 So I can walk up to a girl and if she's given me eye contact as Adam Lyon said if she gave me a What is it a third-degree stare? You know she gives me that love like the the fuck me eyes I'm not gonna walk over and say hey. I saw you standing there and gave me the fuck me eyes. I'm Robbie I wanted to come meet you right? That won't work. It's too ridiculous. It just shows you don't get it. I have not tried that look like So I'll walk up and I'll just be like hey I'm Robbie Shake her hand hold on to her hand She knows why I'm there. I don't have to say it. That's a direct approach My words aren't necessarily direct. I'm not saying anything direct, but that's a direct approach Day versus night talked about that. These are some things I like to say in bars Usually if I'm out and I'm standing with my buddies I'd rather be talking to girls right if you're out with your buddies Especially if you're out to meet women and you're just talking to them. You're probably not having fun So if I see a woman I like I'll just walk up to her and I'll say so I was standing over there with my buddies They're not as interesting as you guys. What's up? I'm Robbie It's a direct approach. They like it and then I'll be like actually they're pretty interesting Come on over and I bring them over now. We're in an interaction. It's super easy super direct The other day when was it Friday? I was out with a couple of you guys doing some in-field work The guys I was out with saw a girl on a bike. They're like, how do you hit on a girl riding a bike? This is right over here So she was riding that through the intersection. I like jumped in front of her not not to scare her jump or throw off Her bike, but she was you know ten yards away and I was like yo pull over so she pulls over I Walk up to her Hey, I was standing with my friends. We saw you on the bike. They thought you were hot I thought you were cute and they're like dude you should talk to her, but she's on a bike and whatever So here I am. I risked my life to do this. I'm Robbie. She cracked up It was it. It was easy. I said, you know, you look like you're in a rush. She said, yeah, I'm going to a pool party Where are you from? She asked me from New York. What do you do blah blah blah? Literally a maybe minute and a half interaction and I said I got to go. I got to get back to my friends. You got to go Let's see each other again. Give me your number if you don't like me. Give me a fake one When I ask for a number I say that every time it's just a fun little thing to do and you'll never get a fake number so And approach anxiety like I said if you approach in this manner You'll crush approach anxiety if you can walk up to a woman and tell her Exactly what you're doing and have the confidence to just lay your balls on the line risk rejection You will blast through approach anxiety in a matter of I'd say weeks if you do this three times a day You know five days a week for three weeks You will not have Approach anxiety you'll have approach excitement, which is different approach excitement is you're excited to talk to her You're still going to be nervous. You're always going to be nervous. You're never going to be completely like Desensitized to it and if you are it just means it's no longer something worth doing Right who wants to go on the teacup rides at Disneyland? No one who wants to go on one of the roller coasters everyone why because it's exciting it gets your blood going gets your heart pumping so Let's talk about how to keep the conversation going and how to read a woman Guys ask this question. How do I keep the conversation going? How do I read a woman or how do I sexually escalate? We'll talk about that next so girl on the seawall this happened few months ago Another example of a silly Direct say what I'm thinking opener. I'm walking with a buddy. We see two girls sitting on a seawall Gorgeous girls. He's like let's talk to them. I said wait a second. We just ate dinner We had fish our breath is probably nasty Let's go get some tic-tacs to the store and then we'll come back and hit on them So what do we do? We get tic-tacs. We come back. I walk up to him. Hey, we're walking by like 15 minutes ago We saw you girls sitting here. We thought you look cute our breaths are disgusting We just had fish so we went to the store got some tic-tacs and now we're back to flirt with you What's up? I'm Robbie. They crack up. I sit down. He sits down Now immediately he started getting love from his girl They were talking she was into him. She was She turned to face him the two girls one was here one was here. My buddy sat here. I sat here So this girl immediately starts investing in him. I call that investment. She turns to him. She's giving him Her time her energy My girl not so much. She was nice. She was friendly, but she's sitting there She's sitting like this kind of facing away from me, but she's talking to me She's investing with her words. She's not investing with her body at all and From that at first I was like, okay, she's not into me yet But because my buddy was doing so well I Stuck around and it literally took 30 minutes for her to change her body position start facing me She offered me a drink of her. She was like drinking Uso out of a water bottle She was sharing that with me. So it literally took 30 minutes to get investment and during that time all I was doing was really vibing and light rapport Talking to her about Travel talking to her about where I live where she's from really just having what they call a boring interview conversation and a lot of people are like never have boring interview conversations, but if a girl is Interested in you and you ask her boring interview questions They won't be boring because you're interested and if she's interested she'll be interested in you too So this girl was interested. She was investing in me. She was asking me questions. She was sharing with me her life I was sharing with her, but I didn't know she was interested for sure because her body wasn't interested You can't trust women's words, but you can trust their body every time bodies don't lie words do So like I said it took 30 minutes To finally start getting some love from her And in that time like I said vibing and light rapport. We were in isolation meaning She was one-on-one with me her friend was one-on-one with my friend We weren't having a four-way discussion. This is a big mistake I see you guys make they go in with a wingman and they all talk together in one group It's not gonna go anywhere You have to get the girl alone and when I say alone it could literally just mean I'm here Someone's here the other two people are here could just mean hey check this out I point over here. I face my body over here. She likes me. She'll follow suit now We're in isolation talking having a one-on-one conversation not talking to the group very important to do that If you don't do that within the first five minutes first two minutes, you're probably not going to go very far with that interaction and Then once you're in isolation Deep rapport find out what she's passionate about what are her hopes? What are her dreams be genuinely curious? I mean you probably are already genuinely curious, but don't think of it as a pickup think of it as This is an amazing woman, and I want to learn more about her and If you have that attitude she'll really feel that authenticity and you guys share with each other your life It won't be hard to get her into bed once she feels really comfortable with you. She'll she'll get you into bed Fun games, I'll go back to those in a second so Actually, let me talk about those now, so let me finish this story girl in seawall after about those first 30 minutes where she wasn't giving me a lot of love suddenly she started giving me more love she started like I said turning her body and We needed to move we needed to go somewhere else So we went to a bar. We got some shots. We went to another bar We got some more drinks during that time. We're holding hands. We're walking together if a girl is willing to hold your hand She's probably willing to kiss you. She's willing to interlace her fingers in your fingers She wants to kiss you. She's hoping to kiss you and if you don't escalate as Adam Lyon said as some of the other speakers said you're gonna quickly Look like a wimp especially if you approach a girl directly she expects you to physically escalate Basically when you walk up and you say I like you and By talking to her by by her talking to you She's saying I like you too if you don't do anything to escalate that interaction. She's gonna get turned off She's expecting you to so you have to and So what I did in that in this one is I screwed up I didn't escalate and I missed the window there and I knew I had to get that window back I knew I couldn't just lunge in for the kiss because that'd be weird it didn't feel like the right time You know check in with yourself if it doesn't feel like the right time. It's not the right time So we played a fun game