 Hey, y'all she was seven. Okay, so it's been a while. Are you doing? Yes, this is a way you guys my hair didn't magically grow overnight, but I Just got finished filming on my beauty channel and reviewing this if you want to go check it out Okay, a sure a star is my beauty channel Also, I wanted to talk about a subject that a lot of women were asking me about in the group Okay, we can find dates with guys that are financially stable or well to do we can you know We can date and do that thing But How do we land a long-term wealthy boyfriend or husband? How do we land that? Well, it takes a lot of work. Okay, it takes work to land someone that wants to be with you every day All day not all day, but every day Monogamously And take it to that next level of commitment. Okay, you have to be the one that they see in their future Okay, you have to fit into their circles. You have to look the part you have to act the part You have to be able to represent him. So if you're not there yet physically or mentally Then you're probably not gonna have a lot of luck landing a long term Okay, because if if a lot of guys just take on the first or second girl that they start dating and like seriously it's gonna be a lot of clash, you know because you might not understand what he expects of you and You know, you might not be used to certain things or You know, it's gonna be hard for you to adjust and it's gonna take work and blah, blah, blah, blah So it's best to date guys who are wealthy For a while and get to know How things work in their world, you know, what's appropriate. What's not appropriate what they like what they don't like, you know What's how do the wives of their friends act, you know or their Friends girlfriends, how do they look? How do they act? You know, what kind of things do they do, you know So study you got to study how everything is and then you become that you become wife material or girlfriend material of Someone who's financially stable, you know educated, you know entrepreneur Millionaire what however you how you want to go you study that circle Okay, and you hang out in that circle and you don't date outside that circle, okay? If you stop dating outside of the circle of the type of men you want to marry It's gonna get easier and easier. Okay, because if you're outside Dating, you know, whoever, but then you want to marry somebody that's financially stable Then you're not learning the process. You're not learning their world. You're not learning, you know, the behavior Because you're outside dating, you know, someone that you don't really want to marry Because you're lonely and you just want someone. That's not how you do it You stay single until you land the big one. Okay, it's worth it Okay, women that have like a bunch of exes and a bunch of boyfriend and stuff like that that are not in this circle They usually can't get in because they're so used to dealing with these type of men over here that they treat Well to do me in the same way and that's not they're not the same and you can't treat them the same the same tricks Don't work on them. So that's why I'm saying get around guys That are the type of men you want to marry and only date those kind. Okay study them become What they expect, you know, if you're too strong-willed if you're not naturally feminine if you're not able to submit to a certain degree To the man and let him lead because you you've been so conditioned to control everything and to do everything yourself It's gonna be a little hard So you have to practice. Okay, you have to let the guy lead you have to follow You know what he's talking about you have to you know compliment Be the person that he wants in his life permanently, you know, his cheerleader his representative his Wife image the image of like a good wife that he chose he can be proud of you can take you to dinners gallows meet the family You don't look the part Okay, and when a man sees a woman that looks the part because man go by looks first Okay, when he sees a woman that looks like a wife He's gonna inquire further about her. He's gonna be like asking her questions like test questions So what do you think about children or you know, what do you see yourself in five years? You know when men are truly interested in you for the long term they ask those type of questions You know and It's because you have the look the personality and the manners To actually graduate to that level, but if you're not like The material that they're looking for they're not gonna ask you any of those questions It's not good. They're not gonna get too deep into your business They're just gonna date you for a few weeks and they just be gone because you're not Marriage material now a lot of women are just out there today. They don't care about getting married But the ones that are you have to be you have to be more Cunning you have to be you have to pay more attention you have to treat him more special You have to give him more affection You have to make him not be able to live without you You've got to put all the other women that he's dated to shame, you know You have to be the only one that sticks out in his memory After he leaves the date, okay Because if you just start dating him chances are he's probably dating someone else or just got done dating someone or has Someone on call to date when he's bored. So you have to be Better than all those chicks combined so that he's the only you're the only one He's calling and only one he wants to be with and before you know it you're gonna be girlfriend, okay? So when you talk to him always say we don't say I and you or me and you say we We should go do this. So, you know, we look so cute together. Oh, we have so much in common We have such good chemistry, you know, we kiss good together, you know keep using the word. We we We us us us, you know Get it in his mind that you guys are a couple before you're even a couple when you go out And if you see someone yet, you know or a friend and you introduce him introduce him. It's like, oh, this is my This is my boyfriend Claim him, you know, it's like, oh, this is my boyfriend Such-and-such and he'll if he looks weird like I don't know what your boyfriend or if he just go Introduces himself and go, oh, yes, that means you kind of his girlfriend now cuz he didn't he didn't say, oh, you know We're just friends, you know, he didn't correct you So you keep Introducing him as your boyfriend and then he's gonna get around to say, oh, so I'm your boyfriend now, huh? It's like, yeah, I guess you kind of are aren't you? Do you want to be and he'll say he'll be like, yeah You know, it's that easy. You just can't be afraid. You just have to go for what you want In a subtle way, you know, and he'll love the fact that you claimed him first and introduced him to your friends and that you were proud of him and like when you introduce him to your friends like Say something nice about him. Like, oh, this is such-and-such my boyfriend. Isn't he, you know, isn't he great? He He treats me so well, you know, I've never You know, he treats me so well. It's like I Just love to being with him, you know, just say something sweet like that That you don't have to tell the person what he does for a living and stuff like that because that kind of represents Like you only with him because of that say something nice about him as a character. Oh, he's so funny He makes me laugh. I can't stop laughing with him, you know, ah You know and just smile the whole time keep smiling at the whole time you're with him Have a happy look on your face. They didn't have to be a smile Just look happy and satisfied, you know, everything he does is great You can't get enough of him. Don't become obsessed always, you know, always cut it short when he when he's like Really into it's like, oh, you know what honey, I gotta go, you know, I hate to leave you But I gotta go I gotta get up tomorrow early But I'm gonna see you tomorrow, you know, if you want to oh, yeah, okay Well, maybe we can meet for lunch or something. Yeah, okay. So the more you see him The more you cut like pull yourself back when he's, you know, getting really used to you pull yourself back Let's go. I gotta go. I can see you tomorrow. Like always promise him another day Always promise him the next day, you know Even if he says I can't do it just always let him know it's his and so he'll understand that You're trying to be with him and before you know it He's gonna get so used to you. He's gonna get so fond of you He's gonna feel so good around you that he's gonna just go ahead and make it official, you know Look, I really like you. I think we should be together. Let's take this thing to the next level So, you know, if we're gonna do that Maybe we can get you You know, maybe you could move in or maybe you can get we can get your your own apartment if you don't live alone Um, blah, blah, blah, blah, you know, he'll be trying to upgrade you so that you can be with him even better Uh, then he'll if you're not doing anything with your life He'll offer you probably if he's financially stable and has a lot He'll probably offer you money to go to school to do something, you know or to start your business or something So take make sure you take that opportunity as well to better yourself because the only reason he's trying to better you So that you can better represent him as a wife in the future Because nobody wants to introduce their wife as oh, hey, this is the girl I met online He was on the sugar daddy website looking for you know, whatever. No Oh, you he wants to introduce you as something, you know, you're beautiful, but What else can you do, you know? So go to real estate school learn how to buy property or You know go get some type of Degree and something online, you know, just something, you know, get something go to go to culinary school like I did Um, do something that you like that you start your own business and online business Oh, this is my wife such and such. She gets online business You know or oh, this is my wife such and such. She's in to real estate or oh, this is my wife such and such She has her own consulting Online business, you know, it sounds good. You fit into their world. They don't look at you like You're nothing, you know, so because that's important They don't they want to see a pretty face and that you have substance as well So if he offers you the education take it, okay? I don't even care what it is if he offers you money to start a business start one, you know, um Make it successful Men like women who have who they can introduce to people without Feeling embarrassed, you know, like they bought them So like I I noticed when my husband introduces me and he um people ask, what do I do? He'll answer for me He like he doesn't he doesn't say um He's like, oh, this is my wife, uh And then the guy the guy or the lady go, oh, what are you doing? She's like, oh, he'll go. Oh, well, she used to be a mortician and And they're all that's interesting And you know, they're proud of the fact that you actually accomplish something But you're also taken care of and used to be is not I am now, you know, and so um It's good to have something there To fill that void, you know They don't want to be seen as you know, somebody that's getting used and things like that That you gotta have some type of title, you know It's but you know, they don't They don't want you to outshine them though, you know, that's the whole point Don't you can't outshine them if you're dating somebody and you're more successful than them Then they introduce you they're gonna be like, oh, this is my wife. She's uh, you know, attorney But he's like making a lot less money Then they're gonna look at him like You know, this girl's getting ready to run all over you He's probably gonna be her slave, you know, stuff like that So that's why it's important for you not to outshine him in the career But in the looks and be the envy, you know, be the envy of all his friends and all the guys, you know, so Also be classy enough not to Entertain his friends if they're interested in you, you know I know a lot of women go through this because they never had Attention from certain type of men and when they get with one man and their friend shows interest It's like, oh his friend is cuter But you don't know his story He might have a girlfriend or a wife and not tell you and then he might tell your friend and then you might lose him So don't Be dumb and fall for that, okay Because they will try okay, a lot of guys have fake friends too. You just don't know it so Make sure that you're representing him you're representing him in looks don't have no crazy outlandish looking um Outfits on when when he takes you out Uh be able to Introduce yourself and have hold a conversation You know be able to switch hats whenever you have to And it's just you you're his representative. You're his first lady. Like if he's the president he he needs a first lady That's what men go for the first lady now A successful man, they like a little bit of both, you know, you have to have the looks You have to have Something to talk about you have to have, you know, some some type of thing they can introduce you with like, you know Real estate Something just laugh. I don't care nurse, you know anything Because their friends They all want to know like when guys That are financially stable introduce you to other financially stable people. The first thing they go for is your career What do you do? Like they don't ask you or where you from or what do you like to do or which you know, what's your favorite wine? What do you do? You can't say him I do him because I mean you could but You know, they might get the wrong impression. So it's like, oh, you know I have an online business and I do consulting That's all you got to say if you don't have anything, you know, it sounds better than oh, I don't know. I don't do anything So just make sure that you're able to represent him and he will see you more as a wife or a girlfriend type the one Someone he can be with And depend on and trust around other people and with his image. Okay, because that's his reputation as well so, um make sure If you live in a small town that you haven't dated all his friends Because that's not gonna work And make sure that you keep it classy men like classy wives. Okay classy less cursing you know, um Improve your vocabulary improve your speech make him proud when he sees you You know, when you walk into a room, he should smile every time Everybody else should be happy for him because he found someone You know and things like that. They shouldn't look at you like this. I don't like her for you You know, she's not good enough for you. You shouldn't be getting that look. You should be getting the look like Oh, I'm so glad he found someone or jealousy. Oh, why he with her? You know, she she looks she thinks she's too good That's the looks you should be getting when you're with a financially successful man You shouldn't be getting like, oh, what is what is he doing with her? You know, this doesn't make sense And she's trash You shouldn't be getting that. Okay, if you're getting that you're probably not gonna be wife. So Class it up. Okay. I've seen a lot of girls Thinking certain outfits are cute They're cute if you're single and not looking for a husband or a long-term boyfriend There's different types of clothes that you have to wear Depending on what you're planning to do, you know now A lot of these online stores they have cute clothes But all the outfits that they put together are trashy and they'll have you thinking it's classy Don't fall for it. Go and google classy Clothing or classy style And this isn't that because you'll you'll be on a website shopping and you're like, oh, that's cute together But it might be cute together, but it's not classy Okay, and you want to represent someone in the best Capacity you don't want to look like a prostitute on their arm, especially if they're a little older You want to look like a class that like you have Some sense in your head. Not like you're a Kardashian, okay They can do that because of the industry that they work in but you can't walk around like half naked And think that you're representing him as a wife. Okay Just remember that. Okay. A lot of women don't realize that that's part of it And also a lot of ladies curse Cursing is not feminine. Like you can't just blab off at the mouth And say a bunch of bad words And think that it's cute. It's not cute and a lot of people that have Like a lot of curse words in their vocabulary Sometimes it's seen as lower class. So Class up your vocabulary class up your style Class up your look, you know Uh more polished You know your posture keep your posture good. You got to be like, you know, you're the first lady. You're the first lady of Y'all's relationship and you should act like it, you know, be be a good example. Like um, don't Do things don't get drunk and act the fool. You can't do none of that stuff because guys hate that Okay, guys hate that when women get drunk and act stupid in front of their friends, they get embarrassed So you got to keep that as well on A decent level three two two or three drinks good, you know and just chill You don't have to get drunk a lot of women have come to me with this problem Oh, my boyfriend broke up with me. What happened? Oh, I got drunk and embarrassed came in front of his friends and his mom. I'm like Girls you over because they're always gonna remember that You know, um, so make sure you're controlling your alcohol intake. Don't drink like a fish when you're out with him Don't curse in front of people like that. He might know um Keep your looks classy Make sure that you're not um Making him think that this is short term keeps using the words we us Making future plans together and things like that. Okay. You keep making the future plans You'll keep thinking of you in the future. Okay, that's how a lot of women have landed Their sugar daddy and turned them into their husband. Okay They did that now if you don't want to marry that type of man and you want the total prince charming package Looks muddy Um Then you have to have those same things. Okay, at least you don't have to have the money But you got to have everything else. Okay And plus those type of guys who are that young and good-looking and And rich, they're not probably gonna be ready to settle down until they're much older. Anyway So you might be a girlfriend, but you might not make it to wife. You know what I'm saying? Oh, my clock says it's time for me to go to bed You might not make it to wife if you date too young like if the guy's too young You know, that's what that's another thing if the guy's too young He's gonna want to play explore, you know, see what all his options are And you're gonna be disappointed because you know, he's gonna date you for a long time And then you know when you're bored Boring and he's done with you He's gonna dump you for the next chick and he might end up marrying her Later on or the one after her because men play a long time before they seriously settle down So stop trying to get these guys in their 20s to get married Those are the worst type of men to marry because they're not done fooling around and playing yet. Okay So ladies aim for I would say 38 and up If you're trying to get married Don't marry too young because chances are that man is not done Exploring his options And if you try to trap him too soon and he cheats, you're gonna be mad. Okay, so Unless you just married him for his money and you don't care But if you're marrying for the total package, you need to wait Or get someone older, you know Because not all guys are marriage minded. In fact, that's like the furthest thing from their mind and unless they're older So stop trying to rush marriage with young men If you want to hurry up and get married and get an older man, especially you want security and represent him use the words we And introduce him as your boyfriend or your man. Okay. I'll see y'all in the next one Bye