 Alright, there's been a lot of talk about gratitude here at the Rewired Soul, so I got Rod and Vince here, and we're going to talk a little bit more about it. What is up, everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul, where we talk about the problem, but focus on the solution, and I'm here with two good buddies of mine going ahead and introduce yourself real quick. I'm Rod. And I'm Vince. We're a self-deprecating romantic pop rock duo, RKVC. Yes. Ooh, and that's a leaf blower. We're a band, we're songwriters, and we suck at everything else, including taking care of ourselves. Yeah, so yeah, we're going to be talking about gratitude, and by the way, stay tuned until the end of this video, because I will be doing a giveaway. So, real quick, like, whenever Rod and I hang out, and Vince, and like, Rod always tells the story about how we met. So let him know real quick how we met. I guess the TLDR is when the whole Shane Dawson, Jake Paul thing was happening. Katie Morton was featured in those videos. A lot of you saw those know that. Actually, if you're watching this, you probably know what Katie Morton is. Yeah. And Katie is an acquaintance of ours. We see her at conventions and stuff. Something got suggested on our YouTube suggestions and things. I was like, is Katie Morton a good therapist? Like, mother... Yeah, she is, so I clicked on it and watched. It was this guy. That was in the morning, and then at nighttime, we were on our way to like, a vid summit after party that Patreon was having. And I saw him in the hallway and was like, it's gonna sound totally creepy, but are you Chris? Yeah, and I was like, oh my God, I got noticed. Yeah, and then we just started talking for like, ever. And then these guys came out to Vegas. What was it, last month? Yeah, we got to hang out and stuff. But anyways, yeah, we were sitting down and talking about gratitude. And like, we've been trying to meet up and like, do, you know, collab. I'm like, that is a great, great, great topic. So tell me, tell me again, about like, I know you got, you start writing stuff down. Vince, you getting in on it a little bit? I'm starting, I'm not starting. I did have my other things though, and I could talk about those, those ways that I express gratitude. Yes. Things I talk to myself about. Yeah, let's, let's do that. Like, because there's a billion different ways to do it. And something I tried to teach all of you was like, there's different ways to do these things. Like, I'm not a big journaler. Like, I don't have like a journal. Like, I have like 15 notebooks that I write stuff in, but then I use apps and stuff like that. So yeah, tell me about the habit that you picked up and then that you picked up, Vince. The short version of how it started was once again, Katie Morton. We were at a Patreon convention and I had asked a question at the end of her speech about like, how do I properly internalize anger? And also, how do I be more positive and not, like, not be as angry with the, not to call any specific YouTubers. But a lot of our YouTuber friends do not like their life right now and are blaming like everybody else. And I was like, I don't want to be that. So how do I not be that? So Katie was like, hey, don't internalize anger. There's no correct way of doing that. And that's a whole other thing. But the second thing that she said was, A, let your friends know that you're trying to be positive. So if it seems like you're ignoring the complaints, it's not them. It's you. Yeah, boundaries. And then the second, the other part of that was B, like she was like every morning wake up and genuinely be grateful for something. She's like, you could write it down. You could, you know, think about it or whatever. So I went through this like process of like what works for me. So I knew previously from other habits, I used to run every day, which I need to get back into. Yeah, me too. Social media keeps me accountable, particularly Granny Pottymouth. So like if I post on Twitter, every day I'm going to be grateful for something. If I miss one day. Yeah. Granny lets you know. Yeah, you better. And the rest of the internet as well. Especially Granny. So I was like for the first 30 days, I'm going to post hashtag RK is grateful for. And it's something I'm genuinely grateful for. And not just making up or whatever. I'm like, this is something worth waking up for. Yeah. Sometimes it could be like a big thing, like we accomplished something huge or something in our careers went really well. Or Katie said, don't be afraid to be grateful for small things. You know, like I can see today. Or I, you know, I woke up without some sort of weird joint pain that's inexplicable in my 30s. Or not as much joint pain. I don't know, like not sarcastic and not making it a chore, but like genuinely being grateful for it. So you're specifically using like social media making it public? That was the first 30 days for me to get into the habit of it. Because I think after like a couple of few weeks, it's just like involuntary. Like it just kind of happens, you know? Yeah. So after that 30 days, I was like, I don't want to like, or bother everybody on the internet with it unless you want to follow this. And so at that point I started using like notes on my phone to keep track. For me, that didn't register as well. I didn't retain it as well. I'm not saying that that won't work for other people. Yeah. So at the start of the new year, I literally just took a actual notebook. The Patreon gave me. And it's a blank notebook. And then just start like 1.1. You know, like I am grateful for. And then right now. And I think the important takeaway from that too is to be mindful of what's working for you and what isn't. Like some people like try and try and try. Like I'm huge on meditation and stuff like that. But if like formal meditation, like sitting down, focusing on it but isn't working, figure out a different form, you know? So like if you start doing gratitude lists in your phone and it's not registering as much, try something else. What about you, Vince? What you doing? It's a perfect transition, this guy. Really, it all revolves around I wear my emotions and I project anger a lot. So I had to learn what things that triggered that and start to develop these ways to where when I'm in those moods I can like, it'll shoot me back to this one thing that I've continued to do every single day. So when I get up in the morning, that's what kind of determines what mood I'll be in. So when I get in the shower, when I feel the water hitting me and like running down my body, I say out loud and I say to myself like, let all my anger wash away, let all whatever bad feelings wash away. And then while I'm, when I get to a peaceful point, that's when I start saying like I'm grateful for being in California, I'm grateful for my friends, I'm grateful for this, I'm grateful for that. So that later when I'm in like an angry fit, hopefully it shoots me back to the shower but saying those things, you know? Those mornings when we run out of hot water I know to like leave them alone. Like, oh, today was a day. So it's like two things. It's one thing is like doing it something repetitiously, so that later when I find myself in these ungrateful or like mad or angry fits that instead of projecting out bad things I can like shoot myself back to that mantra and like continue to say like I'm grateful for this like wash away this anger try to turn the switch, you know? Because it's hard, it's tough. Yeah, none of this stuff is like and it's a habit that we develop. And so two things from that. For example, I was just using the example of meditation. Not a lot of people are into that like formal like focus on the breath. But like that, I do that in the shower too. It's like sensation mindfulness, right? You're being aware of what the water feels like. You're not just running into the shower and just like you're like noticing like this is relaxing and talking, you know in your head or whatever it is. Yeah, so like that and that's all mindfulness is being aware of the present moment. But like I can definitely relate because one of the reasons I wrote Rewire Your Anger was because I can get angry too and gratitude is like this antidote for anger. So like less than six years ago, like when I got sober I had no driver's license. I was riding the bus in hot ass Las Vegas and I'd have to be standing at a bus stop at 110 degree weather. And like so now like because you know all the things that have come my way and the work I've put in, I have a car and everything. So I'll be like stuck in traffic right? Especially here in Los Angeles and I'll be like oh these freaking people and then like gratitude snaps me back like I'm grateful that I at least have a car to be stuck in traffic in. You know? I'm grateful that I at least have a car that was able to bring me to Los Angeles to hang out with my friends and do videos like this. So like gratitude is a great way to get rid of anger as well. Yeah. So like I call it negative thought cycles and then that thing that triggers that secular thing that you get stuck in that breaks you off of that thing gratefulness and then you start a positive thought cycle. Yeah. And as long as you can stay in that positive thought cycle I mean you'll just go back down into a negative but you at least you can figure out what the trigger is to get you back into a positive thought cycle. Yeah and like to dive deeper into that like with anger or even like depression and like negative thinking like I don't know if you guys ever get into like those negative thoughts like oh my career isn't going anywhere or my life sucks or whatever it is. Do you find that gratitude can help you bounce out of that like when you're like when you're just like sitting in that pity party like well nothing's working out. That does happen for me I'm a little bit of an odd duck like it's very preventative for me. That's what I found recently hopefully like a year from now I'll be saying the same thing but like I find myself getting to that cycle less that negative cycle less so like we were talking about this when we were visiting in Vegas that once you know back a few months ago the Aquaman movie had its premiere and we were there and normally when us peasants go to these premieres they just kind of put us to the side and like you get to be here in Instagram a little bit but this time they walked us across the or it wasn't a red carpet it was a blue carpet cause Aquaman they marched us across and then they put us like right where like all the interviews were happening with Jason Momoa and Dolph Lundgren and Nicole Kidman stuff and so we were standing there and granted it was kind of a long night but long was like a couple hours and I don't whenever I tell the story it sounds like very like you know mightier than that or whatever but it's not meant to be that way. It's just some observation. Yeah. I would say there I was not the first time but the first time in a long time I was genuinely like just in awe of everything so many good things were coming at me that perspective that I was thoroughly enjoying myself I was like I'm at a movie premiere for something that like a bunch of my friends are trying to get into that me four years ago watched TV and was like how do I be there you know and to just be there and see a movie that's going to it ended up being like the best like selling movie I don't want to say best movie but best selling movie all year and it was it was an incredible I don't know I could name a thousand things I was grateful for that moment but everybody not everybody a lot of people around like my immediate circumstance like my feet hurt it's cold outside blah blah he came to a point after a couple hours of that that like I started just to feel sorry for everybody else is like they're not getting what like they're not seeing yeah I'm seeing perception is always fascinating to me like it's something I talk about on my channel all the time two people can be in the exact same situation one person's hating it one person's loving it and it's like how is that and it's the way that we work on our mind and how we process things and all that there's a meme that always comes to mind I've never I've never forgotten it that I saw like years ago of like two people on a bus like driving around a mountain and one of them like looking into this beautiful valley the other one's like looking at the other side it's just like a rock wall they're like this trip is awful and the other one's just like enjoying all he has to do is turn around yeah and like this is why like I try to you know implement like scientific studies maybe I'll link one in the description but like practicing these things actually help the video I actually did with my mom over on her channel I'll link that because she links some studies on that so let me ask you this like being in you know lovely Los Angeles and like to kind of piggyback off that story about the red carpet do you guys notice that like do you when you look and observe people like do you think a lack of gratitude is leading to some of their I don't know not being fully satisfied with where they're at or what they do have oh yeah absolutely and like in like what way like what situations a little bit in the Hollywood not to name names we don't spill tea here we can start that channel a little bit in the Hollywood world like we have like a toe in in the film world and then our main thing is music but like in the YouTube world specifically once again without calling out names there are a lot of people that are super negative and not that I'm trying to villainize them like sometimes it's very like justified you know frustration yeah but it doesn't help to just be angry staying in the problem not getting in the solution yeah yeah so like you want to be a friend you know you're like there listening and you're trying to give constructive criticism of what's happening or whatever but like you could tell that whatever decisions that person makes after I can't just like it's awesome it's going to be affected by the thoughts of you know that negativity is going to branch out to every decision you make it and if you stay in that then it's not going to work out but there was a number of occasions but I'm specifically thinking of like one conversation we have some friends that are on YouTube that like were like well YouTube screwing us over yeah and so I was like okay well you know maybe it's kind of like when you lose your job or you know that situation when you're at like a fork on the road we're like well I can you know I give choices now it might not be voluntary but like maybe this is the opportunity if you were ever afraid to do something on your channel to break it if you know if YouTube broke it or whatever maybe this is your chance to try that thing and they're like well I don't want to like shake things up too much because I want to break it and like okay then I guess stay the same like hold your ground and come back around but we have to change something because YouTube broke it like I don't know what to tell you other than like just stop I'm not sure like yeah and I yeah that's a that's a whole other video about like stubbornness and like you know that definition of insanity keep doing the same thing expecting different results but yeah my my girlfriend is a great job keeping me grateful too because sometimes I get caught up in like the numbers right or if it's a video especially like what I notice about myself is like it's something I'm really proud of and you guys probably feel this way too as musicians you know creators like you put so much in you just want people to see it and my brain can say only a hundred people or only 500 people saw this then my girlfriend you know that that perception thing she's like Chris 500 people might have gotten a message that helped them out and I'm like damn you're right you guys ever like point of view perspective and so we haven't talked about it on our channel actually at all I don't think but one of the things that YouTube did for us is a kind of like replaced touring because we toured our asses off when we were in our 20s but our 30s were like you know what this is a bit much but I think last year we did like half a million views on our channel which for most of our YouTube friends are like they literally do that and like before we had lunch I need to become one of those YouTube friends but for us once again being grateful we're like one of our friends who's like OG YouTuber like retired from YouTube like great was like but what you guys do is great like a hundred or like a thousand people watching your videos like imagine all those people in a club at one of your gigs that's a lot of freaking people you know it's like you're right like even if we have like only less than a hundred people watching a video like yeah that's a good thing for us in a club yeah so half a million eyes on our stuff we couldn't have toured every crappy bar in the country and gotten that many eyes on this yeah you know yeah absolutely and yeah like I think we're gonna wrap this thing up so let me and by the way we're doing more videos together so same to you um we're about to do a video over on their channel so that'll be down in the link in the description they have some uh some music that we're gonna dive in some lyrics mental health related but you gotta go check it out to find out but head over to instagram at the rewired soul I am giving away three now one not two but three gratitude journals to celebrate some gratitude so make sure you're following me over on instagram so you can enter in that giveaway and where can these beautiful rewired soldiers find you guys um for our social side it's uh oh wait I got the backwards for our music side it's a spotify apple music all that stuff um our social side is our youtube is probably our biggest thing and then um all the stuff like our kvc views our kvc insta our kvc tweets yeah we have a lot of weird usernames but if you search rkvc yeah many of those platforms you'll find us yeah and they'll be linked down below too all right anyways thanks everybody thank you thank you guys and let's turn this off so we can record some more videos yeah