 convention Melbourne Australia 2012 what number convention is this is this the tenth one it's freaking crazy that means that I've spoken at eight the first convention that I spoke of was 2008 but the first convention was ever held was actually in Orlando Florida and this kid put it together and it's totally fucking crazy he got some of the best speakers in the world on in terms of personal development and stuff that he was interested in that matched his ideals personal development better skills with women and trying to be a better man and through the template and through the vision of a 17 year old kid that's pretty crazy and the form the formation of that renting the rooms orchestrating the the speakers and the production of it later in 2008 when I came on board it was already a professional act you know it had amazing technical crew the the caliber of speakers was was even better than it was the year before and ever since then I've seen it grow but what makes that grow and what I was saying is all the speakers up here we have our own individual message we have our own things that we want to say and share what we think and value is important to us however that is all through the filter of one guy you know who started this off when he was a kid and still to this day you might even say he's kind of a kid but he's done so much with his life he's a role model for what you guys can all do with what your idea is right now what you guys think is important and want to manifest into a dream that guy is Anthony Johnson he's doing his first speech of this convention which is really cool and opening up the day I hope you guys have already realized this convention can change your life because this guy has proven to me that anything is possible Anthony come on let's do it thanks sir thank you Steve morning guys I got a good morning or morning thank you thanks for showing up nice and early I know Sunday morning is the toughest that's why it starts the latest because it's just you guys go out at night you're tired you'd a lot of food a lot of curry last night God the title of my speech today is an introduction to the psychology of romantic love it's a topic I have never covered before at this convention or anywhere else as far speaking I've done a little bit of my blog and writing but nothing as far as speaking and this topic is somewhat unusual for me to cover because usually this convention I cover the convention itself the direction I want to take it the ideal man health fitness nutrition exercise topics that are not psychology romantic love conceptual deeply conceptual things like that so this is new but I'm excited to present it to you because it is based on a book as you can see the bottom here that is one of my top three favorite books of all time my favorite books of all time that have impacted me the deepest the most the most profoundly are the psychology romantic love as you guys will see here the fountain head and body by science so this book as we'll get to in a second year is just huge and completely underrated to a degree that I can't put into words so this is the book actually Steve can you go to the top there I have the book with me this year is a copy of the book a picture it was originally published in 1980 it was updated and expand in 2007 and as of this presentation the author Nathaniel Brendan is still alive although if one understands held isn't that great so unfortunately I don't know how much longer that'll be the case which is very sad sweet this is also the physical book is my first copy I read through it in day and a half pretty quick it's not super big but it's big enough the introduction will be through exploration so we're gonna as one of the speakers at the convention once put it about exercise we're gonna explore these ideas I say explore because these ideas are gonna be well in general this convention there's nothing that's not controversial everything at this convention every speaker every idea is entirely against conventional wisdom against the grain and it's not heard almost anywhere else this is no exception except I would say that in particular it's it will even be controversial in this room so kind of in and of the 21 convention even more so than usual anyway exploration through introduction or introduction through exploration excuse me we're gonna explore what romantic love is not first followed by what romantic love is and then we're gonna cover to my top 10 myths of romantic love that are in a way inferred from the book from the author from his ideas and yet it's important to note that the majority of this presentation consists of ideas that I haven't heard so I don't represent the author I'm not I am not the author obviously and I don't represent him officially in any capacity just a huge fan and I think I have a pretty good understanding of the book and the ideas within and if there is a direct quote from the book I'll put that in quotes and you'll see his name next to it that's how you can know that it's officially from him what romantic love is not romantic love is not a literary invention an adolescent fantasy an unattainable dream an irrational pursuit temporary neurosis false hope a fleeting emotion or an immature ideal one of my favorite quotes from the author Nathaniel Brandon is the opening passage of the book before you even get into a chapter and it's that above all romantic love is not for children not in the physical sense and not in the psychological sense what he means and what I mean when I when I put that up there that's a paraphrase is that much like Steve mentioned at the introduction of the speech a person can have they implied a person can have a physical age it's very obvious or not so obvious in some cases I look much older than I am I guess because a group of Florida I have like a crow's feet so you have a physical age but you also have a psychological age and as Steve implied or hinted at I'm young I'm 24 but most of you would say that I look and then I talk I come across as much older than that and that's because for the past six years of this convention I've traveled all the world and I have packed like decades of experience in a few years so for those of you that might have met me and thought I was older that I was close to 30 or something or who knows that's not the case and that's because at least I feel within myself as I experienced my life I feel much older than I physically am which is just 24 still young but this is important for romantic love because