 Should you cut out your existing friends because you no longer drink and they do and they're corrupting your mind? Well, when you quit drinking it is very possible that you will lose some friends You may proactively choose to cut them out of their life or to just move on or you may just find that you just naturally Gravitate somewhere else. So yes, you will lose some of your existing friends possibly you don't have to You don't need to Because when you are alcohol-free and you're feeling great in that choice and you're powerfully drinking water and soda water And you're feeling great and you're awesome. It doesn't matter what social group you're in at all You can be a chameleon you can like float into a group of people who are drinking heavily and you can just powerfully have a great time While not drinking you can float into another group of people who are not drinking heavily who are drinking on only on occasion And you can still remain alcohol-free and love it and enjoy it You're a chameleon that floats between social groups I'm James Swannick from the alcohol-free and formula There are links down below to help you get started on your quitting drinking journey when I quit drinking in 2010 Did I lose some of my friends? Not initially Did they challenge me on not drinking? Yes I had one friend who I told him that I was about 20 21 days not drinking and he said do you want to drink from the bar? I'm going to the bar. I said yeah. He says what do you want? I said a soda water He goes to the bar. He comes back five minutes later. There he gives it to me And then I look at him and he's got this little smirk on his face and just before I sipped it I was like Did you put vodka in this and he went oh, yeah, I did I was like well, you don't want to know what I said to him then but I wasn't happy and So you will find people in your life. He will do this They will literally not Understand or comprehend that you are not drinking and they may try to like sneak alcohol into your drink like my friend did and You might be a little bit irritated by that or a lot irritated like I was I get it now I didn't make a conscious choice to cut that friend or cut the friends that I had I just continued on my alcohol-free journey and what happened was is that I started naturally attracting a Different type of friend into my life. I just started to gravitate towards people who didn't need alcohol to socialize I started getting into health. I started getting into a little bit of meditation Some years later. I got more into that but at the time I just kind of dibbled and dabbled in it and I did start Going to the gym. I ran a half marathon None of these things are excessive none of these things are like addictive like physical behaviors like just because I give up One thing I'm now going to go and be addicted to like this health. It was just a natural kind of beautiful flow to starting to be attracted to healthier choices and attract people who Made healthier choices in their own life. So I didn't consciously say I am no longer hanging out with this group of friends And that's it and that's done. No, no, I didn't do that. I Just kept hanging out with them, but then started spending more time or Increasing amounts of time with this new group of people that I hadn't been exposed to previously And I didn't even have to go and seek them out They just found me because when your energy is health and presence and you're into Growth-minded things you tend to just attract people who are into health and growth-minded things It's just one of the laws of the universe right the law of attraction so Should you cut out some of your friends? Well the word should is a story, right? So should we? Yeah, maybe Maybe some of them don't serve you maybe some of them are draining you and so maybe it is smart for you It serves you to consciously say I no longer want that friend in my life. And if that's the case, that's okay, too I'm 43 years old as I'm recording this and I can tell you that the friends I have today are different from the friends I had just five years ago people that I may have hung out with for a year or two five years ago Some of those people I haven't seen in that amount of time not because there was a falling out Not because anything dramatic happened, but just people just go their separate ways and that's life and that's okay Should you make a conscious decision to cut someone out of your life who's encouraging you to drink when you don't want to drink? Maybe or maybe not that's a choice you have to make. Is it okay if you deliberately cut them out? Yes, that's okay. Is it okay if you don't cut them out? Yes, that's okay There's no judgment around this. There's no right or wrong But if someone is draining you and not serving you and you consciously want to go not they're cut I want to move on then do it because don't worry There's a whole new beautiful social group here waiting for you gone are the days where if you were ostracized from one group That that meant social isolation. No now we have Facebook and meet-ups and Instagram and A way of connecting to people. I don't mean like connecting to people online I mean using those online platforms to connect to people where you can go and meet them in person So to be clear, I'm not saying cut your friends and go and join social groups online I'm saying use those social groups online to connect with people who you can meet with meet in person Now just now I'm filming this right now the camera person who's filming this right now Ryan is a health-conscious traveling person show us turn the camera around. There you go Good on you Ryan. Okay come back Ryan is a positive healthy guy who's out traveling the world in Bali doing cool epic stuff There's a reason why we attracted each other into our lives why he's filming me now doing this why he's into this Ryan did my 30-day no-alcohol challenge program back in I think 2015 right flip the camera around. Yeah, that's correct 2015 you did it. Yeah, so you found me online and why did you do that? Why did you find that group flip it around again? You know it just kind of found me through one of those. Yeah social circles. Yeah, yeah around so People are just attracted to people who are on the same frequency I had a program called the 30-day no-alcohol challenge which helps people quit alcohol and Ryan Somehow found that program and did the program and then quit alcohol. Yeah So when you do that you just naturally start to find new groups of people So do should you cut your existing friends? Maybe Is that scary? Yeah, I get it. But will you be attracted to and find and naturally Be magnetized towards a new group of people who bring you up And energize you and push you and hold you accountable And you get to learn new cool epic stuff. Yes So Yes, you will lose some friends. Maybe either Proactively you'll make the cut or maybe it'll just naturally happen and that's okay Because you are on a path to growth. You're on a path of health. You're on a path of presence You are on a path of living your best life So get out there and make it happen. Make sure you like this video post a comment down below I want to hear from you. Get out there and live a beautiful alcohol free life