 All right Hazel writes Why men nowadays? Okay, what why men nowadays guys are not genuine and truthful. It's it's more admirable when they are bold at front Okay, so I Believe that most human beings Lie to themselves. I think this idea that people aren't truthful or what did she say? She said genuine and truthful I think most people actually lie to themselves and what I mean to say is a lot of times like for example when I when I okay Let me give you an example after my divorce. I Said I'm ready for a relationship. I'm ready for a relationship I'm ready for a relationship and I began dating someone and a really fantastic woman about nine months after we filed for divorce Totally smitten by her. I love bombed her a bunch You know I was totally under I came on strong and then I hit my emotional capacity and I pulled away Okay, I didn't know at the time. I thought I wanted a relationship But then I realized I couldn't handle any more emotional responsibility now the thing was I blame She doesn't know this but I blamed her for that and what I mean to say is I didn't recognize that the issue was me I thought it was her so then what happened is a few months later. I mean another woman We date for three months. I come on strong I hit my emotional capacity and then I pulled away and I thought oh it was her So I did it again and again and again and again Okay, until I realized that the common denominator was me. I wasn't being disingenuous or untruthful I just didn't understand that the problem was me So let me just say this this whole notion that a lot of people and I was lying to myself Because I thought I was capable of handling this And I wasn't so anyway, does that make sense? I hope it does Hazel. Thank you for that question. I really appreciate it