 Hi, she was seven. Okay, so I have a topic today that one of my subscribers requested and the topic is let me read it because I did write it down and I just want to read it word for word. Okay, do a video on men not being romantic but will go out of their way for their male friends. Okay, first of all, men are not romantic by nature. Once they get used to you, once you've been in a relationship for a long time, they dial down the romance because they've already gotten what they want. They already got you. They're secure. They're comfortable and they're like, okay, well, now I got you. I don't have to do all that stuff no more. So chill. Okay, but we'll go out of their way if one of their male friends call, you know, oh, I need you to bring me this. Oh, I need this. Oh, I need that. And they'll be jumping up to do it. Why? Because men are competitive. Men are competitive. So for example, if their male friend needs something from them, they don't want to let them down. They want to be like, okay, yeah, I got that. I can do that. I'm competent. I can do something. I can fix your situation because I'm a man. I can help you out, bro. So with a woman, the reason why men stop being romantic to you is because you stop challenging them. You stop making them compete, which is why I said never stop making a man work for you. Okay? If that man was still working for you, he would tell his friend, I'm sorry, I can't do it. Baby, what do you want to do? You know what I'm saying? You can't relax your standards once you get in a loving relationship. You got to keep them high. You got to be like, okay, yeah, you know, you've been romantic and now he's slacking off. So when he starts slacking off from being romantic, start buying the crap for yourself. Okay? If he stops bringing you flowers or if he brings you flowers one or two times and then stop, keep buying flowers and bringing them home and, you know, don't have no note on them. You know? It's like, oh, I love flowers so much. Don't say you bought them. Just bring them home. Okay? When he stops doing like taking you out to eat, take yourself out to eat without him. Okay? He'll be like, you know, I'm like, you know, you want to go, you want to go out to eat? And we're like, no, I feel like we're not to eat tonight. And let's just stay home. Why don't you cook something? Oh, okay. Well, I'll be back. Go out to eat by yourself. Come back and go normally about your day. And we're like, what where'd you go? I thought you went to the grocery store. Oh, I went out to eat. You know? So when he starts slacking, that's when you dial it up. Okay? If he's, you know, doesn't want to show affection to you in public, and you're walking around and he used to, he used to hold your hand. He used to hug you and kiss you. Now he doesn't do it anymore. Then walk far away from him or walk in front of him. Like, I'm not with you. If you're not going to be with me the way I want you to, then I don't, I want other potential people to see that I'm not with you. You know? Just walk ahead of him. Walk like 10 steps ahead of him or way behind him. Like, you know, you're not going to hold my hand and we're not going to be walking the same speed, obviously. So I'm going to take my time and I'm going to be looking around at other people, you know? So you have to teach them lessons, okay? So then they're going to look around and see that you're not there and they're going to go back. And then you grab their hand and say, well, if you want to keep up with me or if you want me to keep up with you, you need to hold my hand. Okay? So then they'll just hold it, you know? Another thing like, you know, a lot of men don't like to kiss in public because they make other men are looking at them like, oh, he's whipped. Oh, he's whipped and they feel weak, you know? So what you do is you stop showing them affection in private, okay? And they'll be so starved for affection that they'll do it in public the next time you're out, okay? So starve them in private so that they don't care if they do things in public for you, you know? If you want to go out to eat and go to a nice restaurant and they don't, go by yourself or with a friend, you know? Don't let them determine what you're worth. Make them remember who you are, okay? If, you know, if they're jumping up through hoops to go help their male friends, instead of, you know, doing things for you or helping you and they don't jump up like that for you, then when they need help, tell them you're busy, okay? Tell them to call their friend, okay? So you don't let them slide. If you want that romantic treatment to keep going, you always have to be the challenge. You cannot relax. This is why even after you're married, it keeps going. The game never ends until someone dies. And I was serious about that. The game does not end until one is gone, seriously. So if you thought this was, you know, a game with an end, you were very wrong. The only end is death, okay? So you have to keep on going. Ladies, you got to keep playing these games until they, until either they are trained or they're dead, okay? So don't think you're getting a break. For example, you know, if I want something, I have to make someone think it was their idea. You know what I'm saying? I have to make them think it's their idea. I have to implant the thought into their head so that they can come up with the idea and do what I do exactly what I want. You know, just like that movie Inception, I got to go plant seeds and thoughts in people's heads subconsciously, you know what I'm saying? So it's a game. It's all a mental game. You know, if I want a vacation, you know, if I want to go on vacation, I'll start looking at hotel rooms. I'll start looking at flights and stuff like that and naming some very expensive places that I know we ain't going because I really want to go somewhere else that's not so expensive. So the compromise is, well, why don't you find someplace cheaper? And now we're going on vacation before we went going on no vacation at all. But then now I'm whining about I want to go to this very expensive place. Oh, no, you know, we're not right now. Okay, well, I'll find something cheaper. Okay, you can do that. Find something cheaper. Okay. And we go always ask for more than what you really want that way. It's kind of like bargaining. You start high, you know, they'll bid low, you start high and end up exactly where you want in the middle. Okay. So this is how you have to do things. You have to implant things in their head. You got to bargain. You got to constantly challenge them. Okay. If you want romantic treatment, starve them in private. That way they'll be happy to touch your hand, happy to kiss you, or happy to, you know, be near you, happy to do stuff for you. You know what I'm saying? Because they know in private, oh, if I do this for her, then in private, maybe she'll be more affectionate with me or, you know, we can do stuff again and we can, you know, sleep, sleep together again because like I'm starving her emotionally in public and in romance and she's starving me sexually. So it's a lot of give and take there. Okay. It's funny because at first in the relationship, the man will do whatever the woman wants. And once they get comfortable, once the woman gets comfortable, she starts letting little things slide here and there. Not saying nothing because she's so in love or so happy. You can't do that. That's why I say nice women finish last. You got to constantly be up on it. Like if anything changes, you have to say no. I'm sorry. Excuse me. I'm sorry. I got to go home. Just don't even take it. Don't work. Don't let it slide. If you let it slide, it's going to slide even further the next time and then before you know it, your neck flicks and chill chick. Okay. Do not let it slide. You know, if you go get up to get dressed and go over at your man's house because you think, you know, y'all are going out on a date and he's got on his, his boxers and sitting on the couch with the remote saying, oh, let's just stay in tonight. Don't sit down on that dang couch. If he already told you y'all were going to go out and then he changed his mind at the last minute, say, okay, well, you have fun. I'll be out with my girls or I'm going out. I'm going to go have drinks. So if you want to come, you can meet me later, but I'm going out. You know, don't let things slide. That is the biggest mistake women make in the, in the beginning of a relationship. You have to, it's just like when you get a dog, you have to train it. You can't let it pee on the carpet. You can't let it get away with, you know, not going on the little potty pads or scratching at the door to go out. You have to discipline them right then and there so that they learn their lesson and they are trained. Okay. You have to train your man. I know a lot of women will say, oh, that's so funny. Haha. And a lot, a lot of men will say you have to train your women, but training is just another word for programming. Okay. You have to program your man to be the man you want him to be. Okay. Just like they program you to be the woman they want you to be. Okay. So you're going to have to never let up. Do not let anything slide. You let something slide. It's all downhill from there. Okay. Don't let anything slide. You let something slide. You're going to regret it. I promise you because then they're going to get used to it and they're going to start thinking that's the normal way before you know it. There's no more romance in your relationship. You know, he's no longer gifting you. He's no longer bringing you flowers. He's no longer holding your hand in public. He's all off with his boys now. He's all, you know, doing things for him and nothing for you. So keep them in check from the beginning. Okay. From the beginning. Do not do it in a way like you're their mother, but blow it off. Like, oh, okay. Well, you know, you have fun. I'm going to go out. Don't be, don't get mad. Don't get emotional because you're responding. You're responding the wrong way. You're responding through emotion. We need to respond with logic. Okay. So if you say he's going to take you out and do all this and then he changes his mind. He doesn't want to go do anything. Say, okay, well, you have a good night. I'm going to go out. Okay. Don't get mad. When you don't get mad, they think you're up to something and now they're thinking about you the entire time. Okay. If you get mad, they're just going to be mad at you and be like, oh, good, you know, bye, whatever. I'm going to call my ex, you know, if you make them mad, they're going to call their ex or be mad at you or something. You don't want to give them any ammunition. You just want them to relax and have a good time. Have a good night and you're out. Okay. The next time you come over, the next time he makes a promise, he's not going to break it. He's going to keep it because he, that whole night he was thinking about who is she with? What is she doing? I wish that would have gone. Oh man, I messed up. You know, so you have to do that. Anyway, many women mess up because they, they relax their standards once they get in a relationship and that's when you need to strengthen them. Okay. Because they think they got you and then you become the victim. So when you get into the relationship, you strengthen your standards. You do not bend them. Okay. So a lot of women will, you know, will come to men, like a lot of women that want a man to help them out and things like that. They're going to come to them with all their problems and that is the wrong thing. You don't come to a man with problems. You come to a man with solutions to the problems that you have. Okay. You know you got problems. Everybody got problems. You don't come to the man with the problem. You come to the man with the problem that you have a solution to that he can help you with. Okay. You already have your problem solved when you get there because if you don't, he's going to say, Oh, she's one of them girls with issues. I've got to let her go. Can't handle it. Oh, you know what? I have this issue, but I've already solved it. I'm going up there, you know, in a few minutes to take care of the, you know, the issue. But I was wondering, can I, can you give me like some money? Like don't even tell them what it is. If they ask, if they ask, or if they say, well, what do you need help with? What's going on? Then you can enlighten them a little bit. Don't tell them everything. If they want to go with you, let them go. But let them know that you can handle your stuff and that you're just not a huge bowl, a huge ball of issues. Okay. Some of them might not want to go because they don't want to be involved and they just want to be clear of it and they just might just give you the money and say, here, go to your business. Okay. Bye. Thanks. Then when you get back, don't even say nothing. Oh, thanks. You're welcome. If they don't ask, don't tell. You know, someone asked that question in the group, sort of, in a way, and you don't come to men with a bunch of problems. You go with them with solutions and you already know how to solve your problem. The only thing you need them for is to help you solve the problem. Okay. Now, if it's something else, like, like I said, a flat tire, then you let them solve that. But if it's something that's business-oriented, financially-oriented, you solve your own problem, you just get the money. Okay. Or, you know, get the answer you need. But if you want them to be like your night in shining armor and you want to be the damsel in distress, have something that they can feel proud of. Like, oh, baby, I got a flat tire. Can you help me? Or can you send a tow truck? Or blah, blah, blah. Oh, honey, I don't know what this is. Can you help me figure this out? You know, you're so smart. That kind of stuff they like. But problems and issues and things like that, they run away from it quick. They're like, oh, Lord, I knew something wrong. Okay. So, you don't want to do that. So, keeping romance means keeping the man challenged. Romance in yourself when he stops. Or when he starts slacking, you pick it right back up, you know. He stops buying you flowers. Go buy yourself some flowers. And he was like, oh, where'd you get those? Oh, you know, I got used to having flowers in my apartment or my house every week. I just, you know, you stop. So, I just went and bought some for myself. And then he'll feel stupid and bad. He'll go buy you some the next week. Okay. You just, you got to be nice, nasty. You know, nice, nasty is being nice, but sarcastic at the same time. You know, if you stop, like I said, if he stops holding your hand in the mall or trying to kiss you in public, don't walk like you're not even with them. If that's how he wants to be, you're not even with them. You're not my brother. You're not my sister. You're not my sister. You're not my daddy. We need to be holding hands and looking into each other's eyes. Okay. It's not, you know, a lot of people get past that. Like, especially once you've been married a while, you don't have to do that anymore. But in the beginning of the relationship, if he's already starting to slack and y'all aren't married and y'all have a bunch of kids and stuff like that, it should still be fresh. So, if you see it slipping before it's time, you need to pull it back in because that means he's losing interest in you. He's losing respect for you. He's getting very comfortable with you. You're relaxing your standards with him. You're letting stuff slide and pretty soon you're going to be chasing him. Okay. So, do not let that happen. All right. Okay. I will see y'all on the next video. Comment and if you're new, subscribe and let me know what y'all think. All right. Bye.