 Hey y'all I'm back Yes, I'm safe. I know y'all been seeing all that crazy stuff on news But I'm safe in my area. So y'all don't worry about me. I'm good for those of you who aren't So good and you suffered flooding and things like that. My heart goes out to you guys I have been watching the news and seeing all that stuff and it's you know, it is so sad One of my one of my friends or a few of my friends that I've seen on Facebook have been flooded. So, you know, I'm sorry for you guys. I Hope y'all are safe and I just want to put that out there before I start this video. Okay? So hi you guys I'm good, you know, no don't damage Anything like that because y'all know I'm in Houston or I'm 15 minutes from Houston So I'm good and nothing nothing bad has happened over here so far So The topic of this video Came to me Because I was watching this video that's been circling Facebook about this guy proposing to this lady and She walked away and said no because they were both riding the bus And I've seen this in the group. I've seen this on Facebook and I was like Who's wrong her or him? I'm like well You know me I'm gonna say I was reading a lot of the comments and a lot of the guys want the woman to build with them build up with them A lot of the ladies were some of them were saying yes You know are telling me the story about how they met they who's and when they who's was broke or their man Cuz you know some of them not even married and Then there was other women that were saying no, I'm not gonna be with somebody broke So there was a lot of different opinions in those comments But the one thing I kept seeing was guys wanting a woman to help him and I'm like Okay, I'm gonna I'm gonna address this why do some men want help from women Why do some went men want you to build with them? Why do some men require your help? Is it a because they can't do it by themselves? B, they don't want to do it by themselves or C, they don't know how to do it by themselves Any of those answers You know, it's all You know a preference if you want to build up with your man Great if you want to help him great if you want to start from the bottom move to the top together great, but Some women say no to this and you and men can't be mad at them Okay, because it's a preference just like all you guys are always saying oh, it's a preference It's a preference. It's a preference. It's a preference Oh, we like this type of woman because it's our preference. Don't get mad because of our preference Well, some ladies have a preference of not having to help a grown man So That's just our preference, you know There are some women who will help their man because they're in love and Love will make you do some crazy things. Let me tell you if you're in love with somebody You're gonna do whatever it takes to stay with them Okay, help them work three jobs. Let them sit on the couch when you're in love Okay, women who are not in love with a man They're not they're not down for them like a hundred percent They're not they're not there yet because they can't fully love that person until that person is what they want You know what I'm saying? So There are certain type of women some women are and fall in love with certain traits of men in men so You fall in love with a man just for looks and how how good he makes feel great Some women can't fall in love unless the man is doing ABC and D so it just depends on what made you fall in love with that man and How you know how much You want to invest your time energy and money into someone who has not yet Committed fully to you, you know So even a marriage is not it's not fully committed because you can always get divorced and if you have wasted time energy and you know working All these hours to help build your help build up together and all of a sudden It's thrown away down the drain because he leaves you for another person You know you can feel real dumb right about then But if you had gotten with him when he had already had it together like this other girl Might have just did You would be getting all the benefits. You know what I'm saying? So the whole point of it is if you have to help someone build up In order for them to be satisfactory to your family and to you You're not Getting your full potential, you know, you're not reaching your full potential. You could actually go and do better You know, you're not getting the benefits out of being in a relationship if you're having to help someone build You know, that should be done before you arrive If you're if you fall in love with somebody and they're not stable and and things like that you need to Reassess your standards, you know, you need to say well, what is it in me that is attracted to a man who's not fully Able to provide or doesn't have his stuff together. What does that say about me? It says I don't think I deserve something better It says I have to work to keep this type of man in my life because I don't deserve better Or I can't get better. What does that say about you? Because when I see pretty women building with a man and working hard and Doing just as much as he is or more. I think that's something is wrong with her I think she's missing some information up here and I and I feel bad for her because here I'm sitting Not doing nothing, you know chilling and she's hustling and bustling and Hannah Have for her check For some dude and I'm like, girl You know and and I don't understand because There's guys that will just hand you money, you know, that's what I'm saying there's men that will just give you money just for being who you are and They've already made it. They're already successful You know, and they want you for you not to help you build them up so You got to understand when when women brag on Oh, I help my husband do this. That's not that's not something to be proud of that means he couldn't do it on his own You know, and I couldn't brag on a man who needed my help. I'm like, you know, you need my help Really, you know, I don't want you if if if you need my help. I don't want you So That's all I'm saying. I'm not trying to make a big fuss out of it. I'm just saying That lady was right to walk away from that proposal because they were both on the bus She can't benefit him and he can't benefit her, you know, if she Were to get proposed to by a man. Let's just say that had a car. She might have said yes But you know This man had no Nothing going for himself, you know that she Wanted I don't know if he had something on for himself or not But whatever he had going on for himself. She didn't want it, you know, she probably was just with him to say she had a man But that's not who she saw herself marrying and that's what I tell a lot of these women Oh, okay, that asked me. Oh, can I can I? Entertain these other type of men until my prince charming comes or until this other type of man comes or can I entertain this broke Dude and and sleep with him until I meet such and such No, you can't do that because you're attracting more of those to you because that's what you're going to be vibrating if you're Dealing with them and then they're gonna get the wrong idea and ask you to marry them So no if you're trying to move up and date Someone who can benefit you you can't mess with people that can't benefit you because you're sending out the wrong vibration to the universe And they think it's gonna get confused and be like, okay Well, you like this man because you sit in here every day with him on the bus or an a and sleeping together So, you know, if he asked you to marry him, don't be surprised Because if you want it better and want it to do better, you wouldn't be entertaining him you would be single and Focusing on what you truly wanted in a partner, you know, so a lot of women feel like if they And a lot of guys get mad at women who do this too You dating this guy, but you're still sleeping with this guy because he's broke, but you like him This guy has the money and he could be future husband or you know, blah, blah, blah But you're not super attracted to him. Well, you have to change your standards and the type of lifestyle that you want You know, this dude over here might be exciting Silly, but he's broken. Don't have a future. Okay. This guy might be like straightforward Maybe he's a little boring to you. He's not excited as this dude because this dude has all day To really do nothing. This guy has to work focus on paying. This this and that, you know being successful So you have to get in a different mindset if you stay around here at him You're gonna start comparing them to each other and they don't compare That's why a lot of guys say, oh nice guys can't get a good girl because they want this type of guy Well, that's because they're entertaining those type of guys still they need to stop entertaining those type of guys and focus on something better because If you're a nice guy, you got a good career and you're dating a woman And she doesn't fully know what she wants in her mind because she keeps going back and forth You'll know you'll know because she'll she'll she'll look at you like you're not really what I want But you have what I want, you know Women who are serious and know what they want knows they know That this guy is not gonna be like this guy at all They're gonna be two totally different type of people serious open-minded Forward-thinking, you know, this guy is gonna be like, you know dangerous bad cuss you out Type, you know and leave you don't call you for days. Oh, yeah. Yeah. Yeah This guy he's gonna eat if he sees you as wifey He was gonna call you ask how you how your day was, you know all this stuff that a lot of women Who are used to dealing with this type of guy? I think it's corny Okay, it's not corny. It's what grown folks do. It's called grown folks relationships, okay So if you're dealing with this type of man, but you want to marry this type of man You're confusing Everything and you're start you're gonna start comparing and you're gonna be like, oh, I can't deal with him cuz you know He's not as cool and this guy's swag is this guy this guy ain't got no money, you know, so What you need to focus on is grown folks decisions, you know, which one's gonna be the better better father Which one is gonna be the better provider which one is gonna give you the lifestyle that you want Which one is not gonna ask you to work when you nine months pregnant, okay? That's what you need to be thinking about and don't don't say. Oh, well, we'll do it together and I'll figure it out Because on the time comes you don't want to do nothing when you nine months pregnant And he's gonna be looking at you like I said on my videos when you run back to work, you know, so and another thing like You weren't about cheating broke man cheat rich man cheat educated man cheat Would you rather be cheated on by someone who can pay all the bills or someone that is laying on your couch and you going to work? Think about it. Okay Okay, let's move on because I think we covered that subject but if If you don't think that you can upgrade to that type of man With what you are working with currently and you need to upgrade yourself first I always say this upgrade yourself upgrade your looks Upgrade everything about you so that getting this type of man is a breeze. You know, it's possible You've seen you've seen people go from, you know, ones to tens on YouTube makeovers you've seen that it's possible. You've seen a man go from a bearded man to a Beautiful woman just through makeup in a week. Okay, so like I always say we don't have no excuse You know, we can level up if we want to and um A lot of men have a certain Let's just say a lot of men have a certain idea of what they find attractive Okay, and women who understand this cater to those ideas Okay, they cater to them. They might not agree with those ideas They might not like those ideas of what a man finds attractive But if they know they want that man, they're gonna Realize that those ideas Can be used to benefit them, you know, so for example, if a man likes a certain hairstyle a certain type of Um, uh style on a woman how she dresses a certain demeanor about a woman women will see that Emulated to get the man and to get what they want You know, but if you know that a man likes a certain thing And you go in the opposite direction, you know, majority of the men are not gonna find you Uh attractive in in that way that they want to get to know you better You know, they might date you they might sleep with you, but they're not gonna say oh, that's wifey You know what I'm saying a lot of there are exceptions to the rules though Okay, I don't get in my comments and talking about oh, there are exceptions to the rules There's exceptions to every rule, but in majority Successful men like a certain look on a woman and if you don't fit that look, they're not gonna approach you So if you want this type of successful man in your life, you're gonna have to know What they like and emulate it. Okay, that's it If you want to be the exception to the rule, yes be yourself do whatever you want to do But it might take you a little longer And you might have to go through a lot of different people to figure out You know If this person is serious or not with you, okay But for the most part Certain types of successful men like a certain look on a woman and that's what they're gonna go for Because like I always say They got to bring you around people. You got to fit into their circle You know And you got to look good on their arm wherever they wherever they go Some people don't like people that stand out too much. They don't like all you know the extra stuff Some people like low-key classy. Okay So you're gonna have to understand that you might not agree with it But if that's the world you want to join You got to understand it and emulate it, you know, so Um It's just preference And also like for example, if you were going to date someone who's very high up And are around a lot of executives politicians and stuff like that. You can't be looking crazy You know, you can't be looking out of place. You got to look like you fit in and you belong because if you don't They're gonna be like, who's that? Why are you with her? You know, blah, blah And you know, they're gonna start treating the man different because of who he chose to be with And so that's why a lot of guys tend to go for a specific Look when they're successful because they know she'll fit in they'll be She'll be approved of and they don't have to worry about all that So make sure you don't take it personally. It's not you It's society Okay, I know a lot of women get mad and say, well, why can't I wear this and why can't I do that? And why can't my hair look like this and why can't it can but it's going to take you longer to have success in finding a typically successful man that is like either in the corporate world or you know in the world of You know, where people Look a certain way. I don't know. So you have to sacrifice a few things, you know, you can't always Go about what you think is good-looking you have to go about what the man thinks is good-looking Because if women went by what they thought was cute The whole the world would be totally different it would be uh You know, uh If men did not say, oh, I think such and such is beautiful Women would not try to look like that person. You know what I mean? If men did not say I think uh This person is the best-looking woman I've ever seen like some person on tv women would not try to emulate her, you know, but Since they see the reaction that those women get from men They want the same reaction. So they get the same type of look. You know what I mean? Now if they see a woman that men call ugly and ooh, she looks bad and ooh And when they make jokes, they say, oh, you know, you look like such and such to as you know as not You know, who's not as cute and it's supposed to be Uh, you know an insult you're gonna straight as far away from that type of look as you can't possible So you got to understand If you're trying to attract a certain type of man You got to go about what they like You got to make yourself Look like the type of woman that they want to be next to and seen with and brag on, you know So Um, I was reading a book called the art of seduction And that book is very interesting because it tells men and women how to seduce And one of the one of the ways that a woman seduces is by looking like a goddess or What they would call A modern goddess or a celebrity or someone that all men think Is the epitome of this or that, you know so When you can look close to or like or similar to someone Um, a stature or a fame of beauty It's easier to seduce a man and get what you want out of them. Why because you're already you already have that look Okay, you got the look So you're more than halfway there You have to work less to seduce them because they're mesmerized by how Much you remind them of this type of person And they're not going to let you get away so easily because it's rare You know, then I'm like, oh my woman looks like Megan Good or oh this girl. I'm dating She looks just like Rihanna or oh this girl. I'm dating looks just like Sierra You know when they tell their boys or their their friends and oh really let me see her picture, you know And this is not what I'm not saying to look like everybody and look the same I'm just saying this is what that book is saying the art of seduction. Men are simple creatures. Okay Women complicate stuff Oh, I don't want to do this. I don't want to do that. I'm not changing. I'm not doing this Fine, you know, you don't have to do anything But if you want a man to be your slave And to do whatever you ask the art of seduction will get him there and certain steps Certain steps are necessary to lock him in, you know, and you might not agree with them But if they work you're gonna be happy with the results Okay, so, um You just If you're if you're skeptical just try just try It is so crazy how men go for these type of things and you have no clue Oh my god Like I have heard People talk about women I've heard guys Conversating about women and when they explain how their women look men go by what would they look like You know men don't I mean men don't explain women. Oh, she has like really pretty eyes and a nice figure They go straight for either a celebrity or somebody that the girl will remind you of or what their Best feature is and who they compare it to. Oh, she got a booty like Janet Jackson. Oh, you know, they always compare it So if you already have way there, you can pretty much Do whatever you want with them, you know So just imagine if you had a guy that looked just like Morris Chesnut the rock Dwayne Johnson, whatever, um, whoever y'all think is sexy And he purposely made himself look like that to attract women And you are out with your girlfriend and she's like, well, what does your man look like? What are you gonna say? Oh, he has long, you know long lashes pretty eyes dark skin No, you can say oh my god, he looks like Morris Chesnut, right? And then the girl's gonna be like, oh for real. Let me just let me see a picture You know if you're halfway there if you remind or look like A modern god or goddess that is worshiped And when I say that I mean celebrities Okay, because that's what the book goes by it talks about how like Cleopatra Made herself look like the goddess ices and painted her face and did all this stuff to seduce The men and get them to do exactly what she wanted. Okay, and also it talks about how You have to get them away Going vacation going trips to make them fall in love with you You know and they'll do whatever you want. So The key is to attract them in And get them alone for a long period of time so where they fall in love with you There's nobody else around distracting it And once you get them like that They'll do whatever you want and that's the truth You gotta have that law you gotta have a lot of time and to put into this and make them just fall for you Is that when Cleopatra went on the Nile? Where who's that mark that mark? I don't know who was Mark anthony Anyway, she got him away Cruise on the Nile You know will seduce at him got him alone. He fell in love and then it was over, you know so That was that's how you do it You emulate the goddess figure As you how you look You get them alone You make them fall for you with no distractions and then they're yours, you know And y'all should read that book. There's it's online It's on audio book on youtube as well as long as like nine hours, but you can listen to it in pieces But it's gonna teach you Everything you need to know because a lot of women are doing stuff backwards and they wonder why I don't have luck they wonder why men are not Staying with them or chasing them or asking them to marry them. Yeah, they might sleep with you They might date you they might have a baby with you, but they're not going to secure you for life Why because they feel like there's better out there You know, they feel like you're not the one because you don't remind them or you're not this goddess figure in their life And that I'm telling you that's part of it if you if You know, if they're not if they can't brag on you and and stuff like that they're they're not going to Feel like you're the one, you know So you got to get you got self-improve you got to emulate goddess goddesses or celebrities or whatever That look is what draws them in now. It might not be moral It might not be what's politically correct, but it is what it is Okay, and y'all know it's coming to tell y'all the truth I'm not coming here to tell y'all bad advice so y'all can't get a man. I mean, obviously it works. Okay So a lot of women will Still deny deny deny deny And they will try to go the other route. Oh, it's this and it's that and you can do this and that But at the end of the day, are you married? Do you have what you want? You know, are you the is your husband mate partner taking you out in public? At the end of the day, do you have have you secured the relationship? 100% you know a lot of women will try to give you advice About oh, it's this and it's that and it's this and it's that but they don't have the results they have A little bit they got Oh, I have a boyfriend. Oh, he sleeps with me. They don't have a ring They don't have a house. They don't have a marriage. They don't have a family But they got advice for you. You know what I'm trying to tell you is Someone who is Going for the gold Going all the way Has to understand what men really want. I saw this post on facebook today by a man A man said Men the reason y'all cheat on women is because you're with someone you don't want You just there until you find the upgrade or someone better This is why most men cheat because they're with someone they don't really want you're not it And that's what they're trying to tell you in a roundabout way But you think you're it because you got them for a second You know, but if he can't see you as wife You're not it Okay. So yes, you can seduce a man And not look the part you can seduce a man and still have Uh, your own ideas and your stubborn idea of what you think a man is supposed to want in a woman You can do all that. Yeah, they're gonna sleep with you. They're gonna tell you what you want to hear They're gonna have a kid with you But as soon as what they really want comes along, they're out They're gone. They're gone. You know It didn't work So you have to understand I'm not I'm not trying to sit here and tell you that You're not good enough. I'm trying to sit here and tell you that make yourself good enough You know, we have the ability to change. We have the ability to appeal to the senses of a man And manipulate them and if you don't take all that and use it for your benefit It's not very wise Okay, I said this on my group at the end of the day I can snatch these contacts out wipe off this makeup put my hair up And put on my robe and and house slippers and call it a day, you know I don't I don't have to look like this all the time. I'm just saying This is what men a lot of men find appealing You know, I'm not the most beautiful woman in the world But I'm not sitting here making up my own version of beauty that I know is not widely Appreciated by men. You know what I'm saying? I'm not making up some beauty because I feel like I have some spiritual energy that's going to get them anyway I'm doing both Can you imagine combining both? You know And a lot of y'all women are young and y'all understand and y'all y'all try to control men And that's not the way to go Because they're gonna do what they're gonna do anyway The best thing to do is get them To be weak after you Okay, they're weak after you You have the most control Okay, you can't control somebody by being their mother The best way to control somebody is to be able to do better than them and they know it Okay, the best way to control someone is having them fear to lose you to someone better If you look like you can upgrade any second You won't get treated like trash And you will be made wife Why? Because you're a catch To anyone Not just him Okay, you have to remember that You can control people Because you can control their ego and how you control a man's ego Is through him losing something that he sees valuable Okay, and having the idea of another man taking it from him At the end of the day, he does have free will so you just have Enough control over him and his ego To kind of get what you want, okay Anyway, most men are weak so they can be controlled So someone said only a weak man can be controlled Most men are weak when it comes to women Ask them that's why they cheat Okay Someone says I I let you talk me into relaxing my hair and it looks like shit now. Oh, I'm sorry I never said to relax your hair. I said get a week I do weeks I can't even color my hair all I can do is cut it and flat on it But I do have my wigs now So I keep a week Well, you can always get a wig until it grows back out, you know, but Because you know if you have Relaxed hair it's not going to look like a week a week You know It's created to have a style to it at all times all you got to do is shake it and brush it Okay, so, you know with your real hair you got to do stuff to it, you know, so If you relaxed your hair And it didn't look as good as you wanted it to look. I'm sorry, but I never said relax it. I said get a week I never tell anybody to relax their hair My kid's hair not even relaxed. Okay. Um Yeah, my hair is not relaxed. I just flat iron. I can't relax my hair. I'm allergic to all that kind of stuff Okay, so If he if a man is asking you to build he the you not the one he really wants Just let's put it that way He would not would a man ask beyond say oh help me build my life up with you No, when he asks rihanna Hey rihanna, you want to help build build life with me? No When he goes after rihanna when he goes after beyond say he's gonna have this stuff together You know the reason he's asking you to build is because you not rihanna You not beyond say you don't look like none of them and when one of them type of women who do remind him of One of those type of women come along. He's dumping you Because you like I say you've helped him build up. He's got his little cash He got his car now. You got a little car. He got a car now. He can go pick up who he really wanted to be with So stop falling for that line. I don't care how many success stories you hear You know, oh Told y'all emergency Situation in houston. So those things are popping up, but don't Fall for it. If a man asks you to build with him, he don't want you okay your his starter chick Okay, because a man would not ask a woman that he worshiped Yes, I said worship to build with him. That's how your man is supposed to do Your man's supposed to worship you if your man doesn't worship you it's because He is waiting on the next best thing to come along And he's gonna stay with you until it does Okay, if your man asks you to build and he doesn't worship you and he wants a worker partner uh Person to give him half the rent You're not who he really wants You're who he's settling for okay, so When some guy comes to you and says, oh, let's build this kingdom together. Let's build together That means look I can't do it by myself. I need some help. I'll sleep with you You know we'll be together But after I get what I need to get in life and there's somebody else that comes along and looks better than you Good look, you know, I might say I might not just depend. I might just cheat. I don't know I haven't decided yet, but you're not the kind of woman who You know I Can get when I already Built You know, you're the kind of woman I can get when I'm not built So that's what he's thinking If you ask somebody to build with you, that means you see them as an equal You don't worship them You know, you just want their help If you have the look education etiquette and you always attract millionaires, but they always run away The education might be it because if you're too educated, they don't want you if you're too Smart, they don't want you. You got to dumb it down You got to dumb it down And they don't like competition. So if you're smart and they feel intimidated by your intelligence, they're gonna move on So you can't You can't show all of that you can you you can be smart as you want to be But they have to feel smarter. That's just how it is The guys that say smart women are Smart women are rare and very attractive Wants you to build with them Okay, because a man who's already built and thinks he knows everything he don't care about what you know, you know Because he's already got all the answers if he's got all the money, right? So basically He doesn't want someone to compete with him or to teach him anything. He wants someone That's a fantasy. He wants a trophy wife. He doesn't want someone who's Super smart, you know A lot of them a lot of them don't some of them do not there's always exception to the rules like I said But for the most part women who dumb themselves down they they get more dates And they go further in relationships. Why like I have a group a woman on facebook who are very professional have good jobs and they have to lie And say they're receptionists dental assistants and stuff like that when they're really Lawyers dentists and things like that to get a man with money to stay interested in them. They gotta lie When they hear receptionist, I mean, it's oh, yes. Now we're gonna press her when they hear lawyer doctor They're like, ooh, mm-mm, you know It's nice to meet you they never call them back. So yes, you gotta dumb yourself down It's been proven that men respond better to women who they feel more powerful than Y'all could y'all could say all y'all want but I've I've seen this in action Any guy that wants any guy that asks you are you independent? Are you smart? Do you have a degree? What's your profession? He's trying to get half the rent half the whatever bills and help you build Okay, a real man with real money does not ask you all those questions because they don't need your help Okay, they want you As a feminine woman that they can impress And beat their chest around and don't have to compete with okay. They want you to be like in all of them So when you're out there boasting and saying, oh, well, I have five degrees and Two degrees and I'm associate. Uh, this is some that or I'm executive. This is some that They don't hear none of that. They're just like, okay, blah. I'm gonna go get me a bimbo I gotta go get me some receptionists because they're more exciting, you know, I can impress them, you know, they'll be They'll be thrilled if I took them on vacation because they probably never get to go, you know what I'm saying? So they like that ability to impress you more So when you're a receptionist, but you're really an executive The man will give you more Why because you don't earn as much And they think they're impressing you So the receptionist usually is dating a man that has a bunch of money while the executive is single at home Okay, think about this and why it is why because a man can't impress you That's why So I have a friend who it makes a lot of money, but she don't tell nobody You know, she's a receptionist She's an assistant Okay, so Keep that in mind. Don't listen to these guys on these comments because those guys are the ones that want 50 50 If you want to sound if you want to be respectable, you know, you can say teacher Men love teachers because you got the summer off. You can go on vacation. You'll work with kids and you know You're not in competition with them so a lot of women who didn't think that they could get a man with money or Get a man to give just hand them a thousand dollars for no reason Or get a man to take them shopping for no reason have been proven wrong Many times after they joined my group and I'm telling y'all This woman was like Two weeks ago. I was dating this broke guy who maybe you had paid for half my dinner And now look I went on date with this guy and he gave me a thousand dollars Brought me some perfume and some flowers. Oh my god. I never thought that this could happen to me Uh, I always thought this was not real It's real. Okay, you're just dealing with the wrong type of men And the thing is once a woman realizes her worth because a man shows her She can't go back. She can't go backwards She won't never go backwards. Why? Because now she knows her worth And she understands it and she understands her power And most men try to keep this knowledge from women By making them lower their standards or making them feel guilty for having good and high standards They want to hide the truth that men will actually Just give you what you want And they will try their best to tell you to make it easier for them to get what they want from you But in reality, you know It's not true. You can get what you want so In the group though like a lot of people will post their picture and say look This is me how I look now. What can I do to improve myself to get this type of men? And they're gonna tell you they're gonna tell you in a nice way. Okay. Well, if I were you I would change this do this do that do this do that and You're the kind of woman that this kind of man will want so If you're trying to come in and do the least and bare minimum and not change nothing about yourself You know, unless you are already a perfect 10 The group may requires you To self-approve before you go after these type of guys or they come after you So if you're not willing to self-improve Then you know, don't waste your time Because the whole point is to self-improve so that you can get a higher standard of men So And the group is I always say this in every video the group is not for love or morals It's about getting the guy to do as you want materially, okay, I don't have a love group Because it would just be a bunch of whining women crying Ain't nobody got time for that. Okay At the end of the day It's if you can benefit or not from this relationship You know, that's all it boils down to Save your love for your kids and your family Every if you're always trying to look for the next person to fall in love with you're doing you dating wrong Can you please touch on abusive men and how to avoid them? If you have low self-esteem, they're going to be attracted to you automatically You're going to be a magnet for abusive men if you have high self-esteem And you walk into the room and demand attention respect And you know, you take care of yourself. You're not going to run into abusive men You know, they could become abusive during the relationship because of you know, whatever conspires during the relationship But they don't start off as abusive, you know what I'm saying? They will not approach a confident woman they're only going to approach a weak looking Self-conscious a low self-esteem woman. That's what they that's what they go for You know someone that's lucky to have them So stop being with someone who Is targeting you, you know be with someone who you Choose who can do something for you who you can benefit from chances are if you can't benefit from someone and they're not Higher than you and above you mentally And financially They might be abusive if they're targeting a low self-esteem person So stay away from people like that and you'll know them because You know, they'll come up to you and they'll have like all the solutions to your problems You know, they'll sweet talk you tell you what you want to hear make you feel good about yourself Because they can sense that you don't Okay Ask any guy they'll always go think about it. They'll always look for the the most weakest woman to go after Because a they can get what they want faster B. They don't want to work. It's hard See they can get that woman to give them stuff B. They can treat her any type of way even abuse her And she'll take it because she feels like she can't do no better So that's you you need to raise yourself a steve up and stop attracting guys because they see it in you It's something that people can see you can look at people and tell they are low self-esteem just by how they walk talk look How they carry themselves how they make eye contact how they speak you can tell so Give yourself a makeover And hold your head up high and walk like you own the room on the world and they won't approach you Do men today like more masculine women who say that they are one of the guys? No Only if they want you to pay 50 50, they'll take anything. Okay, but Most men like feminine women if you are one of the guys They will mess around on you quick If you're one of the guys, they won't take you seriously if you're one of the guys, you're not wifey Okay, if you're one of the guys You're a friends with benefits That don't even get to go on a date. Okay, so no, I don't think men like one of the guys Why Because they just Use those type of women Men do men like fitness type women If the woman is feminine And if they're into fitness as well Possibly You know what I mean? If you're talking about big muscles and stuff You're gonna have to find a man who fetishes that because it's not very common that a man wants a woman with giant muscles You know, um, unless they're in the same lifestyle Or they fetishize That type of woman Okay Do men like pretty ditzy women? I wouldn't say ditzy. I would say Women who are more Willing to fake learn because most of the time what men are teaching you you already know But you pretend like you don't you're like, oh really? I didn't know that. That's so interesting. Oh my god You're so smart. They like that. They don't like I don't know. What's that never heard of it Then they have to sit there and explain it to you and catch you up with everybody else But they don't like ditzy. They like Oh my god, you're so smart. I didn't know that now. I learned something new They like that they don't like stupid they like women who are impressed Even like if you if you know more than this man, don't say it If you if you're an expert on Whatever he's talking about and it's all wrong. Don't say nothing. Just be like, oh really? That's so interesting Oh my god, you're so smart All the while I think I am on this full isn't idiot. I don't know what he's talking about But guess what? I need I need this. I need that. I need to card my card out Okay, you know So The whole the whole point of it is make him seem like he's impressive But don't make him feel like he has to stop what he's doing to explain and catch you up on stuff ditzy is it's not as attractive as Oh, I didn't know that. Oh, that's so interesting because you're learning. You're becoming smarter. You're not gonna stay dumb He's teaching you Mm-hmm So I'm trying to read these Someone says oh, I see women who are tomboy's who get me and Angelina Jolie is a tomboy Anna Angelina Jolie is not a tomboy She Does her makeup or she has somebody does her makeup She's skinny and thin with big fake boobs and big lips Okay, you can throw any clothes on that and she and men will like her Okay, because of her physical beauty of an average woman Who's a tomboy Will not be able to get away with Angelina Jolie gets away with you know, you know what I mean? That's like that's like saying. Oh, Naomi Campbell You know Under some overalls Anybody's gonna like her. It's her physical beauty that they're attracted to not her style Um But the type of men that you're going for, you know, it depends what what kind of style Will be appropriate when you're going out with them, you know classy Uh, you know More sexy, I don't know you gotta feel that person out But if they're very successful and they have some type of corporate job or whatever It's probably gonna be more classy or classic But like if you're going out or you're staying in then you can you know wear whatever you want But they're not gonna take you out looking crazy I'm very bad at making guys feel like they're impressing me. Ha ha ha for some this might be natural But I wouldn't need to work on it. Oh, yeah, it's practice. It's called acting You know how you act when your boss is around if you have a boss And they're doing something stupid or you don't like and you just have to pretend like everything they're doing is perfect And you're so impressed by their stupid story or joke. That's how you gotta be Oh, really? Oh my god. Yes, you know That's how it has to be because If you're trying to find someone who you can compete with and debate with get a friend get a male friend If you're trying to impress this person and become, you know, the girlfriend or wifey, they don't want a competition Okay, so just remember that they don't want to compete So my dog is barking at the rail so never Try to compete with a man like When you're on a date and you're and you're trying to get to date too Play done. Yeah, I've seen that video um And remember your goal don't get caught up don't get caught up in your emotions Remember your goal your goal is to secure the lifestyle Okay, if you're getting emotional, oh, I can't do this and oh, you know, I want to be this person this type of person You know, I want to express myself in this way. I don't want to dress classy. I want to wear my hair this way Oh, I don't want to comply But you're trying to date a person in that world. You're gonna have trouble securing the lifestyle You might secure the date. You might secure a couple dollars You might secure a trip, but you're not going to secure the lifestyle Why? Because you don't want to fit into it You know, you don't want to fit in so They'll take you for a few weeks But after a while they're gonna be like, well, I gotta get someone who fits into my lifestyle better because this ain't working, you know So that's why oh, I meet millionaires. Oh, are we going a few dates? But then they don't call me back Why because you don't fit in you don't fit into their world I always say look at other wives of Men who are successful who have this who have that and look at them And see what they're doing differently than you're doing And then you're gonna understand, you know um It is how it is if you don't like it Find a different type of man so Well, when I'm speaking of male someone says I'm not the total male Someone says that you are not the total male population too someone Uh, I'm talking about highly successful men You know who are gonna say don't go to work stay home. You know, here's the credit card Here's the card for you. I'm talking about those type of men the lifestyle givers. Okay I'm not talking about joe schmo who works at the tire shop. Okay. I'm talking about highly successful men, okay Uh, if you want a regular 9 to 5 guy office dude, um, you still got to fit into their world. Okay With each type of man is a different set of rules, you know If you if you're going for the corporate executive, you got it You got to look a certain way if you're going for The millionaire you got to look a certain way if you're going for the blue collar You know, you look a certain way If you're going for, you know, the entrepreneur You know started from the ground up worked hard all his life. You got to appeal to that So you got to understand what type of man you're dealing with. That's why you look at the girlfriends or the wives of their friends or You pay attention to what they find attractive And what fits into their world because otherwise you're gonna be working backwards Okay, so I'm just saying, you know, you don't have to listen to me Y'all don't y'all really don't have to listen to me. Um I've seen it with my own eyes That's why you see all these basketball players, NFL players They're not married to the to the type of women that look like groupies. They're married to these nice looking subtle Women who are motherly Look like a good wife Blah blah blah blah blah blah Yeah, they're going to cheat on her with the groupie type, but they're not going to secure the lifestyle with the groupie type That's what i'm trying to tell you. You want the lifestyle. You got to fit into the category. Okay That's all i'm saying Some basketball guys will marry the groupie type But if you look at the major ones They try to marry someone's gonna be a good wife and a good mother and Who fits in, you know So just remember that And a lot of guys are upset because we can actually do this type of stuff and you know Because we're women it is what it is. Okay, i'm sorry that we're women And this is how a lot of women do things and how they secure their lifestyle You can't be mad at us. We're just using what we got, you know, um, so Don't be mad We're not targeting you anyway, so it doesn't matter, you know guys that will Date women who want that lifestyle. They already know if they're not being set up They already know the reason why the woman is interested in that. It's not because they They're the best-looking thing on the earth. It's not because they're swab and smooth It's because they have a lifestyle and most successful men already know that That's why they get there so they can have their their choice of women They can pick and choose. They don't have to settle and ask them for a woman to build They can say, hmm, I want that one You know They don't have to say, you know what baby if we build this life together We're going to have something in the future and we're going to build up They don't have to do all that. They don't have to set They don't have to trick no woman Into building with them because they can't do it by themselves. They are already successful They know anyone will want to be with them whether they cute in shape or not and they'll be like, okay, I'll take that one Okay, so men you can't get mad You can't get mad. I think Jay Z said ain't no such thing as an ugly billionaire. I'm cute. Okay, y'all a lot of women will say, oh Jay Z's ugly He just said on his album. Look, there's no such thing as an ugly millionaire. I'm cute and that's true Women will date somebody who is not physically attractive to them because of their status power and amount of money that they have because they Women find that attractive, you know wrong women find that attractive But you know the young girls they're still into the looks a little bit They're still into the love thing and oh, I'm gonna fall in love with the perfect prince charming who's handsome and then once that reality Has been realized Then they start thinking more like an adult and they go for the success and the power and things like that But you know or they fall for the okie-dokie and help some some dude build up you know But either way If you're decent looking if you're a decent looking woman You can get what you want You just have to realize it and understand it and put it To use like put your brain and your looks to use to get the lifestyle that you want A lot of women who are in these lifestyles. They don't look better than you or me You know, but they knew what they wanted and they went for it. They did what it took to fit in They did what it took to secure the lifestyle. That's all they did. That's all they did different You know, they didn't listen to guys on what they were what they were telling them that they are supposed to be doing and if they If they do this and help them build and they were like and they weren't hearing that They were like, no, I I see myself in a different future. I don't see myself building with a grown man I see myself living the life. That's what they see. So that's what they go for Some women don't think they can do any better because their mom never did any better Or their mom never taught them any better and the men that they're around Expect them to pay half the bill. So that's the life that they fall into Okay, they don't know that there's better So when you know, there's better you do better And you get stuck listening to these guys who don't have nothing to offer you That's exactly how the rest of your life's gonna be. Okay Or either you're gonna pass them up and they're gonna feel less than a man so No matter what Find someone that can benefit you You know and don't don't fall for the oaky-doke Don't marry a man who's still on the bus unless he owns the bus Bus line bus company, you know what I'm saying? Don't fall for that because it's a trap It's a trap into stupidity and a bad life and When you realize it's gonna be too late You know what I'm saying? You're gonna have the broke man's child Still riding the bus what you don't even need a car seat if you're on the bus so I don't know what the baby's gonna be in maybe you're gonna be holding it. I don't know but Where are you gonna get married at mcdonald's? You know Think about this I don't care and I don't care how people feel how moral it is How politically incorrect it is If you want better for your future Don't accept less than what you deserve Okay I'll be morally incorrect all day I'll be evil all day But at the end of the day, I'm not gonna be on the bus with a baby Holding hands with with a broke guy And he probably isn't gonna be able to get you a wedding ring Okay, so You can call me all those names But you can't call me broke Okay So I will see y'all On the next one. I'll take a few questions. Go ahead How do you know you're with a good man and not just some scumbag if he invests in you if you invest money into you Time and money. He's a good man If he wants to improve you That's how you know I wish money was all it took to make me happy well You know most guys with money have standards You know a way of living They have priorities in order So it's gonna be easier to get what you want out of them versus somebody who's all messed up Okay They have more discipline actually Let's see. How do you think strippers look? Get took out the club rich man What how do you do how do you think strippers get together? Oh, yeah Well, you know a lot of guys do marry strippers. I know a lot of strippers. They got married to rich guys You know, that's what they that was their fantasy. They wanted somebody that was their fantasy because I don't know Advice for dating a guy in medical school. I don't date guys in school. I never did like if you were in school I was calling when you get out Because chances are after they get out of school and get their doctorate or you know medical degree or md They're gonna dump you anyways and go get what they really want. So unless you look good And you're a fantasy type woman great If not, they're gonna cheat or they're gonna upgrade on you. Anyway, I used to work for a doctor they They go for Women who they can impress as well, you know Whoever they were dating in medical school and in college They don't they're some most of them aren't with them anymore You know, so you got to understand that don't try to catch someone while they're in school because you're just You're not who they're gonna upgrade to be the woman that they're gonna upgrade to when they finish school You know that way they have to chase you And you're not trying to hold on to them while other women are saying ooh a doctor a doctor, you know Uh, let me put my boobs up. Let me put this makeup on. Let me look my best, you know to get this man You know, then he's gonna have competition because when a woman sees you with him She's not gonna take you seriously because you don't look like you belong She's gonna be like, oh, that's a starter trick. Okay. Watch me take him You know, women will do that to you if you don't look like you belong with your man A woman will try to take him from you because she knows that he don't really want to be with you. Okay, so They don't have fun But don't try to think you're gonna be his wife after he got all his, you know degrees and money Unless You look the part of a doctor's wife and you look like you belong there and he is lucky to have you You know what i'm saying? A lot of men I meet have means but are disrespectful verbally How do you deal with a man who feels entitled and demanding? I I use sarcasm because the best way to insult someone without insulting them is sarcasm And most guys who have money are narcissists and the best way to deal with a narcissist is to become a narcissist I've always said this You say something back, you know, it's like, oh, you know The meaning is like, oh, you're something demeaning Just put it right back on them or accept it and say yes, I know Like you're just a bitch and you're just not, uh Uh This i'm like, yeah, you're right. I am a bitch. That's why you like me, you know, and don't forget You know flip it back on them. They like it Men like bitches But they say something crazy you say something crazy back But in a sarcastic way and accepting whatever they told you say you damn right. I'm a bitch You know how else i'm gonna put up with you And then laugh and then he's gonna laugh and then he's the next time he tries to tell you something crazy You're gonna think about it Okay, you gotta be you gotta be quick You can't just sit there and take it. Oh, i'm so sad. No, you gotta be like, yeah, you damn right. I'm a bitch That's why you deal with me Look look at him crazy like okay, and whatever you said i'm not disagreeing with it Oh, you're nothing without me Oh, you're nothing without me. I pay all these bills. Okay, whatever you write you to pay all these bills because I damn sure ain't gonna pay I look too good to pay bills. You want me to go over here and find somebody else to take your place You gotta pay my bills. You ain't got no choice because you can't get no one like me for free That's what you tell them. Okay You look them right back and tell them exactly the same thing that they told you but in reverse And then they'll be like they're gonna shut up and remember who they are and remember who you are and then they're gonna calm the hell down and Continue to pay your bills and whatever Because sometimes you gotta remind them look don't get all don't get like you You can't get me without money. Okay, because if you was broke, I wouldn't be with you And you know that don't even try to argue with me. You better keep me calm Because uh I'm getting bored with you. Okay, make sure that they know that they're Expendable That's why you always gotta keep your looks up look better than the man And make sure that they feel lucky to be with you because if they try to talk to you crazy You can look at them crazy and then they're gonna be apologizing in about two minutes after you remind them That they gotta pay for you And they can't get no other woman for free So sometimes you gotta check them She Should I wait until marriage to have sex with my boyfriend? I don't know what country you're in because every country every custom is different. Okay If in your religion and in your country and your culture That you're supposed to do that do it because men are in those cultures in those countries They want to marry a virgin. Okay, they will use you up and then dump you and then go marry someone else because I I've seen it a thousand times Don't let if you're if that's your culture Don't give in wait Make them go find another woman to use up and dump and come back to you Because that's exactly what they're gonna do if you sleep with them. They're not going they ain't gonna marry you because I've seen it happen like I have so many women that I do Consultations with and other parts of the world who have given in And had sex with their boyfriend in a culture where you're supposed to wait till marriage The boyfriend leaves dumps them. Don't call back. This woman is so in love with this man And she can't get over him and she's just crying and then she wants to kill herself because she gave up her Self to someone who promised marriage and then dumped her So if that's your culture, don't do it Let him go out and do it to some other chick who's dumb enough to fall for it And then let him come back and marry a virgin because that's what they want to marry. Okay In those cultures in america, it don't matter. You can do whatever you want to do Have sex with whoever you want to have sex with we're more liberal here about sex so If that's your culture though, you can't stray from it because typically that man wants a virgin Yeah, he'll talk you out of it. He'll talk you out of it and dump you So don't don't fall for the dope Get the ring. Get married Then give it up Okay In germany, they don't want to be providers anymore Why want a working woman? Okay, they want a working woman because Um, if you're in a culture where the woman work and the man work find someone outside the culture You know date someone who's not from germany You know or date someone out of your league who will Date someone who you know can't get a woman like you who will Pay for everything. You know what I'm saying? You find the ugliest man He's not gonna make you work He's gonna be saying, oh, I got a beautiful woman She doesn't have to work. You know if you try to find someone that looks decent He's gonna be like, well, you're gonna have to work, you know, you go find somebody who's ugly And thinks you're an angel. He's gonna be like, look, I'm gonna work. I'm gonna get two jobs You know, so it just depends. Do you want to work or you don't want to work You're gonna have to sacrifice something looks probably Okay So like I know I I know that if I was like in a situation And I was I'm like, I'm I don't want to work anymore. I'm not gonna go for the cutest guy at the bar I'm gonna go for the one who Thinks that I'm the best thing they were walking through their life You know, I'm not I'm not I know what I can get from certain people. That's just common sense Why do people say hoes are winning? Is it because they know the game and know how to play it? Um, people say hoes are winning because they're using What they have to get what they want without emotion Okay, they have taken the role of a man as far as How they view relationships, okay Men view relationships as hit it and quit it and very disposable Now that women have started to view relationships the same exact way get what you want out of it and move on Men feel some type of way. Okay, so You know, it was bound to happen You know, you You can't you can't do this without having the the effects of it so Women have learned to take emotion out of relationships To solely get into relationships that benefit them and then either to get out Or start a new one and get something else they want. Okay Women have just followed the example of a man When they say hoes are winning, you know a man if you call a man a pimp. It's a compliment You call a woman a hoe. It's an insult, but it's the same thing. You're still getting something Hi You're still getting something from someone For your services or your presence or you know to say What's up? Hi My son Pack a bag. Why? Oh, really? Is it flooding? So I should come to tell me it's it's is it flooding in the backyard There's like the grass is almost like enough Okay, well, I'm gonna come look Did you pack a bag? Okay, I don't think we're gonna have to go though Hey, baby Oh My uh, my daughter just came to say oh pack a bag because it might flood But the last time I looked There was no water so But he's probably watching the news. You all know how the news sensationalizes a lot of stuff So I'm gonna have to go look outside Okay, so Don't even worry Holes are winning because of the mentality that they have it's not because they're hopes because you don't have to be a Hole to win you just have the mentality Okay, I think there's a book called whole tactics And it just tells you the thinking you know what I'm saying You don't have to be a real hole. You couldn't just have the thought process of one and get what you want It's that simple. Um I don't know a lot of people are saying what happened to love what happened to Companionship would happen to not playing games and having a real relationship and a real this and a real that A lot of people have tried it that way and came out disappointed a lot of people were betrayed And a lot of people don't feel satisfied in that lifestyle okay, so They go for something else If you're not there yet, if you're still looking for love if you're still looking for companionship. Yes It still exists it exists, but In this type of world It's never guaranteed. You know what I'm saying? You might have it for a year. You might have it for two years It can be snatched from you The man can cheat on you the man can impregnate someone else the man can leave you then what You can go look for it again and again until You realize If i'm not benefiting from each relationship i'm wasting time energy and youth You know, so their mind switches their mind switches to Well, if i'm gonna date guys i'm gonna date and i'm gonna get something out of it So I don't leave empty-handed You know, so it's up to men To treat their women right if they want to preserve The companionship between men and women the love between men and women because women just follow And are guided by how men treat us, you know the thing if we're being lied to and cheated on and impregnated in the left What do you think we're supposed to do you think we're supposed to accept it and hope for love the next time and the next Time and are we gonna wise up and get your money? Okay, you gotta think You know if you dogged out someone in the past chances are you go back to them They're not Gonna fall for the opiate oak anymore. They've wised up. So a lot of women have wised up They're not taking chances anymore and they're making sure that they benefit from any relationship they enter into because they realize that Women feel different than men do about relationships Women love different than men do in relationships So a woman is expecting a man to love just like another woman when that's not true Okay, so you got to get your mind Right men do not love like women love If you're expecting to be loved like you love a man, you're gonna be highly disappointed Okay, so make sure after you've gone through the motions Tried love tried companionship Tried to be in love for the right reason You know After you've done that then I say You know figure out what you're gonna do next But you do need to experience that you do need to experience it so that you understand Why women are the way they are so All the women in my group Are saying if this if that i'm going straight for what I can get Why because I've already been there done it don't want to do it again because I ain't got nothing to show for it Now i'm going for the money. Okay. That's what the women in my group are about you can't Um If you can't understand it then don't join it because it's not for you. It is about straight up Benefiting, okay Okay, and a lot of women Like I said, if you're looking for the husband It has to also Be aware of the game on how to get the husband as well, you know the one with money Anybody can get a husband the woman on the bus could get a husband obviously But do you want that husband? That's the point get someone you want someone you can brag on Someone who can finance your life your children's life Or at least help, you know or at least contribute a lot to it I know not everybody's going to be able to get somebody to fully take care of them But get someone who can do more for you You know what i'm saying it's someone who can do something for you Not someone you got to help build with okay All right y'all So if y'all want to join the group there is a one-time joining fee Um y'all can find me on facebook Um And I'll put the link below or my name on facebook below And y'all can go find me and like message me and I'll Write you back whenever I can With the details Okay, I met a lot of dudes There are such things as trying to find perfection There is I don't know what you're saying Like most women don't look for perfection in men they look for the perfect lifestyle That the man can provide If you're looking for perfection in their character and in their physical nature That's different, but if you're looking for the perfect lifestyle that they can provide Probably gonna find it easier. All right, so I'm gonna see y'all later. I'm gonna see if it's fluid And if I got a pack of egg I don't think I will though. I think my husband always paranoid and overreacts. So I need to go see what's going on Hey Thank you if y'all can hear it, it's raining It's super raining Downpour so I'm gonna go see what's happening. I'll see y'all later. Bye