 Welcome back to the sibling squabble podcast. My name is Isaac. I'm Salah, and this is the podcast where we answer your prompts about Growing up relationships faith and pop culture Salah, are you excited to be back? I'm so excited Of course you are because we've been gone for so long. Everyone's like, where's the podcast? We love the podcast Where is that's exactly how all your fans every on every one of my videos now? Everyone's like we're a sibling squabble. We hate this other content We don't we don't like this guy. Where's the girl? I'm like brah. This is I've ruined my channel. This is so bad Anyway, we're now back in the saddle of the podcast and we're talking about a lot of different things today mainly fear That's the theme of today's podcast Have you okay interesting? Have you ever seen the show fear factor? Yeah Well, I haven't seen like a whole episode, but I know what it is okay, so what I've done is I have coordinated us to have a Basically a containment area where you can step in and you will be surrounded by tarantulas Okay, and you're going to see how long you can last in there kind of our own fear factor type thing Oh, no, okay. Are you good with this? No? Okay? Well guys back it up back it up. Okay, they're leaving They're leaving. Okay. Well, we'll ex-nay that for now, but maybe next time next time. Okay. Okay. Well, that's fine So so in this episode we're gonna begin with our highs and lows because that's what we do We like to talk about our week. We'd like to get you in a little bit of Vulnerability going on here. So say like can you let us in? What is your we like to start with the lows, right? Yeah, the lows because you know as it is. So what's your low for the week? I don't know. I'm gonna skip my low. I really don't really I tried to think of one like yeah Are you are you having that good of a week? No, I just don't want to stay my low. Oh Having that bad of a week. Oh, dude. Okay. Oh, man. Oh, but it's like all right. Okay. Okay. You don't have to worry Yeah, okay. I understand that but what's your high though? My high is Hanging out with my niece and my other niece your niece's and my older sister your niece's and your older sister Yes, they are so cute. Um, they're gonna be a common theme on the podcast Yeah, like every week. It's like what's your favorite highlight of the week? You're like my nieces. Yeah, I like being with them. They're so nice and squishy They're so beautiful their faces their hands their little toes. They're beautiful You're like you're like gollum basically arriving at Huffle's house. You're like my pleasure Yeah, I yeah, I'm sure you are you're okay, that's good. Um, my highs and lows for this week Okay. Well yesterday It's very weird on the youtube channel because everyone What everyone will have just seen is a video of me being very vulnerable and almost on the edge of tears In a particular video. So this is kind of a switch up like they're like, Isaac, are you okay? Um, so I'm kind of like if I'm like, hey everything's great. I'm happy then everyone's like, whoa, what's going on? That's all right. He's being totally fake. But um, I am doing much better today. My low, I guess was yesterday Um, nothing in particular. I was just getting so fed up with the restrictions We it's been a common theme in the podcast. Hopefully we're on the end of that talking about that within the podcast But I've been so Oh, man. I just want to see people bro. Um, I want to go to church. I want to live my life Um, but then the high was today was shooting some stuff Be having on this podcast with you and another high was doing a zoom call with my patrons Okay, did you hear about this? Yes. Oh, you did hear about this? We haven't Oh, that's how we communicate because I was like, we didn't talk about this. So how do you know? That's how our relationship operates Like I said guys, he only he might say hi to me walking in the hall basement hallway. You have not been here I can I don't see you. Okay. Let's talk about this Let's talk about this because you have not been here for the podcast Like I've been trying to schedule in this podcast so many times You haven't even told me. Yeah, but because I'm always like trying to look for you and try to find you and then I'm like Oh, mom's like, oh, she's away. She's up problem with Isaac He can't do stuff because he doesn't want to get in people's way So he tries to work around people that are trying just waiting for him to ask Are you saying I need to take some more initiative and be a little bit more assertive in when we should do the podcast? So what I'm saying to you then is that we're going to find a specific time that we have to do the podcast And it has to happen and you have to be here because I'm too sick of tired of telling everybody another fake crying on the last uh podcast I feel like when you when you want people to know it's emotional, but like you've bottled up so much emotion So you can't let out real ones. So you're just like I gotta make the most anyway It's like it's like I've been everyone on instagram is like, oh, we want the podcast back. I'm like, dude I would shoot we would have five episodes out by now if it weren't for you You should just say that on your story like just be like come on say like and then and then That's how you that's you don't even have to talk to me in person. You just say it on instagram I might not see it. Can you imagine that this whole episode of this third podcast that we're doing Is just talking about the fact that it's taken us a long time to do the podcast Like we're only talking about within the podcast Anyway, okay, we're done that. Okay, this new uh, actually this is we're not onto the new segment yet Actually, let's just go to the new segment. Okay. I'm kind of I want to have some fun. Okay on instagram. I asked people What is their unpopular opinion? Okay, and I told you about this. Oh, yes I when I when I thought about this, I was like, oh, this is gonna be so fun because I feel like these are gonna be contentious things. Okay And it turned out that a lot of people's unpopular opinions had to do with food Oh Yes, yes had to do with food. So my question to you say la is uh, maybe if you have an unpopular opinion about food But maybe I'll just start us off with one somebody else's suggestion. Yeah, okay So somebody's first suggestion here in their first, uh, you know hot take is a hot dog is a sandwich Do you believe this is a correct? Okay, first of all the fact that anyone even thought of this There are so many better things to think about Then whether I'm kind of guilty bro. I can ask them for their unpopular opinions. Oh, I mean they No, but like there are better unpopular opinions. Yeah, the fact that this sorry, I bumped the mic But the fact that this The fact that this came to their mind is ridiculous. Um, a hot dog is a sandwich No, like it's just not it's a It's a bun with mean in it. So if anything, it's more of a like taco, honestly I know that may sound weird, but the shape of it a little more like a taco kind of thing Wow. Yeah, like either way. It's weird because it's like saying a taco is a sandwich like no, it's a taco That's like saying a burrito. Here's what I hear bro is a smoothie. I don't know I'm gonna clip that put that one on instagram. It's like what? It's a smoothie. Okay. Here's what here's another person somebody's saying cereal is soup What is people's obsession with needing to have these big over like I don't overarching food groups like Sandwich soup that they refuse to have separate food groups into like its own thing cereal is its own thing Okay, when people do oatmeal, okay, and they add some milk to it. That's not cereal Why people call that cereal when somebody has a hot dog? That's not a sandwich. That's a hot dog. Yeah Like this is ridiculous. It's just relax. Okay, it's just i'm ready to walk up this set right now. I'm so infuriated It's just a hot dog. Have you had sushi before? Okay, have you had sushi before? Uh, no, I haven't Oh lame lame sauce. I thought you were gonna be the cultured one. You're supposed to be the cultured one among us I'm the basic guy gave me my character script, okay That was the that was a job description. You were supposed to be the entertaining cultured Like person that knew what was going on in the world that could speak to other people's experiences And I was supposed to be the basic guy that stays in his basement all the time. Imagine if I said what is sushi? What what were you saying imagine if I said what is she Bro, you can't say the word sushi. It's okay It's okay. You're still learning how to talk. It's all right Yeah And this is okay. So you haven't because somebody said somebody's unpopular opinion was Sushi is nasty and I couldn't I can't speak to that. I've never had it But I have a good feeling that that might be the case. I feel like that's just wrong. I feel like Like there's so many different kinds of sushi Um, good job You did really good. Thank you. I'm so proud of you Well, don't be oh Okay, that's fine. Okay. Do you know you understand why there's so much hate people Somebody's unpopular opinion said I like pineapple on pizza The fact that this person believes this is an unpopular opinion Um, this is just a sad world that we live in. What do you like a pineapple on pizza? I have no problem with it I don't understand why people ostracize Pineapple being on pizza. Do you understand it? Uh No, not really other than it's like the only fruit put on pizza tomato bro Yeah, there's so many tomato. There's so many foods. I don't know. I honestly don't know. I feel like it's a different It's a very different Like flavor than anything else you'd put on a pizza But other than that like it's just pizza like you could put anything on pizza The only thing I have against it is the fact that I get Pepperoni mixed up with any other word that starts with p sometimes and with pineapple Said in the same context Sometimes I could get them mixed up and so then I'm really confused people and then But if they were not in the same context, I'd be fine and I'd be understood I'm trying to think of the things now that the two kind of like I feel like there's people like that That I get confused that I think are kind of the same Person, but I can't think of any on the spot, but I know what you mean. Yeah, I know what you mean Okay, this is somebody else's unpopular opinion. I should not be judged for listening to non-christian music Oh snap. What what do you think about that? Uh, yeah, I feel like um judging. I don't know. I feel like if don't be judgmental We are supposed to love people. Yeah But it's like if somebody is listening to like clearly very sinful music, um Uh, what's the word? You deserve a little judgment No, not not judgment. Just Help we redirect them and help them see and then like Find grace in god. Yeah, that's a good take. That's a good take and yeah I feel like there's just like a lot of just like silent judgment when it comes to music Like if you hear that somebody listens to a certain Music artist, you're like, oh, but like maybe they don't listen to all of their songs Like it's not like they're their number one supporter Like they give their life to that artist. Like no, it's just like some of their songs. They like that's true, bro I I from okay. This is my tirade. Okay. This is Isaac soapbox. Okay. Okay. I don't understand when people are like You should only listen to christian music. I'm like, okay, bro. What is christian music? Yeah, what do you call christian music? How many what where the criteria for christian music? They give me a piece of paper that says you have to mention jesus three times. You have to say hallelujah Hallelujah multiple times. You got to say praise the lord or you got to make some sort of analogy towards oceans breeze mountains lakes Oh, like what what is the criteria here? That sounds like a perfect christian song Because I I hear so many songs all the time, especially like indie folk that kind of thing where they're not saying anything bad They're just like maybe it's a love song. Maybe it's a little bit, you know in their feels, you know And but it's it's just exploring emotions and things that you're going through and yeah, they never mentioned god But does that mean it's secular music. It's rotting your brain like I don't because like I know I know so many christian like songs by like less or known christian artists But they're still christian artists and they don't they're not that clearly christian But they're definitely not like secular But it's like I could also and I could play that song and somebody could be like it could be a secular Song by secular artists or a total christian song But they wouldn't really know because it's kind of just like a song, you know And it could be the same way for a secular song like it's just how you see it And you got to be discerning why you're listening to it, you know, like I totally I think you're on the right path when you're like You got to be discerning. Obviously. I'm not saying that whatever It doesn't even matter what the song's about because it there's no differentiation like no But it just what I'm saying is that the lines that we've drawn are a little off base In terms of like something being christian, therefore it is Good and it is like wonderful to listen to when in fact a lot of christian music is actually a trash And it's not good and it's and it's no more great artistry that glorifies god than something that maybe is quote-unquote secular But it actually like exemplifies good art But you got to be discerning in that for yourself. That's my take. Okay. That's my unpopular opinion Okay, so here we go Okay, now we got to go to the Big squabbler submissions. These are the questions that we got from people that are all about fear Are you ready to dig into the most vulnerable parts of our being and our past? No Okay, okay. Well, okay So somebody asked about fear. How do you deal with stage fright? I thought this was interesting because you've been on the stage quite a bit I do have a past in the theater when I was a young boy And um, so what is your what's your advice for somebody that's going through a stage fright that has stage fright Do you have any thoughts about that? If you don't I can start. Yeah, you could Okay, well when I was a young boy 11 12, um, I would get on the stage in the theater I did some musical theater for a little bit See this is so dumb Because I'm like because I don't really know how I never really got over it I was just so honed in to making sure I remembered all my lines I was so focused on and other people's lines too because I was so nervous that they were going to forget or they were going to like Screw it up. So I was like, I got to just remember all their stuff So I think at least in that context, I was so Couldn't like focused on what I had to do that I wasn't really as focused or or the fear wasn't really setting in of the other people watching me when I played basketball I had so much state like stage fright whatever like fright of fear of performing My hands would get so sweaty and on mall. I would have a towel Like my teammates would call me towel boy because I Because I had a towel on my on the bench that I would go to every kind of break and wipe off my hands Got so sweaty and on multiple occasions. I would try to do a pass or like a shot sometimes and it would slip out of my hands It was like they would put me in the game at the late at the game just to like wet the ball with all the sweat on my hands Oh, that's gross. No, I'm just totally kidding. Um, wow, that I that was weird. Um, anyway, how did I deal with it? I think ultimately It was just trying to remember what would calm me down is like remembering the people in your life that don't care if you like Screw up or like they love you unconditionally. They accept you like Your identity isn't found in doing performing perfectly. So trying to remind myself those truths I don't think I did a great job at doing that because I Experienced a lot of anxiety, but that's what I would try to do now. Like as I go on to speak at different places It's like, okay Okay, god, I'm just gonna give this to you. It's fair to you, you know Yeah, that's very good. And I have a story. I'm not sure how How helpful this story will be but I kind of think it's funny and goes along with it And one time I did actually in a dance performance did actually mess up But not in any like for not any part of the actual dance It's just I exited the stage before the lights went off And nobody else did because apparently we were told not to but you know, I didn't hear that So I just exited and I think I made it worse because I tried before I was even totally off stage To get everybody else off stage with me because I thought they were the ones messing up Just made a big scene. It wasn't good So, yeah, that was really embarrassing and I think I was only 10 there. So it's not that was like four years ago And how to get over stage fright I don't know. Yeah, you don't know you're still working through that. I don't know. I mean that's I feel like for dance performances, which is pretty much like the scariest thing I do I just have all of the moves Muscle memorized so I don't really actually have to think about it And by the time it's over. It's it's all fine What is your biggest phobia? Fear. Yeah, well, I'm gonna say phobia like Okay, like I would say my biggest phobia is arachnophobia, which is the fear of spiders or arachnids Um, that's horrifying to me, you know Do you do you scare of spiders? No, not really. You wouldn't be one of those sick people that would like own one No, good because those I've seen those people on tiktok. There's this one girl that owns a What do you call it like a wolf hunting spider because these spiders are like so big they like murder eat wolves for breakfast Uh, like Bigger than my hand. No, like this big like two hands. That's ridiculous. That's not okay. Dude. Imagine just that crawling and you like Dude, it's frightening. Okay. So anyway, that's horrifying to me. Uh Okay, do you have anything like that? Do you have like a weird phobia like you have claustrophobia or like fear of heights or I don't like small places. I really don't but I don't think I have like I'm not that afraid like I don't Okay, well, I feel like I don't know I am I feel like I'm one of those people that are like I'm not that afraid of something and then it happens and you just don't have to experience the fear that often So you underestimate its power like like being alone in a closet is fine. Like I feel like so I don't care always It's just some places Scary, what's your what was your greatest fear as a kid? Lots of silence There's no time to think on a podcast. Well, see he didn't even he you want to know the answer is written down Do you want to know the questions perfectly crafted and he just puts me on the spot here? So if I mess up sometimes you wonder you're not messing up. I just was a lot Okay, would you like to know the questions before the podcast? Because I feel like I feel like it's more fun to have a free flowing conversation. Yeah, I like it better But you know, you craft all your answers. So I don't I don't have any of them crafted. I do know the answers, but Okay, anyway, okay, so biggest fear as a kid or just a fear as a kid that you can think of I don't know the fear of embarrassing myself. Oh, I still have that fear. Okay embarrassing yourself Was it in context to anything in particular or just generally other people? Oh, okay. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, I feel that I think my greatest fear as a kid See, I wasn't I haven't really thought about it too much Uh, I mean as a teenager. I'm gonna say teenager was driving I hated learning to drive that was so stressful Like there was a period of like six months where I was just so anxious about Driving driving with the instructor instructor like getting my license license taking the test like all that stuff I was so relieved when that was all done That was a lot What are the things that you tell yourself when you're when you're scared when you're fearful that that maybe make you feel better or Like bring your heart towards god or like are there particular things that you say to yourself? That you can think of I think for me If I'm scared usually fear Kind of I don't know shows itself in the in the way of anxiety. It's like fear about the future usually or something like that Yeah And generally the way that I try to like combat it or address it is not necessarily be like Oh like Be angry at myself for being scared or like, oh, you shouldn't be scared gods together and try to like shame yourself almost More like okay. Well, I am My like my heart my emotions are trying to protect me. They don't want me to be hurt They don't want me to be embarrassed or unprepared. So they're trying to motivate me towards like Um doing good stuff or like, you know being productive or or making sure the future is going to be okay Or trying to keep things under control, but it's just like for me. It's like, okay Well, I that's the way I feel and I can kind of let those things out and be okay I I feel anxious. I feel fearful But I'm gonna give that to god and god I want to trust you In this circumstance because you know what's best and as simple as that is I think if we could actually begin to repeat that to ourselves constantly Then we'd actually begin to believe it Yeah, you know Like what can you think of anything in particular that you that you say to yourself even just like Just something simple, but but that you say to yourself when you're fearful or anxious Um that that helps you in any way. Um probably just said god's in control god's in control Yeah, I mean It's it's amazing because we say that a lot, but if we could actually believe it How would our lives change? How would we like Live differently, you know what I'm saying? Yeah, I don't know man. This is kind of a deep episode We're coming to the end of it. Thank you for joining me once again. Sayla. I know your schedule is so busy And you are but but everyone loves you on the podcast So I'm just like trying to get you in the studio again so we can shoot once again guys If you want to see the second episode we did the hidden episode It is on patreon for all of our patrons and you can watch it right now If you just sign up for any level of patreon Are you making do it talking to camera and somewhere you're making signals to the camera? I am you guys can watch this episode too on the daily disciple channel Because it's going out on all audio podcast platforms, but it's also on video at least every second episode is Thank you so much for watching guys and Yeah, I don't I don't know what else to say. I guess sayla. Do you want to close? Thank you for watching squabblers? See you later