 Hey everybody. JR Fisher here. I'm going to jump on here real quick and talk to you about five things that you may be doing that are holding you back. You're literally doing these things and that's what's preventing you from getting where you want to be. Oh yeah and stay in here because the last one I'm going to give you is the fatal one. If you're doing this one thing you're done. Okay and there's only five things but these five things can really mess you up. So the first thing I'm going to tell you is number one people who aren't succeeding people who are losers whatever they can't handle pressure. Can't handle it. They don't know what to do with it. They just think oh my god this pressure this is so horrible I can't. The first thing they do when they encounter a problem or things going wrong is they quit. They just stop. They don't do anything anymore. You know and it's like the strongest trees they say don't grow in the best soil they grow in the what strongest winds. So that pressure against that tree makes that tree try harder and harder and harder and what remains is a really tough tough badass tree. Okay so that's what we need to think about and it's how you react to these situations too. I remember it was just a few years ago and it's taken me years to get here. You know I was not always the way where I would look at a bad situation to go yay this is great this is an opportunity. You know I didn't do that. It took me a long time to get to that stage but I remember I was going on a trip and my wife was going to give me a ride to the airport so we went outside and and I had one car parked in the street and I had one car parked in the driveway her car was parked in the driveway and we looked over at the driveway and low and beholder car was gone and I looked at her and I said your car got stolen we're going to have to take my car she says how do you know that? I said well it's not there okay so there's a clue but I said look at it this way your car got stolen but I'm telling you it's going to turn into a really great situation and I at the time she looked at me like I was crazy I said no you never know this could turn into a really great situation and low and behold what happened was the insurance company really took care of us she got a much nicer car she didn't really like the car she had only had like 15,000 miles on it but she didn't like it so the point is it's hard to do it in the moment it's really hard to do it in the moment where you say yeah you know this is a bad situation I'm so glad it happened because there's an opportunity but that really is what is going on in life that's how life does it and how you react to that negative situation will determine if you're really going to get a good outcome or a bad outcome out of it and if you react that yes this problem is an opportunity it gives me a chance to really double down and do something then you're going to do really well now the next thing that is really a killer this is number two is having a really negative self-image and this self-image thing you know this is something that you know do you develop over the years you know as a child you know as you grow into your teens as you grow into an adult and based on events that happen to you you develop the self-image okay now you know maybe you didn't have parents that told you you were the sweetest thing in the world maybe you didn't have parents you know maybe you had bad parents maybe you were abused whatever but you've got to understand that was their issue that's not your issue you know if if your perception is that you're not going to succeed and you don't do well at things and you're not that smart then guess what that's what you're going to get but if you start to say you know it doesn't matter what it is I'm going to try to figure it out and I want to back up a little bit because I was on the phone with a friend the other day and we were talking about him being able to sell some stuff online and one of the things he said to me he's as well you know a lot of that stuff's just over my head I'm not real smart about that stuff and I said well of course you're not I wasn't either until I learned it you know if you don't know it how could you be smart about it's impossible so you got to try and you got to learn it and you can't tell yourself that you can't learn things or you can't do things because if you consistently do that you'll consistently not get ahead you'll consistently you know not be successful I know one thing and I jotted it down that Zig Ziglar once said he says you cannot consistently perform in a manner that is inconsistent with the way you see yourself so don't expect yourself to do great and be all motivated and pumped up and you know feeling great if in fact you have this low self in image of yourself and how do you change that you just do you just start telling yourself I can do things I can accomplish things I'm not going to quit I'm going to keep trying till I figure it out and believe me I'm not a quick learner on things you know a lot of times I'll get into like a new ads platform or some way of building pages or something and it's just like whoa this is so difficult I can't do this I can't do oh my god it's so hard but I just say to myself I'm just gonna keep doing it I'm gonna keep doing it and pretty soon I'll start figuring out parts of it and I'm not going to quit until I do and you know that's kind of what winners do they say you know well how many books would a winner read to be successful well the answer to them is as many as it took whatever it took they're gonna do that and that's the kind of the attitude you gotta get now the next one is number three it's how you play in the game losers play to not lose winners play to win okay so a loser has the attitude with man I hope I don't mess this up I hope this doesn't get screwed up I hope I do this wrong don't do it wrong you know I'm try but I don't know how it's going to turn out and with that attitude you're not going to do well if you say I'm going to try and see what happens you're not going to do well but if you go into it all in and you say I'm going to succeed at this and I'm going to do whatever it takes and sure I'm going to hit some bumps on the road I'm going to have some failures things are going to go wrong but if you do that overall you're going to do really well and here's the crazy thing about this this one little thing this all-in attitude really has to do with the entire way you handle stuff because you know you're probably you know if you're good at you know one thing you're probably good at a lot of things you know if you're bad at one area you know if you're overeating and you know over drinking and never exercising and not getting enough rest you know you're probably not great on your job so all of these little things do matter it is all of the little things that matter people say well it's a small thing it really doesn't matter it's just a little thing it doesn't matter it all matters it matters when you're cooking dinner how well you cook it and what it looks like when it gets on the plate and it matters when you're mowing your lawn and you know how good that lawn turns out and it matters when you go and stay in a hotel room that you leave it in decent order you don't mess it up because all of these things are building your self-image and if you're doing your best at everything you do whether it's brushing your teeth or combing your hair or dressing your body whatever it is or taking care of your kids or being responsive to your spouse whatever it is those things are going to spill over into your success how could they not so you know you need to have that attitude number four if you're counting here is um losers really never are committed you know they don't really commit you know people who are doing a lot of really great things and being really successful they have bought in they've done everything they need to do to buy in they they've committed themselves to do that and they act upon it okay losers keep researching and they don't really kind of get going they go well let me check this out let me do this and it's not you're not going to have this perfect plan of everything working out exactly the way you think you know sometimes a lot of people say to me well you know how did you end up creating a course on e-commerce and i'm like well it started off selling cell phone cases and then it went to selling survival products and then it went to having a survival food line and then it went to coaching a few people and then it went to you know writing some stuff and some blogs and doing some videos and then it went to the course so there's my straight line i didn't have one and it's more like ready fire aim okay in other words get ready and get going and you can always change your direction you can always change the direction you're going and and react to what's happening around you and in the market and what softwares come along and what opportunities hit you but you've got to get started you got to just do something even if it's not great okay this video probably not great you know maybe one in two or three years i do from now it'll be a whole lot better but the point is i'm just going to do it i'm going to get out there and do it you know communicate a little bit you know share with you i'm going to definitely do that but you can always adjust as you go you're not stuck with where you're at and then the last one which i think is super super important this is the one that kills a lot of people is they aim too low they aim too low based on what's already happened in their life or what they think their capabilities are you've got a you know if if your plans don't sound crazy to some people then you're not you're not shooting high enough you know some people just shoot so low you know elon musk said he wanted to colonize mars what you know uh richard branson said he wanted to take people in space for a vacation insane right but the average person doesn't shoot any higher than the ceiling in their house so you know if you're not shooting for the stars you know you'll probably hit the moon if you shoot for the stars we've all heard that if you're shooting really really low saying well if i could just make another thousand dollars a month i'd be happy if i could just do that how about you replace your entire income and make 10,000 or 50,000 or 100,000 a month you said well that's crazy i couldn't do that why not why not do that why not do that you know my wife and i have some goals now and we put little stickers everywhere so we can hit those goals to remind ourselves to do the things we need to do to hit those goals and we don't do little goals we do what we think are bigger goals for us and you know i think about it martin luther king what was his speech everybody knows martin luther king's speech right he stood in front of tens of thousands of people and he didn't say okay i have this smart goal sm art which is the old way of setting goals which is bs he didn't say that what he said he says i have a dream i've got a dream now do you have a dream do you have something that you want to do i mean you know here's your bonus and your bonus is this um sometimes you need to kind of step back from where you're at and people have a hard time with that i know you know i had a really good corporate job but i worked a lot of hours didn't like it have drove new cars every well i think six weeks or something like that and when i quit my job what did i do for a car i bought a five thousand dollar use car and i drove that for gosh first year or two i guess something like that we were lucky we did well but it was a step down you know it wasn't i didn't go out and buy a nice car and big payments on the car because i knew i couldn't do the payments because i was starting my own business i mean you start your own business you don't have that extra money to do that to this day i don't really care much about cars but the point is a lot of people will get the big house and they get all the bedrooms and they get the big yard and they're out there trying to impress their neighbors they don't want to step back at all but they're going to stay in a job that pays for all this pays for these extra dining rooms and living rooms they never ever go in and these extra bedrooms that they never use so that they can impress all these people around them their friends and family and say look how i live look how fancy i live i've got four wheelers out there and i've got a boat that i never get a chance to go on because i'm always at work isn't that cool and they spend the next 30 or 40 years doing that to impress a bunch of people they don't even like they don't even like that's that's a shame i mean that really is a shame to do that um what what if they were to just step back a little bit cut back their expenses give them some more time give them some more money invest in the business and they could grow it to something that would be a far greater than where they're at but they're afraid of looking bad to their friends and family and people they don't even like so they keep working that job they keep working those hours and then one day they die and then it's too late so that's my bonus to you step back a little bit don't be afraid to step back a little bit don't be you don't have to impress anybody but yourself you're not competing with anybody my wife and i were having that conversation the other night it's so funny how you always think you're competing with this person or that person and you're really not the only competition you have is right here okay and if you keep that in mind and you understand that the only competition you have is you that's it then you'll never be a loser at all because you're always trying to get ahead and even if you fall down you're falling forward right you're not falling backwards you're falling forward because you're moving forward you're doing something so anyhow i just want to share that with you today not real e-commerce see right it's not real online sales marketing stuff but sometimes you need to hear this so you can get into the online sales so you can get into selling more products so you can get into learning these other things so i hope you enjoyed the video if you did got some bonuses for you there's a free course i put a link in the description you can grab that that final is kind of messed up right now so it may try to sell you something don't worry about that grab my free course i also wrote a book on how to find a profitable product to sell online you can click on that link and go grab my book which is really cool you'll like that oh and do me a favor make sure you like this and share it you know the more you share the more you get back have you ever thought about that so if 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