 all of us have had the experience of just the helplessness when we know someone we care about is hurting. I think it's really important as a culture that we start to pay attention to how often we do things or jump in to fix when actually we're doing that because of our own anxiety. Like I'm not okay that you're not okay because it makes me uncomfortable. All emotions are meant to be felt and I think that's really not what our culture teaches us. It teaches us that we should be happy or there's something wrong. We should be joyful or let's figure out how to get back to that space as quickly as possible. Sometimes if you don't know what to say rather than reach for the little quip, the little like everything happens for a reason, rather than go there just say I don't know what to say. I imagine this is really painful. I imagine this is really tough. I'm with you.