 Hey everyone Another life Nars says leave when you fail But hate when you succeed When they first met you Your life may not be perfect, but you've got things going on. You've got things that you're doing You're looking after yourself You're eating good your ex you're working hard All of these things you're doing but Then they come into your life They use you up They take everything that you have to give gradually you become more and more drained you lose Time that would otherwise be spent with yourself looking after yourself You lose energy you lose the motivation to do certain things you lose money Financial resources Because you're investing all of these things in the wrong place You're investing your time money and energy in the wrong place And that's why you get nothing back in return as shadow Moses Just said they're in the comments No risk sobriety It's not reciprocal So you lose all of these things in the process They're extracting everything from you And you fail the narcissist just leaves you for dead and you look at yourself and you think Maybe you caused it and of course the narcissist wants you to think that as well But you were doing fine before you met them. You didn't really have many problems then I Mean your life may not have been perfect but it was Definitely a lot easier before the narcissist came around They leave you when you fail Even though more often than not They are the cause of your failure and then they just go off with someone else They find something else to do and then that's when You have more time for yourself You can put the focus back on yourself You have more energy to do certain things More time to look after yourself More money to look after yourself And that's why it's really inevitable that things Gradually get better Your life begins to improve So it's only natural That you're going to succeed in certain aspects of your life You're going to start looking better Feeling better You're gonna find more opportunities You're going to become more successful In your work life You're just gonna become all around more successful And then that is when the narcissist will really hate you That's when they'll really want to tear you down Because while they may leave you when you fail They don't particularly like it when you succeed either It actually makes them really angry Especially since You're gonna be succeeding without them After they've just left and said all these horrible things about you Smeared your name to so many people But they've just made it impossible for them to come back How can they come back to you now after they said all these horrible things about you After they stared at you with a problem In fact the only thing they can do in that situation Is minimise your success Discredit you Act like you're just a fraud You're an imposter They have to act like there's something wrong with your success They have to deny it or minimise it in some way They cannot just openly acknowledge it Because if they were to do that They would basically just be saying That yes you've succeeded without them And they've gone on and Their lives are probably a mess now They probably screwed up whatever situation they're in And then that would just reveal that All along they were the problem Because how else If they leave you and you suddenly start doing better without them There's only one thing that that really says That means that you were fine all along That means that they were just holding you back They were limiting you From becoming everything that you are today But of course they cannot just Openly acknowledge that They have to minimise your success They have to discredit you They have to have An excuse Of justification For why they cannot stand you For why they cannot stand your success Other than The most obvious reasons of course Which many of you will be aware of If you've been watching my videos Why do they hate your success Because they're envious They want to take it away from you They want to be you They want your qualities and abilities They want your accomplishments And they're jealous because they feel like you're taking something away from them Like you're taking away the spotlight It's all just to cover up the fact that they made A very foolish decision They left you When they thought that you had failed At that point they basically left you for dead They thought you weren't going to get back up again They thought that was it They thought it was all over Because they thought that they had taken everything good from you They thought you had nothing left They didn't expect you to recover And if you do, if you prove them wrong Just don't expect them to be Congratulated you Don't expect them to have Any open admiration or respect for you If anything they're just going to see it as though you cheated Your way to success And that you were not deserving of it And if anything They are far more deserving Of everything you are Everything you have Than you are And they're just going to see it as though Even though they were in a round Maybe they were just responsible for your success And maybe you owe them something They're never going to see it as though You did it on your own And that you should just partake And enjoy the fruits of your labour No Narcissists don't think like that They're self-absorbed And they lack empathy And it's all about getting Whatever they can out of you Just a quick message for today I'm going to go do some hiking Here in the Lake District I'm just at this cottage here At the river It's a lovely sound that is Helps me to fall asleep Thank you all for joining us live Got a huge premiere later At 6.30pm GMT London time So I hope to see you there You don't want to miss this one Thank you all for