 Hello everyone, do another Narcissist Live video. Just out here at the pool tonight, gonna talk about how Narcissists play games and I'm sure this is something that we are all familiar with. From the moment you meet them, they are playing a game with you. They are manipulating you, they are lowering you in, we are trying to understand where they come in from and they exploit that, they use us, they use you to lure us into the relationship because we don't realise that it is all a game, we are not aware of that in the beginning. Then things start to go wrong, we start to see flaws and imperfections, they start to make mistakes but they just don't want to accept that it's them, they don't want to take accountability for their actions because they don't intend on changing for you anyway and that is why they soon start to play another game. They start devaluing and degrading you, putting you down, making you feel small, making you feel like you are not good enough, making you feel like something is wrong with you but that's just another game that they play because they know all too well that you are okay, they are quite happy with what you are doing for them that's why they stick around even while they are devaluing you because you got to ask the question if you are that bad why are they there for that long but then you start to catch on, you start to figure them out, you start to realise that it isn't you, you start questioning and confronting them, you are no longer willing to tolerate their behaviour and when they know that you are on to them then they play another game, they ramp it up and say that you are so bad and wrong that they have to leave you and up until this point they may have been smearing your name to their family and friends and maybe even to your family and friends who may now be their flying monkeys, they are turning all of these people against you, they are making them think that something is wrong with you, they are making them think that you are not doing enough to make them happy and they are doing everything they can to help you because they care about you but they just can't do it anymore because you are not willing to do what they want, you are not willing to change and this is just another part of the game, it's another part of the game so that they can avoid accountability, they are quite happy with the way they are, why would they ever decide to change, it's not going to make things better for them because they are the ones who want about anything, because they are the ones who want about anything, they are the ones who haven't got anything to give to you, die, jet, blameshit, gaslight, that's the name of the game for them, that's what they always do, it's always the same story, it doesn't matter what part of the world you are from, it's like they are all the same, they all do the same things, they all deny, reject, blameshit and gaslight, you'll always see those same tactics again and again and it's something that we all experience with them because they refuse to take accountability for their actions, they refuse to accept that they know exactly what they are doing, they know that their actions are harmful to you, the problem is they just don't care as long as they get the result that they want, they don't care about what happens to you, they will gladly throw you under the bus and forget about you, as long as they get what they want, we are not alike, we're very different, you may be well into jumping in front of a bullet for them, you may be willing to do anything to help them, to make things better for them, especially when you see that they're going through something, you want to help, you want to make a difference, you're willing to do whatever they want, whenever they want you to do it, but it's never enough for them, it's never enough to make them change, to make them happy, to make them satisfied with you and anyway they're not willing to do the same for you, they're not willing to go out of their way to make you happy, to make you comfortable in the relationship, they're not willing to do that, because if they did that then it would make you look at everything you're doing for them, that's how they're not really doing anything for you in return, if anything they're just a hindrance to your progress, they're setting you back in life, but they don't want you to see that and that is why they play this game of making you feel like that you're bad or something is wrong with you or you're not doing enough, you're not making them happy when you should be there, they put that on you because it keeps you looking at yourself, it keeps you trying to change or improve, instead of looking at them and realizing that they're not good for you, but many of us when they walk out the door, we feel like we have lost something, something valuable, something that was helping us, when if you look back they never did anything for you, they never improved your life in any way, so when they walk out the door you should realize that all you've lost is the problem, all you've lost is someone who is using up all of your time, energy, money and resources, that's the only thing that you've lost and that is why many of you when they do leave you will notice that your life starts to get a lot better, things start to improve for you, you will begin to notice that, maybe not straight away but with the time you will see that things do start to improve and of course when that happens i've won with it, they want to tell you you're not deserving of it because it's all about them having to be right, this black malice they have won and for them to make someone has to lose is the game that they play with the closest people to them, because many of you who watch my videos, you were the closest person to the narcissist and how did they treat you, they abused you, they treated you like their own personal punching bag that they could use so that they could feel better about themselves and that's really all it is, that's what the game is about, that's where they play these games, it's just so that they can feel better at your expense, gone a bit deep on this one but i hope you like it, i hope it vibes with you, i know many of you are going through this right now and i feel for you i really do, i know this stuff messes with your head but you just have to look back sometimes and remember all of the things you did for them, everything you sacrificed, i mean i've said it before and i'm gonna say it again right now, the true victims nine times out of ten, we leave with a lot less than what we came in with but as for the abusers, the manipulators, the people who exploit, they leave with a lot more than what they came in with because most of the time they didn't come in with nothing anyway, you have to help them out, i know some of you were with some who were homeless, they didn't have any money, they didn't have a job, they didn't have any friends or family who were supporting them, it was just you and only you who was helping them out and then when they used up everything you had and things got bad for you, they weren't there for you, no one was there for you and that's just how it always is with the victim, we are the ones who lose out, that's what makes us victims, it's like we've been robbed but they walk away, they ride off into the sunset with their new life after they've robbed everything from you, it's the same story again and again but these idiots think that they can play the victim when it's like hold on a minute, you came in with nothing, you had all of these experiences, you had all of these material gifts, this money, you had a place to stay, you had food, you had all of your bills paid for and you're the one who wants to complain and act like you're the victim, it doesn't make any sense but sadly a lot of us who are naive, we want to help so a lot of us fall for it but let's not fall for that anymore, it's time to wake up and realize that you're being played, you're being taken for a fool, it's time to wake up and realize that yeah I'm just out here at the swimming pool area, I can't do it here, coming to your life as always I'd just like to thank you for joining me on another NARC survivor life video, do appreciate your war, if you'd like to support our community please give the video a thumbs up down below, share your thoughts in the comment section, share this video with anyone who you believe in the help and click that subscribe button down below so you can receive the notifications for my future videos, if you'd like to book a 1-1 with me you can do that from my website, it's NARC survivor at Cuddy UK and check out my Instagram as well, it's NARC survivor YouTube and Instagram, all right that's all I've got for today, thank you all for watching and you all have a great day