 G shaving Sinu yulohu yung mazi So, you agree that there's something as 100% honest? Yes It depends on how you present it you know what she is saying she is still saying the same thing but maybe using the software language but still she's honest with you but we have this situation Kwa siwam ya nii, bensi hwyo hwya vuntumia nii hkutu kusimia kwa hiw gaini hwa hwya kusi kwa hwan tuli hkutu hiw gaini kwa hwya kusa kukutu chuiesa kwa hwa siwam, natkei hva wakia hwa hwa wakia, hwa wei, moui hwo hwa hwya kusimia wakia mahi ujinian, gula wenda kwa hiw guni nii kutu kwa kwa kusimia kapu wakia kwa moui hwa kusimia Yamae moui, kwa kusimia yana nilibu na kamae kwa kusimia If you are with an incompatible partner So that is where compatibility comes in So if you are with a compatible partner the truth will always set you free It will Because it will be more of you are helping us with this information Than you are trying to You see the problem with lies, it's not even the lie itself It's the fact that you are taking this person to be stupid And after some time when they realize that this is how you've been carrying them They really get upset Ya because even for cheating If you have decided to go ahead and cheat If you only come and say that you did so I'm telling you the truth But this conversation will take a different turn if you are able to speak But if you lie and you are caught It's another situation So there's no need for getting in trouble twice for one lie Because the first time you lie you get in trouble And then when they figure out the truth you also get in trouble So just tell the truth And then the good thing with telling the truth The truth has got a way of helping both sides You that you are saying the truth you will be free And you that the hearer you are also going to be set free So me I will always tell you the truth, I will always be honest It doesn't matter how you take it But eventually I wish we had a man in studio with us right now Because I'd really like to get a man's perspective About this truth and lies The reason why you need a man Is because men are the majority of the liars Because I'm a liar myself I'm a liar myself I don't know why They are talented liars Alright I'm not seeing a conversation where I tell a lady You're not looking really good today Go and wear Ya they're just talented liars But you know the end of this lie is There's something he wants Ya now come to me you know baby you look so good Even he knows that you are not looking good So that he gets what he wants At the end of the day You have a very narrow perspective of men You don't look at us you know No no no I have a little there And then the problem of Like you're saying if you tell You can't tell a lady that she's not looking nice That conversation never goes What gratification do you want Do you want now gratification Or you want long term Because if you want short term gratification When it comes to anything in life You are ruining yourself You know this thing Because we have tomorrow And we have communication You can tell me that but in a better way In a better way Ya you know by that like this hairstyle But the one that he used last week Was better You are still saying this one is not good So it's a yes A happy wife A happy life But if you just come and tell me that thing Make your wife happy Anyway Let's get to this point Of giving up So people give up on relationships They come and tell you I'm not feeling this anymore man Amma Ikichu ima ishime kwa angumu Ueru di home kwa made Niji pange kido There's different forms of giving up So When you are no longer You don't believe in this concept of love But when you are no longer attracted Or in love as much Is there a point in holding on Because giving up is a major cause Of breakups But is there a point in holding on When it doesn't feel the way it used to Ya to most women Kids In a relationship or marriage Because of the kids You are no longer in love You are under one roof You don't even see eye to eye You can't discuss anything But you say My kids Then the embarrassment back at home Where somebody is sending you back What are you going to tell them All your admins are gone Then you say Let me just hold on Even though things are not working But it is the worst form of slavery I would not advise somebody to do that If it is not working Please free yourself Free yourself Because nowadays There is a name They are very funny Some will just walk with an axe All the way from Neri To come and axe you So if it is not working Please walk out It took me back to a very dark moment Right there But it's factual For sure It's a very bad form of slavery Let me get it from you Now Mungure Is it worth holding on Just to protect the feelings of that party Because probably they are going to You know them They are very emotional They are going to cry Might even attempt suicide You never know So is it worth holding on No It's never worth holding on Whatever If you have already gotten yourself Into this situation The only way that you can Work it out Because you see After getting yourself into a mess And the only way to Unmask such situations is by Either going to therapy For a period of time Both parties agreeing to it Or just leaving Alright People listed support as One lack of support Is a major cause also Of breakups in relationships I'd like to define this support What is this support This man does not support me What do ladies mean When they say I'm not getting support from my guy Mainly what people tend to think Is the financial or material But it shouldn't be that way But mostly it means that Am I wrong Ya mostly but it is wrong It doesn't matter whether it is mostly When it is wrong it is wrong Because sometimes I need emotional support I'm going through something I have my job My account is well It is well kept So it is not about your money Someday I just need you by my side Just tell me that all shall be well Ya just keep on things with me But you're not there for me I'm sick and then you tell me in the house Kwa na una kadiya in hechef So you want to see See at the siwazi end I just wanted you to say sorry first Oh I'm feeling it Those are the emotional support Ya when it comes to relationships Emotions first Emotions are my priority It is not about money Sometimes I have money I can take care of myself for But now I just need somebody to tell me That why don't we just take that Kabu go to their stall I'll join you later That it is the first therapy I will not even need that doctor I just wanna feel Somebody cares about me But when it comes to kwa na kwa na kwa janini I'm not going to give me 50k I'm not going to give me money Unata ka No I need emotional support Then other things will follow So I get on my phone Get a taxi and say Ah behave Ya I can even pay for that taxi There's nothing wrong with it But there's a feeling that comes with it Ya the fair sense of belonging At least sense of security Somebody cares a lot about me So that is how you define support For you Right Tell me about the support I agree with her And also I would like to add That this support is in The person's capacity So we shouldn't be having These situations where Like a lady Or even a man You need maybe financial support From this individual And you are asking for more Than they can afford You get So in their given capacity So we have Definitely if we are together We love each other We have Okay those people Who don't love each other So if you are together We love each other So we have to have emotional support And for that It's supposed to be In your given capacity I think we can go Almost like a hundred percent When I'm with you And I love you I'm supposed to be there If I'm busy Or something like that You can be able to make time And you can make me aware That you're busy now But you can make time this other time And then when it comes to Finance The same thing In the person's capacity What can they What can they afford What can they offer So I've given emotional support And then again What do you need Emotional support And what else do you need So it's very important Because we can't eat emotions We can't eat emotions And also maybe When people come from work And they are tired They are frustrated about something You know you're supposed to be this confident I'm able to talk to you I'm able to tell you what is going on And you're with me So ladies A friend of mine told me He lives with his girlfriend And he's never been to his girlfriend's office But he knows everybody from that office Because when his girlfriend comes home Imagine Leon and I Imagine Oh you remember I told you about Nani So Rani Leon and I He knows a lot of things Every time the lady gets home She talks about the office for now So he found a way to deal with this He zones out And just says Aha Yes Yes And the lady likes it Even if it's not listening Would you call that support? Wow No That is not support Listen to every detail That is not support Because Okay You soon come to find out That you zone out One day She might revisit a conversation And She gets mad You don't even listen to You don't have anything to say About that conversation It happened some time back And you have no input This is going to cause a fight Yeah That means we are Intellectually Because you see When it comes to You see how we are able to talk right now here Normally In normal life circumstances We talk about silence Is good We talk about being alone And stuff like that But when it comes to relationship You're supposed to be able to talk like this Almost on a daily basis Because you have to check in You have to check in with your relationship daily So there is no way you're zoning out In a relationship In a relationship If you're not ready to be in a relationship Don't get into one Don't get into one You have to be able to chat like this Daily Wow Yes I like it when people are You may not have that time But this is a different generation Yes But you may not have that time And again During your chats We see what the third party So my talking about my office My boss No, let's talk about teacher Sisi When you make I think it will be better off Than when I bring You know my secretary Kujana Our secretary did this and this You see There is a time The secretary issue will bring problems You start building the image Of your secretary In his mind So he starts looking Okay So there are some people who are better Even than you The day Muta Kosana took a dog I said I wish I had that secretary You've been talking about So never bring the third party So much into So much Into your relationship Never be talking about Your friends so much Your workmates Do you agree Agree Agree Don't be talking about Third party Sana