 okay we are live for another bloody hair another orty time live stream this is a 25th one that we've done I am like absolutely astounded that I've managed to commit to doing 25 weeks in a row so little celebration for me how are you guys doing today just as with as per usual with these lives you're very welcome to ask any questions whether it's autism related mental health relationships self-improvement fitness anything you want to ask any personal things this is the place to go because I am definitely like not the best in terms of DMs comments at the moment so this is kind of like my placeholder for like actually like engaging everybody not just being a bit on my own yeah indeed hello illisa how you doing my WLM says hi Thomas end of a long week glad it's three-day weekends of course it's always lovely to have those kind of things definitely thank you sell me very nice to have you on and hello Angela how's it going so just for anybody who is coming in on YouTube this is not one of my usual live streaming things where I sort of react to different videos online this is the Q&A version so you got any burning questions about autism whether it's your own life something that you want to ask about yourself or just something about autism in general that you want to understand a little bit better this is a place to ask it no wrong questions I won't blame you if you've got any questions I know some people get a little bit of anxiety around that kind of thing so let's go for it hello John Cobra hello Tom from a fellow autistic person nice to have you on John welcome to the Aughty Time live stream I'm glad you feeling good Angela hello books right draw I think I've seen you in a couple of times before nice to see you books right draw asks for our first question out of curiosity is your fitness and eating healthy a routine I struggle eating healthy but exercising is becoming a routine you know I'm very much like you know open and honest person about stuff like this and I think for the past three years I've been kind of getting into the world of fitness and and bodybuilding and whatever you want to call it and I've been pretty consistent with like the the actual exercising elements of it but definitely when it comes to the nutrition I am not the best like a very open about my difficulties with executive functioning and definitely eating is some and making preparing food rather it's a quite big issue for me so the biggest tip I have if you don't want to make any drastic changes to your life is to try and go to some stores I know in UK we have some like Aldi and little they usually have quite a lot of kind of healthy high high protein snacks that you can eat and that you don't really have to prepare so if you find that you are struggling to kind of stay on top of cooking to like get your nutrition on point definitely would recommend getting in some snacks like that but you can just eat instead if you're not feeling like you're able to about John says why do entities always blindly copy each other without ever thinking at all and I think some some entities do think I think I think the ones that you're talking about are kind of like the more extroverted ones that kind of go out in the world and you know they're all kind of part of a group and they're either like they all like the same things I think for a lot of people I would say it's a lot about social validation I know that many autistic people that have come across tend not to be too bogged down with trying to fit in too much unless they're masking you know we tend to be like the same person in like different environments whereas a lot of neurotypical individuals that have come across they kind of shift their outward presentation the things that they like the things that they talk about depending on who they're around so I guess it could come across that way I think as well it's just very kind of a emotionally kind of based way of socializing I know for me I often questioned when I was younger you know what why did why did they just do things without thinking about it and I've always had that kind of very strong like logical component of navigating life you know someone asked me if I want to do something I'm not gonna go yeah sounds good because it provides me a notional response I've got a like hmm I'll have to think about it for like five minutes and get back to you you know I think that's where that phenomena that you noticing could come up come up from but I wouldn't say it's every single neurotypical individual everyone's very different Sammy says from Charlotte I can have a routine in place for months but one if one thing goes wrong I lose the whole routine 100% and that that's a really difficult one I find that particularly with daily routines if things don't go to plan like I do a lot of stuff on the computer so I'll give the computer as an example if like my computer editing software is not working and I plan to get some videos out and uploaded onto YouTube before I set them live and it doesn't go that way it can usually take up a lot of my time in like fumble up the rest of my day I think usually it's as hard as it is and as hard as it might be to restart the routine just trying to like get in the habit of just saying okay right today's gone a bit you know upside down hasn't really gone the way that I wanted to that's fine this there's like 365 or whatever days are already here although it's hard to think about that in the moment it's very useful sometimes and then just trying to get back on it the day after if you can that'll be my advice around that but yes it can be really difficult when you have that routine set in place and then you just get a lot of curve balls with things quite difficult unless says what time do you wake up in the morning do you have a routine waking up is so hard for me again honesty here not the best at the moment during my burnout usually I try to get up around 10 if I'm working I'll get up around 9 or just before 9 to get to get to my my laptop and stuff and start working wake up a little bit but no sleeping has always been really difficult but it's mostly been difficult because of the meds that I'm on so I'm on like a quite a sedative med for sleep and anxiety it's called metazapine and that can be that can be pretty difficult to be honest like because it's such a like a long acting thing it stays in your system throughout the night and when you wake up you feel like you've just been asleep for like it like a week straight like in a coma or something so I definitely empathize you with that there is something that I am working on at the moment with a friend some like a business partner we're gonna be trying to do a bit of work around sleep at some point so there will be some stuff coming out around that if you are looking to look a bit more into that I definitely recommend neurodivergent insights if you can have a look at some of their posts they do have a lot of stuff on sleep and they have like a paid like pamphlet or something around sleep which might be quite helpful hey we are back hello Joshua G how are you doing man Debra Devam says you are awesome bro thank you very much you are awesome too books ride Ross says I'm curious can you your decisions be influenced by others when it comes to major life decisions that is me and I'm curious if it's just me or it can be an awesome thing I'd say that like in general like my personality looking at like my big for big five personality kind of profile I'm very low in agreeableness so I tend to if I have a thought in my head there's something that I want to do with myself on my life I just tend to go with it like there's a lot of things that I've done which I feel like the people around me were kind of questioning quite a bit particularly around things like taekwondo or speaking or doing podcasts or YouTube or Instagram you know pretty much everything that I'm doing are things that people did not expect me to do so it's it's one of those things you know I think you know you only really have one life and I think that if you really want to get the most of that life then you've got to take on board what people are saying you know assess things now and again and you know try to take in opinions and thoughts from other people that you really respect and that really know you quite well and just just try and try and follow your own thing it could be an autism thing kind of a bit more like you know straight forward this is what I want to do kind of attitude but I think it's a lot more to do that kind of disagreeableness which is not a bad thing definitely if you didn't if you didn't know there's like the like a marker on the big five personality test that you can you can take it's like one of these big psychological tests that are used in the research and the literature and stuff it's really cool and agreeableness is basically what it's as it sounds you know if you if you disagreeable you tend to be less likely to just blindly agree with people you tend to be a bit more competitive if you're more agreeable you tend to be kind of more pleasant and agreeable to talk to you know I'm not giving the best like oversight of them but if you haven't already checked out that I would definitely have a look into it because it can sometimes offer some really good insights definitely one of the better like personality things out there obviously not like 100% on point as with everything today personality because people are different but I found it very very very useful sorry I was late doing great apart from the fact I had four seizures within the past week oh my god I'm so sorry Joshua that sounds awful oh I'm so sorry that sounds like that sounds like it must be it must have been really difficult for you Jackie says new fan I think I felt madly you're merely in love with an orty you are my guide slash teacher oh thank you very much Jackie I appreciate that how long are you in a relationship with them or have you just like met them or are you just thinking about kind of going out with them or what are you thinking I'm interested to know I know it's a bit of a personal question but I'm like a bit of an open box so it's like you know I'm like that hello bro how you doing man so uh just another um point again I will mention a few times because I know that new people join new people leave kind of thing if you've got any questions that you want to ask about autism personal self-fitness relationships anything like that please go ahead no wrong questions if there's a question that I don't want to answer just won't answer it wagwan it's nice nice to have you on sammy what you're doing today Jackie says keep doing what you're doing I'm online he's been playing by a different set of rules I'm only just learning yeah yeah we do we do tend to I feel like it's not always from from my experience talking to like neurotypicals who are like oh have be have dated autistic people it seems like people are very the either the even just can't get over the fact that we're different people or they like really enjoy that we're different people you know obviously everyone's different and there's more there's more to relationships love romance than um just someone's neurotype of course I think there's a lot more important stuff around personality um obviously physical stuff everything like that um then just neurotype but I think you know some people that I've talked to they have they're like I don't know what the word is they're like autistic people like after after this one person that they dated it's very strange my dad may have been an autistic explains his bad temper yeah I think I don't know if that's like an awesome thing I think sometimes like autistic people in meltdowns can um get a bit more angry over whatever you want to say it um sometimes not all the time I'm definitely not one of those people just grabbing me a curry very nice what curry you're getting thank you sell me scow I think that's charlotte I'm not remembering for buying a badge very much appreciate it gives me a lot of incentive to keep doing these lives thank you uh Elisa Renee says I had to leave the app did I miss the answer to my question I think you might have done Elisa but because I am so such a lovely human um yes read routine is hard for me um I I did talk about it to extend but I will post the um the replay of the live I always do the replays of the live on my on my page if you want to go check it out after glad you stay hydrated thomas yes I have got my energy drink sort of my my sneak energy drink the one of the alfionine that I always talk about um today it's good stuff it's um lemonade flavored thank you Sam much appreciated but men says hey cutie I listen I'm listening to your episode about ASD and autism today it's really interesting good job thank you very much which um episode are you talking about is it is it one from mine or from like a different other podcast because I've done a few other other times how often do you go live every week day at 5 30 p.m uh friday british standard time definitely that's your birthday present thank you thank you the episode about bipolar and autism oh that that's a really really good one if you haven't already followed autistic we be definitely go follow follow that guy really good friend we tried to tried about um stuff like outside the podcast you know he's a really really genuine nice guy also the the episode about addiction autism mm-hmm very very interesting that one as well definitely you love listening to it while cleaning the house cool that's awesome it's nice to hear like what people are doing when they're listening to like episodes and stuff because I listen to a few podcasts in my time and I used to listen to one when I was just like walking to uni when I was a student um Jackie says uh he was a World War II vet uh you know when those friends passed away he never followed through with the others he alienated the family that's that's really tough yeah there's obviously like a lot of elements like ptsc and stuff that I imagine involved with that yeah you watch the relationship masterclass I'm glad it's uh yeah um if you are interested in more dating and relationship stuff around neurodiverse then you want to approach it from the neurotypical angle um I highly recommend checking out neurodiverse love the neurodiverse love podcast um that is uh done by a lady called Mona Kay uh very very good podcast neurotypical woman who dated and married an autistic man for a long time kind of got a lot of things wrong and wanted to I guess give people a bit of an insight into the things that she could have done better within the relationship if she'd known that they were autistic at the time um definitely recommend that it's neurodiverse love podcast it's not a video one it's just audio um but definitely a good lesson if you're interested I love listening to yeah when's your birthday it's 17th of February 1997 oh it's just a joke yeah yeah this is my brother my brother's called Sam Sam is awesome yeah he um if I got I think it was supposed to get me like Harry Potter for my birthday like in in February so it's forgot about it which is cool it's all good so good um yeah it's a funny in-joke there uh usually walking in the mountains but we are currently on fire um you're currently on fire oh sorry wait could could you um could you rephrase what you were saying I don't I don't don't think I process that well neurodiverse love for the one with the shorts that you did write to yeah I maybe um possibly I don't know if I've released any shorts around the neurodiverse love podcast yet but um I'm sure Mona has definitely purple caspus asks have you ever listened to a podcast called at your service but at the BBC I have not what is it about Abby says hello hello Abby 12993 VV vitamins says uh have you seen the Netflix show k-drama about this autistic lawyer is that um the extraordinary attorney Lou or something like that I think I might have watched the episode of it but um like I usually I usually watch a lot of like cartoon or like animated stuff so I don't tend to watch a lot of stuff like that but is it interesting have you have you watched it um I definitely recommend like all the I don't know it's um Netflix shows uh I really like Death Note of course and Baki and like Seven Deadly Sins I like um what's that one that I'm watching at the moment the records of Ragnarok I like all the fighty ones really it's good you know very good with dates I don't mean either um it's Strange Lands oh when we were team such couples moving around on the lines on the floor PM Farrier says I saw the Jordan Pearson reaction tour it was very interesting I think that Jordan Pearson gets a lot of unnecessary flak yeah it's it's not really something that I want to talk on too much like I'm not really into the whole politics stuff um I just really like I just really want with my reaction stuff to kind of um add like a different angle I guess on to um like popular media that's been been out because I feel like there's a lot of stuff like that that's out there that really doesn't have the experiential angle of being an autistic person and it's also sometimes very very inaccurate um like that video was to some extent because the way they was talking about it was like it was kind of like I don't know correlating autism of intelligence is like I feel like he was saying that we struggled to conceptualize conceptualize like logo logos and images um in our brain um but that's basically what temple grand and like the person that he was talking about was actually good at um so it didn't really make much sense to me and that I don't think that's totally like the entire bit about it like intelligence but you know so it was interesting to watch I'm Curie so you're a gestalt learner I've heard that nice sense of autistic people are gestalt learners um hyperlexia so I'm positive um I'm due to some things I need to remind myself what gestalt means I always forget what that means gestalt learning all is greater than the sum of its parts uh gestalt since thinkers tend to see the whole picture as more important than the individual pieces um maybe possibly um I was hyperlexic when I was younger I tend to be a very detailed person as well though so I wouldn't say that maybe that's all encompassing of who I am I'm a very strange person thank you mr Joshua G for a badge again you've done it for the past three lives I really appreciate it all the support you give me man it's it's it's lovely thank you not being able to get walking so listen to your last um a few weeks such days yeah I've been really bad with podcasts at the moment to be honest I've been really bad without any type of work in media um I think it's it's because I'm starting to get a little bit better so I'm wanting to like I guess like push myself into like into a better mood by doing more things that are kind of relaxing more positive things which is something that I couldn't really enjoy during like the dips in my depression and my my burnout and stuff um but I will definitely be back on it at some point I just need to get get around like organizing interviews and stuff because my executive functioning around organization communications is is pretty much the thing that is like preventing me from doing as much as I want to do but I am going through a process I'm trying to find some support for that within my business so um could very well be at some point that things become a lot more oiled and that I can kind of keep going with all this yes you did Ned welcome I'm liking the rainbow but the uh infinity symbol badge very cool Andrew Luptak says hey welcome to the stream Andrew Luptak and Iqra best thank you for another badge very much appreciated how you doing Iqra uh the film Adam is solid you think I did watch it I felt like it was very like I don't know I didn't feel like I could very much identify with the character Adam um I think the guy who plays it does a really good job of portraying like autism especially in like the series Hannibal if you've watched it that's that's another really good one to watch it's kind of like the dynamic between autism and like the psychopath Hannibal it was it was really interesting that um but yeah uh that that actual film I don't know if it was something that I really enjoyed if I'm being honest at your services podcast that talks about honestly every important subjects with celebrities and so I do a leaper really worth checking out I might check it out I've watched it Attorney Wu that is yeah that's it just thinking of neurodivergent Lu I watched it in Korean with subtitles so I don't need to worry about not following the story from facial expressions yeah that's one of the reasons why I tend to like watching um cartoons and animations because they make them really exaggerated and you can really tell what the characters are feeling um makes more makes for more of like a relaxed laid-back kind of walk like watch if that makes sense uh VV vitamins ask uh do you work as an influence influence a full time I'm struggling about finding the right career that's suitable for me with high functioning SD I wish there were more jobs from home well I think there definitely are some jobs out there um you know that there are a lot of companies who are doing who kind of followed on from like the whole thing with isolation and lockdown um to having more remote workers so I definitely have a look sometimes it requires a lot of google searching but there might be something out there for you um I'm actually transitioning to becoming an influencer full time at the moment definitely so um we're gonna see we'll see you're just a smart ass I just reduce it can you please try to do more posts on rsd you know what I will I will put that in my my notes um so I very much value your input and I think that was something that a lot of people identified with a lot um when I made a post about that so definitely a good shout Mr Joshua um I have to try and have a have a think about different angles that I can take with that also very welcome if anyone wants to make any suggestions for posts very different very up to that uh like I said it was an old it was an old clip when Peter Summers stole Electron University they forced him out you know yeah it's I I do understand like the context around everything it's just not really something that I guess I want to make make a part of the stuff that I do online I'm not I don't really want to get into the political side of things or like the drama or anything like that so I want to talk about autism mental health that's like my thing you know the good dots changed my life yeah I think my brother actually um watched The Good Doctor he quite liked that um I've had some mixed reviews on how people thought about it I think um sometimes in the efforts to try and reduce the stigma of autism sometimes they portray us as kind of these cp human individuals and I guess some people are kind of like that but I think for the majority of us you know we are just people with differences in the way that we think feel and experience the world and doesn't necessarily mean that we're some kind of like cp human kind of crazy person not crazy person you know what I mean Ned said I said um out loud that's how I think fair enough man I actually am kind of that savant in my work are you actually it'd be interesting to um to see your work Austin says looking good sir thank you very much dude I saw your um shoulder press uh videos what was it like four plates on each side madness I know I I remember what you were saying about that Ned it's um really interesting remember you're saying about five plates interesting that is that is amazing current hyper fixation special interests um I'd say definitely at the moment Reanscape is like a big one for me and Pokemon go those two are like top of the top for me do more spectrum slash equals autism couples reacts yeah I really enjoyed doing that I don't think there's many other videos like that but I will keep that in the back of my head if I can find some stuff that is like that I will try and cover that again Jackie what's the best way to deal with deep depression um that's that's that's a big question if I'd say that it's very dependent on the person and I would always talk to you doctor of course um for me medications being helpful I can't function without it um but it's not like that for everybody sometimes therapy can help if if you can find someone who is autism specialized in therapy that is also really good um outside of that uh really going into philosophy psychology trying to understand yourself um trying to go into the self improvement world uh has has also been really really helpful for me developing some like core values and meaning to your life also can be really helpful because when you are depressed a lot of the time life is not always the most enjoyable so you need something that's really like core to you that really you feel passionate about and that means a lot to you to kind of keep you going so finding something like that um that really does create that for you can be yeah can be awesome it can be really really crazy like not crazy keep using that I'm using a lot of like itspletives today Mia says hello hello Mia welcome to the stream not enough reps for me you're crazy uh PM says be careful with Pokemon Girl can take you some crazy places yeah I had a really bad experience playing Pokemon Girl once I was like baited in by some some Pokemon and some like gym stops and some pokey stops and I ended up going on like a midnight walk around town catching Pokemon and then I like I realized that how far I come and it was like an hour from home so I just walked back like in at midnight my god but I love Pokemon Girl it's awesome I caught two shiny kaiogas today very very proud of myself Andrew best to talk to your close ones or anyone for your feelings DMs always open if you need to talk thank you very much for that Sam uh hello Jordan how you doing do I have a pet I don't have a pet my brother does um I would like a pet I love pets my big brother was a dog Jackie says I really enjoyed listening to your insights equals you need to maybe make some couple interviews spank the light helps the YouTube algorithm thank you very much for that recommendation Jackie yes spank that like button guys if you're enjoying this so far oh my god or if you're on Instagram um make sure to give me a follow if you don't already follow me or like if you do want to um support my work it is a very good like um insert there thanks Jackie um if you do want to support my work you can always support through badges on insta or on YouTube um memberships are only 99 p.m on YouTube if you want to get like a some some infinity badges next to you as you can see in the chat Austin has his green one and there's some some very special ones at the end um I wanted to try and like make make it a little bit more affordable because I know that a lot of people they do like four quid for four quid a month to be like a member and I don't really like doing that so um if you do want to support that is always the best way uh post the p.s g hello Lydia uh Joshua D says remember stay hydrated everybody with some water uh karma was gifted membership by mr austin henshaw thank you mr austin henshaw been always always really great it would be really great to see you when you come down to the UK do like a gym session um and make sure to say say thanks to austin carmel if you can stay hydrated with energy drinks probably not the best idea I do have a reason for it you know it's um the the meds that was talking about earlier are very sedative so I kind of have to counteract the long-term sedating effects of my meds through the day with caffeine so when I'm not actually taking my sedative meds um I don't have a lot of caffeine but anyway like I think there is a little bit of pseudoscience around like people say that oh if you drink coffee you're going to be dehydrated you know um it's uh not really a case caffeine is a little bit dehydrating but the water that you drink while you're drinking a caffeine hydrates you more than you would lose if you had the caffeine if that makes sense oh it's what you're doing at the moment fair enough rem says do you believe that autistic people have plenty in common with one another even if there are things that make us unique to are different to each other I think there is a general feeling of connection that you can get with another autistic person I think one of the things that I'd highlight as being really great about talking to different talking to autistic or neurodivergent individuals is that conversation is just easy like it's kind of straightforward there's no like complexity to it in a in a bad way it tends to be very complex intellectually or emotionally and very detailed but it just tends to be a lot easier you know it's not like it's it's it's not like a difficult thing you know like you would find with with most people that you talk to um there's no like small talk just straight into the the deep end of the conversation you know I love it um any thoughts on the new masculine movement happening within young adult males you're going in for another political question Jackie um I think there definitely is a crisis in terms of you know men not feeling the best but um I think some of the figures that are out there are not particularly the best figures that could be out there I think there's a lot of things that certain individuals say about life mental health things like that are just completely wrong completely bad like not good um I'm not going to go into much detail on it because as I said like I'm not a drama political person but I hope you catch catch one trying to say maybe difficult phrase properly autistic people are the most influential and most dedicated maybe some people I don't know a lot of inspirational amazing neurotypical individuals as well my mom would be a big one just having a look at um the chat sorry if I'm being a bit slow with this I had a really good experience with MAO drugs um I really recommend them for ASD they are all the meds but really effective in for treatment resistant depression totally and if I think obviously I can't really speak much on that because I'm not a doctor pharmacologist person I know about them um I did a lot of modules and on the brain and pharmaceutical meds at university um it's not something that I've tried to be honest I've been mostly just stuck to the SSRIs at the moment I'm kind of good I'm kind of good in terms of meds at the moment I don't feel like I want to change much uh beholder mx says hi there I'm out seeing a friend so I can't watch you but I want to say hi well hello thank you for joining thank you mr Joshua G again with another badge much appreciated man um I really appreciate all the support it's uh it means a lot to me I've noticed people's deepest conversations with other ND people and I appreciate the blunt honesty with each other and it's just easier because like people people think that you know people's ideas of when I talk about autism is that we just don't talk about emotions but I found that usually autistic people especially autistic adults that I talk to you know it's not necessarily that they don't like communicate emotions and experiences but they have like they explain it they rather than expressing it so like it could be a very kind of neutral tones conversation but they'll talk about the ins and outs of different experiences and emotions that they've felt it just tends to be in like a different way more kind of direct upfront way I guess some people find it really like difficult you know it's just like they ask you how you are and you're like ah about a horrible day how are you you know uh Canada like Paris says no coincidence I realize that I'm attached to my autistic friend who's 10 years younger than me uh since the last three weeks that's how I found your channel oh very nice very cool beautiful dog indeed chat the light says hey Tom sorry I'm late hope you're doing well my friend it's always great to see a mate on a Friday indeedy nice to see you too my man how would you describe autism in a succinct yet realistic way the only time I'd heard or seen about it was from movies and those portrayals were the most severe end of the spectrum it tends to be um either exceptionally gifted people or people who have very high support needs um so I do know what you mean there are a few representations that I think are actually quite good and accurate I'd point to Quinney from Heartbreak High I haven't watched it but I know about the the person who sort of advocates around that that's a good representation I think the way that I would describe it succinctly is that we're just different people we feel perceive think behave differently to most people um not necessarily in a in a worse way but just in a different way I think that would be my my overall thoughts succinct thoughts on it there's obviously a lot that I could say but um succinct wise that would that would be a definitely best influencer thank you man yeah but energy drinks are addictive they are indeed the caffeine we accidentally left the stream still a great answer you gave Tom thank you very much thank you Canada like Paris for buying a badge much appreciated we have reached five supporters on this stream already so much love thank you so much so much love can we collaborate maybe send me an email I kind of says there's no coincidence I realized that my oh you oh I've seen that what am I doing um you might have sent it twice because I'm like really slow at getting through these messages books write drill says I have curiosity how is your grammar also do you write my my spelling is not always on point um mostly because I do a lot of writing but I I have a lot of words that I know and that I say because I was hyperlexic when I was younger so I very much using a lot of flamboyant kind of out there language just as part of my vocabulary um because I enjoy it I like like the rhythm and sound of certain words that's why I use them I think some people use that as like a a pseudo intellectual way of appearing more smart but for me it's just I I really enjoy complex words it's pleasing to my ears do you vape I am a nicotine fan unfortunately sadly I do I did do a podcast on it with um all things private practice where I was talking about it it is definitely something that is not a good thing wouldn't recommend it um but yeah I have so it's the first time that I mentioned about it but it's it is tough uh p.m. Ferris says can I ask you a question about your view about autistic views on movies if I'd say a film everyone despises is terrific and giving reasons why does that mean that regardless I'm wrong because of my autism of course not I I don't think that autism necessarily draws you to any particular movies it might if you are a very like sensory seeking person you might find some colorful movies like movies or things things of that nature quite quite fun to watch um but no of course not like everyone's got their own opinions man like if you've got just a different out there out of the box opinion it doesn't mean that it's wrong it's just an opinion you know so I don't listen to those people I've got a lot there's a lot of things that I like that are not mainstream that people don't really like which I love and I'm happy with loving um and it makes all the better when you meet someone who actually enjoys what you you enjoy as well and and thinks the way that you do it's got to go out and meet people you know that's that that's the tough thing Andrew says my experience is going from being aggressively quiet to weird vomiting whatever's online which probably irritates people yeah I guess that's that can be sometimes quite I think it's very dependent for me I'm very very chatty online on podcasts on streams real life I tend to be more of like the sit back and listen kind of person um which I think is quite surprising to anybody who's like met me in public or in real life like outside of my streams like you know I'm not just constantly just rambling all the time about stuff oh yeah Chloe Hayden indeed that's that's the person I am talking about hi Ikra how you doing Jackie says uh you're allowed to your perspective stick to your views because just don't bother arguing just present your facts and agree to disagree maybe 100% Austin Henshaw says I did CBD gummies for the first time in LA 20 milligrams it slightly elevated my mood and a bit less space anxiety um I'm a big proponent for CBD as long as you have talked to your doctor about it and you're not on any meds that could interact with it and you're not operating heavy machinery and you're not taking too much before you drive um it's a very very good thing um in in my experience and it has done a lot for my anxiety vitamins coming in with another really great question what's your opinion on capitalism as a autistic person isn't it crazy that some people tie the value of someone on his salary or the hours they work I'm not lazy but I always guess get it wrong um as I said like I don't really want to talk about many politics things I'd say that we do often tie success in life with like the value of somebody which sucks um but I would also say that it really depends on the arena that you're you're in because you know perhaps like in the world of autism um I might have a bit of a reputation in the world of autism but in in other sectors in other places like that just aren't interested in autism and mental health stuff it's not really much to be honest and I think it really depends on whether you find someone interesting you know um but I I think there is a lot of pressure I would say on autistic people because we don't really have role models out there to say like hey look it's actually really tough being autistic in our society and it's it's actually okay to be a little bit behind with life in in your own head and not achieve things that people say you should do at a certain ages um it's okay to take things slower if you can you know I'd always encourage people to um work on themselves improve themselves things of that nature but you've always got to remember um you know things out there they're not really designed for us the the information out there the creators especially the stuff around self-improvement and mental health they're not they're not always the most applicable things for us you know we will always have to take like a little bit of a different different approach to things you know I'm okay after a good gym how are you uh nice what did you do at the gym being very says when I talk in the film community there seems to be some idea of what are the best movies and you need to have those particular movies on your pest list but I never jumped on bandwagons yeah well I I relate to that these I'm pretty much like that in every area of life which I I actually quite like I mean I did say that I was quite a disagreeable person so I quite like to like see what people have to say about certain things but I'm definitely not one of those people to just jump on things because they're popular it tends to do the opposite for me actually Jackie says hey lucky loose come in and hit the light button please hit the light but a spag that light button oh my god Icarus says why does caffeine affect anxiety caffeine acts on a certain I can't remember the whole the thing that it works on there's basically a chemical that builds up in your brain during the time that you're asleep during the time that you're awake I think it's called adenosine and adenosine is basically what makes you feel tired and basically caffeine blocks like the action of adenosine on your brain which would make you go to sleep so it kind of keeps you up and a bit more high energy than you would usually be um the acetylcholine yeah it's related to acetylcholine but basically yeah it does affect acetylcholine as well which is another kind of big um neurotransmitter in the brain brain looks like ups your focus and your energy and your your productivity sometimes that can increase your anxiety levels especially if you already have quite like a highly um wired brain all the time sometimes it cannot always be the best thing but on the same the same vein as that I know that a lot of adhd has um actually find it to be quite relaxing and can focus them so it very much depends on a person who they are you know thank you Angela for a super chat sending some love and positive vibes received thank you much appreciated Angela you're speaking facts thank you very much vitamins uh Jesse G says thank you very much for being such a great advocate for the neurodivergent community thank you very much that means a lot I I try to be I try to be I'm trying to I need to I need to get back on things a bit more I definitely do but I I always really love doing these lives and just on that note since we are coming up to kind of uh the half hour with the hour mark of streaming um if you are on instagram or you're on youtube and you want to come check out my actual like live streams I do the free hour live streams if you subscribe and notify yourself of that you'll be able to get notified when I next do my really long live streams where I look at some autism content and give my own opinions of them if you're not too much of a fan of live streams I do have some podcasts and podcast clips some live stream clips on particular videos that you can go check out on my youtube page um yeah that's uh that would that would be grand no cafe enough to 12 noon mm-hmm it blocks the denazine which leads to zeta colin release yes you got it um no honest honestly p.m like um pedro it's I just wouldn't bother too much about what people think especially if it's just about something so personal and subjective like your choice in films you know bring me sushi says hi suiti hello sushi is there is a belka says that I kind of relate to the movie issue everyone talks about a particular series I don't watch ever since school I'm late to all of the sort of trends if I jump on it in on it at all yeah there was a really big trend around like joggers and sportswear for like a while when I was a bit younger which is really great for me because I'd always have that like style to me I was was kind of casual in sports casual and all that so um it just kind of fell in that way and then obviously Wednesday came out and I'm a bit of like a goffy person so I started to see like more people dressing kind of a bit more goffy and alternative so I was like oh I kind of fit that as well so it's um but I'm definitely not one for jumping on trends um definitely got to go uh seeing a friend great I'm really glad tell me all about it next week Angela see you later yeah Denizine um have you heard about Elon Musk being autistic yes and it's very very clear that he needs to do a little bit of work on his social skills um from the interviews that he's on he's got some strange takes as well very strange ones as I said well everyone's asking questions about politics and people I don't want to talk about this don't for me not for me thank you Jackie learn it for joining the neurodivergence neurodiverse squad I much appreciate that it's been really nice to have you on giving everybody the the like the like reminder um did boxing and upper body nice very nice thank you very much Shikara for another badge which appreciated uh kind of like Paris says he's looking for marriage potential but I said let's support each other as friends with pressure hmm um I have heard of Kessamine therapy before I don't know if it's some I think it's something that they give to um people with like treatment resistant depression sometimes it's not something that I feel has although it has been researched quite a bit I don't think like it's something that I would want to go ahead with just because of I don't know it just doesn't really seem like I suppose it could be they do have a quite good like outcome in terms of mood and depression from from that kind of therapy but um it does require like infusions so I don't know I don't know if I'd be able to handle that what's your youtube uh you can find it in my link tree on my profile always you can find everything on my link tree John Wick says uh what's the thing with autistic people in eye contact why does it happen and is it something that can be improved to the point where typical eye contact be achieved what's the science on it um I mean I I'm a big proponent for if you don't want to make eye contact then then you shouldn't some people find it not as good um I would say that just just from personal experience in in like the dating world um especially if you're dating someone who is um not autistic sometimes working on your eye contact a little bit better can help in that area but it's definitely not something that I would force yourself to do because we already like can find social situations quite difficult and just trying to lock on to someone's eyes constantly can sometimes distract you from what they're actually saying um so I I tend to make eye contact probably about 40 percent of the time 60 percent the time I don't just because it's more comfortable for me you know it depends on my anxiety levels as well I'm not really sure on the science behind it but I think um you know eye contact can be uncomfortable for anybody it really depends on this situation that someone's in you know if if it's someone that you're interested in if it's someone that you are that's being quite confrontational if it's a friend if it's a family member um I think it really depends you know do you like folklore and mythology I really enjoy it very much so hello ritz witch Robert Lava Lamp hello from Canada nice to see you uh we've just been we've just known each other since three weeks the strong attraction freaks me out well I feel like if it's something that you feel like it's like it would feel if you feel comfortable with that sometimes it can be a bit scary especially if you haven't found someone attractive like for a long time and they kind of get you but just just try to I would say the biggest piece of information to do is to not fantasize about people because you really want to approach relationships and dating um as and when it happens when you're talking to them um sometimes when you fantasize and think about all that stuff you set yourself up for um I guess having having too high expectations of them or you know if something doesn't perhaps go the right way that you planned it on ongoing then it could really disappoint you and you could get those like rsd feelings um so I definitely like around the aspects of dating just try try and you know take things as they come try and you know obviously if you're dating with intentions it's important to make those things upfront um if you can um but I mean in terms of like seeing how it goes basically you know chatting to them having video calls having calls seeing them in person taking things slow um seeing if you know there is something that you can you can really work on long term um it's usually the best way to go about it Jane says hello everybody hello Jane welcome back pray animals will not take that eyes off you even running away from you that is true that is true does anyone in here have autistic tattoos I don't have an autism tattoo actually because I'm not sure there isn't really like an autism logo that I particularly like I quite like the autism creature but I don't know if you can consider that a logo and then the neurodiversity infinity it covers a lot of things as well as autism so I I suppose I could get like a gold infinity symbol for autism or like an AU symbol like a chemical symbol might be quite cool do you think it makes sense to get a child nowadays all my friends are against getting children I think if you you're with someone that you really trust and you feel like it's something that you can afford financially and it's something that you would want I think it can be a very rewarding thing just from listening to all of us talk about it just you know talking to my to my parents about it it's definitely not an easy thing and you have to be in the right headspace and place in your life and with the right person yeah I don't see why not good evening hello Stan Nikos what's your favorite type of mythos I like all of it that's fairly really interesting I don't tend to do a lot of reading into things but I like hearing people talk about it you know yeah gold one might be nice I'm threatening frightened of having tattoos me too I have one tattoo which was done by a monk in Thailand which was pretty painful it was about two hours long they used like this big steel needle and they imbued it with like a religious ceremony which was pretty cool I got it actually when I was in Thailand when my grandmother passed away is kind of a way to kind of a cathartic way to commemorate him and also my time abroad which was quite transformative for my life so it's you know there was a lot of emotion and a lot of meaning behind when I went to get a tattoo you know what is RSD rejection sense of dysphoria he says he doesn't know what to text how to make jokes and understand jokes yeah that is a common thing try using emojis emojis are always really great like tone indicators you can use tone indicators if they know them but I find texting quite stressful as well so if if people text me and they use emojis I tend to like get on with them a little bit better because I know how they're saying things you know so yeah definitely I wish you could text me more this week we haven't seen each other he says he's busy with his family visit do you find social media to be triggering place sometimes um sometimes yeah I would say sometimes it can be quite a lot um but the the good thing about Instagram is that you don't need to follow people that you don't want to you know and if you don't want to see stuff from certain people then you could always just unfollow them and that is sometimes a great thing I find that I strike a good balance between trying to follow people that I don't agree with and people that I do but I never try and follow stuff that just makes me feel like horrible about life you know or myself you know you could you could think like I did start by following like a lot of bodybuilding accounts and like martial arts and stuff but I think sometimes when you watch like high-level people um on a daily or like seeing people with just these crazy physiques all the time it kind of warps your brain a little bit you know so you can definitely do something about it though definitely what's your favorite breakfast like uh corn flakes and honey puffs um I'm liking cookie crisp at the moment I usually have overnight oats though protein powder when I'm being good Irene says hey who popping on for a bit nice to see you Irene how you doing are you able to handle the club I can't handle the noise um I have had a lot of experience at nightclubs mostly from my year abroad traveling um it really depends if I'm in a good good place mentally I'm fine with it um I just perhaps need to bring my headphones if I'm feeling a bit stressed but overall it's it's not not always like a bad experience um I'd say in any circumstance going going to a place that I don't know I'd always try and make sure that I have someone with me who one I know and one that I can depend on because if I don't you know had like a meltdown in a nightclub it's probably not the best thing seeing you is just like him you're both kind of logical thank you very much books like drosses let me rephrase how do you avoid warping the comparison brain when it becomes things you love but compare skill level that's a that's a very good question um I think I when I when I try to follow things that I feel like a realistic to achieve for myself like I try not to follow stuff from bodybuilders who are you know taking lots of testosterone and like supplements and PDs because that's just not something that I'm going to achieve because I'm not like that you know but definitely like um natural individuals people that I I look up to people that might kind of encourage me people who are a lot more open about like the negatives and positives about their life their page that tends to be the stuff that I really really go for because that can be you know quite important um it's it's good to have you know you want you want to be following people that don't make you feel bad about yourself but give you some motivation you're like I could be like that you know I guess in a way in a way have you ever tried plant medicine indeed I do have like a a post on instagram about like the supplements that I take I'm very much into all of that like definitely um well guys uh it's been absolutely awesome I have gone over a little bit because it has been such an an awesome live stream um before I head off I just want to say if you want to support my work uh memberships like 99p on youtube make sure to subscribe like do do all that stuff on youtube and if you're on instagram um please go check out my link tree to find my my youtube channel and all that and um yeah um I will try and get a little bit more on it with the podcasts I'm gonna start up my social media posts again at some point so a lot of exciting things coming around in the corner and um yeah I very much appreciate all the support that you guys have have given so far all righty okay I'll answer that one question Canada and then we'll head off let's talk about attachment styles okay we'll talk about attachment styles then I'll then I'll wrap things up because that is a good question um there is a few attachment styles you have anxiously attached avoidant um you have stable attachment I think and then you have like a mixture of avoidant and anxious which is like when you flip flop between the two um I'm very I used to be extremely anxiously attached when I was younger um and that caused me a lot of like pain and stress and a lot of discomfort um especially within dating friendships anything like that um so that that that was quite hard for me and as I got older I kind of developed a little bit more of a um avoidant attachment style so I kind of flip-flopped and I went the other way so at the moment I'm very much trying to be like a bit more open you know a bit more kind of vulnerable in terms of wanting spend time with people and just like saying how I feel about people in a positive way in that in that sense so I'm making a lot of progress in terms of doing that um and I'd say that if you are anything but a stable attachment style it's always good to kind of work to try and get get yourself a bit more to the middle um because just from looking at information online thinking about different relationships you know if if you are one person's anxious ones avoidant it's it can work but a lot of the time you know both parties might feel feeling comfortable with the the whole um dynamic that goes on you know so that's what I have to say on attachment styles uh I will probably try and do like a post or something on it in the future I will put that down in my topic list um talk about at some point might be quite interesting to um to dive into the literature around it um but yeah it has been absolutely lovely to have you all on um I'm 26 last question God you keep getting me um I will see you next time Friday 5 30 p.m 6 30 p.m BST um yeah hope you hope you guys are are doing well see you later use uh Instagram hello youtube again yes um I am on youtube right now but I also stream on instagram at the same time that's that's why but um Austin says that ironic thing with anxious attachment slash fear of abandonment it causes you to act in a way that makes you more likely for people to avoid you that is a totally totally I could you could say probably about avoidant as well if you're quite avoidant you might attract the people who are just trying to chase you all the time you know so I guess that could be applicable well it has been absolute pleasure um I'm gonna probably go to the gym later and um it's been absolutely lovely hope see you next time um I'll try and do a stream over on the weekend it'll probably be on a Sunday evening if I am going to do that but we shall see and um thank you for all your continued support with my stuff press all the plates indeed oh how can I there is the end stream thing see you later peeps