 The topic today is about cheating, and it's probably one of my least favorite conversations to have with my audience, because let's face it, being cheated on sucks. It sucks because it's a betrayal of trust. And I think it's important to delve into this conversation because the reality is these days, most relationships are built on a weak foundation. I'm gonna repeat that. Most relationships these days are built on a weak foundation. And so if a foundation of trust is rather weak, then it's gonna be difficult to build a more, to build a healthy, happy relationship if we don't understand the importance of what makes a healthy, happy relationship, particularly in the area of trust. And while we oftentimes think of trust in the area of fidelity, I think it's more important to lean into the conversation of trust. And that is, can I trust this person to care about my feelings as much as my own? I'm gonna repeat that. Can I trust this person to care about my feelings as much as my own? Now, I don't mean in the sense of giving your power away to another person. However, I think what's sadly missing today in most relationships is the skills to build a healthy, happy relationships because these days, well, let me backtrack. I was about to say these days. Most relationships throughout history have been built on the notion that chemistry equals relationship success. I need to repeat that. Chemistry equals relationship success. And yet what we've learned, at least what I have learned for me personally in my studies as a dating relationship coach is that relationships need some other additional components to actually build trust with one another. You need to share relatively the same values in their relationship. You need to have lifestyles that are blendable with one another. And most importantly, you need to be with someone who's emotionally mature enough and has relationship skills to navigate the storms that are going to happen within a relationship. That's right. Relationships are gonna have storms. And sadly, when some of these storms arise, people gravitate towards seeking companionship connection or sex with someone else because they don't have the tools to actually lean into a healthy, happy relationship. And this is sadly what's some of the reasons why we are seeing infidelity. So rampant, partially because access to people because of these devices has made it so much easier for people to be unfaithful in a relationship. And the other notion that comes from these devices is there is a plethora of opportunities out there to engage. See, I think today most people don't understand genuine true commitment. Not when I say people, I'm saying this as a generalization, but I really believe the real deep roots of commitment that kind of existed back when this is a picture of my mother and father 60 years ago, roughly, yeah, no, 70 years ago, that's a picture of them. Commitment stood for something back then. And so when it stood for something, it meant we are going to work through our problems. And yet these days, people don't work through their problems and it's so easy to actually choose an escape by leaning into a relationship or a sexual relationship with someone else because they're not actually working on the problems within a relationship. Look, I'm here to say most healthy, happy relationships don't have to, it's not like going to the gym and doing heavy reps and sets to build the muscles. You know, when you share the same values with the person where your lifestyles are blendable and the person you're with has a strong sense of introspective work or emotional maturity, you don't have to do a lot of heavy lifting. And yet we are here in the United States are a rather dysfunctional society of human beings and it's easier to cheat or be with someone else than actually work through some of the, listen, there are no two people perfectly aligned for one another. I mean, let's be real. The work oftentimes has to do with working on oneself instead of expecting the other person to change. And yet here, when couples go to therapy, do you know what they do? They do this, it's his fault, it's her fault, it's his fault, it's her fault. They're pointing the finger at the other person and they're not looking in the mirror of how can they navigate this dynamic by improving from within? This is why I'm such a big proponent of people doing the inner work in the early stages of dating by doing the heavy lifting before you actually enter into a relationship. This is why I continually recommend the book to heal childhood wounds and traumas is reading the book, The Hoffman Process, The Hoffman Process. And by the way, all the books I recommend there's a link below to them. Why I recommend this is because if you haven't done work on yourself, it's gonna be difficult to actually lean into a relationship where there's genuine fidelity with one another. So I think when I think of infidelity or cheating, I ask myself, why would someone cheat? Why would someone step out on another person in a relationship? Why would that happen? Most likely they're unhappy in some way, shape, or form. Probably they're most unhappy with themselves. They actually lack a bit of self-love within themselves. This is why I wrote my book and I always pitch books what the heck a self-love anyway, a journey of personal development, self-help and spiritual work. But I think one of the primary reasons is that the person internally, look at, there are definitely men and women out there that are sex addicts, that literally need their next fix sexually from another person. So that definitely exists out there. But I think most of the time when people cheat is because they're missing something from an emotional perspective. And in their relationship, it's not nurturing the heart-centered aspects of the relationship. Or worse, somebody is being unfaithful and the other person isn't being nurtured and they're beating themselves up. I see this women with women habitually, they beat themselves up in the process because they feel like they're in a relationship that isn't working together. Folks, I'm here to encourage a different way to approach relationships. And that is through radical honesty and beginning the dating process right from the get go by hardballing the person, by interrogating them, by asking deeper questions instead of the surface level questions. This is why I continually recommend the book, Eight Dates by Doctors John and Julie Gottman before the penis ever goes inside the vagina so you can talk about the most important chapter one. Here, let's open up chapter one so you can see this. What's it say right there? Lean on me, trust and commitment. Trust and commitment. When you build a foundation of a relationship on trust and commitment, it's less likely that they're going to want to step out on the relationship. Is this making sense? Is this resonating with you? Please let me know. Please hit that like button. Please subscribe to my channel. Please share this with your friends if there's anything that I'm sharing that resonates with you. So let's lean into the signs that someone is about to cheat because I know it fucking sucks to experience this and maybe if I can head this off at the pass for you, you might be better prepared in the future. Now before, okay, I'm doing another off a tangent, Jonathan. I wanna recommend a book. This book is called Chatting or Cheating, the subtitle, How to Detect Infidelity, Rebuild Love and a Fair Proof Your Relationship. This book was written by my ex-girlfriend, Dr. Sherry Myers. There's a picture of her right there. And in this book, I was actually part of her, I was help, well, when I say I was helping her, here, this is, she wrote my note to me on this book, but I wanna share with you what she wrote to me personally in the book. She said, Jonathan Asley, who lovingly encouraged, pushed and unconditionally supported me throughout every step of the process writing this book. Thank you for shining your beautiful heartlight, holding down the emotional fort, continually believing in me. You showed me firsthand what it means to live the words, I'm here, you matter, we're important. I'm so grateful. And that's why I wanna plug her book today. By the way, all the books I recommend is in the description under Jonathan recommends books. I think this would be a great book. By the way, what I love about this book also is that the last half of the book is about how to a fair proof your relationship. It literally is a road map to building a healthy, happy relationship. So I highly recommend checking out Dr. Sherry's book. Okay, so some of the signs that he's about to, before he cheats. And I think women ignore this all the time. Number one, he jumps when his phone rings or there's a, he jumps when there's a notification. Now, while that is kind of the norm for human beings today, you see it as kind of a new pattern that you've noticed that there's a quick reaction to the phone. This is kind of a new phenomena we've experienced because we didn't have these smartphones a decade or so ago, but when a person immediately jumps to their phone and is hiding or secretive of it, there's a chance, now this isn't of itself isn't infidelity, but this might be a sign that there's some unfaithfulness going on. Number two, he begins to do what I call micro-disappearing, micro-disappearing. In other words, you notice that all of a sudden he disappears for a short period of time. And again, this is, you're seeing a shift in patterning. He disappears for maybe two or three hours and not that you might be physically witnessing them, but you get that sense that there's a disconnect between the two of you. You start noticing a pattern of what I call micro-disappearing. Number three, his behavior starts to change. Guys who cheat feel guilty and sometimes they compensate it for it by all of a sudden buying you gifts. Or on the other hand, if he has no feelings or compassion, he may make you suffer by giving you less attention than the before. So the behavior begins to change. He might become confrontational. He might become argumentative. He might just start picking at things with you. That could be a sign that there's either infidelity or certainly when behavior changes, that means there's a shift going on in your relationship. Have you ever experienced this before? Have you noticed any of these? Post a comment below. I'd like to hear what you've experienced in the way of noticing a shift in someone's behavior. Number four, he's acting emotionally distant or moody. So earlier the behavior, it's their actions, but now it's their emotional awareness. You just start feeling them emotionally distant. They're not as affectionate as they used to be. They're not complimentary as they used to be. They become moody and emotionally distant. Number five, he gets caught in little white lies. Usually things related to time or places where he's been. Again, these are usually related because when you're unfaithful, now here's where it's tricky. If you're in a long distance relationship, it's hard to monitor any of these things. And by the way, since a significant percentage of the population is in long distance relationship, it's hard to observe these, but certainly when you're in a day-in-day-out relationship, there's inconsistencies when it comes to time or where a person has been, places they've been. And lastly, oh, my voice just changed. And lastly, your spider senses are tingling. Now, oftentimes our spider senses tingle because we're in a state of fear and we are oftentimes not loving on ourselves. So we make up stories and our headwhite might be going on. But at the same time, you'll notice that when there has been infidelity, there's an intuition that something is off in the relationship. There's something off in the relationship. So what's the antidote to all of this? Well, the antidote to all of this is first, beginning a relationship on a strong foundation of emotional intimacy. It's one of the things I teach in my private coaching. And if you'd like to schedule a call with me to see if working with a coach is right for you, I highly recommend clicking on the link right there, Jonathan, or in the description below. Schedule a free discovery call with me. But coming back to emotional intimacy, I think most human beings these days are terrible at really connecting with each other at a heart-centered level. This is why I continually recommend the book If the Buddha Dated. This is really helping you learn how to connect with another human being at a heart-centered level instead of the stupid gender rhetoric that's all designed about men are the leaders of a relationship and all you have to do is sit in your feminine energy and just hope that he magically claims you. Look it, we're a dysfunctional society. Stop expecting men to be good at this process. Most men are good guys, they're just bad daters. And one thing an area men are typically weakened is in the area of emotional intimacy. So check out this book by Robert Masters, a comprehensive guide for connecting with the power of your emotions. Because when you become a master at this, you can invite it into your relationship. But Jonathan, I want a man who's already fully trained. Well, good luck on that, okay? Listen, most men connect to their heart has... Listen, most... Okay, look at growing up, my mother and father were terrible at teaching me emotional intimacy, okay? They had poor emotional maturity between themselves. So the only way we're gonna connect with someone is through, for us men, is through another woman. And I can tell you, Dr. Sherry, the person I talk about in this book, she was a big instigator for helping me connect with my heart that I didn't know existed before. So ladies, you can be the driving force of helping a man connect to with his heart. Also, you can be the container of the relationship. By the way, reading her book, How to Affair Proof Your Relationship, I wanna just tell you some of the chapters. Intimacy Rescue Kit, Love Boosters and Bolsters, Seven Ways to Vaccinate Your Relationship. It's interesting, she used the word vaccination. Relationship Vision Roadmap. All of this is designed to really, seven fun ways to affectionately explore touch, stroke, stroke passion, flames, affection, appreciation, quality time, all of this is in her book. I highly recommend checking this out so you can build, you know the foundation to build a happy relationship with someone. Where's my Barbara DeAngelis book? Oh, here it is. Here's another great book. I highly recommend checking this out by Barbara DeAngelis, How to Make Love All the Time. This is a great book to learn the mechanics to building deeper love so you don't have to worry about someone stepping out on you. Folks, listen, it's gonna take work. The work is knowledge. The knowledge is understanding the mechanics to a relationship. If you're not being, if you're not prepared, what's the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results. That's where our society is at today in relationship. I've studied this shit. I'm not a master at it, I've just studied it so I know more than the average person. I can tell you a decade ago, I was, or maybe 15 years ago, I was fucking clueless. I had no idea how, by the way, in my marriage, I had no idea how to be a good husband. All I knew was my job was to be the provider protector. I didn't know what it took to be a good husband. Somehow I thought magically getting married would solve that problem, but it didn't because I didn't know who I was as a person and I was riddled with deep-seated wounds for my childhood. And then going through the divorce caused even more emotional wounds because it was an unraveling of the tapestry of my old life and I wasn't prepared until I started reading these books. I didn't know how to effectively communicate. In fact, if you haven't read the book, Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg, by the way, this should have been called Compassionate Communication. It's a guide to learn how to connect with people at a much, much more heart-centered level. Is this sinking in, folks? Please let me know. So just as a reminder, six signs guys give before they cheat, he's jumping at his phone. He begins to micro-disappear. His behavior starts changing. He's actually acting emotionally distant or moody. Number five, he gets caught in little white lies. And number six, your intuition is already screaming at you. Those are really good signs that someone is about to be unfaithful with you. Again, a topic that I don't relish talking about and yet I think it's so important to lean into this every now and again so we don't get caught in the wrong relationship. And my hope is I encourage you to look at relationships differently so you don't operate from nativity and you operate from a place of empowerment. Is this sinking in? Is this resonating? Please let me know. All right, this is time for our Q&A. Those who know my format know this is a time to ask me questions. You can ask me personal questions or you can ask me questions about what we talked about or any other question thereafter. If you have a question, simply write the word question then post the question thereafter or purchase a super sticker super chat. There's a little dollar sign in the chat box or if you're listening to the replay there's a super thanks button. All the monies from the super sticker super chat goes to a scholarship fund in the name of my son Connor as like, that's a picture of him right there. That's my son who passed away four years ago and in his honor I started a scholarship fund to defray the cost of personal development for folks and to donate to causes like the Hoffman process and insight seminars. And as I shared recently, we donated $500 from the fund just recently. So again, use that little dollar sign in the chat box. Hey, we just got one from Pam, a super sticker. Thank you so much, I really appreciate that. I saw earlier we had one from Melanie, big hugs to you Melanie. Thank you so much for that super sticker. Let's keep them coming. I'd like to donate some more money. All right, Brenda writes, question. How do you get your intuition back after shut? Shut? I think after you've been hurt. You know, it starts by practicing little things to help with your intuition. I think that ultimately the antidote is really leaning into, in fact, here, let me, my book, there's a chapter in here in my book called What the Heck is Self-Love Anyway. Then there's a chapter in here. What is the chapter? I forget the chapter name. It's about intuition. Well, all of my book is designed to amplify your intuition, okay? So all of the chapters here are designed to amplify your intuition. So check out my book. I'm making a plug, but it's, you know, it's 11 bucks, go to Amazon, check it out. I think that will help with your intuition. So thank you so much for your question, Brenda. I really appreciate it. Okay, Robin asks, question. Can you give us an update on your new relationship? How did you travel together? Well, it turns out my girlfriend, as we speak right now, is in Africa with her daughter. She's doing a safari. So we're gonna be, we've been apart, we will be apart collectively just three weeks a day from, by the time we see each other again. We traveled, I was in Chicago just a week and a half ago. We traveled to Cancun. We did great on the trip together. My birthday trip did kind of suck. I will tell you, the resort was a little underwhelming and I got food poisoning the day of my birthday, which that kind of sucked. I spent more time in the bathroom that evening than where I should have been spending or where I wanted to be spending. Let me just say that. But our relationship is progressing very nicely. We are fully committed in this relationship. We are exploring the idea of living together. I mean, that is actually on the table right at the moment. And I think if you're gonna do a long-distance relationship, you need to have a plan of how you're gonna merge your lives together. And we've spent a lot of time processing that. In the first 90 days that we were in relationship, we spent collectively 40 days of those together, actually 24-7 through those, not 40 days cumulatively, not all in a row. And I think what's made our relationship, what I'd like to think real is because we dove right into the deep end right from the beginning. I know there's a lot of, it's dangerous to really dive in very quickly. But I've been thinking about something lately. And by the way, a couple of her reality TV shows that she got me into is a 90-day fiance and arranged, which is about arranged marriages. And what I thought was unique about these relationships is they dive in to explore this relationship, the good, the bad, the ugly, very quickly. And I wonder if there isn't some value to that. So I was sharing with a dear friend of mine today who I've known 17 years, who I met through a dating app. We had a first date 17 years ago, actually this very same month or last month, I should say. And it wasn't a love connection, but we just developed a friendship. And so over the years, we've witnessed our relationship journey. And she's in a great relationship right now. They've been together four years, they're moving in together. But we were talking about her previous boyfriend. I'll explain why I'm talking about this. So I was sharing how I might be moving in with my girlfriend. And I said, well, what would have happened? She was in a three-year relationship with a guy. And I said, what would have happened if you moved in with Jim right from the beginning? And she goes, that relationship would have lasted three months. And I started to laugh, but I thought about that for a second. Imagine that if we actually, and I'm not recommending this, I'm just exploring the idea. What if we dove in head first, both people dove in head first to see if they're a fit with one another instead of this long drawn out process of dating? You know, I mean, people spend years dating one another without any intentionality of taking it to the next level. So it's no wonder people find themselves cheating as I talked about in this broadcast, but more importantly, find themselves going from one relationship to the next to the next. Maybe we should dive in. You know, think about it. It used to be in my parents' era. If you wanted to get laid, you had to get married. You made the ultimate commitment right from the get-go. What if maybe there's some value to that? I'm not saying there is. The challenge is when we're meeting total strangers, it's hard to feel trust. That's the real issue today is how to build trust with one another. How do you build trust? Social activities, hobbies, mutual interests, spending time with family and friends, traveling together, teamwork, building skills, both in your personal and professional life, intimacy, both physical and emotional intimacy, and probably spending on average two, three or four days a week together over a short period of time. You know what, maybe that would be the better way to go. I'm not saying it is. I'm just offering it as a suggestion. My relationship, we dove right in, head first. Seems to be working for us, but we were both committed to wanting to get to know one another. We were committed that we wanted a fully committed, we were in agreement that we both fully wanted a committed relationship and we recited my dating vows. We both agreed to the following. We agreed to explore the process of getting to know one another with the intent to declare something serious within the next, within three to six months. We declared it serious right from the get-go. Number two, we agreed to be monogamous sexually while we're having regular sex together. We agreed to not actively seek and meet and date others while we're in the process of getting to know one another which included taking down our dating profiles. We also agreed to speak up if this isn't working for us versus pulling back, ghosting or disappearing. And lastly, we made an agreement to invest regular time together because without spending significant regular time together, you are oftentimes with a stranger and when you're with a stranger, how can you build trust with one another? Trust is built, as I said, doing social activities, hobbies, mutual interest, spending time with family and friends. Is this sinking in? Please let me know, hit that thumbs up. All right, thanks again for that question. I hope I answered your question about what's going on in my relationship. I'm in love. I'm in love with her and I believe she's in love with me. There's a picture of my sweetheart right there. That's when she was in India. It's one of my favorite pictures of her. So thank you so much for asking. Hey, I wanna thank New You for the $4.99 super sticker. DDS, where are your parents' country that they come from? My parents were born and raised in Istanbul, Turkey. That's right, Istanbul, Turkey. All right, Mocha writes, question. I'm okay, I don't know if I'm pronouncing right. How to get a man to commit beyond sexual intimacy? We are not divorced and in our 70s. If you're not divorced in your 70s, how do you commit beyond sexual intimacy? Well, first you establish your standard. What is it you want? You know, folks, I'm a big proponent as scare men off instead of praying that they will change, okay? By being, you know what? I love the book, Why Men Love Bitches. Bitch stands for babe in total control of herself. Yes, I love this book because it's an empowerment book not to put up with men's shit. That's how you get them to change. Read this book, by the way, not everything in this book I agree with, but I love the empowerment element of this book. If you wanna get them to change, then you change yourself and set higher standards for yourself and know your boundaries and stick to your boundaries. And yet, sadly, most women give their power away to men. You give your power away because the relationship is on his terms and you abandon your standards and boundaries. You're afraid to speak your truth with him. When the relationship ends, all you do is focus on him instead of yourself. You're waiting for him to initiate contact. You stop doing your pre-relationship life. You feel like you can't live without him and you think that's the only person you'll ever have chemistry with. If that's the way you're operating, then you're setting yourself up for failure by giving your power away to men. So let's all stay it together. Jonathan, I invite in a relationship where we have mutual chemistry with one another and we both can communicate with one another in a heart-centered way and we're compatible with one another because we can blend lives with one another and we share the same values and we have the emotional maturity to go deeper and I invite that into my life. I invite my next relationship. Okay, I'm pausing here for a second because what I really wanna lean into, I invite in a juicy, delicious, healthy, happy relationship where I retain my power, I retain my sovereignty, my self-worth, my self-esteem, my self-confidence and I do not give my power away to anyone else. God, universe, spirit, I invite in that juicy, delicious, healthy, happy relationship. Or is this sinking in? Please let me know. All right, woo, we got lots going on here. Let me go back here. Brenda says, I'll order your book. Thank you so much, I appreciate that. Gina says, my late husband knew of all my language, my love language plus more, he truly loved me. Is it unrealistic to want the same in a new relationship? I think if you want a man to learn your love language, you're gonna have to tell him. So if you can't tell him, then it's definitely unrealistic to expect it. But if you can tell him, it's quite possible, he'll be able to meet it. So tell him your love language. All right, Melanie, do you think it wouldn't, it would make, do you think it wouldn't have made a difference your relationship not started long distance, meaning you were not looking for it? So it took the pressure off and you formed a friendship first. Great question. So it's kind of interesting because we've talked about this. I think what happened was we met romantically on a dating app, but I wasn't interested in her partially because of the distance and some differences we had over the phone. But we began a friendship for a year before we actually met one another. And I think that friendship built a foundation of trust between us because we were, we were on each other's social media. She would comment on my posts. I'd comment on her posts. I would see what's happening with her children. She would see what's happening in my world. Now, interestingly enough, she didn't watch any of my videos. In fact, to this day, she still doesn't watch one of my many of my videos, partially because she's like, I don't need your videos, I got you in person. But what I think, what allowed us when we met, we were just meeting as friends. We weren't meeting from a romantic perspective, which took a ton of pressure off. Now, I don't believe it was the distance per se, although I have to take that into equation because look at, I told her right up front, I didn't wanna do a long distance relationship and believe me, I still don't to this day, don't recommend them. It's rare that they ever work. And if it wasn't for her desire to move out here, I wouldn't have considered it whatsoever. But yeah, I think, but I think if we'd met here right from the get-go, it's hard to say, but I also believe that, listen, I believe she's my soulmate. I'm a junkie for that kind of stuff. So I believe in, if you haven't read the book, Spiritual Partnership by Gary Zukoff, I highly recommend reading this book. I do believe she is a true soulmate in my life. We were meant to connect with one another. So the timing and the circumstances happened exactly as it should have. Now, had we met here, would it have happened the same way? Hard to say. I don't know. Possibly. I think if you are soulmates, it would happen, but it happened exactly how it should have. So that's my two cents on that, Melanie. Thank you so much for that question. All right. Linda says, I love listening to each of your sessions. I love it when you're half bomb. Thank you so much. I appreciate that. Chris says, question, do you recommend texting a person you're interested in throughout the day while dating? I think incessant communication eventually puts pressure on the relationship because, okay. So I think I mentioned in the earlier that my girlfriend is in Africa right now with her daughter and we're in Communicado for a while. And I love it. I absolutely love it because you know what? Talking on the phone every night becomes exhausting. I am a person that wants to be physically in the presence of my partner and not talking on the phone. So while it's good to do check-ins and she sent a check-in message with me and I sent one of those thinking of you messages to her, incessant communication puts so much fucking pressure on a relationship that you're never gonna be able to sustain it. And certainly when you're in the hyped up phase of wanting to have sex with someone, you'll talk to them every minute of the day. But trust me, from a relationship perspective, I think you're setting yourself up for failure for incessant communication. That's my two cents on that, Chris. So thank you. Let's see. Gina says, my ex-husband truly loved me and we knew all my love languages and treated me as a queen. Is it unreal? Well, you already asked that or I already answered that question. Brenda says, Bobby, I say dump him, but ask Jonathan right now. Okay, I gotta find Bobby's message. Chris says, Mr. Jonathan, we are working people don't have time to see each other three or four days a week. Well, okay, do you want a part-time relationship that is always part-time? Do you want, if you want to eventually live with someone or get married, but you're only capable of a part-time relationship, when is it ever gonna turn into a full-time relationship? Folks, the reality is this. The more time two people spend together, the deeper roots of trust they build in the relationship. And the further time apart, there's more chance of the relationship falling apart. It's like building, it's like weaving a tapestry together. It is through regular time together, social activities, hobbies, mutual interests, spending time with family and friends that you can build the deep roots of trust. So if you don't have time, I guess the question is, do you want to live with someone or get married? If you don't, then enjoy a part-time relationship and enjoy a part-time relationship and another part-time relationship and another part-time relationship and another part-time relationship. That's my two cents anyway. Thank you so much for asking. Ah, Britt says, did you both introduce, question, did you both introduce each other's to names on your phone? And so, and so my ex-girlfriend, introduce. I don't understand the question, Bridge, if you could rewrite it so I can understand it. All right, if you're talking about my girlfriend and I, did we introduce each other's names on your phones? I don't get the question. Chris says, how do you spot small penis energy? Do you ask men their size? You know, well, there's small penis, oh, I'm thinking of Napoleon Bonaparte, but that's small person energy that oftentimes have bigger personalities than their actual size. I don't know how to predict a guy's penis size. Most guys are average, you know, yes, there's some that have bigger, some that have smaller, most guys are average from what I understand, but that's not my area of expertise. I would Google that at the Johnson and Masters or something like that. Okay, let's keep going. Celeste says, Jonathan, when did you get married the first time? I think right, was I 29 years old or was I 27? Let's see. No, I was 29 years old when I first got married. Cher said, what dating app did you meet on? She and I both met on match.com and I used the website, not the app version. So we met on match.com. Which app do you recommend? I recommend Bumble and I also recommend Hinge. Hinge is a good app. Here we go, Celeste says Hinge. I think that's probably one of the best apps today. Okay, let's keep going. Let's keep going. All right, do we have any questions? Hey, if you have a question, purchase a super sticker, super chat, makes it easier for me to find. I really appreciate that. Okay, Jenny says, my boyfriend and I don't live together but he's great one minute, but he is great one minute and the next will be like blows me off and acts depressed and doesn't wanna talk, it drives me crazy. He's almost 50 and I'm 38. Jenny, I'm sorry you're experiencing that. Shit happens when two people aren't developed. Listen, folks, I highly recommend, by the way, I have someone who just emailed me today. They said, Jonathan, I took your advice. I purchased the book, eight dates. I started reading with the guy I'm dating. It has actually brought us closer together. This book is a plethora of amazing information to help build a stronger union within two people because it gives you the outline to create that stronger union. So check out the link to a free discovery call or excuse me to the Jonathan recommends books. All right, I think this will be a great place to wrap up today. I hope you had value, found value in the six signs he's about to cheat on you. I'm just gonna repeat them really quickly. He's jumping when his phone rings. Number two, he begins to micro disappear. Number three, his behavior changes. Number four, he's acting emotionally distant or moody. He gets caught in little white lies. And lastly, your gut is telling you something's wrong. Listen to the quiet voice inside of you. Also, I highly recommend checking out Dr. Sherry's book, chatting or cheating. It's a great book to help you be prepared if infidelity might happen in your relationship. All right, and the last thing is the question is, what is the birth sign of your girlfriend? She is a, wait, May, June. Yeah, Gemini, Gemini, I almost forgot that. All right, I think this would be a great place to wrap up this video. As I'm gonna first do what I always do. First off, give myself a big gigantic Jonathan bear hug. Oh, wait, I forgot to say, listen, if you found value in this, please hit like, please subscribe to my channel. Please share this with friends. Check out the links in the description. Oh, check out a free discovery call with me. And now I'm gonna wrap up this video as I always do. First off, give myself a big gigantic Jonathan bear hug of self love. I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay. I'm gonna ask you to turn to someone, a pet, a teddy bear pillow, and give Iter them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love. And let's face it, we could all use more love in our lives. I wanna thank Brenda and Renee and Celeste and Jennifer and Lynette and Envy and Sherry and Jenny and Bridge and Celeste and Papa share. And let's see who else. New Port, new you. Chris, Bridge, everyone, thank you so much. Wishing you, did you get value out of this? Please let me know. Did you get value of this? Did this resonate with you? Please let me know. All right, I think this will be a great space to wrap up. Thank you all so much. You be well. Bye now.