 And you know, it's this thing where it's a lot of talk about men working and going out to work and not being able to be there for their kids because they got to work, they got to provide. And I understand that and I done miss some parts of my son's lives, like some games and things like that. And I've never missed anything like really special, but and I've been fortunate to be able to start my own company and kind of build my own brand. But I don't feel that I'm special in that area. I feel that we all can do it. We just may need to talk to the right person or we may need to really sit down and think outside of the box and really see what it'll take. But and also sometimes you got to take your chances. You got to press the limit. Sometimes we could do more than we think we could do in the sense of like if your child has a recital or a game at seven PM and you work three to 11. A lot of times just we have not because we actually not. Where if you went to the to the boss, if you not the boss, if you went to the boss and say, hey, you know, my child has this thing at seven o'clock. Is there somebody I could switch shifts with? Or is there a way that I could come in three to six and then go to the three to six 30, go to the recital at seven and then come back after it at like nine. And just asking that question. The boss may say, hey, you know what? I'm gonna give you that day off. Take a paid day off. I'm gonna give you a paid day off because the fact that you even had a nerve to come ask me, can you be there for your child? I respect that. And that's one of the things that I want me in to understand is that we have to do everything in our power to be more present. Don't get so caught up about, oh, gotta make money, gotta make money. Cause to the child, the child don't know the difference between steak and a burger. Child don't know the difference between filet mignon and a burger. Child don't know the difference between beans and rice and shrimp Alfredo. So it's like, yeah, you gotta make money, but ain't no amount of money going to replace the time that you have with that child. And the reason why I'm shooting this video because I talking to one of my clients saying, they do a thing to where it's a high ticket, high ticket service that my client has. And with this high ticket service, this service is like $5,000 to $12,000. But it's typically done on Saturdays. You know, the class is taught on Saturdays. So I could partner and get 10 people to get this service which is proven, guaranteed, get this service. Let's say it's 5K, 10 people that's 50K. If I partner with my client, that's 25K that I make. I could do that four Saturdays in a row and make 100,000. That 100,000, it sounds really good, but I'm gonna tell you one thing about me is the hole in my heart for missing my son games at 16 years old when he's on his path of trying to be recruited to play division one soccer and in the first scrimmage of the season, he scored a goal from 40 yards out. I want y'all to understand 40 yards is 120 feet from 40 yards out. Top Benz, knuckleball, what I mean by that is this was a very hard, direct shot that went into the top corner of the goal, which is extremely hard to do. He left footed, but he plays defense, not offense. So he's not a forward striker, he plays left back. So he rarely, based on they said, he rarely gets to shoot the ball. So in this game, his first shot, he came up middle of the field, a little past middle of the field, first shot, boom. He never hit that shot in his life. Guess what? I was there to see it with my eyes. To me, that's worth more than a hundred thousand dollars. And one of the things that I've learned is that by forcing myself to find a way, by forcing myself to be creative, I still been able to make a living. And yeah, I can't make as much as I could, but I still been able to make a living. So my son plays at three o'clock tomorrow and I'm gonna have to miss my younger son game because he plays at 12 and at four. But my older son plays at three, but has to be there at two and it take an hour and 15 minutes to get there. So we're not really gonna be able to see much of his game. Well, we're not gonna be able to see his game. So with that being the case, I have to take in, I gotta miss my younger son games, but see, he younger. So he got more time to play. He nine years old. So I was working and traveling every week when my older son was eight. And that's when I was missing his games, but you get to a certain age to where it really started to count, where it really matters to you. Whereas when they're young, it really don't matter as much to them. They like, oh, I like it, but it's okay, dad, if you can't make it, like it's cool. But when you get older, it's like that. You gonna be at the game? Like, oh man, you ain't gonna be able to make it. Okay, no, I get it. Yeah, you know they mouth saying they okay, but their heart is hurting because you wanna perform for the ones you love. You don't care nothing about your teammates and their parents. You wanna perform for the ones you love. And it come to a time to where as a man, you gotta think about that. And you gotta say, you know what? I gotta beat up for my children. Like, bump all this money because I'm gonna be honest with you. A lot of men, a lot of men, you using that I gotta work as an excuse because work is fun. Work is fun. Like right now I'm headed out of town right now. I'm not missing a game today. No practice today. The coach threw on my younger son a little extra practice, but that ain't nothing. You know, my wife and her mom, they're gonna be able to handle that. But I'm headed out of town for a meeting and then coming right back in same day. I could have went out last night and missed practice and went down last night or I could have stayed extra today. But I'm like, no, I'm finna be here. Ending up because guess what? Games is tomorrow. And I'm gonna miss my younger son games on Saturday, but he got games on Sunday that I'm gonna be able to make because our oldest son don't play on Sunday. So a lot of men go to talk about, oh, I got to work, I got to work, but work is fun because when you at work, you with the boys and you talking about all kinds of stuff. You talking about, you talking about women, you talking about sports. You talking about Donald Trump and Joe Biden politics. You laughing, kekein, drinking your beer or some liquor on lunch break, margaritas. If you know that business side of things, you having some Jake Daniels or some margarita. If you working out somewhere else, you have you slipping in a little hard lemonade and you kekein and then hollering about you got to work. No, I'ma tell you something. When I was working a regular job, 40 hours a week working for somebody else, I had a cap on me, 20K to 60, maybe 20K to 60K a year is what I could make on that job. I could have put myself in danger and went to be a police and made or detention deputy. I could have made 44,000 as a detention deputy, could have made about 40 to 70 or 80 as a police, you know, but of course that's what you got to put in time to get that pay to go up and up and up. So I said, no, I ain't finna do that and I ain't got a record as an adult, but I got stuff in my past that I can't pass that lot of tether tests and I don't want to be, you know, keep lying to these people. And so here I am as a grown man, husband and a father getting a W-2 for 20,000 dollars. I'm like, man, what in the world? This ain't gonna cut it. Well, I wanted to make six figures in my life and guess what? When I forced myself to think outside the box, when I forced myself to say, okay, Tony, use your mind, how can you make more money? How can you use your natural gifts? And that's the one thing that a lot of men don't understand. It's like, you going to work and you working for these people, but then you going home and you building, you building a whole house, you a handyman, you fixing ACs, you fixing refrigerators, you hanging up TVs on the wall, you putting down tile, you painting, you drawing, you singing, you dancing, you playing the drums, you doing all this right here, what you working for these people? So it's like, why are you working for these people when you got all these gifts in your hand? You got all these gifts in your hand, what you working for somebody for? So I'm gonna tell you what you need to do. I started to push myself like that. I'm like, man, I got to use my gifts. I got to use my gifts. And you know what my gifts did? I'm working for these people and these people taking pay me $20,000 to work four hours a week. I started using my gifts on the side. And I remember one year before I left my job, my gifts made 36,000. I'm like, what in the world? But I couldn't believe it still. When I actually doubled down on my gifts, that first year, full time on my gifts, I made $147,000. The next year, I think I probably made $250,000. I went from literally $20,000 a year on somebody else's job, on somebody else's schedule to making six figures and making my own schedule. And I'm gonna tell you, the stuff I did that took me away from my son from missing his games or what have you and not being home all the time, I actually didn't have to do those things. A lot of those gigs and stuff I took, that was just for the experience, just for the fun. When I was missing a lot of time, it was for one basketball season. I was working in the NBA. I worked in the NBA with a team as a team life coach and the teams in Texas. And I live in Florida. So every week they flew me from Florida to Texas. And I would spend two to five days with them. And then in addition to that, I would tour because I was viral online at the time. So I would tour and I would go to Atlanta, I'd go to DC, I'd go to Dallas, I'd go to Houston, I'd go to New York, L.A., Boston, Miami, Charlotte. I'm hitting all these cities. Every city I go, I'm selling, you know, 200 to 700 tickets, Chicago. So every city, you know, I'm making. Every city I'm making, three grand to 25 grand. I think that year I probably did the year I remember that I looked at, I did $330,000 in ticket sales. Of course you got the venue, you got the flight or the travel hotel. So, you know, I probably made out 200 to 250 grand. Probably that year was probably one of my half a million dollar years. But what I'm saying is, I did that with no mentor, with no publicist, with no assistant, with no role manager. I booked the hotels myself on Google, Googling events, space in Chicago, clicking images, looking what's out there. Like I learned everything I need to learn from Google. Google was my consultant. I don't have a college degree. My mom and daddy are not entrepreneurs. I have no outlier links, no outlier abilities in the areas that I work in. I just forced myself to learn it. I made myself learning and I did it by trial and error. And I did it my way and I did it how I could do it. So I literally had an auditorium, a ballroom with 700 people with no decorations. No decorations. You see how these women conferences be? They got a stage, they got leather couch, they got a coffee table, they got LED screen behind them. They spent $100,000 to produce the event. They had the same amount of people or less than what I had in my event. I had the stage that come with the room and a wireless microphone. That's it. The most I have is two banners, the little retractable banners that stand up, the little rectangle banners that you just pull out the thing and it stand up. I have two of them outside and then when the events start, I get them two things and I bring them and sit one on each end of the stage. That's it. That's it. Did it my way. What makes sense, but guess what? I was able to create a way to where I could take my son to practice every day, take my son to school every day. And then I had to miss some games. I had to miss some games, but I was able to make a lot of games and now I don't miss any games. Now I don't miss any game because I continue to create. I continue to create a system, continue to do something different. So guess what I did learn? I did learn, you know what? I don't have to fly to New York City. To do a seminar. I could do the same seminar on Zoom. I could do the seminar on Zoom. What am I doing? Zoom cost me for 500 people. It cost me $50 a month. It's like, I could go to your city and I could do an event, but it's gonna cost me $500 to $1,200 for a fee. Flight. Bro, what are you doing? What is this person doing? This person's trying to get in the red. I don't know what they're doing. They going so slow in the middle of the road. It's almost like they trying to get me to hit them in the back. They're falling asleep. Got to rely on for me to do these videos and talk to you and actually be coherent and make sense and watch the road. That's the anointing. I want you to realize that. So here I am. It hit me. I'm starting to realize like, you know what? I could go on Zoom. I could go on Zoom and talk to the same people. If New York wanna come out, Atlanta could come out, Dallas could come out, Chicago could come out, all on one call. All on one call. I could charge $25. And I could be at home. Do the Zoom and then go right back to my family. And the same message was delivered. The same purpose was served. So what am I doing? Why am I going all here and there spending thousands of dollars just to be around people in person? Have to meet all them spirits. Got to hug all these people, shake all these hands. You don't know what spirits getting on you. What germs, you know, people sick. Don't wanna tell you cause they wanna meet you. Now you taking back a cold, taking back a virus to the house. Lord show them another way and say, hey, if somebody really want the message, they gonna get on Zoom and that's who you want. That's the type of people you wanna be working with. If somebody's so stuck on meeting you, that's like Dollar Tree. That's like Dollar Tree and that ain't what you trying to entertain. That's a Jezebel spirit and that ain't what you trying to entertain. You trying to do the work. You trying to help people and you wanna help people who wanna be helped. Not people who wanna worship you or idolize you or some of that nature. So the Lord start to show me this. Then he start to show me, listen, you only teaching, you only teaching life. You going and you teaching live but you could put this stuff on a video. You could record this stuff and you could put it into a course and people could take it at their own time because yeah, you could teach at home on Zoom but everybody ain't gonna be able to make it. And then part of the reason why they paying for it is because it's live and you talking to them live and they could answer, they could ask questions but you could create another version of this and talk to people through video. Talk to people through video that's recorded that they could take on their own time. And the Lord show me like, guess what? When it's midnight, your time is 6 a.m. somewhere else. It's 9 p.m. somewhere else. It's 5 a.m. somewhere else. It's 5 p.m. somewhere else. So while you sleeping, you could be earning. And now your earning don't just have to be just when you standing in front of somebody or sitting in front of somebody talking. Now your earning could be so just like that. Lord show me that. So now it's like, okay Lord, got the courses online that people could buy anytime. Got the live Zoom classes. Then I got the one-on-one coaching session but I'm still at home. That's three different ways right there. Then I got the books. Then I got the YouTube videos. Now we have five different ways. Then I got the t-shirts I could sell. Now we have six different ways. Got the products I could sell. The little card game. Now we have seven different ways but then with the books, got 20 books. So now we at 26 ways. With the courses, got 70 courses. So now we at 96 ways. You see what I'm saying? So Lord started to show me like, listen, it's a lot of ways to get it. And you still could be a man of your home. You still could be home to where the devil ain't got no room to play. Like you home every day. So your wife ain't got no time to go out, be out all the time at the mall, meeting men and men shooting they shot. And she feeling lonely. She feeling hurt. She feeling abandoned. And she give a man her number. She bumping into her ex-boyfriend or somebody of the sort. And then the next thing you know, they in an affair. Your kids, you're never home. So mama tired and so they, they getting a sneak on their phone and they doing this. Next thing you know, they in the pornography. They into this and that. And right there up under your nose, but no, you home now. You home, you get to watch over. You get to be, use your wisdom, your discernment. You get to be there. Now there ain't no stuff. Ain't nothing getting over. Ain't nothing, the devil can't slip in and try to play on people because the guardian is there. You there. You the head of the household. You tapped in, you locked in. You ain't got to be drunk. You ain't got to be high. You got to natural high because of the grind that you own. The creativity that you drumming up. That's your high. See, that's what the Lord showed me. Start to realize, wow. Okay, Lord, appreciate you. So listen, I'm over here picking up my dad. Going to my meeting with me. We headed out of town. Another city, same state. Few hours apart though. But hey, God bless you. Listen to me. Think on this thing, you know, if you a woman watching this, send this to your brother. If he got kids, send this to you. You know, your husband, your uncle, your cousin. And if y'all fellows, if you need help building business, get with me. I do one-on-one sessions. I give you a whole blueprint. If your mind don't work like that, you stuck on it, you don't know what to do. I give you a whole blueprint. That's how my mind work. So maybe that might be my outlier ability. And if that's my outlier ability, okay, the praise of the Lord, I give you a whole, all my intellectual property I get to you so you could earn from it. If that's gonna have you home, if that's gonna help you get off that job over the next couple of years, while you building that on the side, then that's what I want to do. God bless you. We'll talk soon.