 Because there is selfie by the way رقيب و عتيد They are taking selfies Of everything we do And say And not do and not say And just let me hear And listen to what I say To what I say لا خير في كثير من نجوان Allah said this on صورة النساء There is no good in most of what they say Listen to this Most of what they say Has no goodness لا خير إلا 3 أمر بصدقة You say something to promote charity Any charity Not necessarily money إلا من أمر بصدقة أو معروف Goodness أو إسلاحين بين النس أو you bring people together ركتفع relationship See what we say Someone comes to you And said She did this to me Most of us do what Most of us do what How many of us will respond and say Maybe she didn't mean it Maybe you misunderstood it Maybe it came the wrong way What do we say Really And what did you answer If I was you I will not talk to her anymore Don't do that Your tongue Your tongue Your tongue The way you look The way you look externally And the way you look Use your eyes The way you use your ears And the way you use your tongue The way you conduct yourself Please forgive me We live in a society I'm a working woman And I know How difficult it is To practice what I am saying But والله الذي أقلهم The only one who can help you Is him And you can do it Absolutely you can do it If you focus on it And you want to please him And you turn to him every morning Make me do what pleases you Make me say what pleases you And don't let me go to myself Don't let me alone with me With me How do we conduct ourselves With each other And with the other gender Masjid outside Masjid حياء You know this word باشفلness همبلness The way you speak The way you walk الله صدت In Surah Al-Qasas And it's about a woman فجاءتوا إحداهما تمشي على ستحياء And there is a reading They say على ستحياء قالت When she speaks And this is in Surah Al-Qasas The stories When Allah سبحانه وتعالى Mentioned Sayyidina Musa Just before he married One of the daughters Of Sayyidina Shuaib She came to him Woman You have an opinion Say it You are right Don't be shy But be shy In the way you say it She came to him This is a woman This is a daughter of a prophet She came to him Sayyidina Musa And she said Come on in My father Is inviting you To thank you For what you did for us But how did she say it على ستحياء Allah said this Go back to your Quran She talked to him With humbleness With Bashfulness Lowering her gaze She was not shouting She was not walking In the Masjidu Hi, how are you? How is everybody? And everybody has to hear What I am saying That's not the Muslim woman The Muslim woman You know How I describe her Very strong Very pious Is the combination Of the four you heard this morning From each one Lower your gaze Dress properly Walk and talk With حيا Don't worry about With other people I walk in my work You know what I say اللهم اغفر القومي فنهم لا يعلموا You are Allah Forgive these people They just don't know That's what The Rasual He used to say When he walks Between his people And they don't believe They just don't know And part of it Is my fault Because I'm not showing it I'm not practicing it Don't be like everybody else Be who you are In fact Who Allah wants you to be Who Allah wants you to be And the last but not the least Is who are you internally Will you be described As a Sayyeda Maryam How was she described In the Qur'an There's no other description سبحان الله Twice والتي أحصنت فرجاء وكانت من القاني The one who Protected And guarded Her private part And she was of those of القاني تين القانت Is the person who is In a complete submission To Allah Complete Not who she was Complete And always in a state Of worship of Allah Connection And submission That's the Sayyeda Maryam That's who she was Are you When you're Driving your car I'm not saying When you are in the Masjid Or in Ramadan I'm saying 24-7 You're driving your car Going to work Dropping your children Are you a قاني Can you be Have you ever thought of this Of course you can The way you speak If you are alone Do you contemplate on Especially living In this beautiful state When you're driving Do you contemplate On the things around you And look at the beauty of Allah You're a قاني Versus Trafic When I'm talking to my friend And Allah knows What I am saying Then you missed it Then you missed it Spiritually Spiritually Is what we need internally This connection of Allah A friend of mine Just asked me the other day And she said How can I always remember Allah I said He's around you He's around you 24-7 We are distracted He's there Look at this Look at this Look at this Look at this What did Allah Say about this In the Qur'an Anybody can answer What did he say about that Anyone say it Don't be scared Say it But what did he say Specifically about The drinking war I gave you a hint now أرأيتم الماء الذي تشربون أأنتم أنزل To move him from the mosque أحنا المنزل Do you see the water that you drink How many bottles of water you see a day How many times you drink water a day Do you think of this verse So what is the truth Most of you know it Do you see the water that you drink أأنتم أنزل To move him from the mosque Allah is asking Rhetoric question No answer Did you send it down That's what he said أم نحن المنزل Or we Him And then he gives you A statement That by itself is enough لو نشاء If we will We have made it أجادة Better فلو لا تشكر Why you are not grateful If you live this way In your life In case you wonder How do I get there How do I become that woman We are all talking about Since morning In every part of your life In every minute in your life Connected with Allah In every minute in your life Connected with Allah You are eating You are cooking You are shopping You are driving You are tired You are exhausted You are stressed out Everything is not going well In your day What do you need to do Be that Qanita Be that Sayyida Maryam Go to your room Alone In your Sujood In your Sujood Cry to him And say I can't take it anymore You are the one Who is going to make it easy Then you are Sayyida Maryam In that moment And the last And I'm going to End up with this Because I want time For questions and answers And Allah سبحان تعالى Said this As sheikh Sousan said this That Allah سبحانه وتعالى When it comes to Ibadah The real act of worship He did not differentiate at all He actually specified Separate And I want you to Memorize this ayah It's a long ayah Memorize it It's worth it It's a suratul إن المسلمين والمسلمات It's a suratul أحزاب الحمد لله You know it I'm going to say One by one And I'll translate So you learned it I don't know the number إن المسلمين والمسلمات Verily The Muslim Men The Muslim Woman Separate This was the answer To the question Of Said That's different to opinion About it But this is one of them Now look at all these Description He put descriptions And see where do you score إن المسلمين والمسلمات The Muslim woman The Muslim man The Muslim woman Quick question What is a Muslim? The five pillars We all have Verily The Muslim You and I When we submit to Allah Submit to Allah And everything You came late You planned it very well And you had the car And you looked at the GPS And everything was perfect Guess what You came in And you took the wrong exit Muslim You submit to the will of Allah You don't say Why I planned it You're not a Muslim The real word Of Muslim I'm speaking إن المسلمين والمسلمات One And he separated here والمؤمنين والمؤمنات The believing man And the believing woman You believe in the six pillars But you believe That what before you Will never miss you And what miss you Will never befall you You're a believer When you wish for your sisters What you wish for yourself You're a believer When your neighbor Is safe Because you are his Or her neighbor You're the real picture of the Eman Don't I always say this to myself Don't narrow this Don't make it too shallow It's way deeper إن المسلمين والمسلمات والمؤمنين والمؤمنات Now والقاني تين والقاني تات سيدة مريم The one who is Spiritually connected to Allah Submitting to Allah Asking to Allah Three And four إن المسلمين والمسلمات والمؤمنين والمؤمنات والقاني تين والقاني تات والصادقين والصادقات Those who are truthful Men and women Truthful in two things Look at your tongue again Truthful in what you say And truthful what you do You say يا الله I love you We all say that You know what he says to me Show me Show me the love And the moment The choice comes in Between what pleases him And what I like Or what pleases him And what people like What happens Which choice we choose Of course the other one صادقين Those who are truthful And then Or صابرين or صابرات Those who are patient And not patient only Because you're going through Difficult marriage Or because You didn't get what you want Sometimes we have everything But we are bored I need to be patient Sometimes I'm sick I need to be patient Sometimes I don't get What I want I need to be patient الصابرين والصابرات And then والخاشيين والخاشيين Allah divided in this verse Every act of worship خاشي is different than qanat خاشي when you are In your salah Like that Sahabi If there is a fire And the mosque didn't move You're with Allah And then he comes to The acts of worship والصائمين والصائمات Those who are fasting They fast Not from Ramadan to Ramadan These days Take opportunity Fast Short day And then والحافيضين والحافيضات Those who protect Their private part حيا What you dress The way you speak The way you interact With the other gender I'm not saying Complete separation This is not reality They did not Say the Haisha Thoughts of the Sahaba How do you conduct yourself And then والذا كرين الله كثيرا والذا كرات Those who remember Allah Allah This is one of the few things In the Quran Allah said a lot Where are you From this description That's the Muslim woman That's what Allah wants From you and me Where are we And why we are not Don't let أموالنا و أهلنا Distract you Don't let your children Don't let your wealth Don't let your beauty Don't let people Distract you At one point You will take nothing with you I just witnessed Last week As I was driving today I remember the drive A very dear friend Who passed away And I'll share this story With everybody Because I literally asked Allah Whatever you have given her When I am dining Give me Three hours She is dining We are all around her Three hours Nothing was in that home In the ICU In the hospital But the dhikr of Allah None stop You know تلقين When you keep reminding The dying person Of لا إلهي الله This didn't stop And in between There was ياسين And then they said She's almost going to go And I was there in the room Went to her ear رد all ياسين Are you ready تموما إليه ترجعون And she passed What did she had with Allah I know I can't say But I know This woman very well This is what you need to be The Muslim woman And if you If you think this woman When you lived a smooth life You're absolutely Not right All the challenges In the deen In the dunya In everything In marriage In children You name it Before they intubated her I was there This is not somebody told me I was there She looked at me and says I didn't pray Fajr I said تايمو In the ER She did تايمو She prayed Fajr They intubated her Didn't wake up after And we are fine And we have no problem And we just sleep For Fajr And I want to be a sayda Maria And I claim I'm sayda Fatima I can claim whatever I claim But the moment when it comes Allah will show me Who I am And who are you May Allah SWT And I am going to tell you What all my teachers Used to pray for us They always used to say Pray for yourself كوني مباركة إنما كنت May Allah make you blessed Wherever you are I love this dua It's actually the dua of Sayyidina Anissa جعلني مباركة إنما كنت You know what it means Wherever you are Whatever situation you are There's Khair is going to come From you To yourself And to the people around you جزاكم الله خير May Allah reward Rahmah Foundation This is beautiful May Allah accept from all of us It's a beautiful day We spend it all Remembering him Subhanah Remembering these blessed women May Allah SWT Give us little bit Of what he gave them يا رب يامين Just he looks at everybody Everyone In a minute And he say All of you are Maria يا رب يامين All of you are sayda Fatima يا رب يامين Ask him He is the general He is the generous He is the الكريم And he will never ever Let us down سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك أشهد أن لا إله إلا أن أستغفرك وأتوب إليك صلى الله عليه وسلم وعلى سيدنا محمد وعلى آله وأصحابي تسليما كثير