 A sick game narcissists will play with you. When you first meet the narcissist, they idealize you. They see you as being perfect. But it isn't long until they begin to devalue you. Until they begin to take everything they gave to you. They no longer care about your feelings. They no longer seem to love you. They no longer affectionate. And it's all part of a sick game that they're playing with you. To make you question your own value. To make you think that no one else would want you. They may even tell you that no one else would want someone like you. They will tell you things like that all the time. So that it conditions you into thinking that you're no good for anyone else. Which then causes you to stay in the relationship because you believe everything they say. You trust that what they're saying is the truth. They want you to think that no one else would want you other than them. As though they're as good as it gets for you. As though you will never find anything better. Because then they can treat you however they like and you'll just put up with it. They want you to feel like no one else will love you. No one else will appreciate you. No one else will care for you. And they do this by devaluing you. By making you feel like you're not good enough. Because by doing that it then isolates you from anyone else who could give you value. Anyone else who could give you what they're not given to you. They want to isolate you from people who could give you value. Because those people are trying to give something to you. While the narcissist is trying to take value away from you. But they're trying to make you think that they're giving you your value. Which is why they want to isolate you. From anyone who makes you think you're worth more. Anyone who makes you think you're special. Because the narcissist wants you to think you're not worth anything. So that they can get what they want from you. So paying the price for what you're worth. Which is how the only way you can leave a narcissistic relationship. Is by realising your worth. By giving yourself the value that you deserve. Because the narcissist is never going to give you that value. And they're not going to want anyone else to give that to you. They want to isolate you. From anyone who could bring value to your life. Because they want to be your only source of validation. They want to tell you how to think. They want to tell you how to see yourself. They want you to think that you're the problem. Which is why they will do horrible things to you. And then blame you for it. And if you try to leave. They will make you feel guilty. They will make you feel like you're doing something wrong. No matter what they do to you. They will always leave you feeling like you're the problem. And the more time you spend around them. The more you will believe it. Because you're listening to them. You're taking it in. You're digesting this information. Which is why you have to stop letting them talk. Because it's having an effect on you. It's changing the way you think. It's changing the way you see yourself. Because the more you hear it. The more you start to agree with it. So if they keep telling you you're not good enough. If they keep telling you you're the problem. If they keep pointing out your faults and mistakes. You're going to start to believe them. It's brainwashing. You may not believe them at first. But if you hear it enough times. You're going to start to believe them. While a person who isn't with a narcissist. Doesn't have to hear any of that. They don't have to hear these constant insults and put downs. But when you're constantly around the narcissist. And you're hearing all of this stuff. Eventually you will begin to believe it. Because you've heard it so many times. It gradually distorts your mind until you lose touch with reality. You enter the illusion. You enter their shared fantasy. And you begin to believe anything they say to you. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonates with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. If you would like to donate. My PayPal link is in the video description. Coaching queries. You can email me at coaching.narcsurvivor.uk. Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.