 That's not the healthy way to approach a relationship. My invitation for everyone is to practice what I call radical honesty. It's being vulnerable, it's being authentic, it's being transparent. Laying your cards on the table, that simply means sharing your past experiences so you can get a sense of who this person was. And guess what? You can tell a lot if a person is healed from their past, because if they haven't healed, guess what? They might be unintentionally using you to heal, or they might heal you, the next person, the next person to heal. And then the rules of engagement is to establish your standard, what it is you want in a relationship, and basically express your standards. And a boundary is simply going, hey, if you don't want the same standard as me, that doesn't work for me. You've got to really look at it, what works for me? And ask yourself, does this person fit into your life?