 All right, Susan writes, question, question, question. Hi, Jonathan. This latest man I met online has been advised to the, has advanced to the phone call and wants to see me Friday. But he talks on the text all about sexual things. How do I respond to that? How do you respond? So you can say something like this, is it, I need your opinion on something. Let's use one of our techniques. Is it typical with men with small penises asking sexual questions without getting to know me? Is it typical of men with small penises do that? Just ask it as a question. Now I'm being absolutely rhetorical. Listen, anybody who leads with sex is not interested in a fully committed relationship. He's in that dysfunctional category of men, dysfunctional category of men that lead with sex. And by the way, I would totally say that to him. I say, so is it typical of men with small penises to lead with sexual questions? Listen, folks, it's one thing if you're both flirting with each other and you're both mutually being sexual with one another. I am, I have no objection to that whatsoever. I am all four people flirting and being sexual with one another if they feel comfortable with one another. What I'm not a big proponent of is one person leading with sex and the other person isn't. So sometimes you gotta smack a dog in the nose by putting it out there. Like, what the fuck are you doing, asshole? I mean, really, do you think that works? You could block his phone number too. That's another thing. And you could do the polite lady-like thing. Thank you so much. I don't appreciate that line of questioning kind of thing. But sometimes assholes need to be smacked upside the head. I know I was once smacked upside the head not literally, figuratively. And it actually woke me up. So just, I like, by the way, I'm being totally tongue-in-cheek here but you could say, hey, is it typical of men with small penises to lead with sexuality? I wouldn't meet the guy, but that's just me. Thank you so much for that question. I really appreciate it and I hope it helped. All right, what would your advice be to a guy who wants to move in with you but he's worried that he will lose his identity and freedom if he does? Great question. You know, folks, I'm a big proponent but if you follow my work, you know I'm a big proponent before the penis goes inside the vagina reading the book, Eight Dates by Doctors John and Julie Gottman, Eight Dates by Doctors John and Julie Gottman. This is the mechanics to a healthy, happy relationship. Quite frankly, this would be a great book to read before you move in together. Listen, there is a restriction of freedom that happens when you move in with someone. That's natural. And if someone's not prepared for that, I can understand that. And maybe if you to live near each other and spend a little, maybe you practice by spending four days a week together first to get started. Maybe it's five days a week to get started but ultimately moving in with someone can be very problematic. And not that I have the answers for you today, I would Google what things to look out for when moving in with your boyfriend or girlfriend, okay? And start to address the problems before they happen. In other words, I want you to look at the street and if you see a hole in the sidewalk, rather than falling in because you're blind to it, book start to review what could go wrong and address that in advance. That's at least my suggestion to you is address the, now you don't even know what those potential problems are. For example, depending on the size of the place you might not have a lot of privacy. I know one couple that spends, they take the entire, each once a week they take an entire 12 hours out of the, they live together, this is a married couple but they take 12 hours outside of the home to do their own personal things without seeing each other and no text messaging, no telephone calls in between. One person has a hobby that they do another person has their yoga, I think they're a yoga instructor or something like that. My point is, is they build it into the fabric of their relationship so they have their alone time and that's critically important as well. In fact, this is one of the reasons why a lot of couples are doing what's called living together apart. In other words, they're not moving in together but they find homes very close to one another so they still have their own pad so they can chill and yet they spend quality time together as well. You have to do what's right for you but you might wanna Google living together apart. You might wanna talk about what the potential problems could be, address them in advance because the worst thing to do is go in there naively going and this is what you ladies so terribly do. But Jonathan, if we just love each other, magic fairy dust will make it all work out. Folks, magic fairy dust doesn't exist. Being intentional, coming up with agreements, compromising, that's what makes a relationship work in the long term, not the short run or for the long term and the short run thinking that love will solve the problem doesn't solve problems. Love is the icing on the cake of a relationship. At least that's my opinion anyway. Do you agree with me? Hit that thumbs up. All right, Coco, thank you for that question. I really appreciate it.