 Myself and my husband Jared were trying to have a baby for six months and I was publicly TTC and during that time I heard every suggestion under the sun. Roll around in the bed of a pregnant lady. Don't take any herbs. Take these herbs. Meditate, hydrate, percolate, twerkalate, circulate. So I just wanted to share some fun, interesting, non-tutorial stories from other people and share my story with you. But before we get to that, can I please take a second to shout out my sponsor, Audible, on this video. This video is sponsored by Audible who is the leading provider of spoken word entertainment and audiobooks. Now members, and that includes people on Audible's 30-day free trial, get one audiobook a month plus access to all of the Audible original monthly selections. That means more access to podcasts, guided wellness programs, theatrical performances, and A-list comedy. The 30-day Audible free trial is legit the only way that I know of that you can listen and keep my audiobook, The Game of Desire, read by me, Foe Free. Don't forget that May and June I'm hosting free live online workshops for The Game of Desire so now is the time to get started on this offer if you've yet to do so. All you gotta do is go to audible.com slash shan booty or if you're in the U.S. text shan booty to the number 500 500 that's audible.com slash shan booty or text shan booty to 500 500. Myself and my fiance had been living in our car for a little over two years working full-time in Orlando Florida but you know when you have that feeling when you look at somebody you're kind of like oh I could have you baby that was that I know nine months today. I have three children all three of our children were planned I went by the book I was checking my temperature checking the cervix um and I was like this is the time we need to have sex we need to do it right now so we can get pregnant. My wife and I successfully got pregnant with this cup this syringe and of course a young man with a very key ingredient that we needed to successfully become pregnant I am now six months pregnant. My pregnancy was unplanned and I found out I was pregnant seven months into the pregnancy simply because the baby just started kicking. I had a naturally planned pregnancy I meditated with the carnation stone a yummy egg and I just wished the best over my room and whatever was supposed to happen was going to happen for my partner and I and then that was in May and then in October we conceived our rainbow baby. I actually lost my grandmother in August it was in October and my sister calls me and she's like I had a dream that you're pregnant grandma told me you're pregnant a week later my husband bought me champagne and I could not drink the champagne for the life of me it turns out she was right I was pregnant. I was tracking my ovulation very closely I know the the day the time and position he was conceived as crazy as it sounds. At that time me and my partner we were not ready and we did use protection like halfway to making love but my baby is six years old now. I'm 30 weeks pregnant I was always really proud of my ability to know exactly when to have sex someone not to have sex because I thought I knew my body so well but me and my partner decided to ignore it once and secretly I thought I may just be infertile however I'm 30 weeks now. I was very methodical I read everything about being pregnant we have to do it then when I'm ovulating and you know make sure you know sperm stays stays in this long and all so I was very just obsessive almost with it took the fun completely out of it and I remember like every month like not getting pregnant not getting pregnant and I was getting really sad about it and I was talking to a co-worker who just had a baby and she's like don't think about it just don't think about it just do it and that's it and honestly that's the month that I got pregnant that was in May. The one thing that I learned very early on in my trying to conceive journey is that there is no one size fits all one road for all hopefuls or one road for all non-hopefuls for that you know what has worked for 99% of people not to conceive you know decimal 1% of person that's how they ended up with a baby that to say the best thing you can do is listen to all information with a grain of salt if you have access to a health care provider please talk to them all right so without further ado here is precisely what Jared and I did in the month of February which is the month that I conceived the life that is currently growing in my body and the life that I'm cheering on every single day I'm not going to list any brands in this video if you are curious you can text me and I don't mind sharing with you so first and foremost we started taking prenatals very early after my video with Dr. Rishma she had mentioned that and also when I had my IUD removed in September that the doctor then told me that if we were trying to conceive that taking prenatals before is important now I've read mixed reviews about the effectiveness of prenatals but it definitely doesn't hurt by and large I took a prenatal that was a multi vitamin that had folic acid in it and again I was taking that since September and February I conceived the other thing that I started doing three months prior that I think was beneficial to me and all honestly I took this pill it was an over-the-counter hormonal balancing pill and I took it because my acne was out of control and I had read that it was great for acne and they actually used to have on the bottle that it also helped with fertility they removed that because a lot of people you know don't want acne but they also don't want a baby but I read in the review section that it also helped a lot of people to conceive so by the time February had come around my skin had started to clear up and I had already been on I had just finished my third bottle of that hormone balancing over the counter supplement what we also did during that month is ovulation track so I just bought a box a really cheap box online it was like $15 like 100 ovulation strips and essentially it's just something that you pee on to see if there is a particular hormone present and that hormone is indicative that you are ovulating during that time and if you watched my video with Dr. Rishma you're aware that your ovulation window is a lot smaller than you think people don't realize you can't get pregnant all month long so there's a certain window of time when you actually can get pregnant and where it's more likely and that is when you release an egg so your body releases an egg it's called ovulation your egg is released and hangs out in your body for maybe 12 to 24 hours depending on your body in the cycle and that's the day you can get pregnant so you have a window of opportunity of plus or minus five days because the sperm can hang out in your body so that's sort of the basic this is how your body works you can't get pregnant every day of your cycle the other things that we did is we used a lubricant that was called pre-seed and you have to inject it into yourself like a turkey baster so like you shoot it up into your vaginal canal and it's supposed to aid and make it easier for the sperm to swim now when a woman is ovulating she might have that egg white discharge and that egg white discharge is there to make it easier for the sperm to be mobile and so pre-seed lubricant is to mimic that same discharge that happens naturally for many people and to give the sperm an easier time the third thing or the fourth thing lost count that we did is usually and I say this little time every time that I have sex we get up and we go to the bathroom together immediately after sex again maybe like roughly like 30 seconds afterwards like once all the pulsing is finished we're like that was great let's go so I go to the toilet he goes to the sink I go to the toilet and I pee I've gotten really good at like that's done and now you're out of my body because if you have before you know not dispelled if you've had sex without a condom and somebody has shot up in you you know that it tends to seep down and it's a little gross so I had developed a great skill of just my pc muscles by and so even when we were trying to conceive because I had read that a lot that it really was inconsequential to try to keep as much sperm as possible and it really was you know not going to make a difference you didn't have to roll around on your back doing like the happy baby pose and so I just took that literally and I just kept up with my same routine after we would have sex you know we would get up I would go to the bathroom I would pee and then I would expel so now for February I did not expel I would still go pee and wipe up but I wouldn't bear down and then I put on period panty underwear which is the reusable pad like underwear and I would go to sleep with that on and I've heard people who put a tampon in afterwards I again this is part of the advice that I got but I did not remove any additional sperm from my body after you know we had finished trying and that is what the recipe was why I think this is interesting to share because the number one advice that I got from people when they found out we were trying to conceive was don't think about it like don't get too heady just have fun just relax enjoy the process me and my partner we're not thinking about it or for some people you know we were using IVF or we're same sex and we were using surrogate and we never put the pressure on and when we stopped thinking about it that's when it happened and I think that's a really beautiful story and something I hear a lot from people a lot of different areas in life would love you know don't think about it with trying to get a dream job or trying to get a dream house like don't put the pressure on just relax and it will come to you that's never been my story it's just and who knows maybe at this point I've manifested that not to be my story through always expecting things to be very difficult for me and difficult not the right word I just always have to have a process ease is always the result of extreme preparation of extreme research of a system that I have put into place and that I have a flow with that and as a result ease comes but most things in life be that my career my speech my immigration process my process to finding the love of my life none of that was just happened wasn't none of it was the result of me not thinking about it my whole life and my career is about me researching understanding applying that knowledge trying and testing different methods and then seeing a result so I'm actually pretty I'm proud of the way that we conceived and I'm proud of it because it was so intentional and a lot of you guys are well aware that you know I'm 35 right now so I'm naturally a high risk pregnancy I am like an elderly an elderly pregnant woman so I'm in a high risk category because of my age and literally you know as we were trying to conceive that was something that kept thinking about a lot like wow I waited too long or you know wow this is just proof that you know I had to push myself a little sooner but if I'm dead as honest with you I really didn't know for sure that I wanted kids until December 2019 like that by that time we had had three periods that came and you know we didn't try for September October November we just saw what would happen and didn't think about it and we weren't purposeful but when those three months passed and we weren't trying and I had no birth control method and I wasn't conceiving that's when I really started to be like this hurts why does it hurt you know what am I feeling right now what is it that I want and why do we want a child and what really came up through that experience of trying and not succeeding was will and a desire and I realized what I really wanted why I wanted a kid so bad is because at this point in my life I have so much to share you know I have an amazing relationship I have an amazing husband who I think would be a tremendous father we have a beautiful life together we have an incredible family a great support system I'm proud of where I am in my career I'm proud of who I am as a human being I'm proud of what I know and what I can pass on and I want to share that and I get to share that in many ways with all of you which I'm you know so grateful to do but there's obviously different layers to sharing and this to me is the ultimate the ultimate share um and you know I'm literally sharing my body right now so that is our trying to conceive story I really thought this would be a short video but you guys know me I'm a chat I have to say a massive thank you thank you to all of you for being here for me on this journey in the various different ways that you all have showed up it has made all of the difference I have learned so much I have learned about mothering supporting being a good community member I have learned about love specifically in being public about this trying to conceive journey and as we continue on growing together I anticipate nothing short of that and I will do my best to uphold my end of the bargain for you speaking of my end of the bargain I'm finally going to be doing free live digital book clubs I used to have something called the big ass book club and I was traveling to cities and doing this like talk for people where I would guide you through exercises and dialogue points you know that are um inspired by the game of desire and now I'm going to be doing that for free so please find out more information about that in just a second as I tell you more about the audible promotion also audible has a crazy free promotion that is happening right now that you don't want to miss while schools are out audible will be open they launched a special website where anyone anywhere can stream hundreds of titles completely free 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